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I want to give my husband the best blow job ever, but i dont know how.

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Question - (17 August 2007) 11 Answers - (Newest, 28 November 2015)
A female United States age 51-59, anonymous writes:

My husband and i have been trying new things i want to give him the best blow job ever but not sure how he is the only man i have done this to.

He would tell me it was good even if it wasn't Come on guys help me out.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2015):

To make it comfortable for you try using a fruit roll up. Wrap it around his shaft and go. You gonna continue to do it because it actually taste so good.

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (5 October 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntThe real key to a "perfect" blow job is to either act like or really do enjoy having his semen all over you,the breasts or face is best. say things like:" More, I love it it's so warm and thick..give me all of it!" you know things like that. That will make it the best BJ he ever had asnd you will forever be his best oral sex no matter what. Guys love to think their women is into his fluid as much as he is. Lucky dude he'll be one happy camper!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2010):

I agree

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A male reader, Icedude69 United States +, writes (17 September 2010):

1. First you need to get him turned on - be more aggressive, grab his stuff, slowly massage his balls through his pants, it's important that you act as seductive as possible - the more you're turned on - the more he'll be turned on. Pull his pants down slowly and act as naughty as possible - this is a great turn on.

2. Grab his hand and lick on his fingers slowly before you give him head - just put his middle finger slowly into your mouth and suck on it, up and down, slide it slowly and moan - you have to moan a lot so he feels like a king.

3. As you're licking one finger, slowly start stroking his shaft (penis) with your other hand, you have to be on your knees and he should be standing, look him in the eyes - this way you can see his reactions. You need to love giving him head if you want him to really enjoy it.

4. Most girls make the mistake of being too soft - don't do that, grab his penis tightly and stroke it hard, as you're twisting his shaft with one hand slowly start sucking on the head (the tip) of his penis, curl your tongue around it, twist it in circles, then point it upwards and slowly lick it while you're watching him.

5. Say something like "mmmmm I love it" then smile, smiling is very important - it conveys that you love it. Keep on stroking and sucking harder.

6. Start talking dirty to him, put your hands around his balls and tickle them gently - make sure you are gentle 'cause his balls are very sensitive, as you're tickling, keep on stroking and sucking.

7. Once you see that he's getting closer start stroking harder - and don't even think about slowing down. Scream at him, tell him you want it - tell him where you want it (swallowing will make him go crazy just as you want it) - then as he starts to come, you have 2 options - you can hold his penis or he can hold it - I suggest you let him hold it and squeeze it out.

8. Then hold his penis and stroke it slowly, just as if you were trying to squeeze every last drop out of him into your mouth, give it a few more finishing licks.

9. Then smile at him, open your mouth and show him what you've got in your mouth, smile, then swallow all of it - then look up at him again and open your mouth to show him it's gone.

If you REALLY want to learn how to give a blow job then you have to read Jack's Blowjob Lessons ----

10. Smile again, believe me he'll love you for it.

Good luck

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008):


I personally like to see the gals lips painted for oral so the lady who mentioned that gets my vote.

Try waiting until you're on your knees already before rubbing the colour slowly over your lips - he can be stood over you masturbating as he watches you, his hand in your hair or on your head. Give him a show - lots of eye contact, licking softly at your lips as you go to make the sexy colour glisten, lots and lots of direct eye contact.

Once you've dressed your lips for his cock he'll likely already be close so you may not have to work too much more. Follow the other advice given here on rhythm and variation. I personally need a strong mix of hand and mouth action to cum - although that might not be the case for all guys. Start slow and sexy but move up to fast and hungry quickly. Make it clear to him that you're not just teasing but working that cock in your mouth until it cums.

If you really want to give him the best you can then don't move your lips off his cock until a good while after he's cum into your mouth (never pull off suddenly just before or during his orgasm). Keep working his cock as he cums and once he's finished slow down to a gentle sucking and wait until his body is relaxed before pulling him out of your mouth.

About the lipstick thing: I personally have no preference for colour - it's the eroticism and tease of it that I like (the gal dressing her lips for my cock).

Have fun :)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007):

i give my husband head all the time,put some nice lipstick on in front of him, you need to have a good amount of saliva in your mouth lick the end of the head gently and roll your tounge around it. Slowly take the head of his cock in your mouth and suck on then off the head with your lips. feel his balls at the same time. try to take his shaft as far down your throat as you can leaving lipstick marks on it, go slow at first its not easy. spit on his dick and lick down the side of it. keep bobbing your mouth up and down the shaft until he cums take your time let him build up. i like to swallow cum and play with, it but if you cant at first let him explode all over your face then suck the rest of his jizz clean off but be gentle,then lick your lips.

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A male reader, Tommy7 United States +, writes (7 September 2007):

Use your hands as little as possible.

Be gentle, don't use your teeth.

Concentrate on the head, esp the underside.

Look up at his face. Smile alot.

Ask him what feels good.

Follow his directions, if any.

Occassionally suck his ball very, very gently.

Lick up and down the shaft.

Take him all in every once and awhile.

Let him go down your throat (if u can w/o gag)

Gradually increase your speed.

Rub his body with you hands.

Don't stop until he comes,

Swallow the semen. Don't suck hard. Never blow

into the penis.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007):

added to what has already been said, begin not with his penis but with his testicles and lick them gently running your tongue over the whole scrotum area, take each testicle into your mouth and gently suck on it while you run your tongue over it. Lick upwards from the base of the scrotum to the top of the penis. Make a show of your taking his penis and let him see you. Each time you give a blow job try to take more of his penis into your mouth. Finally, when a man begins to ejaculate he freezes. Don't stop. Continue to apply pressure with your tongue as if you were trying to milk him.

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A male reader, Frank B Kermit Canada +, writes (18 August 2007):

Frank B Kermit agony auntOk, I have to admit, I really (REALLY) like the advice in this thread ;)

There is a book out written by a gay man, written for women on this topic of how to give a man oral. I don't know the name of it (never looked into it), but it seems to have some good info you can try out based on the way women talked.


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A female reader, beautifultrustnlover United States +, writes (17 August 2007):

beautifultrustnlover agony auntfirst take his dick in your hand then slowly lick around the head as you lightly jack him off then start sucking on the head and as it's in your mouth blow on it a lil bit as you grab his balls, start rubbing them in your hand as you lick down the shaft of his cock maybe give him a lil eye contact and if you can take it all in your mouth tightn your mouth you putting pressure on his head then slowly suck it hard pulling it out your mouth giving him a hand job as you blow ove the head of hes dick and then take it back in your mouth running your tounge over the head all around the hole massagen hes balls and well after a few mins of that hes mind will be blown ask my husband

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A female reader, PoSiOnKiSS United Kingdom +, writes (17 August 2007):

PoSiOnKiSS agony auntThere are loads of ways... okay for one....

Roll an ice cube around your mouth and then quickly suck him off, it gives it all a tingle.

Another is take a gulp of hot water, coffee, whatever ya want as long as its hot and then go down on him, itll heat him up and is sure to give him a jolt!

Another is chocolate, get some melted chocolate (MAKE SURE ITS NOT HOT THOUGH!!!) and trickle it over his penis and lick it all off him. You could also use any other kind of liquid such as cream.

Hope this helps! :)

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