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writes:Hi, I've been with my g/f for 3 years and although we're currently living 50 miles away cos of my work, I hoped she could move to be with me soon, We get to see each other at only weekends, I haven't been pushy asking her to move as I know it would mean leaving her friends. However, recently she has been spending a lot of time with another guy who she works with, this is no secret and she's been very open about their "friendship" to me, I've met him and been friendly towards him but I've seen them being publicly quite affectionate towards each other in front of me. I've phoned her on a few occasions and she's been having dinner with him... I'm really not sure exactly what is going on. I'm trying not to jump to conclusions cos it hurts! She recently confronted me saying she doesn't know where things are going with us and she's confused, I felt gutted, asked her if she had fallen in love with someone else, she said no... I tried to lay my cards on the table and told her that I love her and I'd like us to live together. Maybe we should just end it though and get on with life.. help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2008): Thats not good at all, she is probably spending most time with him than with you, at the end of the day friend or no friend if the other male wants to make a move on her he will ,especially when you 2 are having issues. So do the best thing and confront and tell her you dont mind her having friends but male friends is a no no especially concerning private dinners , if she does not listen then move on i know its going to be hard for you hence you love her but trust me you will save yourself more hurt in the long run.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (30 August 2007):
 I think that it is possible that nothing is going on with the friend, but that she just LOVES the attention.
Start seeing other girls, and have as many female friends as possible. If all she is missing is the attraction for you, this will bring it back.
I personally would not let my girlfriend be having dinner with male friends...I have been the male friend that actually got some.
-Frank B Kermit
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