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writes:My b/f and I are in our 50's. We met a couple of months ago. We hit it off like a rocket. We felt that we have known each other for awhile, that is how comfortable we were and still is. He calls me several times a day. Not long ago he told me that he does not understand it but he has fallen for me, that he loves me. And I love him just as much. He shows me his love, does things to make me happy, makes plans in the future for us such as vacation, things to do, etc.. Wants me to help me with ideas on decorating his home. We have a great time 2gether.We did not make love until 2 to 3 weeks of dating. He told me he wants to make sure its right and gets to know me better. Gradually when I was at his place he would ask me to stay over.. then it turned to 4 nites out of 7 i would stay. He even made room from me to keep stuff there if I wanted to. Then recently he seemed a bit distant. I asked him what was wrong. He said " I dont know, I don't understand, I love you very much but not excited in seeing you. Maybe having you over so much is freaking me out. I never had anyone close to me like you are and maybe that is freaking me out. I love you but I want to be excited in seeing you." Then I asked if there was someone else and he immediately without hesitation said "no".He told me if there was, I would know because he does not play those games. He then told me that I can stay weekends but during the week he needs space. Not that we wont see each other during the week, but as far as staying over he prefers right now the weekend. He told me he wants this to work and to do this we need the excitement of seeing each other again. He came right up to me and looked in my eyes and said "I love you, I love you, I love you and there is no one else."I started to clean out the drawers that I had some items in, and he said "I don't mean for u to take your stuff home". The day after that happened he took me out. He picked me up and said with a smile "It is great to see you. I have to tell you that I was excited about seeing you and this is what I am talking about". Several times that night he told me how thankful he is that I understand and that he was afraid I would think he was giving me the brush off and that is not what is intended. He wants the excitement again. He said since we have only been dating a short time he did not want to get bored of me, that he always looks forward in seeing me and wants to continue to feel that way.I will admit i was crushed at first. I did not cry, nor argued about it. I told him I want to make it work also. He said that his feelings are as strong as mine are for him and he loves me. We are planning a vacation in couple of weeks and he is excited about it.Before him, i was dating someone for 2 years and after 2 years this person decided he did not want a long term relationship. So i guess i am a bit afraid of this "space". I know everyone needs it. But it does scare me..I believe him but there is always that 1% that scares me.Am I being foolish? paranoid?
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (26 June 2007):
 He's still takes you out and he has asked you to leave you things at his place for the weekends and he tells you he loves you, it's still early days in your relationship and maybe everything happened a bit quick so i don't think there is a huge big deal with wanting to slow things down abit.
Some people don't want to rush into relationships without knowing it is totally the right thing to do, so give it time i don't think from the sounds of it you have anything to worry about. I don't think you are being foolish or paranoid old relationships do leave wounds that take time to heal.
Take care.xx.
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