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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 30 June 2007: Jendorset,
Get a hold of yourself. Read the poster's question again. Look at what she is asking. Look at the way she is behaving, and look at what she is about to lose if she does not change.
Do you really think that encouraging some... (read in full...)
I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 25 June 2007: To Jendorset and the Original Poster,
I stand by my original answer.
I am not here to be "nice" and tell people what they think they want to hear. I am here to be honest about what I think becuase I beleive I help people with being hones... (read in full...)
My life is in a rut. I want to settle down but dont know how to find my lifemate
Q. I'm 32 and feel my life's in a rut. I'd like to settle down, get married and have a family. In fact, that's what I've wanted since I was about 17. I'm starting to think the reason I haven't settled is that I've still got a lot of growing up and ...
A. 20 June 2007: Hey dude,
What I am about to write is not meant to be harsh, but I think you may need a dose of reality.
Not everything works out. Many of us who were brought up on media have this "happily ever after" complex where we are unable to cope with ba... (read in full...)
Any career ideas after my time in the music industry?
Q. I'm looking for a new career. Since finishing school I have always worked in the music industry in varied roles such as a record store manager, and more recently working at a record company in the roles of sales representative, promotions ...
A. 20 June 2007: How about marketing for internet businesses? You can start with internet radio stations, and work your way into more braodcast admin positions, and finally branch out from there to non-entertainment industry admin positions.
Also, you have eno... (read in full...)
Want to go into nursing in special care for babies
Q. I really want to go into nursing in special care for babies. I had to drop out of doing my access into nursing due to having my little girl. I have other children and can't afford to go to university. I was told that if I went into Auxialary ...
A. 20 June 2007: Something you can do in the meanwhile is get your hands on the course outlines for nursing classes, and read and study all the material on your own. The information you come across there will help in your applications to getthing more nursing ... (read in full...)
Don't want to go back as a dental nurse... any ideas?
Q. hi i am 26 and have not many qualifications. i am a qualified dental nurse but dont want to go back to that job. for the last 5 years i have been working as an assistant scientist but my work is about to close making me redundant. i am currently o...
A. 20 June 2007: First things first. Get out of debt, and save up some money. Cut out all unnecessary expensives. That will give you the freedom you need to explore your other options.
Once you have more time to learn, go to the library and read read read as ... (read in full...)
Are these good GCSE options for a budding actress?
Q. I'm 14 and about to choose my options for GCSE. I want to be an actress when I'm older as I am obssessed with acting and have been since little. I have wanted yo be an actress since I was about 4 and even though I know its not a very reliable career ...
A. 20 June 2007: Languages are a good focus, you can make money as a translator, but I wonder if you realise the amount of TIME you will have to put in with so many of them.
Drop history. Too much time. Not enough return.
For acting:
Drama (of course)... (read in full...)
Where to start in the fashion industry?
Q. I am looking to work within the fashion industry and i just don;t know where to start. I think i would like to be a buyer but i have no idea what i would have to do to achieve this and how i could get my foot in the door and start out. if possib...
A. 20 June 2007: Try this....write a fashion article for a website or local student newspaper, and go out and interview fashion buyers about their jobs.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
How can I get into management with few qualification ?
Q. Hi i want to get into management but i have hardly any qualifications. Any advice??...
A. 20 June 2007: Every school has clubs and student organizations. Join one, or start one, and MANAGE it. It will be the experiecne you need to get the entry level job.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
How do I go about getting a record contract ?
Q. I want to be a singer, I have always wrote and sung my own songs but I dont know what to do!!! I need help!! How do i get a contract?? A record deal??etc.....
A. 20 June 2007: Read, "Everything you need to know about the music business" by Donald Passman. Other books are "This Business of Music" and Kock on "Licensing".
Start there. It will lead you to the rest of what you need.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
How can a 30 year old 3rd year plumbing student find work?
Q. Hi, does anyone know how a 30 year old 3rd year plumbing student can find work? One would assume, what with there being a "shortage" of plumbers/heating engineers, that there would be ample opportunities of finding work. However, most if not all ...
A. 20 June 2007: Volunteer your services 2 days a week to a pro for 2 months to get a letter of recommendation. Then go to a different pro to do the same. During the rest of the week, work at any paying job you can find to buy as much of your own equipment as ... (read in full...)
Any ideas what I can do?
Q. I have been in credit and collections for 5 years in order to support myself and my daughter as a single mom. Its really the only thing that paid the bills with my high school eductation. However, I'm finding that the medicine I took to treat ADD ...
A. 20 June 2007: DO you have any family that you can send your daughter to live with while you get your stuff in order? That might be a first step.
Next, if clothes are an issue, look for work that will provide you with a uniform, so you do not have to worry ab... (read in full...)
How do I stand out from the other applicants?
Q. Hi, i'd like to become a fashion buyer and next year go to the London College of Fashion to study fashion management (it includes buying, merchandising, marketing, business etc). I know someone who is going this year and she told me that 200...
A. 20 June 2007: How about your own website where you interview all the local and international fashion industry people INCLUDING the professors of that school? They would notice you then...
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
Want to do something new and different and creative!
Q. Have come to a kind of cross roads in my life where i have the choice to do something new and different. I have over the past couple of years done alot of office admin work which has to be honest bored the pants of me. I always give it 100% but...
A. 20 June 2007: Start with a part time internship, that will be unpaid, but get you in the door.
Take a class in local schools on the subject to meet other students and teachers of it. They are your future contacts and employers/ees.
Stay OUT OF DEBT. Nothin... (read in full...)
Would like a job that is more creative.. ?
Q. I have the opportunity to change direction in my life and have come to the decision that i am not suited to office jobs. I would like a job which is more creative and holds more of a challenge. I have a keen interest in music and its produc...
A. 20 June 2007: Start with part time internships. It will be unpaid, but get you in the door. See if you can take a course at a local university, just to meet other students and teachers in the field, and start a librairy at home of books for that industry.
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Feel like a failure... how do I bounce back?
Q. Im 18 and have no qualifications or experience. I missed my GCSEs due to personal problems and cant really see a way to getting a career of any kind. Theres things i want to do like be a teacher or a nail technian, but alot of these things seem ...
A. 20 June 2007: One word: VOLUNTEER!
The only way to get experience if you can not get school or a job is to volunteer your services in exchange for learning the skills.
volunteer interns sometimes do teh crap work, but they also gain experience and l... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend but I still love my ex; who can't make up her mind!
Q. so its been about a year since my ex dumped me. never got closure from it. i love her so much but sometimes i really just dont understand her. when we broke up she never gave me a solid reason why she didnt want to be together. it took me a while to ...
A. 20 June 2007: NEVER go back with the ex. She is your ex for a reason. Cut all contact.
It is just wasted time.
You are a man. YOU must make up YOUR mind.
The choice is clear. Whether or not you date the second girl, or someone completely new...you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he's impotent but then we successfully had sex; I'm so confused
Q. Hi all, My boyfriend Roger and I have been dating 4 months this Friday. It took us forever for things to get physical. When I gave him oral (for the first time) the other night, I did it for ages and he didn't come. He eventually broke down and t...
A. 20 June 2007: Maybe Roger was a virgin, and he told you that instead of telling you how nervous about sex he was. Once he saw that you were willing to stick around, he felt comfortable enough to do it.
-FBK... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get my g/f of 2 years to feel more secure about herself. Any ideas?
Q. I don't know how to get my g/f of 2 years to feel more secure about herself. She's really quite attractive, intelligent, and has a good job. I guess I'm not very good and doling out praise or compliments but she always looks nice. We get along well ...
A. 20 June 2007: You said, "I just don't know why it's so important to hold her hand and act like a dopey 17-year-old boy. I'm not into that."
Just want to look at this separately. THis stems from a woman's emotional need of "Fear of Abandonment". Signs of affec... (read in full...)
I don't know how to get my g/f of 2 years to feel more secure about herself. Any ideas?
Q. I don't know how to get my g/f of 2 years to feel more secure about herself. She's really quite attractive, intelligent, and has a good job. I guess I'm not very good and doling out praise or compliments but she always looks nice. We get along well ...
A. 20 June 2007: There is nothing you can do to make someone feel good about themselves. It is not your job, and not in your power. All you can do is love her, and support her...but she needs to find that self-love on her own. You can not force someone to love ... (read in full...)
Problems with thoughts of the ex and the current boyfriend! Help!
Q. So. I had a ridiculous crush on this guy I knew from school who then moved fairly far away, we got intimately involved, considered getting into a relationship. I visited him later, to talk about it, and found out after two days he'd found someo...
A. 20 June 2007: Of course your bf can't leave it alone. He now knows that he can never fully trust you, or ever build a future with you. You just told him that dispite your time with him, you are still in love with someone else. What did you expect?
The i... (read in full...)
Torn between my best friend and the first girl i've loved in five years!!!
Q. Dear Anyone, Well here goes, I'll give you a little background first. I'm 25 and I have only been in love with one girl this was when I was 17, I was with her for 3 years and then we parted separate ways. Since then, I can honestly say that I have b...
A. 20 June 2007: If you only "think" you love her...it is not worth it.
As for Sam...do you really think he will be your friend after this, I mean long term?
If your friendship with Sam was as important as you think, you would not be in this situation no... (read in full...)
Should I be selfish and risk the possibility of messing one relationship up and eventually being right back in the same situation?
Q. I thought I loved my wife when we met. It may have been many things that caused me to feel the way I did and do for her. I feel like I'm staying in the marriage for duty rather than anything else. The problem comes where an ex girlfriend of mine has ...
A. 20 June 2007: You both only want each other from the drama of it being taboo...wanting what you can not have. You and your ex broke up once already. You had your chance, and it did not work out. Put your lust aside...that is all it is.
Your wife is pregn... (read in full...)
Do men who have georgeous girlfriends still fantasize, look at porn or cheat?
Q. Do men who have drop dead gorgeous girlfriends still fantasize about other women, want to look at porn, or cheat? I am an attractive woman and all my boyfriends have looked at other women or porn at some time or another in our relationship(and some ...
A. 19 June 2007: "Do men who have drop dead gorgeous girlfriends still fantasize about other women, want to look at porn, or cheat?"
YES.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My wife has just gotten too darn fat to be attractive anymore
Q. I'm in my late 40's and have been married for nearly 26 years, most of which have been happy however my Wife has become increasingly overweight and put simply I no longer fancy her physically. She makes no serious attempt to lose weight and get fit ...
A. 19 June 2007: A separation will not fix this. In fact, all it will do is make it easier for someone that does find her attractive enough to get into her pants.
Now then...you married for better or for worse...did that mean anything to you?
You can not c... (read in full...)
He is cheating on me, but only wants her for her money!
Q. I have been in relationship for fifteen years now with my boyfriend.We have two children, but my boyfriend is not satisfied because he is not working. So he is now seeing a another woman who has money. This is killing me. He says everything will be ...
A. 19 June 2007: What does he mean when he says "It will be Ok"? Is your bf a THEIF and is planning on robbing this woman to bring you money? Are you involved with a criminal? Are you going to be label a conspirator?
Lady...RUN.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I want to stay in the 'honeymoon' stage of a relationship forever
Q. Hello! I'm 24 and have never got past 5 months in any other relationship because I am insecure and unreasonable and I don't like it when the initial 'honeymoon period' becomes 'comfortable'. At the moment I am in a relationship with a man tha...
A. 19 June 2007: How do you grow up? Well first you have to WANT to grow up...and it does not sound like you want to. How does any spoiled brat grow up? Maybe a strong dose of reality.
I almost hope he does dump you. Maybe the pain of losing the best guy you ... (read in full...)
I dont know who the father of my child is so I am alone and scared
Q. I really need some help with my problem. Im a 22 year old girl and have just found out I am pregnant. The thing is, I dont know who the father is as I had 2 flings whilst on holiday last month. I know this is quite disgusting so please dont judge ...
A. 19 June 2007: If you've had one termination, then your beliefs suggest that you could have another. As heartless as this is going to sound, I doubt you are ready to be a mother.
The universe tapped you on the shoulder once with your first terminan... (read in full...)
Am I just being paranoid or is there a chance this is more than a gut feeling?
Q. My girlfriend lives in a different town to me but i travel to stay with her quite often. However when im not with her ive got a gut feeling she is cheating on me. Firstly her mother and sister had informed me not to trust her and that she had 3 guys ...
A. 19 June 2007: Dude, if you have to ask THIS many questions, do you really think she is that worth it? Her own family sides against her. You can do better. The drama is not worth it.
-FBK... (read in full...)
I think all my friends are now judging me because Im still a virgin!!
Q. I have a strange problem, awhile ago my girlfriend told one of her friends that i was a virgin when we first started to date. Her friend told all of my friends and to start with they laughed at me. Im now feeling that all my friends are judg...
A. 19 June 2007: Your girlfriend is a ******. She violated one of the most important emotional needs of a man...to be a secret keeper.
Being a male virgin is not easy, but if your friend turn on you, then you have choosen very lousy friends.
Worse, you cl... (read in full...)
I am suspicious of her even though I am the one that cheated
Q. I'm 22 and my girlfriend of 3 years just recently told me she has been talking to some guy on the phone. The thing is it started about 5 days after we ran into an ex of mine that made a huge scene and said she's still with me. Then about a week ...
A. 19 June 2007: It is not guilt you are experiencing...it is PARANOID. Part the karma balence of cheating is that is makes you suspious of all people, and paranoid that all people cheat. Although many people do, there are those that do not cheat. Unless you have ... (read in full...)
Both women are lovely and are in love with me...so what should I do??
Q. Hi, I have been single for a couple of years and meeting women on dating sites. Ultimately have been looking for a serious relationship. 6 weeks ago met a wonderful woman and we really hit it off and feel we are in love. We are going as slowly a...
A. 19 June 2007: If you feel guilty for sleeping with both, do not let your guilt become their issue by forcing it on them. Basically, as long as you are not leading them to think you are being monogamous with them, there is no issue of immorality as far as I am ... (read in full...)
She has 3 nipples and it is freaking me out!
Q. me and my girlfriend have just started going out and we recently slept together, but when she took her top off i could clearly see that she has three nipples, two on one breast. i have tried to ignor it, but it is really freaking me out and i dont ...
A. 19 June 2007: Oh, grow the fuck up. It is more common than you think.
You are not man enough to be having sex yet if THIS freaks you out this much. How would you want her to bring up topics about your penis too you that you do not think is an issue? Treat it t... (read in full...)
She's all flirty now. Could she like me?
Q. back last year i briefly went out with a girl. we lasted or about a week and a half. and eventually she said she didnt think that it was a good idea and we split. i was devastated and tried everything i could to get her back but she ignored me and ...
A. 19 June 2007: Men want sex...women want ATTENTION. Do not take her flirting seriously. She probably is using you for attention. She knows you have feelings, so she flirts with you becuase she likes the attention, but will reject you as soon as you give her the ... (read in full...)
My life is in a rut. I want to settle down but dont know how to find my lifemate
Q. I'm 32 and feel my life's in a rut. I'd like to settle down, get married and have a family. In fact, that's what I've wanted since I was about 17. I'm starting to think the reason I haven't settled is that I've still got a lot of growing up and ...
A. 19 June 2007: My only advice is to tell you that a woman you date/marry is not going to fill in the missing void in your life, if that missing part is on the inside of you.
You need to feel like a complete person before you get serious with someone. Like you... (read in full...)
Both women are lovely and are in love with me...so what should I do??
Q. Hi, I have been single for a couple of years and meeting women on dating sites. Ultimately have been looking for a serious relationship. 6 weeks ago met a wonderful woman and we really hit it off and feel we are in love. We are going as slowly a...
A. 19 June 2007: If you MUST choose, go with the second one. The first one already proved there are too many issues to deal with, by walking away.
Otherwise, date both, and make sure both of them know that you want to continue to see both of them.
-Frank ... (read in full...)
Why would he do all these nice things with me when he's interacting with another married woman?
Q. why would a man introduce you to his kids, mother tell you he loves you every single day, spend time with you every night and all weekend, make plans for the future and the whole time he's decieving you by interacting with a married woman he works ...
A. 19 June 2007: My guess is that he wanted a relationship with you (you met up with his family), and have an affair with her. It does not make it right if the two of you were suppose to be monogamous, but it does sound likely.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Got asked out while at the library and said "no" even though I wanted to say yes... !
Q. A guy introduced himself at the library and asked me out. He asked me in front of the librarian and I turned him down out of sheer embarrassment. Now that I think the encounter over, I want to see him again just to talk to him. Is it possible ...
A. 19 June 2007: Go back to the librairy. If he is there, approach him. If not, ask the librairian if she knows him.
Let this be a lesson to you. When an opportunity strikes, grab it. There is no guarenttee that he is a member there, and for all you know he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend moved in with me... but now I feel claustrophobic in my own home! Help!
Q. my boyfriend wanted to move into my house with me before xmas.. i had a few reservations but as we got on well on our holiday over xmas i gave it a go. the problem now is i feel as though my independance has been taken away and i dont feel like its ...
A. 19 June 2007: It sounds like you enjoy his company but do not want a future with him. Moving in together will ALWAYS mean compremise. If that is not something you want, then I suggest that you continue with your plans to buy the home, and let him know that he ... (read in full...)
After pouring out my feelings to her over email, she said I was sweet. Can we be more than friends someday?
Q. Hi, I met up with a girl 2 weeks ago at a race meeting, i think we clicked, we seemed to flirt and stuff but nothing happened that night. The following day someone told me i should tell her how i feel but i didnt feel confident enough to do so....
A. 19 June 2007: No, she does not see you that way. You told her you liked her (mistake...unless you are SURE she will reciprocate, you never tell her that until AFTER you are dating). You gave her a chance to be with you, and she turned it down.
She only see... (read in full...)
Am I being tricked by my ex?
Q. I broke up with my wife of 9yrs about 5yrs ago and met a lady on the internet. My ex wife made my life very difficult especially concerning contacts with the 3 children whose ages range from 5 to 10yrs. My girlfriend was very supportive and I do not ...
A. 19 June 2007: You say: " I doubt it if I would ever meet someone that I will gel with like her."
That beleif is based on fear. Nothing more. The bottom line is that you can not have what you want with her. So your choice is either, change what you want, or... (read in full...)
She keeps going back to her rich ex, but I am thinking of proposing anyway.
Q. I am almost 29 and I have been in love with a woman 20 years older than me for the past 3 years. We have dated off and on since we met. She has waivered and gone back to her ex - because he can provide for her financially better than I can - a ...
A. 19 June 2007: My advice is to FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO PROPOSE TOO. You only focus on the fact she came back to you. As a man, you should be focusing on the fact SHE LEFT YOU FOR MONEY.
Seriously, THIS is the woman that you want raising your kids? It is not abou... (read in full...)
What's up with her and how should I deal with this situation?
Q. My girfriend says she need space for a while but she say she still loves me and does not want to break up. She also says that she does not want to date anybody else, she just wants to do her own thing and can't give me 100% She also said that she ...
A. 19 June 2007: She is playing with you. It is her way of saying, "I am looking to replace you, but have not found someone yet, and I want to find someone new before you do, so I am going to lead you on.".
This way if she has sex with someone else, it does not... (read in full...)
They said if I don't break up with her, I'l regret it. What should I do?
Q. i have been going out with my girlfriend for 6 months and we know each other fairly well. however a few weeks ago i went to a party with her that was with people she mostly knew. this included some guys a few years older than me (i'm 20 she's 18...
A. 19 June 2007: Tell your girlfriend the truth, and see a lawyer to file charges against them. Waiting, lying about it to her, were the wrong things to do. NEVER give in to a bully's intimidation. Call up a lawyer right now. Sue them for assult and uttering ... (read in full...)
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