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my name is Skye, Im 33 years old, I live in the UK and Im recently married. I love animals and have an nine year old english springer spaniel called Millie.
I dont have any counselling qualifications that entitle me to help people. I tend to rely upon good old common sense. I did study psychology at college, but my husband tells me we're all slightly mad anyway and he is probably right...ha ha ha!
Seriously though, I just hope that I can help sometimes. I will certainly try my best.
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Is it over or does she really just want space?
Q. I need to know the truth I have made an honest mistake and me and my girlfriend are very understanding about it, but at the same time she has come up with other ideas in her head. She says that she needs a little space and time to think I am trying ...
A. 19 August 2007: Well going from the little information that you have provided, I think you should give your girlfriend the time and space she has requested.
You say that she was very understanding about your mistake but has asked for some time to herself. All you ... (read in full...)
Why can't he tell me he loves me?
Q. Hello, i have been with my bf for a few years and we now live together. He no longer tells me he loves me, i know he does deep inside but he find it very hard to express himself. He find it's very hard to show any nice feeling towards me...but...
A. 19 August 2007: Sometimes when a couple move in together "life" takes over from romance. We get caught up in the humdrum of daily activities and are often tired or grumpy or thinking about the mountain of laundry sitting on the kitchen table!
You say that you know... (read in full...)
How can I gain the confidence to let guys touch me?
Q. How can I gain the confidence to let guys touch me? Don't get me wrong, I have let them before, but I havent liked it much and been uncomfortable. I've never had to confidence to touch them either, they are always making the first move and I usu...
A. 19 August 2007: Try to relax in your relationships. Become comfortable with your partner before you rush in there. Take things slowly. If your partner cares for you, he will be understanding and will wait until you are ready.
Stop concerning yourself over virg... (read in full...)
I worry that my best friend is ruining her life by being with an abusive boyfriend!
Q. My best friend has been in a relationship for 2 years. Without getting into detail of their extremely rocky past, her and her boyfriend have again had some major issues of trust. However, their most recent argument resulted in throwing objects and ...
A. 19 August 2007: You cant do anything more Im afraid. You can only do your best and you are already doing that. Your friend is an adult who makes her own choices. Unfortunately for you as Im sure you just want her to run as far away from this abusive relationship as ... (read in full...)
Does his jealousy mean he still loves me?
Q. A few weeks ago my boyfriend broke up with me because he said he didn't know if he loved me or not. He said he still wanted to be best friends and he wanted me to keep something precious of his that he gave to me to wear when we were together, but I ...
A. 19 August 2007: Sounds to me like he really doesnt know what he wants here. He broke up with you, asked you to keep a token of his to wear, went out with another girl and questioned your mum and you about your other date then got all jealous. Seems like he wants to ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him, but now he says I am too young
Q. I got Invited over a guys house that im seeing hes 19 and im 15...i met his mum and dad and their great they loved me and didnt seem to mind the age gap...we went upstairs 2 his room and 1 thing led 2 another...we ended up having sex and in the ...
A. 18 August 2007: I agree with Flower Girl here. The truth is having sex with this lad was illegal. I think he realised his mistake (albeit a tad late) and has dealt with it the best way he could. You like him and im sure you would not want to get him into trouble ... (read in full...)
I worry I will never find someone to love me
Q. hey everyone. im 15 and im worried that i wont get a boyfriend that actualy likes me for me. im not the prettyest kind of girl and not many people give me a chance in life. im worried that when im older i wont be able to start a family with some...
A. 17 August 2007: Im so sorry that you are feeling this way. I was just the same as you. Infact, most people feel this way at some stage. Its perfectly natural. However, one day that will all change and your world will be turned upside down by a wonderful person who ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and in love with a 25 year old footballer... is this age gap too big?
Q. Hi, Im 15 years old and have recently fallen for a 25 yr old footballer. He appears to have feelings for me as well, i would like to get involved with this guy if he feels the same way about me, is the age gap to big? I turn 16 in 5 months and ...
A. 17 August 2007: I agree that the age gap is too big. I suspect this man is simply enjoying your attention towards him. I dont think a relationship would be on the cards though. Im sorry, but you could get hurt quite badly should you choose to persue the idea of a ... (read in full...)
What does his lack of contact, on holiday mean?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 months went on holday for 2 weeks and text me only four times,only in response to the texts i sent him!! he hasnt even called me! what does this mean! ...
A. 17 August 2007: I cant tell for certain, but your boyfriend might not view his lack of communication as insensitive behaviour as you do. I know lots of people who go half way around the planet on holiday and dont even ring to say they arrived safely - ... (read in full...)
Can I do anything to stop my periods from being so heavy?
Q. Sometimes my period is really heavy it hurts like normal but i keep having to change all the time and i just cant be botherd causre ther toilets at school are wrank. Please help because its annoying me having to keep changing all the time....
A. 17 August 2007: I agree with "lethalinjection" on this one. Speak with your doctor and tell him/her how debilitating you are finding your menstrual flow to be.
All sorts of reasons could be causing the heaviness, but you dont have to endure any of them. The doct... (read in full...)
I feel like I have symptoms of being pregnant, but I'm not sure
Q. im not sure if it is pregnancy or just ovulation discomfort (is there such a thing?) my back is really sore, and stomach is extremely bloated, also dizzy and need to pee more often that usual, but not with a lot of urine ,and im having MAJOR moo...
A. 17 August 2007: Usually, these tests advise us not to read them after 10 minutes or so as the result may not be accurate. Your other test was negative, so that was encouraging. However if your test are not conclusive, then I agree that you should ask for a blood ... (read in full...)
Should I marry my fiance even although I am not in love with him?
Q. Hi, I have been dating my fiance for 1 year and we have just got engaged. He is a very kind, caring and thoughtful guy and would do almost anything for me. I have never been out with anyone who has so wanted to take care of me and thinks of me...
A. 15 August 2007: I agree with all the other "aunts" on this one. You need to tell your fiancee how you feel. It would be unfair to both of you to marry him when you dont love him. Break things off as soon as you can. It wont be easy, but you have to do it.
Im true... (read in full...)
Will I give him another chance and how do I learn to trust him again.
Q. I have been going out with my man for 10 months we get on very well, but I have just found out that he is still in contact with an old girlfriend and one night when she called at his house they had sex. He swears he will have nothing else to do ...
A. 14 August 2007: I agree with flower girl. Sounds like his ex wants to meddle in your relationship.
This really comes down to trust, and trust always has to be earned. Can you really trust a man who would cheat on you with his ex and tell her personal things abou... (read in full...)
I know he loves me but he's still married, he says that he is going to get a divorce and we will get married and have a life together, but when!
Q. I am in life with a married man who in return really adores me as well. The problem is I do not know if we will be together or not. We have both liked each other for ten years, we use to go out drinking together with mutual friends and...
A. 14 August 2007: Im so sorry that you have found yourself in this situation. I know you hate it but you ARE his mistress. Dont be his fool.
He says he doesnt love his wife and other people agree that they arent a "proper married couple". You cant tell this for sure... (read in full...)
I'm a single Mom dating a man with depression problems! Should I continue dating this guy?
Q. I m a single mum with a 5 yr old boy. I ve got a boyfriend of nearly a year. Things have been fine up until the past month or 2 but now I m not sure that I want to be with this man. He has recently told me he has suffered with depression most of his ...
A. 14 August 2007: I agree with you that your boyfriend shouldnt be telling you how to raise your little boy. You are his mother and have obviously done a good job of bringing him up as he is well behaved. Im sure he can be a little monkey like most 5 year olds, but ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex bf acting this way? Any ideas?
Q. I have a question about my ex bf. I broke up with him a few nights ago because he was treating me really badly and was basically emotionally abusive. Anyway, tonight my friend said she saw him when she was out geting dinner. He was really nice ...
A. 14 August 2007: I agree with hlskitten. I dont believe your ex could get this kind of very personal information from a text message centre. He is making it up in my opinion. I could be wrong but I really dont think so.
You did the right thing by ending your rela... (read in full...)
My ex returned out of nowhere after 4 years, and now he's gone again
Q. I have an ex that I haven't spoken to in 4 years. He never wrote back when I wrote (once a year, Merry Christmas type emails) but recently responded to an email. I replied, and he responded with questions about where I was living etc. I answered ...
A. 14 August 2007: Im sorry to ask this, but why did you keep emailing him for the past 4 years even if it was just at christmas? When he didnt reply to a few most people would have given up. However you sound like a caring person who has tried her best to remain ... (read in full...)
How do I handle an unwanted crush from a younger girl?
Q. I am a babysitter of three kids. Ages 6, 8, and 10. The 6 and 10 year olds are boys and the 8 year old is a girl. Now I'm a male and it seems this girl has a bit of a crush. How do I handle it? She undresses knowing i'm around and even goes skinny ...
A. 13 August 2007: That must be an uncomfortable feeling for you. I am guessing that you like your job and dont want to leave her parents employ, so the best thing for you to do would be point out in a sensitive way to this little girl any inappropriate behaviour.
W... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend I didn't make it to his party?
Q. I have a new boyfriend and he invited me to his house for his birthday today and we are about 2 hours away and my mom said she would drive me but she didn't. He called but I'm afarid to answer or talk to him cause I don't know if he will be mad, ...
A. 12 August 2007: Ring him and say that you are really sorry, but your mother got called away and couldnt take you. Tell him that you are disappointed to have missed his party and ask him to tell you all about it. Im sure he will understand. I bet this has happened ... (read in full...)
He said that "pulling out" would work but I'm not so sure... ?
Q. Im a freshman at my school and i just met dis guy friend dis past year and i guess were more than friends now because we just had sex without protection but he said "pulling out" would work. But im a little nervous......
A. 12 August 2007: This method does not work sweetheart. Hlskitten is right. I dont want to scare you, but you could be putting yourself at all sorts of risks by not using a condom. Please get some and learn how to use them properly before you next decide to have ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm ready for sex (or not)?
Q. I don't know if I am ready for sex but I really want to give my boyfriend my virginity he is really nice and cares about me and is only willing to do it if I am ready for it. It will be my first time and he is wanting to make it the best. How will I ...
A. 12 August 2007: You will just know. You have a very understanding boyfriend who obviously cares for you and puts you first. You are very lucky. If things arent right, you will hear "alarm bells" in your head and will want to stop. When they are right things will ... (read in full...)
My Dad is an important guy in the Army and wants me to have a bodyguard!
Q. so, my dad's a General in the army here. so hes supposed to be like important. Also, he's very overprotective, an he wants me to have a bodyguard. At first i thought he was crazy! but i thought about that and i got to the conclusion that it really ...
A. 12 August 2007: Sounds to me like you have answered your own question here. If your dad and army officials thinks it is a good idea and you dont mind too much, then why not?
many people who work in a similar position to your dad have all sorts of security devi... (read in full...)
Can anybody recommend me anything which will make my teeth bright white asap!
Q. My smile is so bad. My teeth are stained a little yellow. I brush twice a day but because my teeth are all not even and I still haven't got braces it's hard to keep them clean. Can anybody recommend me anything which will make my teeth bright w...
A. 12 August 2007: I agree with Daniel; however you could try brushing with bicarbonate of soda a few times a week. This tends to help most people. Check with your dentist first though!
Hope this helps,
Skye... (read in full...)
I've got a problem with attention seeking!
Q. hi there, im rebecca and i think i have an attention seeking problem and ive done so much for attention! and i cant stop myself and its getting a little out of control... like pretending to sleep walk! and saying im ill i really d...
A. 11 August 2007: Hi Rebecca,
Well you have realised that you have a problem. That is good. Now you need to make a concerted effoert to put a stop to it.
When you seek all this attention people will eventually "get wise" to it and you could be labeled a liar as ... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Please beware of private messages from strangers asking for money or promising riches!
Q. Hi everyone We've had a couple of scammers posting private mails through the site. Please everyone use your common sense and keep yourself safe. This goes for all sites, not just this one! * Never give anyone your phone number or home em...
A. 11 August 2007: Ive just got my message from baby2love and I think shes a home-wrecker!!! Im not that kind of girl (huffs).... (read in full...)
How can I attend art college without being near anyone?
Q. I'm a shut-in. I am 19 years old. I sleep during the day. I would like to get a life, but I can't even handle a part time job. I have never had a friend. How can I attend art college without being near anyone?...
A. 10 August 2007: Im sorry that you are feeling this way. You sound like you could be suffering from a form of clinical depression. Millions of people around the world feel just like you evey year. Please speak with your doctor. He/she can help.
Getting out and meet... (read in full...)
But there have been a few questionable things that have happened in the past that made me wonder whether I should worry about these strange little disappearences or not...?
Q. Maybe I'm being paranoid but why is it every time my boyfriend's cell phone is on the "charger" here at the house, everyone can still reach him. Meaning it still rings, while it's charging and he can answer it and talk while it's on the charger. ...
A. 10 August 2007: Hello,
Im sorry that you are feeling so bad about this, but I agree with your need to know whats going on.
My cell phone rings when it is on charger and so does everyones that I know. Dont jump to conclusions straight away though. Could he have ... (read in full...)
Grandson doesn't seem to stay in his own bed all night
Q. My daughter of 30 and my 4yrs 8mths grandson live at home with me and my husband. For the past two years my grandson hasn't woken up in his own bed. I have spoken to my daughter on and off in the respect that it would be good to try and encourage ...
A. 10 August 2007: Hello Stevie,
Im sorry that you have fallen out with your daughter over this issue that you obviously feel quite strongly about. I agree that you should not interfer in how a good mother raises her child, but I also understand your concerns.
Your ... (read in full...)
Do I reply to his 'reply' or will that make me look needy?
Q. Is it right to reply to an email when this one was already replied back? there is this guy who I adore so much, but I didn't had any news for a while ago. So I write him an email, and did reply and wrote "hope everything's OK for you", should I w...
A. 10 August 2007: I dont see why not! There is no reason to look needy. Just keep your email friendly and light. Tell him that you are fine and it was nice of him to ask. Mention that you are emailing him because you havent heard anything in a while and you wondered ... (read in full...)
How long are your arms supposed to be?
Q. heya.... how long are your arms meant to be? i mean where are they meant to hang to (e.g your thighs, knees, hips) because i am short (5'1) and my arms hang past my thighs... some one mentioned to me that i had long arms for a short person so now i ...
A. 9 August 2007: Hello sweetheart,
We are all made differently. There is no right or wrong length for arms. When you body stops growing you will realise that everything is "just right" for you.
There are lots of different shapes and sizes in this world. None of ... (read in full...)
I am 12 and I want to have sex without being caught
Q. iam 12 and want sex i just moved dont know any body. Who can i have sex with and not get caught?...
A. 9 August 2007: You are far too young to have sex. The law says so. Anyone who would have sex with you would be breaking the law and would go to prison.
Sex should be between two people who care for eachother deeply and it is a natural expression of those feel... (read in full...)
How can you prevent shave bumps?
Q. I was wondering. My guy shaves down there. Everytime he shaves he get bumps and they look like pimples kind of. What can we do so he dont get that anymore cause he likes when he shaves....
A. 9 August 2007: These little bumps are blocked hair folicles. They can be very itchy too. They tend to happen when the shave was too close or the blade was old and the top of the hair foilcle gets a little nick from the blade. As the hair regrows, it cannot push ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's worth even giving him another chance?
Q. Here's a little scenario that just happened yesterday with my boyfriend who I just took back a month ago. We were heading to the beach and we started arguing about me telling him to put on a shirt because he's very flashy with his vehicle and to top ...
A. 9 August 2007: Get out of this relationship as soon as you can. Violence in any form is unacceptable, especially where children are involved.
Im truely sorry that this keeps happening to with this man, but you can stop it today by leaving. You deserve bett... (read in full...)
The second time the guy's wife came to my house and showed me a text message on his cell phone from my wife, saying she loved him.
Q. My wife cheats on me constantly, we've been together for 15 years. I just caught her for the 3rd time in the past 8 months with the same guy from her work. At first she said nothing was going on, I caught them flirting. The second time the guy's ...
A. 9 August 2007: I am very sorry to hear of your problem. I understand that you love your wife deeply but believe you have made the correct decision in wanting to leave her. You have put up with her behaviour for long enough. You cannot allow it to continue any ... (read in full...)
My bf's friend is scummy and keeps hitting on me! How can I make this stop?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. His best friend, someone he's known since he was little, will not stop hitting on me. He openly asks to have sex with me, asks to see me naked, and to have threesomes with his girlfriend -- ...
A. 9 August 2007: I understand how you must be feeling. No wonder you are uncomfortable around him, especially when your boyfriend refuses to help. Tell him that you find his friends remarks unacceptable, that you have tried ignoring him yet he still continues and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been texting other women in secret!
Q. ive just found out recently that my boyfriend has been texting other women in secret and it has crushed me i have been trying to forgive him as he said there was nothing in it.all the trust i had has gone and i have a knot in my stomach the size of ...
A. 9 August 2007: Im so sorry that you are feeling this way. I understand that you have lost your trust in your boyfriend and you are hurt. Lets take a step back from this situation for a minute to gain a complete overview.
You are a sensible woman who will unde... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: Please beware of private messages from strangers asking for money or promising riches!
Q. Hi everyone We've had a couple of scammers posting private mails through the site. Please everyone use your common sense and keep yourself safe. This goes for all sites, not just this one! * Never give anyone your phone number or home em...
A. 9 August 2007: Ive been getting these messages too. Its best to just delete them straight away. Thanks for your help and support on this issue Andrew.
Best wishes,
Skye... (read in full...)
He knows that I hate porn... so when he came home with two videos on his mobile phone I hit the roof!
Q. Hi..... I have a little prblem.. It may seem silly to most but to me its a big deal.. I hate porn or any form relating to porn weather its a girl stripping or full sex I just hate it. My views on this is if a guy or a lassie has pron in thei...
A. 8 August 2007: I agree with MYP here. Speak calmly with your man and make it clear that you find this unacceptable and it makes you feel insecure in your relationship with him.
All relationships are based on trust and mutual respect. If you dont have this you ... (read in full...)
He's gotten obsessed with making me squirt (and it's making me sore)...
Q. AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH My Boyfriend just figured out how to make me squirt, but now hes addicted!!!The problem is :S it doesnt even feel as amazing as people set it out to be. Hes been trying too hard lately to make me do it an...
A. 8 August 2007: Speak with him and tell him that this is painful for you. If he truely cares for you he will not ask you to do it again. You are his partner and as such he cares for you and will want you to enjoy sexual contact with him.
Men can be sensitive crea... (read in full...)
Is it safe to have sex while pregnant?
Q. Hello everyone :) currently i am in my 2 week wait, and yes it is killing me. I have 6 more days to go to see if my period comes. My husband will be back from a business trip on friday, so we would want to have sex, would it be safe for the implated ...
A. 8 August 2007: Sex would be ok. You cant hurt your baby if you are pregnant. Babies are well protected while in the womb, unless there are underlying medical conditions that would suggest otherwise.
As your pregnancy progresses, you and your husband might want... (read in full...)
My wife caught me talking to other women on dating sites.
Q. ok well here goes. i used to be on all these dating sites. then i got married. but i continued to go on them well. the other day my wife caught me, and seen that i had been talking to these women. so she then accused me of lieing, cheating, and meet ...
A. 6 August 2007: I agree with the other replies here. I would be totally livid if I discovered my husband had done something like this.
We need to earn the trust of our partner and if it is broken we have a really huge problem.
Tell her again (and again and agai... (read in full...)
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