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writes: i am already 35 years old and never been married. before it was simply ok for me to be with a man without getting married. but now in my age im desperately hoping for getting married thinking that at least before i get old or before i die, i will experience to be married.of course i wanna do it with someone i love but why it never happen? i have my boyfriend now but the same thing happen from my last boyfriend he never mention to me about getting married.is it really my luck to be remain single?thank you for giving me a little time here. Reply to this Question
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (18 October 2006):
 Hey,
I understand how you feel. It was not until my father was on his death bed, that I really wanted to get serious and settle down with someone. When my father did pass away, I stood by his bed side but I was not yet married, nor did I have children. To this day, it sticks with me that he will never attend my wedding, nor will my children ever know their grandfather.
What I would suggest that you consider is to ask you to think about WHY you want to get married. Is it because it will make you feel more secure that you will not be abandoned or lessens the chances of growing up alone? Is it becuase your biological clock is ticking, and you only want to have children if you are married first?
If children are the issue, I would suggest to look at health issues in having childen later in life, not the marriage issue.
As to the "whys"...In my philosophy, it is becuase such is life. There is no reason other than it hasn't happened to you yet. In some cases, people get married becuase they make it a priority, and some people end up happy, and some do not, but those that make it a priority have at least gotten married.
If marriage is importnat to you, then only commit to relationships with men that want to get married.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, shania  +, writes (18 October 2006):
 Marriage isn't a fashion accessory and it doesn't have to be the end of the world if you dont marry.You have a boyfriend now so just enjoy what you two have and see what happens.There is a lot of women now who dont get married until much later on...nowadays people live together 1st before they embark on marriage.You will know when both of you will feel ready for the next step,remember there is loads of women out there who would envy your position.
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reader, !x!T!x! +, writes (18 October 2006):
 i wouldnt worry i know lots of people who never got married till later on in life...but does it really matter about a silly peice of paper if your with someone you love then your 200 times luckier than all those people who are stuck in a marriage for the wrong reasons or havent found "the one" yet ...you never know what might happen its still not too late !!!
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