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writes:I'm bisexual male that was in a gay relationship after my wife divorce me. I'm 60 and my lover is 20 years younger. We had our up and down just like most relationship. Recently, I bump into an old girl friend of mine in high school. We falling for each other again, and I decided to break up with my lover to be with my girlfriend. He took it quite well, however, we got into a heated argument an he mention that he will tell my family and my girlfriend about us. What can I do about this?
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Do people of Western culture really care about bi-sexuality or homosexuality that much these days? I'd call his bluff and point out that if he really cared about you he'd be happy for you, and if he valued your friendship he wouldn't stoop so low as to cause problems your life. He's hurting about the break-up, and my guess is that he's just reacting to the pain of it all. I hope you can sort it out. :)
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reader, duce00 +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Talk rationally to your ex male lover. It sounds like you might be able to get him to lighten up on the vindictive thing.
Another alternative would be to come out to your family on your own. I understand its not a small decision but if they love you they will understand. We are not living in the 50's anymore after all.
Bisexuality is not my issue but I have a family member that is. What I saw was that the hiding and secrecy did more harm than if he had just been honest. If it is possible and not emotionally unhealthy for you to be honest with your family there is alot of growth that could come about. It would also negate anybody ever being a shit about outing you now wouldn't it?
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