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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 30 June 2007: Jendorset,
Get a hold of yourself. Read the poster's question again. Look at what she is asking. Look at the way she is behaving, and look at what she is about to lose if she does not change.
Do you really think that encouraging some... (read in full...)
I'm leaving town so I won't need to see them together. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. for the past few weeks i have been heart broken because i was dumped by a man who has decided to go back to the woman he got pregnant because he says it is the right thing to do because he wants his child to grow up with a mom and dad and not that ...
A. 27 June 2007: Hey there,
I would strongly suggest that he demand a paternaty test be done. If he acts like a father, and it turns out it is not his later, becuase he acted without asking, he might STILL be financially liable even if it is not his kid.
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I'm leaving town so I won't need to see them together. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. for the past few weeks i have been heart broken because i was dumped by a man who has decided to go back to the woman he got pregnant because he says it is the right thing to do because he wants his child to grow up with a mom and dad and not that ...
A. 26 June 2007: Do you live in such a small town that you can not help but see them on a regular basis? Is running from town a tactic you used in the past, and if so, did it work out for you?
If it is a very small town, then moving in order for you to move on ... (read in full...)
My partner has been having an affair with another woman... she's cut off contact but is mourning the loss!
Q. I have posted messages on this subject before but things developed. My civil partner has a long friendship with a girl she met in Sweden 6 years ago (We have been together 6 years also, something was developing before we met but never transpired as ...
A. 26 June 2007: You being there for her during her mourning process is unfair to you. You are her partner, not her therapist, and as long as you continue to act like her therapist, she will continue to lose attraction to you, and cheat on you again.
Just ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be shy in my new place--any advice?
Q. hello everyone. i am 18 years old and I am relocating from Brooklyn NY to a Philly suburb. I have lived in Brooklyn all my life. I pretty much do not have much friends and i have never even kissed a girl (let alone have a girlfriend). There ...
A. 25 June 2007: I would suggest that once you get settled in to your new place, go out and make as many new friends as possible. Join various college and university clubs, or find a local community center/group. Make friends with everyone, and at some point, the ... (read in full...)
She's getting married but she has feelings for me!
Q. This girl I really like initiated some dates with me about two months ago. I wasn't sure at first how I felt about her in that way. I'd known her for about three months before that and we'd gotten on alright. However, over the past six weeks I've ...
A. 25 June 2007: Based on your email, I do not think she has the feelings for you that you think she claimed she did.
She is with that other guy, not because of how good he is to her, but because of the fact 1-he is the father of her child and 2-he makes her feel... (read in full...)
Our relationship is wearing me down--what can I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have lived together for two. For the last year I feel as though we are more like roommates than anything. We don't talk because every time I try, he just gets offensive. We have only had sex twice in...
A. 25 June 2007: I have to ask you this...did he want to have a child? He acts as if he is feeling resentful of being a father and family man. Was the child planned or an accident?
Also, I find it odd that he would only want sex with you those two times. ... (read in full...)
I struggle to keep my erection during sex, but it comes back when I stop--help?
Q. My penis starts losing it's erection while i'm having sex, and if I pull out it starts erecting again. Any idea why it loses it's erection?...
A. 25 June 2007: My guess is that it is not a physical thing. There is something going on when you are alone, that is helping you maintain, which does not happen when you are with your partner.
Most likely, you may be feeling nervous, and ill-at-ease. You are ... (read in full...)
I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 25 June 2007: To Jendorset and the Original Poster,
I stand by my original answer.
I am not here to be "nice" and tell people what they think they want to hear. I am here to be honest about what I think becuase I beleive I help people with being hones... (read in full...)
I hate porn and no guy I am with is going to look at it!
Q. Are there an men who would be satisfied with one female sexualy? Is this too much to ask? I mean not be interested in porn etc...I ask this because I am considering whether to start dating again..Frankly Im very against porn for political and ...
A. 24 June 2007: I think your gender studies have ruined you. You are taking intellectual constructs and trying to force them to work in the real world...in the end, it is you who will suffer.
My suggestion is to learn to create your own porn. I am serious ... (read in full...)
How can I get my wife to come back to me?
Q. I married my highschool sweetheart after I completed college and we've been together for more than 15 years, and had what I thought was a great relationship. Then suddenly after my wife lost her job as a medical administrator, she told me she wasn't ...
A. 24 June 2007: Firstly, as a man, if your woman tells you that she wants kids, and you do not want kids, you had an obligation to break it off with her so that she could have found someone else in time, before her biological clock stops ticking. Because men can ... (read in full...)
Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 23 June 2007: Hey Eddie,
I will be in Niagra Falls this Sept to get married early Sept. Maybe I will see you then at the vineyards?
-Frank... (read in full...)
How can I be a proper ladies' man?
Q. Gud day readers! Im 23 but I had only experienced having a girlfriend twice in the past and it started when i was 20. I won the hearts of both of these women way too easily. I never worked hard to win them nor did anything to impress them. I'...
A. 23 June 2007: Check out the website of a friend of mine:
www.enlightenseduction.com
He has a very gentle and human approach to seduction that women love.
My site of franktalks.com is more about relationship management using seduction methods.
Pr... (read in full...)
My ex wants to meet up on Friday again, should I go? What should I wear? How should I act?
Q. Okay basically I have been going out with this guy for 8 months, we split up last year over stupidness and this year he broke up with me cos of a text from one of my exes. Everyone is saying he does not deserve me and stuff buh, I know how he reall...
A. 22 June 2007: Firstly, relax, and get a grip.
No, do not meet with him.
The more time you spend with an ex, the less opportunity you have to meet your future soulmate.
What is more important to you? You past ex, or your future soulmate?
Here is a h... (read in full...)
I just want more from life but he feels I'm leaving him out
Q. Is it wrong to want more in life? I have been in a relationship for about 3 years now. I am completely happy and want nothing more then to be with him. But the problem seems to be that I have all these plans and goals. When I talk about them it ...
A. 22 June 2007: I think he worries that once you attain all these goals, you will abandon him.
My guess is that if he is not a go-getter himself, AND if he is unable to support you in the way that you need, it is a sign that he is not the one for you.
-Frank ... (read in full...)
I hate my discoloured teeth
Q. I am not too keen on the colour of my teeth there kinda discoloured does anyone know where or what to do and 2 get whitening from or anything. Anything to make them whiter...
A. 22 June 2007: See a dentist, they can recommend procedures for you to follow.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
We've been married 12 years and he's never given me an orgasm
Q. My husband of 12 years has never given me oral sex. I give him BJs all the time. He's a missionary-position type of guy. I'm very clean and shower often, and have shaved everything, too, because he said he might like that. But he has a hang up ...
A. 22 June 2007: Something to consider...how would you feel about having a threesome with a woman? She can give you the attention you need, and he might go for that. Also, if he sees how much you enjoy it from her, he might start to get a reality check and get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend left me, then I found out I was pregnant. He threatened me alot and when the baby was born she was stillborn. Should I send him a picture of what we made together?
Q. My ex and I have been separated for the past 8 months (he initiated it after 5 years together). When we split I discovered I was 5 wks pregnant. He didnt want me to carry on with the pregnancy and told me to abort. I told him where to get off and ...
A. 22 June 2007: My heart goes out to you. My deepest emotion for you and your child. My advice is to walk away from him. He is a monster. Stay away from him. Dispite what he says now, he sounds like he would have wanted her dead anyways. Do not send him... (read in full...)
I am 16 and I am in love with a 23 year old guy...but he's got a girlfriend! What should I do?
Q. i am 16 and i am in love with a 23 year old guy, he is perfect in every single way but he already has a girlfriend, what should i do? i can't get him out of my head and whenever we see each other we always have a really good chat. help! what should ...
A. 22 June 2007: You do nothing. You are 16. He is 23 and has a girlfriend.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Should I meet my sister who I've never met before even though it would affect my family?
Q. olla again! i need people advice! say u have a sister some where in the world ypu've never met but want to, should u? even though to will destroy or strengthen family life? help me...
A. 22 June 2007: Hard to say...you do not go into the specifics of how this would hurt your family. I assume your sister is the product of an affair and that one of your parents wants nothing to do with her, and that is the pain.
My feeling is that you should m... (read in full...)
My best friend's wife gave permission for us to sleep together as their sex life was non existent and she couldnt be bothered to try and improve their marriage
Q. My best friend's wife gave permission for us to sleep together as their sex life was non existent and she couldnt be bothered to try and improve their marriage. We did this on many occasions and eventually fell deeply for each other , but when she ...
A. 21 June 2007: There is nothing anyone here can help you with. The problem is your lover needs to find his balls. Firstly he has to see a lawyer to know what his rights are for his kids. Then he will know what he can do. I do not see a future for this rel... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a man to want to watch you giving him oral....?
Q. Is it normal for a guy to want to watch you give him oral sex?...
A. 21 June 2007: Yes. -Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I feel like a charity case!!
Q. I am getting married in about 5 months. My fiance is paying even though traditionally the bride's family should pay. My dad is also sick and so my parents are not very well off. Now everytime we discuss something about the wedding and if the ...
A. 21 June 2007: My suggestion is that you elope...this will cut the costs of a big fancy wedding, and put that money as a down payment on a house. Then when you come back married, once a week have dinner at someone's house that you would have invited, and that ... (read in full...)
Shall all the dear cupid advisors meet?
Q. I know you have aunts from all over the world, but I wondered whether it may be a nice idea for us to meet at a convention of some sort...somehow? Perhaps several....
A. 21 June 2007: I would love to go to something like this. For me it depends on travel expenses. I live in Toronto Ontario Canada. -Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Everytime I get a boyfriend this guy "Mat" tells me he loves me. Then when we split up, he says he doesn't. Now we're quite close and I have feelings for him but I'm taken! What should I do?
Q. Well... I have been mates with this boy "Mat" for quite a while and bout 2 months ago he told me he loved me, the problem was i had a boyfriend. Rumours spread my boyfriend found out nd after lots of arguements we split up. about a week after that ...
A. 21 June 2007: He only likes you when he can not have you...he is playing a game like a scared little boy, and you are falling for it. What possible value does he even offer as a friend that you would keep him around at all?
-FBK... (read in full...)
She tell her Mum everything that we get up to!! What can I do?
Q. Hi me and my girlfreind have been going out for 4 months now and I really do love her. However when we sleep together or talk on the phone she tells her mum eveything. She even tells her what we do and i cant look at her mum the same way now. Can ...
A. 21 June 2007: I am torn about this.
On the one hand, what happens between a couple should STAY between the couple. Does this mean that if you share a secret with her, that her mom will know too? I think this is creepy.
On the other hand...you are b... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and now the guy I cheated with wants to meet up with me again.
Q. Ive been going out with my boyfriend for the past 2 years and were planning on moving in together for college, i love him but i cheated on him about a month ago.. the lad i done it with is texting me and wants to meet up with me again and i really ...
A. 21 June 2007: Firstly, do NOT move in with your bf, no matter what happens with the other guy. College is hard enough without having to deal with break up issues then.
I would suggest that you tell your bf that you want the both of you to start seeing other pe... (read in full...)
How can I end our relationship without ending our friendship too?
Q. i'm in a relationship with someone who i have been good friends with for years and i want to end this relationship but i don't want to mess up our friendship. how do i end this relationship?...
A. 21 June 2007: End it face to face, direct and honestly and SOON.
Your friendship was over when you developed feelings for each other to begin with.
You can tell him that you want to be friends with him, and he might even be willing to try it, but I doubt ... (read in full...)
Should I start all over or just let him go?
Q. Alright I had a baby girl about 2 and a half months ago and the other day I told my boyfriend (not real father) That I was giving cusody to my parent's until I finsh school ect. But he didnt know he thought I was just giving up on my daughter which ...
A. 21 June 2007: Where is the real father of the baby in this picture. I think your parents are right not to have be so close to her, esp if you two are having problems, and he is not the real father. They are doing their job in protecting thier grand-daughter.
... (read in full...)
How do I make moves on the girls during this summer of love??
Q. Ok, so here's my situation. I'm 18, I haven't gotten any in ages and am fed up to the back teeth of it! Last time was 18 months ago...not that I've been counting or anything. Basically, I'm looking for a bit of advice of picking girls up. I fe...
A. 21 June 2007: Go to google, and type in fast seduction. You will find a website that teaches you pickup (a number of them actually) that will teach you to pick up WITHOUT having to buy her anything first.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Should I stay with her or give up on her?
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for four years. Not only was it my first and only relationship, it was my first and only relationship. I had always wanted this to be an open relationship because since I had never been in a relationship before, I ...
A. 21 June 2007: My advice is to date as many other people as you can. Chances are good that you will see her again in the future, and when you do, you will wish you had gotten sex with other people out of your system...which is what broke you up to begin with.
... (read in full...)
Family members have made me feel guilty about little things in my life. Any help?
Q. Hello, I have a strange problem in that whenever i find something good in my life or feel happy or am loved by someone, my family members start to become uncomfortable about it as if they would lose out in the competition of survival. They s...
A. 21 June 2007: Your family are MISERABLE people, and they only way they can feel good about anything is to make everybody around them feel as awful as they do.
You are doing the same thing by trying to feel good by changing the way the feel to the way you feel... (read in full...)
My fiance and I are totally different--should I talk to her about it?
Q. Relating with my fiance makes me feel doubtful about myself, low on self-esteem and somewhat powerless and weak. She is quite high on the morals, low on the practical aspects and it's the otherway round for me. Should i talk about this to her ?...
A. 21 June 2007: Let me get this strait...you are wondering if you should talk about something as important as the nature of your relationship with her...and THIS is the girl you plan to marry?
If you can not talk to her about THESE things...surely you should n... (read in full...)
My husband of 12 years is looking on gay chat sites! What should I think and do?
Q. ive been with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 kids, ive just found out that he has been going on gay chat sites and im not sure if this means he is gay, he has a very high sex drive and a few years ago nearly had an affair with a woman. it ...
A. 21 June 2007: Well he is eitehr gay, bi or curious. Chances are he has been doing this for years, and you just did not know.
Firstly YOU have to decide what you are going to do. If he is bi, gay or whatever, and wants to continue to be married to you, you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to sleep with another girl. He said that we both can have one person on the side to sleep with.
Q. Okay... My boyfriend just popped this thing on me. He wants to sleep with another girl. He said that we both can have one person on the side to sleep with. We will use protection and we will both know that we are more important than the side people. ...
A. 21 June 2007: Open relationships (polyamory) are not for everyone. It is not as hard as some people think (just as monogamy is not for everyone), but it does have certain challenges.
I would suggest that before either of you sleep with anyone else, that you... (read in full...)
My life is in a rut. I want to settle down but dont know how to find my lifemate
Q. I'm 32 and feel my life's in a rut. I'd like to settle down, get married and have a family. In fact, that's what I've wanted since I was about 17. I'm starting to think the reason I haven't settled is that I've still got a lot of growing up and ...
A. 20 June 2007: Hey dude,
What I am about to write is not meant to be harsh, but I think you may need a dose of reality.
Not everything works out. Many of us who were brought up on media have this "happily ever after" complex where we are unable to cope with ba... (read in full...)
Should I let my daughter get to know this man better?
Q. My daughter is a very mature 17 year old who has been homeschooled, just finished her first year at college. She is becoming good friends with a 26 year old man at church who is interested in her and would like to date her. They are both devoted ...
A. 20 June 2007: Hey.
If the following was the case:
In our family, dating is not a romantic thing, it is basically an interview process where you are seeing if the person that you are interested lines up with your ideals that you have set for your future l... (read in full...)
Im in dead end job at a call centre, I want to get out but I dont have any qualifications, what can I do ?
Q. I need help... im in a dead end job (call centre for a well known bank) truth is a HATE it, its depressing, ppl shout at you all day and we're treated like slaves. im 31 dont have any qualifications, but im brill with people, im very good at art and ...
A. 20 June 2007: Move over to a job as a night time security guard. The peace and quiet will help you heal from this past job. It will also free your mind, and give you a chance to read about what career move you want to make next.
Volunteer at a gym one day ... (read in full...)
Want to work as a meet-and-greeter
Q. I want to work at exhibitions either demonstrating or meeting and greeting. Are there any web sites for this kind of job....
A. 20 June 2007: Get experience through unviersities and colleges by offering to do it for free. Once you have done it for free, get letters of recommendations, and THEN apply to bigger venues.
Most young music bands would LOVE someone to be a greeter at the door... (read in full...)
Id like to start working from home, where do I begin ?
Q. I would like to work from home part-time I'm having a very hard time in the clerical field. I've been out of work since the end of 1998 for having cancer what can I do. I took word,excel,power point, tying. I'm even taking spanish. I did get my ...
A. 20 June 2007: I assume you have a home computer? For starters...use your program skills to see if you can type stuff up for students in the pharmacy and medical professions...maybe even tutor them at home.
Next, you have an amazing story as a cancer survivor... (read in full...)
Id like to start working from home, where do I begin ?
Q. I would like to work from home part-time I'm having a very hard time in the clerical field. I've been out of work since the end of 1998 for having cancer what can I do. I took word,excel,power point, tying. I'm even taking spanish. I did get my ...
A. 20 June 2007: I assume you have a home computer? For starters...use your program skills to see if you can type stuff up for students in the pharmacy and medical professions...maybe even tutor them at home.
Next, you have an amazing story as a cancer survivor... (read in full...)
Any career ideas after my time in the music industry?
Q. I'm looking for a new career. Since finishing school I have always worked in the music industry in varied roles such as a record store manager, and more recently working at a record company in the roles of sales representative, promotions ...
A. 20 June 2007: How about marketing for internet businesses? You can start with internet radio stations, and work your way into more braodcast admin positions, and finally branch out from there to non-entertainment industry admin positions.
Also, you have eno... (read in full...)
I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 19 June 2007: How do you grow up? Well first you have to WANT to grow up...and it does not sound like you want to. How does any spoiled brat grow up? Maybe a strong dose of reality.
I almost hope he does dump you. Maybe the pain of losing the best guy you ... (read in full...)
My life is in a rut. I want to settle down but dont know how to find my lifemate
Q. I'm 32 and feel my life's in a rut. I'd like to settle down, get married and have a family. In fact, that's what I've wanted since I was about 17. I'm starting to think the reason I haven't settled is that I've still got a lot of growing up and ...
A. 19 June 2007: My only advice is to tell you that a woman you date/marry is not going to fill in the missing void in your life, if that missing part is on the inside of you.
You need to feel like a complete person before you get serious with someone. Like you... (read in full...)
Should I let my daughter get to know this man better?
Q. My daughter is a very mature 17 year old who has been homeschooled, just finished her first year at college. She is becoming good friends with a 26 year old man at church who is interested in her and would like to date her. They are both devoted ...
A. 16 June 2007: If you think she is very mature, then trust her enough to let her make her own choices.
How devoted a christian is he if he has a past marriage? I mean, is he a widower, or divorced, or separated?
As for her first kiss on wedding day...is... (read in full...)
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