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writes:Hi, I am from the US; I work full time (40hrs/week), I go to the gym, I read, I go out to the bars on the weekends, I watch movies, I volunteer at a children's hospital on the weekends, etc... But even with doing all this, I still feel overwhelmed by my feelings for someone I really like; how can I get this person out of my head?! Does anyone have any other suggestions of things to do that can help me shift my focus away from my yearnings and desires (trust me, I need to not focus on it!)? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (6 July 2007):
 All the posters have given valuable opinions. I just would like to say that, in my opinion, you are past someone when 1) you understand, with your mind, that the relationship is over and 2) you accept, with your heart, that, yes, it's over. I think you have understood it with your mind but not accepted it with your heart. Follow the advice of the others posters and you'll make it.
I think you'll always feel sad about losing this person. Well, I assume it wasn't your choice. You did what you could.
Take care.
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (4 July 2007):
 I can relate to your question and for me, I think being around my girlfriends helped me out tremendously. Not only was I not "alone", but talking with them letting out all my "stuff" was a big relief for me. As the song says..."That's what friends are for". I have very close friends, guys and girls actually, and sometimes you just have to speak your peace in what you are feeling. If you just don't have friends that you feel comfortable enough to express yourself with, as stated below, it can be good to even express yourself in a journal. Our "group" is always there to listen, not judge, because we have all been down some road and went through a few forks and curves. Needless to say, they were the wrong one's. I don't know if this is due to a break up or something else, so I will take it as a break up. You mentioned some one you really like and just left it as that which is a bit confusing.
All in all...I wish you well and just give it some time. I know that is the last thing you want to hear, but it is the truth....this to shall pass.
Good Luck!
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 What sort if any contact do you have with this person?
It sounds as though you are doing everything in your power to try and stop this, is it someone you have been in a relationship with or just someone you have seen?
Some times it makes it a little easier to give advice if we know a few more details.
Sorry to ask.
Take care.xx.
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reader, Beckto +, writes (3 July 2007):
 You're doing the right thing by keeping busy. In my experience, you just have to give it time. Try writing about this person in a private journal. Get it all out, and then see if you can function without constant thoughts of them.Hang in there! You'll get past it if you really want to.
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