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| Latest articles: Off Limits Dating
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: Is Someone Off Limits for Dating? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Mastering the art of dating requires a number of skills such as being socially calibrated, effective communication and knowing what you want. One of the areas that comes up for ...
How to Deal with a Toxic Person
No replies yet... 18 September 2013: The Best Way To Deal With Toxic People By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Toxic people are defined in this article as people who lack the capacity to reason, or people have the capacity to reason but just do not want to reason with you. In t...
A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce
No replies yet... 31 August 2013: A Broken Engagement is Better Than A Happy Divorce By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships One of the ironies of couples counseling that I often find myself doing is taking the couple through the pre-marital coaching process when they may already be...
A Frank Comment on Miley Cyrus
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31 August 2013: A Frank Comment On Miley Cyrus By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I do not normally comment on the antics of popular culture, as so much of what we see of movies and TV are fiction based romances and relationships. I tried my best to stay fo...
The Wedding Speech
No replies yet... 26 July 2013: The Wedding Speech Remember this day, your wedding day. Not for the dresses and suits, not for the extravagance, nor the dinner and dancing, but remember your wedding day because of the reasons you chose to marry your spouse. Remember who is it that...
Sexually Incompatible Couples
No replies yet... 19 July 2013: Sexually Incompatible Couples Sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. However, couples who love each other dearly and connect on so many levels, but whom are sexually incompatible tend to find that sex can be at the core of a numb...
Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2
No replies yet... 28 June 2013: Separation and Dating, Part 2 of 2 Separation does not automatically lead to divorce unless you let it. It is up to you and your partner to put in the work so that it does not happen. In the event you are the only one trying to work on yourself and ...
Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2
No replies yet... 22 June 2013: Separation and Dating Part 1 of 2 One of the most damaging actions an individual can take is to start dating someone new when going through a separation with their serious long term partner (spouse, common-law partner or a defacto-union). When I use ...
The Frank Break Up Formula
No replies yet... 14 June 2013: The Frank Break Up Formula By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Breaking up with someone is rarely an enjoyable or pleasant experience. In fact, there are those individuals who stay in less than satisfying relationships, and even can go all the ...
The Frank Romance Formula part 3 of 3
No replies yet... 8 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 3 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 of 3
No replies yet... 3 June 2013: The Frank Romance Formula Part 2 By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Continued from last article: The Frank Romance Formula is: A. (Stimulation of the 5 senses) + B. (Addressing the emotional needs of that person) + C. (Sensual/Sexual Contex...
The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future
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3 May 2013: The Secret Of Seduction is that it Happens in the Future By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships The future is where actual seduction takes place. That is the key to seduction. It has very little to do with turning someone on when you see them. I...
The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons
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27 April 2013: The S.L.A.P. Theory Of Life Lessons By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Sometimes life will slap you down when it has a lesson to teach you. For some people, the slap may be a light swat, and for others the slap has to be a severe smack down. ...
Dating With Disabilities
No replies yet... 5 April 2013: Dating With Disabilities by Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I once went on a date with a woman that had severe food allergies. We went out to a movie and I wished she had told me ahead of time. Although she mentioned that she was deathly all...
Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen
No replies yet... 21 March 2013: Rejection: The Worst Best Thing That Can Ever Happen By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Rejection is the worst best thing that can ever happen to you. Managing rejection is a necessary part in managing your love life. Over the course of your ...
Things they do not tell you about having kids
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15 March 2013: Things They Do Not Tell You About Having Kids By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships I always try to be very practical and realistic in my articles. This can come across very negative, given that my topic is Relationships (and all things relative...
When Friendship Is Meaningless
No replies yet... 8 March 2013: Friendship Is Meaningless Stop Hanging Out With Friends Who Sexually Reject You By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Friendship is meaningless. There I said it. Now before you shoot one of your nasty emails to the editor, actually read this colum...
Who Cares What People Think? Depends...
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1 March 2013: How Much Should You Care About What Other People Think? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships T here will be times when we want to do something in our lives that is meaningful to us. It could be a decision related to abandoning education, wh...
Learn How to Choose the Right Fights!
No replies yet... 21 February 2013: Pick And Choose Your Fights By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Fighting in relationships is normal. The issue is not whether you fight. The issue is HOW a couple fights. Do they talk out their disagreements? Do they wait until they are alon...
Starting Over After V-day?
No replies yet... 14 February 2013: Starting Over? By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Valentine’s day can be a day of reckoning for some people. Meaning, the events leading up to, on the day of, and afterwards can really wreck your life. This is one of the reasons I often refer to...
A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best
No replies yet... 6 February 2013: A Relationship is: Acceptance at the Worst, Loving at the Best By Frank Kermit, Relationships At my weekly relationship workshop last Saturday I issued one of my famous “Frankisms” that seemed to really resonate with the attendees. I was trying...
Asking Hard Questions
No replies yet... 1 February 2013: Asking Hard Questions By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships When trying to decide if you should be committed to someone, moving in with someone, getting engaged, and getting married, each new transition brings about the unpleasant task of askin...
Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix
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24 January 2013: Ex Lovers and Weddings Do Not Mix By Frank Kermit, Relationships If you ever had sex with someone that is about to get married, and have been invited to the wedding, do not go. This is especially true if the spouse-to-be feels uncomfortable havi...
Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy
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16 January 2013: Couples in Transition: Monogamy and Non-monogamy By Frank Kermit ND, Relationships Couples who are experiencing a transition in the status of their relationship may sometimes look to explore new ways of redefining their sex lives b...
Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships
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13 December 2012: Common Sense For Common Scents By Frank Kermit, Relationships As the holiday season approaches, invitations begin to swarm in for get-togethers from family, friends and even office parties. It is a time of people coming together, and in some ca...
Couples in Transition
No replies yet... 29 November 2012: Couples in Transition By Frank Kermit, Relationships When a couple is going through a change in the status of their relationship they are a couple in transition. This includes couples that are transitioning from monogamy to non-monogamy, from no...
Your Home Is Your Seduction
No replies yet... 15 November 2012: Your Home Is Your Seduction By Frank Kermit, Relationships Your date is coming over to your place! You have seen each other a couple of times already, but this is different. This is YOUR PLACE, not some coffee shop or movie theatre or restaur...
The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey
No replies yet... 6 November 2012: The Movie Of Your Life’s Journey By Frank Kermit, Relationships The movie of your life is how we each envision our lives unfolding throughout our life span. This concept goes beyond simple fantasizing of what your life would be like. Writing ...
What Love Masks by Frank Kermit
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2 November 2012: What Love Masks By Frank Kermit, Relationships A mentor of mine taught me that love is not blind; it is just that categories are rigid. When you meet someone, you put that person in a category (lover, friend, temptation, fling, does-no...
The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work: An Article About EFT and Weight Loss
No replies yet... 2 November 2012: The Chocolate Made It Too Much Work An Article About EFT and Weight Loss I have a confession. I used to daydream about food. You know that point in the day when someone catches you; your head in your hands, that dreamy look on your face? If so...
Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type?
No replies yet... 1 November 2012: Have You Tried NOT Dating Your Type? By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all have our “type”. By “type” I am referring to that type of person each of us is madly attracted too. Each of us has our preference of what we like, what turns us on, ...
Is there such a thing as Happily Single?
No replies yet... 19 October 2012: Is there such a thing as Happily Single? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Is being single really that bad? After all, when a person considers the amount of pain that a relationship or casual dating can cause, it may seem that just skipping the w...
Be Thankful For a Broken Heart
No replies yet... 11 October 2012: Be Thankful For A Broken Heart By Frank Kermit, Relationships Ok, I hate this. I really hate this part of the process. However, it is a necessary part of the process, and if I am expected to help encourage others to do it, first I have to demo...
Stop Talking About Your Ex On Dates!
No replies yet... 5 October 2012: Stop Talking So Much About Your Ex By Frank Kermit, Relationships So you are on a date with someone new. You are excited. You are nervous. You hope that this is finally going to be the one. You meet. So far, you both like what you see. This...
Dating in Social Circles
No replies yet... 29 September 2012: Dating In Social Circles By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dating can be tricky. Does the other person like you the way you think he or she might? Do you really like that person enough to get more serious, or do you want to keep it more casual a...
Frank Guide to Speed Dating
No replies yet... 21 September 2012: Frank Guide To Speed Dating By Frank Kermit, Relationships Every way to meet someone new is a good way. Though friends, through the Internet, blind dates, approaching someone you want to meet, at a workshop, matchmaking companies, business conv...
Relationship Goal Setting
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15 September 2012: Relationship Goal Setting By Frank Kermit, Relationships Setting goals in most areas of your life can be challenging. When it comes to relationships, there are even more challenges. Whereas in other areas of your life such as education, emplo...
Battling The Savior Complex in Relationships
No replies yet... 6 September 2012: Battling The Savior Complex By Frank Kermit, Relationships As children, many of us grew up on stories about the hero that saves a person, and in the process, earned the undying love and loyalty of the person saved so that the hero and that saved ...
Get Out Of Your Own Way!
No replies yet... 30 August 2012: Get Out Of Your Own Way By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest obstacles that a person can have as an obstruction on their path of finding happiness, peace and healing for their love life, is themselves. Although most people wou...
Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow
No replies yet... 26 August 2012: Your Choices Today Become The Past You Have To Share Tomorrow By Frank Kermit, Relationships Young adults tend to discount how the choices they make today will impact their futures tomorrow. At least, when it comes to relationships. The bes...
Are You A Partner Or A Liability?
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17 August 2012: Are You A Partner Or A Liability? When it really is you and not them By Frank Kermit, Relationships “It’s not you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that said to you when someone broke up with you? Have you ever been the one to use it when dump...
The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships
No replies yet... 9 August 2012: The 7 Weird Words That Help Define Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships There are 7 certain words that catch many people off guard when it comes to relationships. They are: Lust, Love, Sex, Dating, Commitment, Marriage, and Monogamy. ...
Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss.
No replies yet... 20 July 2012: Fear of Conflict Is Rooted in The Fear Of Loss By Frank Kermit, Relationships Are you too nice when it comes to relationships? Do you walk on eggshells because you do not want to upset your partner? Are you reluctant to enforce your bounda...
Re-Establishing Trust in a Relationship Article
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12 July 2012: Broken Trust Takes More Than Time To Re-Establish By Frank Kermit, Relationships Trust is one of the most important components of a relationship. Love is a great start, but it takes more than loving someone, or being loved by someone, to make ...
Understanding Emotional Needs
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4 July 2012: Understanding Emotional Needs: What We Respond To Versus What We Should Like By Frank Kermit, Relationships Emotional needs are about what a person responds to. It has nothing to do with what a person should like. We all should be attracte...
Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date
No replies yet... 29 June 2012: Red Flags: What To Watch Out For On A Date By Frank Kermit, Relationships When you are on a date, and the person you are getting to know says or does something that triggers a well-honed instinct that you need to stop dating that person, you hav...
The Art of Storytelling on a Date
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Art of Storytelling: Make or Break A Relationship Happy Ending By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the challenges that people face when they go on dates is that they may not factor in that others will not understand what they are trying ...
Swinger Beginner Advice
No replies yet... 25 June 2012: Swinger Beginners: Keep it Out of the Work Place By Frank Kermit, Relationships Dear Frank, My husband and I recently returned from a business trip/vacation where a few of my husband's co-workers also brought their wives. We really hit it o...
When your Ex becomes a symbol and you can't get over it
No replies yet... 13 June 2012: When Your Ex Becomes A Symbol Relationship Symbolism of Why You Are Still Hooked By Frank Kermit, Relationships We are surrounded by the power of symbols. A symbol is more than just a design we recognize; symbols are a means of making meaning. ...
Ally Vs Enemy: Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men
No replies yet... 9 June 2012: Is She His Ally or His Enemy? Understanding The Emotional Needs of Men By Frank Kermit, Relationships The best way I know how to teach people about the emotional needs of men is to break it down to absolute fundamentals. If people can und...
Dating After A Break Up - Just How Long Should You Wait?
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1 June 2012: Dating After Breaking Up? The Sooner The Better By Frank Kermit, Relationships “How much time should I wait before I start dating again?” is a common question that I get asked from someone that has just recently gotten dumped, and still sufferi...
Relationship Redemption: How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure
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23 May 2012: Relationship Redemption How To Forgive Yourself and Get Closure By Frank Kermit, Relationships We all make mistakes in life. If you have ever tried to get into a relationship, are in a relationship, or are recovering from a relationship, ...
Finding The Meaning Of Your Life And Relationships
No replies yet... 15 May 2012: The Meaning of your Relationships Starts With The Meaning Of Your Life By Frank Kermit, Relationships Contemplate your death. No seriously. In order to make meanings of your relationships past, present and those you will have in the futur...
The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women
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10 May 2012: The Mother-Lover Theory Understanding The Emotional Needs of Women By Frank Kermit, Relationships A woman can only play one of two roles in a man’s life. She is either his mother or his lover. She cannot be both. When a man addresses a wom...
Moving To The Next Level: Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships
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1 May 2012: Moving To The Next Level Understanding The Hierarchy of Relationships By Frank Kermit, Relationships One of the biggest mistakes people make in relationships is to promote someone up the hierarchy of commitment that has not really earned it. I...
Beware Your Friends when it comes to love
No replies yet... 15 April 2012: Beware Your Friends They May Not Want You To Be Loved By Frank Kermit, Relationships Mistakes Singles Make # 6… Seeking the approval of friends that influences your love life choices. Love may come and go, but a friendship can last a lifetim...
Are Relationships Worth The Risk?
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8 April 2012: Relationships = Risk But is it really worth it? By Frank Kermit, Relationships Given that there is so much risk in getting involved in relationships, or having sex for that matter, is it at all worth it to even bother? After all, a broken hear...
Tattoos and Relationships
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24 March 2012: Beware The L-I-N-K Of (L)ove and (INK) By Frank Kermit, Relationships While at a coffee shop a few weeks ago, I met a tattoo artist. He had his son’s name tattooed on his hand, and being the ever-inquisitive one, I asked him about his profession...
Open Relationships and Infidelity
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17 March 2012: Open Relationships Do Not Always Stave Off Infidelity By Frank Kermit, Relationships Some people believe that one of the surest ways to guarantee fidelity is to only do open relationships. The premise is that people only cheat in monogamous ...
What is a Relationship?
No replies yet... 10 March 2012: What is a Relationship? Is best defined by what it’s NOT By Frank Kermit, Relationships Over the years, I have been asked a number of times “What is a Relationship?” This is a harder question to answer than most people think. In my experience,...
Engaged! Now what?
No replies yet... 19 February 2012: Pre Marital Disclosure What you don’t know, you must know By Frank Kermit, Relationships Valentines day has come and gone. Some relationships have started. Some relationships have ended, and some relationships have proceeded to the next le...
Making Monogamy Work
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5 February 2012: Making Monogamy Work By Frank Kermit, Relationships Monogamy is easier than open relationships, because the rules are simpler...but the application of the rules of monogamy is not as easy. Monogamy works for monogamous people...however...
Single Parent Dating, Not Just a Single Issue
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3 February 2012: Single Parent Dating – More Than Just A Single Issue By Frank Kermit At least 40% of marriages end in divorce. Depending on the study you read, the percentage can be higher. Even though the break down of families continues, the drive that ma...
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My best friend tells me she doesn't like my boyfriend but flirts with him when I'm not there, what should I do?
Q. what do i do if my best friend says she dont like my boyfriend but behind my back she flirts with him ...
A. 25 July 2007: You find a new best friend.
-FBK... (read in full...)
Should I send flowers to my ex?
Q. Should I send flowers to my ex? We have been broken up for one month, after she broke up with me. I have maintained NC, save the two times that she initiated contact with me. I am still interested in getting back together with her. She is ...
A. 24 July 2007: If what you wrote is true, then consider that buying flowers is still just an extension of your neediness (that is how it will be interpreted.
Next, I understand that the vacation is not "romantic", but when people are away from home, many act... (read in full...)
She tells everyone how she misses me, and how this is the worst breakup she has ever had, and that she wants me back... but then she doesnt act it.
Q. I dated a woman for a little over a year. I ended up breaking up with her because of a few lies about her past. I couldn't care less about what she did in her past, but the lies made me realize that I can't trust her. I have moved on since t...
A. 23 July 2007: I can understand this. You are right, that trust is what a relationship should be based on. However, my guess is that when it comes to her past, many women that are honest about it from the beginning find that many men can not handle it. These ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to spend the night at my girlfriends house?
Q. My special lady owns a house, so i sometime on weekends spend in her house, i live with my cousin, now my cousin is all over me saying am doing it wrong, me i dont find it wrong, my girl too does not find it wrong too. Am asking for advise about th...
A. 21 July 2007: Does your cousin want you to move out? Maybe, your cousin would rather you "do the right thing" and "live together", so that your cousin can live alone.
Also, your cousin couldjust be jealous that you have a relationship, and he/she does not... (read in full...)
She's married now and she contacted me saying she still loved me! What should I do?
Q. Please help. 7 years ago I feel deeply In love with a girl that I worked with, I know she loved me too but I was married at the time with children and she had a partner. We never slept together but our relationship was very emotional, we kissed and ...
A. 21 July 2007: She is using you as an "emotional cookie" and a good provider to take care of her daughter. Stay away.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
To confess or not confess my undying love ... that is the question
Q. Hello, this is quite a long story, but i will try and condense it as best i can. So what it is about is, five years ago, my female best friend, married her husband. 2 years ago they divorced, but she never told anyone in our circle of friend...
A. 21 July 2007: Firstly, you do NOT confess your undying love for her. That ONLY works when she ALREADY likes you back.
Part of the reason she is in touch with her ex (and do not think for one second that they aren't at least having sex together) is that you have... (read in full...)
If he knocked me up, do I tell him now over the phone or wait until I see him?
Q. im late for my period and extremly worried im pregnant gonna take a test in a few days as i dont have time until monday. if i am pregnant how do i tell my long distance bf (it would definatly be his as i have not been with anyone else) we both ...
A. 21 July 2007: Do not wait. Tell him right away. Call him on the phone. Even if you only suspect it. Seeing how he will react to this will be a good test to see what his long term intentions towards you are.
Waiting at all, if you are this worried, will mak... (read in full...)
Should I send flowers to my ex?
Q. Should I send flowers to my ex? We have been broken up for one month, after she broke up with me. I have maintained NC, save the two times that she initiated contact with me. I am still interested in getting back together with her. She is ...
A. 21 July 2007: Do NOT send flowers.
You can not buy her attention. Unless you want her to ONLY want you for the presents you now make her think, that you will continuely buy for her.
Money on presents does not prove your love, loyality, etc...it just pr... (read in full...)
I'm getting my ego stroked by two others, so I want to dump my girlfriend
Q. how do separate from my girl friend without troubles,secondly,am at the centre of two beautiful ladies claiming to be in love with me.how do i detect the one that really love me.please help me thanks...
A. 21 July 2007: Keep in mind that it is highly possible that NEITHER of the other two women actually likes you at all. They may only give you attention BECAUSE you already have a gf, and just want to see if they can attract you. They want what they can not ... (read in full...)
My friend keeps marrying men I think are losers, what can I do?
Q. By best friend keeps on marrying loosers what can I do to help??????...
A. 21 July 2007: You do Nothing. It is not your responsibility, nor your business who or what she choses to be with.
If you can not respect her life choices, then perhaps you should keep different friends.
-Frank B Kermit
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My married lover of 18 years doesn't want me anymore but I can't let go
Q. Hi I have been seeing a married man for 18 years. I love him and he said he loves me. Then one day he said he does not want the affair anymore. I am in shock and broken hearted. I can't seem to let go. Please help me. ...
A. 21 July 2007: I agree with Eddie.
-FBK... (read in full...)
My dad says I'm lazy and he refuses to buy me anything
Q. Help my dad won't speak to me. He is very mad at me for not helping him with his office work. Now he won't buy me anything. He says that I am very lazy. Not even new clothes to wear to school. What should I do?...
A. 21 July 2007: You are between 18-21 right? How about you take a part time job so that you can buy your own clothes and such...
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
He hasn't updated his internet profile status from 'single' to 'in a relationship'
Q. hiya what do you think it means if a guy you are seeing calls himself "single" on a internet profile thing eg facebook/myspace. He has been on it recently but has not updated his relationship status though lots of people know he is seeing someone/...
A. 21 July 2007: How long exactly have you been going out with him? Just because he is dating you, does not mean he is exclusive yet, UNLESS exclusivity has been promised. At which point, it is an issue.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian and believe in waiting to have sex; I've already had it, however but now I want to wait to have it again until we're married. My boyfriend isn't happy
Q. I am a Christian and believe in waiting until marriage before having sex. The problem is I have already had sex with my fiance, and previous boyfriends. I still want to wait, but my fiance argues that if I stopped doing it now after doing it for ...
A. 21 July 2007: What happened all of a sudden to make you act on your faith, when you did not before? If I were your fiance, I would be VERY suspious, and I would have walked away from you already.
If you continue to change the rules mid-game (so to speak) w... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend always stay quiet towards me and is opened up to his mates and not me?
Q. Well this guy I like has a new girlfriend, (I posted the other day about feeling jealous and absolutely gutted) since then he text me saying he will be my future boyfriend and that he would like to give it a go if they split up. What the heck am I ...
A. 20 July 2007: I take back my response then, as what you intended to post, and what got posted is different.
He is using you as a back up, so that when they split (he seems to be planning it, thus he is using her too), he can get into YOUR PANTS next. Men do t... (read in full...)
I like both him and his brother and they are ok with that
Q. I'm dating this guy and I like him, yet I like his half brother who lives with him. They both are pretty close and like me. Him and his brother have talked about it and their fine with it. The guy im dating is accualy telling his brother to make a ...
A. 20 July 2007: I think they are using you.
My guess is that neither one really would like you enough for something long term, so they probably see you as someone to fuck and have fun with...which means they will share you so that they both get some action, ... (read in full...)
I just don't believe him because why would he give this chick his telephone number and speak to her 3 times on the phone?
Q. Hi, I'm 23 and have been with my fiance for 2 years in the beginning of our relationship he cheated on me 2 times and just last week I found out he met some girl in San Francisco when he was away on business. He swears up and down that they just ...
A. 19 July 2007: There was no reason for him to just want to talk to this girl, unless he was looking for something more, like setting up a romp for his next trip.
Are you sure you even want to have his kids? Really?
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but mum says I can't date him because he slept with one of her friends
Q. i work for my mam and dad in the pub we run, and i get along well with the customers there is this one customer in perticular that i like and he likes me but he is 28 i no that is a problem but i dont mind, the thing is he slept with my mams best ...
A. 19 July 2007: You are 16-17. He is 28. Depending where you are in the world, it is illegal. Listen to your mother.
-Frank B Kermit
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I kept asking for breaks and eventually he didn't want me back! Now he's with someone else, can I get him back?
Q. i was with my boyfriend for 6 months and i kept askin for bearks so i could meet other people (which a regret) he took me back evertime then the last he did'nt i was heart broken then a week later i found out he was with someone else !! after a ...
A. 19 July 2007: Well, what did you think was going to happen with you asking for breaks? I don't even think you really want him back. You just want him becuase some other girl has him now.
If you did get him back, you would just break with him again.
Stop pl... (read in full...)
What is his hold up in giving me the ring and starting arrangements?
Q. I have been with my partner for just over 2 years now, he has just returned from a 7 month tour of Iraq and whilst he was away he asked me to marry him, I did of course accept as we are very much in love and have a fantastic relationship. He came ...
A. 19 July 2007: Ask him outright where is your ring.
The greatest compliment a man can give a woman is to marry her.
The greatest compliment a woman can give a man is to bear his children.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
20 years later and I'm pregnant again!!!
Q. Ok, well I have a serious question. I am in my late 30's, been married 20 years, have 2 step sons from my husband's side. Never been on birth control, never used condoms, so for twenty years I have never been pregnant. I had a brief fling 6 ye...
A. 19 July 2007: Well obviously it is possible. You are pregnant.
Maybe it was your husband that was infertile...as 30% of the people out there are raised by the man who they think is their real father, maybe your step kids aren't his either.
-Frank B Kerm... (read in full...)
Would you continue to date a girl who was sexually assualted by her male friend at a club?
Q. I have an open question, I've known this girl for a month, Would you continue to date a girl who was sexually assualted by her male friend at a club? She said it was rape, but I didn't think so in my opinion because she doesn't have any anger ...
A. 19 July 2007: There is a very tiny slight chance that she told you this becuase she cheated on you, and would rather make the accusation than to accept responsility for it. The fact that she has "forgiven" him so easily is what makes me wonder.
I would su... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to pursue an online relationship?
Q. Is it wrong to want to pursue an online relationship? I am a single father of 2, and honestly I can't find the time to talk any women except for when the kids are in bed. Along with that, are any ladies interested?...
A. 19 July 2007: I know lots of couples that met over the net. I met my current fiance over eharmony.com.
As long as you have intentions of meeting the person in real life within a reasonable time (within the same month), then go for it.
-Frank B Kerm... (read in full...)
My mum and dad hate him so I've not told them I've been seeing him again because they'd flip!
Q. I've been in an on and off relationship for 4 years. I have a son to this man. We have had ups and downs, our parents are involved. Well mine are more involved. My parents hate this man and they think it's over completely but it's not. I hate ...
A. 19 July 2007: Maybe the reason your parents hate him is that you have a child with him, but instead of him supporting you and your child, your father has too.
If I was your parent, I would hate him too. He sounds like a bum. Try listening to your parents ... (read in full...)
Should I contact him through "Friend's Reunited"???
Q. I wrote to you a while back, I'll give you a quick run down... I'm an animal assistant at a vets, I had a guy in whose pet I was discharging for an operation when he said to me that he couldn't get a girlfriend coz the of his dogs, I said I have to ...
A. 19 July 2007: Yes, by all means contact him. My guess is that he worries about his dogs not getting along with your cats.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
My husband recently confessed to me that on occasions while out of town working he has looked at internet porn in order to masturbate.
Q. My husband recently confessed to me that on occasions while out of town working he has looked at internet porn in order to masturbate. He travels for work about a week at a time once every 1 to 3 months. He says he looks at it only for ten minutes ...
A. 19 July 2007: If the worst he is doing on those trips is watching porn, and not using up his sexual energy with an actual person in the room, I think he is still a better husband than the number out there that actually CHEAT on business trips. The fact that he ... (read in full...)
I really want to take it to the next level but don't want to scare him away.
Q. Hi there, me and my boyfriend have been together for about 7 months now. We've known each other for about 5 years. We are excellent friends and always have a laugh when we are together. The problem is I feel he just wants to be friends and nothing ...
A. 19 July 2007: If neither of you are mature enough to even talk about it, chances are neither of you are mature enough to handle it should it happen. Maybe you should continue to wait? If not, have an adult conversation about sex...a couple in their 20s should be ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend always stay quiet towards me and is opened up to his mates and not me?
Q. Well this guy I like has a new girlfriend, (I posted the other day about feeling jealous and absolutely gutted) since then he text me saying he will be my future boyfriend and that he would like to give it a go if they split up. What the heck am I ...
A. 19 July 2007: It sounds like he is playing you, the way you are playing your boyfriend in being jealous and complaining about this guy you like.. while wondering why your bf does not open up to you. Maybe he has a "trust" issue or something? Can you think of ... (read in full...)
She tells everyone how she misses me, and how this is the worst breakup she has ever had, and that she wants me back... but then she doesnt act it.
Q. I dated a woman for a little over a year. I ended up breaking up with her because of a few lies about her past. I couldn't care less about what she did in her past, but the lies made me realize that I can't trust her. I have moved on since t...
A. 19 July 2007: Yes, I think you are being respectable, but look at it from her point of view. As soon as you learned the truth, you ABANDONED her, which is exactly why she felt the need to lie to you in the first place. I have to ask you, if you ever acted like ... (read in full...)
I've tried finishing things but I see him everyday and can't stop myself from loving him. I dont know what to do.
Q. I have been seeing my boss for the last two years. I'm 22 and he is 32. The whole time he has been telling me he loves me but would never let me meet any of friends. In january I found out he had been seeing someone for the last 9 months. I was ...
A. 19 July 2007: Find another job. If he is sincere, he will tell everyone about you. Otherwise he is just playing with you.
Bare in mind that YOU are the one that might get fired as you are now a potential threat to the company as a woman scorned.
Be care... (read in full...)
My Friend who turns out to be a lesbian told my boyfriend I hated him.....
Q. I need major help!!! My Friend who turns out to be a lesbian told my boyfriend I hated him..... days before my friend told him not to listen to her and he did! Now he won't answer my phone calls or emails, I am speechless and I never thought he ...
A. 19 July 2007: My guess is that your lesbian friends wants you for herself, and probably told him worse stuff than you hate him. Maybe he assumes you are lesbian too.
Calling his house as "Hailey" did not make you look good (I assume this is what you meant, y... (read in full...)
My husband's personal hygiene is bad!!!
Q. My husband's personal hygiene is bad. He doesn't change his underwear everyday. I've tried to help him with it, but he just seems to go blank if its mentioned. He just wears the same undies day in day out and they smell horribly. I've kept washin...
A. 19 July 2007: He sounds like he is entering a depression.
Promotions at work are NOT always a good thing. He might be under more pressure than he is getting paid for, or maybe he is working with people that are making him miserable.
If he was happy doi... (read in full...)
Am I being oversensitive or am I doing the right thing ending the friendship?
Q. My good friend of 4 years moved up to my city about a month ago. Up until then I saw her every few months for weekends as she lived in other towns with her now soon to be ex husband. A gorgeous guy I had been on a few dates with suddenly stopped...
A. 19 July 2007: The first lesson for you here is that you should not involve your friends in any of your personal matters. You invited her into this. You being there listening to a private conversation was a deciet. Your deception begets more deception.
Next,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is verbally abusive when he is drunk
Q. This might sound like quite a minor problem but it really gets me down - my bf is lovely n kind etc and ive bin with him for over a year. but when he gets drunk he completely changes and is really nasty to me. he calls me a slut/whore etc and just ...
A. 18 July 2007: I am sure that Nancy Benoit used to just "ignore" Chris Benoits certain behaviors too. That is why she and her son are dead methinks.
Lady, I got two words for you: RUN NOW.
-Frank B Kermit... (read in full...)
He signed up on a swingers website and talks to my friend who sleeps w/ married men. Am I making too much out of this?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year and have been living together for 10 months. He's in the military and travels alot. I do trust him and i know he hasn't cheated on me but right before he left to go on course he joined a swingers ...
A. 18 July 2007: Your bf and your friend are playing you.
I do not beleive for one second he is being faithful to you, and you know it.
As for your friend...if you hang out with a friend that does things you would not want done to you, well, maybe you should... (read in full...)
I am in love with a close friend and the godfather of my children
Q. okay i have an issue i could really use some help with. i have been very close friends with a man for several years. back before we were all divorced, he and his wife, and me and my husband all lived together. we are godparents to each others ...
A. 18 July 2007: Go for it.
Men and women are not meant to be friends long term, as the sexual tension always come into play (unless one of them is gay).
At some point, you would likely meet another man, he would meet another woman, and thus your friendship ... (read in full...)
I love her but I worry about her and her guy friend! How do I cope with this?
Q. Hello. I have been going out with my girlfriend for over 2 years now. We moved in together this past January and things are going well. The thing is I am insecure about the fact that she gets along better with guys and therefore has many guy fri...
A. 18 July 2007: Firstly, spend some time on yourself, and bring up your sexual skills so that you can feel more confident about yourself. What are you waiting for? There are TONS of resources (books, videos, seminars even on how to be a great lover. Get busy and ... (read in full...)
Is it over or will she come back?
Q. me and my fiance have been together for 3 and 1/2 years she asked for space called me 2 days later crying saying she felt better couple days later back to the same i never stopped calling, her best friend, and parents say im the best thing to happen ...
A. 18 July 2007: For now, assume it is over, and MOVE ON.
Even if she loves you, she sounds too screwed up and incapable with being in a relationship where she is treated well. It sounds to me like she needs a high level of drama, and it is only a matter of time ... (read in full...)
What do you do when you're boyfriend is impossible to keep aroused??
Q. so i'll make this straight to the point, when me and my boyfriend fool around he only gets turned on when he's pleasing me. If I just want to concentrate on him he cant stay hard...it's as if he's not touching me and trying to get me off, he isn't ...
A. 18 July 2007: It could be a number of things, none of which have anything to do with you.
For some guys, it is an issue of dominance and control. If they do not feel in control by doing action, they get turned off.
For some other guys, they feel that the wo... (read in full...)
My 11 year old son disrespects me - now my partner said he will not sleep over when my son spends the night because of it!
Q. Im wondering what to do, ive been in a relationship for 16 months with a man i love very much, ive got a son who's 11 from a previous relationship, my partner has his own house but stays at mine most of the time, he's recently told me that he was ...
A. 17 July 2007: There is a book I would like to recommend to you. It is meant to deal with your mother's antics, but might also be able to deal with your ex and your kid.
It is called: Emotional Blackmail. I am not sure about the author's name, but I recently... (read in full...)
I love here and have been with her for 10 years but I still don't know if she's "the one" and I'm ready for marriage!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 10 years. We love each other and many things are great. She's made it pretty clear that she's more than ready to make the commitment of marriage, and I'm not denying that that's where we might head, ...
A. 17 July 2007: Why would you have stayed with someone for 10 YEARS and STILL be questioning this?
On the one hand, I think you should marry her becuase you do not sound like the kind of guy that goes after the things he really wants in life, and is unable t... (read in full...)
My 11 year old son disrespects me - now my partner said he will not sleep over when my son spends the night because of it!
Q. Im wondering what to do, ive been in a relationship for 16 months with a man i love very much, ive got a son who's 11 from a previous relationship, my partner has his own house but stays at mine most of the time, he's recently told me that he was ...
A. 17 July 2007: Your bf is right to stay out of the way. It is up to you to parent your child's behavior, not him. He does not have the right to interfere, legally, so he is smart to remove himself from the situation. I doubt any relationship you will have wi... (read in full...)
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