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Archived questions from: November, 2009 (see latest in Gay relationships category)

Gay relationships: Help and advice

He hinted at bisexuality, initiated intimacy then said he was repulsed. Is he playing games?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

23 November 2009 (M) - I am 38 now and a gay guy. I have not had many relationships. Have tended to shy away from them after a rejection years ago. The last I had was 10 years ago. Last year, I met a guy at uni where I was doing a postgrad course. He was 19.....ok I know ...

I'm very worried that I can't tell if I like girls or guys, or both

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 November 2009 (M) - [Moderator note: You are not bothering us with 'stupid teen' questions. We're here to help as much as we can.] hi i have a big problem and i need help figuring this out in my life. im only 17 but i am having trubble telling if i like girls or guys ...

How to approach confessing my feelings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2 days ago

22 November 2009 (M) - Hello, I'm a 20 year old gay male, and I've got the issue with bringing up an attraction with a friend of mine. (He does not know I'm gay.) Basically, I developed feelings for him, and recognizing the situation attempted to get him to talk abo...

I would love to have a real relationship with a girl. (I'm also female).

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4 days ago

21 November 2009 (F) - I really want to have a real relationship with a girl, but i'm really bad at starting up that kind of thing. i tried to find some groups and sites and such to help me meet new girls and get to know them, but everyone just seems to be there for the ...

How can I get to know her better without scaring her off or making an idiot of myself?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (?) - I'm very very picky and very rarely fancy anyone, (I'm a lesbian so this obviuosly adds the the difficulty factor :-D) I really really like a girl at work, I don'r know her very well at all and hardly get a chance to even speak to her because she ...

Should I tell my family I'm gay?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5 days ago

19 November 2009 (M) - [Moderator Note: OP, there isn't a third gender. If there were, threesomes would be much less messy.] hello to everyone. i need your advice. please tell me what to do to overcome this problem that i am facing now. i belong to a third gender(gay...

Should I leave her to sort out her past?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

19 November 2009 (F) - Hi - I need help at this point in my life! I have met a wonderful woman - we met through an internet dating site. Everything was amazing from the very start - a great friendship, common interests, physical attraction, the best sex I have ever had in ...

Despite her denials I think she wants more than friendship too

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

19 November 2009 (?) - Okay I need help understanding this! I am a 48 year old female who told a 55 year old unhappily married female that my feelings for her went deeper than just friendship. She denies feeling the same way but based on many things she has said to me and ...

How can I get the intensity back that we once shared...?

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19 November 2009 (F) - My story is super complicated! I do not and want bore you with the details. I just need some advice. Im in my first relationsip. It has been a 3 year long distance relationship. I visit her she visits me and so on. NOt as often as we would like. We ...

I have a boyfriend but I know something is missing, I think I might be bisexual

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - Hey I think i am bi but i dont know i have been really confused over the last year i have a bf but i just know that there is something missing please help guy i need to tell someone ...

I want a meaningful relationship with another girl, but I don't now how to go about it!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 6 days ago

18 November 2009 (F) - I really want to have a meaningful relationship with another girl, but i don't know really how to go about doing that. i haven't ever dated another woman before. i've looked up some chat sites and such, but they all seem to just want sex now and i ...

Is being attracted to older men normal?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 7 days ago

17 November 2009 (M) - my name is dan and i am seeing a guy who is 49 and im only 20 he is worried bout the age difference i am too but dnt tell him im worried about wat people will think of us also ive always been into older guys is that normal please help xxxxxxxx ...

I am in lust/love with a straight man... or do I just miss my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 8 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - Hi Guys + Gals I am in a strange situation which is pulling me apart. I currently live with this guy who I met in 6th form and we bonded really well. Since I met him I was attracted to him, although he is straight and has a girlfriend. (he kn...

I never told him that I loved him! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 9 days ago

16 November 2009 (M) - please give some pieces of advice.... my problem goes this way.. i am an ESL teacher for more than a year. i told myself before not to fall inlove with any of my students. but after a year i met a new student who comes from Osaka Japan, he had be...

Walked in on my boyfriend with a guy in his bed. Is he gay or did he think it was me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

14 November 2009 (F) - My boyfreind went out with friends last night and probably got a bit drunk. Anyway when i called to his house this morning he was in the bed with his friend (a man) but thats normal as sometimes they just crash in the same bed if theres no free ...

The wounds are really deep and the healing process is being tough...pleae help me with your advice...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

14 November 2009 (M) - Hi, I'm Luque , and I'm 23 years old. I'm feeling really lonely and without any direction, I've been feeling like crying all this week and I really can't describe what I feel, it's like a deep deep sadness, I've been through a lot of stuff in the ...

He just out of the blue changed towards me and it hurts not talking to him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

13 November 2009 (M) - im a 16 years old sophmore im bi and i think im in love with a good friend of mine. hes 17 years old and a senior.he is straight and used to date one of my best friends. now i told him i was bi and he said he didnt really care.things were going ...

Straight eye for the queer guy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 11 days ago

12 November 2009 (M) - I`m a bi male and recently met assumed straight guy. We met as both of us are business owners in same industry and we found that by joining forces and sharing human resources we can accomodate our bunsiness` needs. Comments from him on how I look ...

Married woman about to cheat with another woman, hubby doesn't know

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

12 November 2009 (F) - I have always been bi-sexual, but preferred men. I met my husband 6 years ago and it has been truly great, however he started a new career and is very involved in it, I am so happy for this new step in his life, although he does come home everyday ...

How can I get myself to orgasm?? How can I get her to make me orgasm?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

12 November 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I have a problem that keeps on bothering my partner. I am a 20 year old female in a relationship with a 21 year old female. We met about a year ago, and have been going out for near enough 6 months. I absolutely love and adore her, and ...

I have a crush on her, how do I tell her without making her feel weird?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 10 days ago

12 November 2009 (F) - Hi, I have had a crush on this girl for almost a year. I am FAR too nervous to tell her, cause I'm a girl too! Can you give me an idea on how to tell her without making her feel weird, yet making it known enough that she understands? Any help that ...

My girlfriend's ex is overstepping the line!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

11 November 2009 (F) - I met my girlfriend a little over seven years ago. She was still married and living with her husband. We did fall in love, however, I told her I did not want to be in a relationship with a married woman. She told her husband about us and then she ...

What is the easiest way to switch from lovers to friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - Hi there, my gf and I have just split up after just over a year together. we still love each other very much, have retained the openess, honesty and trust we have built up and still get along very well. the only reason for the break up is that she ...

How do I know if I'm a lesbian?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 14 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I always seem to be thinking about how attractive females at my school are. I get turned on by females and occasionaly males. This year I had strong feelings for a female in my class. I had romantic feelings and that tingly feeling. I watched ...

How do I approach her about having an 'exclusive' relationship?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 14 days ago

10 November 2009 (F) - I am at my wits end! I'm gay... not that it really matters for my query! I met the most amazing girl online just over two months ago .... we've talked on MSN and occasionally the phone nearly every single night, we also send each other a few te...

Gay unrequited love within a 'relationship'

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 15 days ago

9 November 2009 (M) - Hello, I'm a 46 year old gay guy and I have become stuck in a situation and seek advice... I got to know a guy 3 years younger than me around 3 years ago, we met and had safe casual sex and a friendship developed, during the first couple of months...

I like her and need tips on how to handle myself, on our first date...advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 16 days ago

8 November 2009 (F) - i've known this girl through an online social site for 3 months. she's a lesbian and is also the first and only girl i have ever liked, and even though we have never met but my gut feeling tells me that if we both pursue further we might end up ...

How do I get them Naked?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

8 November 2009 (M) - hi. ok here is my dilema. im male and bisexual. im currently in my last year of school and like 3 guys - one in particular. basically i want to get with them/see them naked so i can satisfy my curiosity. my question is how can i get a striaght guy ...

I'm dating my lesbian cousin and I'm scared...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

8 November 2009 (F) - i'm dating my lesbian cousin and i'm scared... i mean, i like her but i'm scared of what the family will do... when i told my mom i was bi, she almsot sent me to a different state to live with my grandmother... if i tell her ...

I want her to shave and take more showers, should I tell her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

8 November 2009 (F) - i've seen my girlfriend naked plenty of times and i think she has a wonderful body but theres a problem... I want her to shave...down there... but i dont want to just blurt it out like that... How can i tell her... i mean if i have to j...

What can I do be ready for lesbian sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 16 days ago

8 November 2009 (F) - Me and my girlfriend have been planning to lose our virginity to each other soon but there's one problem. I dont know how to be ready... I mean, i take showers everyday if not almost everyday but for some reason i just dont feel like im clean en...

My lesbian cousin wants to date me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

8 November 2009 (F) - Okay..my first cousin (she's 17 and im 16 year old GIRL) wants to date me. We used to do sexual things(just oral) when we were younger but i didn't think this would happen. I know deep down i feel the same about her but i dont know what to do. She...

Should I pursue my gay cousin?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

8 November 2009 (M) - Okay, so, I am gay, and my 3rd cousin twice removed is as well (homosexual and male), and i'm not going to beat around the bush, i want to hook up with him and have even thought about dating him. 1. Is this bad? 2. What do i do about it?...

Boyfriend behaves badly while drinking...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 14 days ago

7 November 2009 (M) - my boyfriend sometimes goes a bit too far with alcohol and does some really stupid stuff but it doesnt rlly bother me except tht he likes to show off his body and wen hes drunk hell strip down to his boxers and dance wiv his friends (some of them ...

I'm in love or infactuated with my female gym teacher, what do I do to get over her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 18 days ago

6 November 2009 (F) - ok so im fifteen years old im a lesbian and is greatly attracted to my ex gym teacher,i had her in 2008-2009 and whenthe school year was over i worked in the school. during my work hours i desided to tell her how i felt she told me that she was a ...

My girlfriend is hardly ever in the mood for sex, have I done something to cause this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

5 November 2009 (F) - I've been with my girlfriend for a little over 3 years now and we hardly have sex anymore. she had cervical cancer last summer and since then shes never been in the mood for sex.. is it something i did or what should i do? [Moderator's Note: Po...

Read this email message and tell me what you think!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 16 days ago

5 November 2009 (F) - I found a message in my husband's email. It was from the owner of a company he has done some work for (who is a male), and he has an email address at that company i just became aware of. He has been hiding all of this from me. The message ...

I always thought I was straight but now there's a girl I'm crushing on!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

5 November 2009 (F) - Ok, I'm going a little crazy here. I've always thought I was straight, if I thought about it at all. I've just always been attracted to guys, but also I've always been more comfortable with guys because I don't fit in with most girls my age. Anyway, ...

Help me decide if I am gay!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 20 days ago

5 November 2009 (M) - I need help. I am 16. I dont know if i am gay and i want to know what you all think. I think i like girls. And i have only ever been attracted to girls when seeing them. However when i wank, (i tried thinking of guys once) i cum to guys before i ...

Could my two friends be having a secret affair?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 19 days ago

4 November 2009 (F) - I'm not sure why I'm writing this but here goes. At college, I know this girl and to me it looks like this girl likes other girls. I know this sounds stupid but I'm not sure if it's in my head or if it's true. This girl (the main one-lets call her ...

I'm confused! Do I love my ex-boyfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 9 days ago

3 November 2009 (M) - Ok well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 5 months now. I live in Illinois and he lives in Pennsylvania. I know many of you will say it's a long distance relationship and it doesn't mean anything, so just quit it, but it's not that ...

My gay son is dating a married man with kids!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 22 days ago

2 November 2009 (F) - My son is 17, and came out as gay to us 2 months ago. Me and my husband have no issues with his sexuality. He's in college, studying business systems, and is doing very well. It's his choice of partner that's worrying us though - he told us ...

He can't be with me. How can I cope with my feelings?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

2 November 2009 (M) - Hey. I started college about 7 weeks ago, and made a lot of friends and there were a few guys I liked. I became really good friends with this one (straight) guy and we started chatting a lot on msn and stuff, then one night he told me he was b...

I slept with my girlfriend and now she's not calling me back! And also.. my male friend hit on me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

1 November 2009 (M) - Hello fellow agony aunts. I have a problem..actually it's 2 and i was wondering if you guys could help. So last night was Halloween and there was a huge party in my town. Everyone..all my friends and people from other schools were there. And i we...

I'm a gay man, is this normal for me? does it make me weird?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

1 November 2009 (M) - Well I'm an 18 year old total bottom, I'm gay and well recently I've discovered than when I'm having sex with guys (with different guys, one at a time) I don't get a boner, I don't even cum, if the guy (the top) cums I'm okay with that, it feels as ...

He's gay, but I really really like him.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

1 November 2009 (F) - I am falling in love with my relationships councilor and don't know how to stop feeling like this. I ended my marriage 1 yr ago cause my husband was having sex with men.We were married for 18 years so I am not some ditzy young thing with a silly ...

Social etiquitte for same sex relationships

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 22 days ago

1 November 2009 (M) - ok im 22 i'm looking for a boyfriend, and i need to understand more about social ettiquite being i'm a male as well. i definitely understand sex should stay between us, unless i'm involved in "girl talk" so to speak. but what's the best way to ...

How can I tell my male friends that I'm bi?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

1 November 2009 (M) - ok well I am bi and a lot of my guy friends don't know and all my girl friends do I don't know how to tell them I think I am to scared to please help me. I am 18 and a male...