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writes:I found my ex-girlfriend after 37 years, she in Denmark and I in Canada. We e-mail, MSN and talk (hours every day) without our spouses knowledge. We are both happily married. Now we tell each other how we love each other agin and plan to meet. Any advice ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2007): You know what the right thing to do is. This is the anatomy of an affair: It starts out as friends, then becomes sharing things and talking about personal things, then its like this other person is so much more (whatever) than my spouse, next you start telling each other about your 'feelings', soon it will be a meeting and physical relationship. That is how adultery works.
You can't just walk up to the line and stick your big toe over and say OK this far but no further.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): First - I think you are experiencing the old saying, "The Grass Looks Greener On The Other Side Of The Fence," but trust me, it usually taste the same or just a little different.It sounds like you need some excitement. Something NEW! Usually with situations like this, it is the hiding and sneeking that seem so appealing. Or the NEWNESS of a relationship. Once things aren't NEW with the NEW person anymore, they aren't as exciting anymore. Then, you may be tempted to look for something or someone else more exciting than the EX-Girlfriend. Maybe even decide you want your wife back. We all like a challenge. Ask yourself a few questions:If your marriage is SOOO HAPPY, why have you obviously been seeking out this other woman for so long?If you leave your wife, and decide you want her back will she take you back?Will the Ex-Girlfriend still be married, or is she leaving her husband for you too?Why did you not marry your Ex-Girlfriend in the first place?Why did you marry your wife? Where you settling for her?I know it is not ethical for you two to meet, but only you can decide whether to risk it or not. Maybe you two should both just be truthful to your spouses and see what the outcome is.
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reader, Frank B Kermit +, writes (30 August 2007):
 What exactly is it that you are trying to recapture here? The fact that your spouces do not know means you know what you are doing is wrong.
My advice is NOT to meet, and to grow up.
Cut off contact with her, or divorce your spouce.
-Frank B Kermit
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (29 August 2007):
 That's "First off stop claiming", and that's "playing with fire" and that's "knock this nonsense off" I guess you really pushed my buttons!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 August 2007):
If off stop claiming you both are happily married, obviously this is not case for either of you. You are playing with firs and your poor wife will be devastated. How can you look yourself in the mirror knowing you are destroying her? My advice is to knock this nonsense of with the old girlfriend and focus on what is lacking in your marriage and correct it. If you don't like that advice then divorce your wife and let her find a real man who has honor and integrity and who will treat her with the respect she deserves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): Thats really nice, But you say your both happy and love your partners, why risk it... But at the end of the day you have to go by what your heart is telling you.
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reader, miamigirls1 +, writes (29 August 2007):
Dangerous!Think twice! Are you willing to loose your wife/husband for this adventure? Who you love the most? And you think they deserved this?
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