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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Gay relationships category)

Gay relationships: Help and advice

Dating problems: covered in freckles, bi, and overweight!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - ok well I am 18 and I am having trouble dating I am bi and there are no girls or guys looking at me to date is there something wrong with me. I am a little over weight and covered in freckles but no one seems to like me...

I'm gay and I want a boyfriend!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - O.k. i'm in a rural town. I want a boyfriend, and i just don't know people around here, and most of them i don't wanna know. I'm kind of out, and people are more accepting than i thought, But still misunderstood because there's not too many gay ...

My girlfriend kissed her bi-sexual friend in front of me, is this OK?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend kissed her bi-sexual friend tonight at our house party. her friend is really ugly and makes my skin crawl. I saw them snogging and it was longer then 5 seconds and involved eyes clossed and tounges full on. it totaly ruined my night ...

Is there anyway I can get her to like me more than him... or am I out of luck?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'm 14, female, and bi. I like a girl who is around my age, female, and recently came out to me telling me she was bi also. Yesterday she found out a guy in one of our classes likes her, and she likes him back. (She didn't tell me that I guessed) I ...

I've confessed to almost cheating, now we need to talk. Where do I go first?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - To make a long story short, I almost cheated due to testosterone levels yet I didnt. I came clean via email and said that I'd like to talk. Now I must explain myself. I figger that my b/f at the moment is crunching on this since he has not respo...

I don't feel I cheated, but I was awkwardly busted. Do I explain the situation to him?

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - Thanks so much in advance for your insight(s). After years of quick flings, NSAs and not-quite-rights, (I'm 47) I all but shut down my sexual activity and adpoted a "been there done that" mentality, I'm recently re-inspired. I believe that ...

I'm worried my ex will tell everyone I'm bisexual!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

30 October 2009 (M) - I'm bisexual male that was in a gay relationship after my wife divorce me. I'm 60 and my lover is 20 years younger. We had our up and down just like most relationship. Recently, I bump into an old girl friend of mine in high school. We falling for ...

I really love her but I'm bored and she really gets on my nerves. What can I do?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - So im an agony aunt new to this website and i need some advice. Ive been in a relationship with my girl for almost four months now and I feel like im bored. I know its not because we spend to much time together because i go to school and work and ...

She's horrible so why can't I let her go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - So I know this girl. And shes really, really talented. and attractive. charismatic. And, even though she had some obvious red signs, I thought we clicked and became friends. Eventually this turned into something more and unexpected. I got to know ...

What can I do about the rumors being spread about me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - hi am 15 and i have been having a hard time at school a girl has spreaded a rumor about me, the rumor is that am a lesbain it was ages ago but ever since then everyone has been shouting names at me like lesbo lesbain it really upsets me my mum and ...

How do I tell my dad about my girlfriend?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I've been in a relationship with one of my best girl friends since early May, though we admitted we had feelings for eachother late last year. It's been about 6 months now, all our friends now know about us, after having kept it secret for around 5 ...

Is there anyone out there not looking for sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I am a gay guy that doesn't drink alcohol, but has nothing against it. It tends to be the reason i can't find friends. It also effects my love life. Why is it that all of the friends that I meet eventually just want to have sex with me, then after ...

Advice needed for a fellow Agony Uncle

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - My friend who is a gay man (I am too btw) has tried to dump his boyfriend 6 times to date. Each time he does this the boyfriend cries his eyes out and tells him (my friend) that he can't live without him, etc etc. My friend gets sad and takes him ...

What should I say when I write him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Hey there we broke up 3 month ago ,, i cant get over him , he already did i moved in my life , but i still love him and keep thinking of him any way i have a lot of spams on my e-mail and i receive a lot of junk mail ,, so he got e-mail fr...

I suddenly have this weird feeling that I am gay!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - I am 13 and I have loads of girlfriends and about a month ago I have been having this weird feeling that I am gay and I don't want to be, I want to straight! What is happening and when will it go away? Please help, I don't want to be gay, I have ...

Is there anything I can do to win her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 23 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Three months ago I took a trip to my hometown of Palm Springs California. I moved away four years ago and I had to leave in my senior year in high-school and moved to Bakersfield California finishing my senior year at Liberty High School. Back when ...

Is it normal to have feelings for a same sex friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 25 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - i am a girl and i have had feelings towards my bestfriend for about a year, she is also a girl, i told my other friend who told her about my feelings, now it is awqward and she is really against lesbians, i feel sickened with my self at it and im ...

Should I ask her if shes into me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - There's this girl I've met and I like her a lot! I've never liked a girl in this way B4..We talk on the phone all night and we hangout almost everyday! we talk about our secrets to one another she's so easy to talk to and I'm getting feelings for ...

Did I do the right thing by calling my ex back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

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I've developed a crush on a female friend! Is this normal? Is it just a one-time thing?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have always considered myself a straight female, but lately I have developed a somewhat innocent crush on another female friend. I have known her for a while through another friend of mine but we have recently become more friendly. She is very ...

Help me help my boyfriend. We've moved in together, but his misses his parents!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 26 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - So I recently moved in with my boyfriend. Everything is great between us we are very much in love and the two of us have never been happier with our personal lives. The dilemma is that my boyfriend misses his parents. They really did not w...

Do I sound gay to you? I don't want to be...

This question has 27 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - i am 19 years, and i am a christian, with a problem, i am attracted to men. i don't belive that somebody is born gay, it's what you accept yourself as and i don't accept it, but at the same time this is how my body feels. i am attracted to woman and ...

How do I tell my parents and my friends that I'm gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - im 13 im gay. i love men. how do i tell my parents. and my friends it all started 2 weeks ago when i was straight, i had never kissed a girl though. i went into the bathroom and only my friend, who i knew to be gay, was there. i did my business ...

I want to feel passion with a man.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Hello. I am very confuses which I am gay, bi, or straight. I want to be gay but not 100 percent... I don't want woman in my life but want to have kids... I just want is feel passion with man .... I want to be myself.. If I need feel passion.. Who I ...

Should I avoid hanging out with people that are gay?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 17 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Hey everyone, I need some adivce. I'll try and make this short and sweet and to the point. In March of this year, I was diagnosed with OCD, more specifically HOCD. It's been a problem ever since it started and while it's gotten better, it's not...

What first? Remaining a ladyboy or castration?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - my age is now 18 i want to be a female please say me what i have to do first is achieving feminity possible or only i be remained as a ladyboy please say to me about castration also please...

Am I straight, gay or bisexual?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - I have always seen myself as straight but recently (starting a year or two ago) I been more comfortable around men than women. Like if I were to hug a women or a man I would choose the man. I decided to explore my sexuality so I kissed a man. It was ...

First lesbian sex together ruining our relationship...can anyone help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - Serious issue here :/ I have had a girlfriend for a while now. It's become very serious. one time when she came to stay round mine we decided to have sex for the first time, it was my first time all together, and her first time with another ...

She spent the night in a single bed with her ex and doesn't think she's done anything wrong!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - Ok a need help and quick! my girlfriend yesterday went out to the pub which is cool a dont have a problem with her goin out howvere she tells me today that her ex (the girl she was in lover with only 10months ago was out with her) and that she ...

I'd like to kiss her again, but I don't know how to bring it up!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - Hi. I'm 14 years old, female, and bi. Yesterday my friend and I were planning to kiss so I could experiment. They've once questioned their sexuality, which makes me wonder even more about if they may be bi now. We did kiss, and then we talked about ...

Did she just kiss me to help me out?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 28 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - (I'm 14, female, and bi. My friend is 13, female, and she has once questioned her orientation.) Around 2:30 in the morning my friend and I were talking about how I've never kissed anyone in a game or anything. So she said "that's going to change, ...

Could this really work?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted today

24 October 2009 (M) - I recently discovered I'm bisexual and now I've got a crush. There's this guy at my school who is good looking and really friendly towards me, he's one of my favourite people in the world. I always felt some form of love for him, even before I ...

My girlfriend is awesome, but I can't love her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - ok so ive been with my girlfriend now for 9months and i like her quite alot. she says she loves me so much and i can really tell she does but i cant love her as much as i want to cos i am still in love with my ex girlfriend thats not the problem ...

When can you remain friends after a relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - I'd like to know other people's opinions on when not to stay friends. My partner (male) broke up with me, and told me he wanted to remain friends. After a month break, I agreed to this but I think I regret it now. I was really hurt when we spl...

I'm not sure she's also into girls, should I ask her out or stay away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - ok well where do I start.. I'm a girl (that is relevent btw ) and theres this girl who works in the local shop who im really intressted in and I want to give her my number. However I don't think shes into girls but she sometimes flirts with me every ...

Lack of sex is souring our relationship and I want my space, is this enough justification to break up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - Hi, So I'm in what seems to be a near-perfect (homosexual) relationship right now, my boyfriend and I are very attuned to each other, we are respectful, gentle, and loving, and this December will be 3 years. We marvel at how connected we are...

I'm a lesbian who wants a girlfriend, but I'm bad at making friends. How do I become better at making friends?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - Sorry if this is a lil bit long.well I'm 16 and female.My problem is i really want a girlfreind,I know that's stupid since what really I should want is freinds since i only have like two,(whom I love very much..on another note) my parents don't no t...

My friends think I'm a lesbian!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - okay. im 14. and my friends always say im a lezo. like, i like guys. well, i always used to, and like, this is the time when people normally start liking. and, well, i think girls are pretty, but i also appreciate guys. and there making me doubt ...

My partner has been sending sexy emails to women, is he having an affair or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 31 days ago

21 October 2009 (M) - I'm 25, and my boyfriend's 24, we met at a gay men's football club, and have been together for 18 months now. We moved in together in March, he proposed to me and we started planning for our civil partnership, and life was good up until last Wedne...

Am I a lesbian?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - Ok. I have been wondering about this for a long time... I think Im a lesbian. I have a crush on a girl at school and have for a year. But I have always been attracted to girls since primary school. I really like big hands too. I also like short ha...

I always think about doing it with a girl. Am I a lesbian?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 9 days ago

20 October 2009 (F) - for the past few years I have been masterbating and thinking of having sex with a girl but I have never done such a thing but it's always on my mind. I started having sex in early march at the age of 22 but long before I started having sex I always ...

I want to sleep with my girl friend...how can I convince my husband to share?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

19 October 2009 (F) - I have been married for 14 years to a wonderful man that I am very much in love with. However after I got married I realized that I was bisexual. About ten years ago I had a girlfriend that he knew about and I loved her very much. At that time he ...

My gay friend keeps grabbing my boobs!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 32 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - okay so i have this friend he is amazing and i love him to bits. he is gay but i have quite big boobs and he keeps poking at them and grabbing them i didnt really mind at first but now its getting to me and its got worse cause he has asked if he ...

Does my teacher fancy me as well?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 32 days ago

18 October 2009 (M) - im a boy, 15 yrs. old...i really fancy my male teacher and i don't know why..i think he also likes me as he looking at me when im walking down the corridor, and when i look at him, he smile at me in a shy way then his face turns red. When he's ...

Could I be a lesbian?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 24 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - Im 18 years old and always considered myself straight. However i found when i look at pictures of girls with there boobs out i get really turned on and so wet, i always want to masturbate so badly!! However recently i split with a long term boy frie...

I'm gay and in love with my tutor-councillor from an educational summer program!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 33 days ago

18 October 2009 (M) - I'm gay and in love with my tutor-councillor from an educational summer program I go 2. Over the 6 weeks there I became really close with. He's so gorgeous and my knees grow weak just thinking about him. He's 20 and a junior in college. I'm 17 and a ...

I don't want to be in this relationship any longer, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 34 days ago

18 October 2009 (F) - What should i do? I have been in a relationship for 3 years and out of the 3 most of it has been arguments over me cheating. I have not cheated and stayed true through out the relationship, now its to the point where i dont wanna be in this anymore. ...

I like him but he's bi and has a new boyfriend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 35 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - Heya, i met this guy about 5 months ago? And since then i've always had a thing for him. I'm a natural flirt, and i never realise im doing it until my female friends tell me, anyway this guy said to me 'Stop your flirting' in a joking way. Now we ...

Am I bisexual?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

17 October 2009 (F) - I've come to realize that whenever I feel like getting drunk I feel more attracted and in the mood to makeout with a girl instead of my boyfriend. I don't know why! For example, the other night I went to a party, and there were about 15 people- ...

Is this joke a facade for her true feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 30 days ago

16 October 2009 (F) - My friend and I have had this ongoing joke that we are lesbians (a joke that she started and eagerly keeps going.) I thought this would have died down ages ago, but it has been going on for countless weeks already---I think over a month. Basically, ...