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writes: Hello, Me and my ex had been going out for 11 months and it was going great. We both love each other lots. Then it became clear that we had lost something; we just kept arguing and not seeing each other as much as we did. We grew apart because of this. Now it would have been our 1 year aniversary on Sunday and I love her to peices and want her back. I've been telling her how much I love her and want her back but she's resisting. I've been sending her gifts and all sorts but they haven't worked. I'd do anything to get her back. She says she needs time to see what she wants but I need her back. Please try to advise me what to do so we could give it another go.What should I do to get her back?
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reader, gothic_chick +, writes (9 February 2006):
 I don't believe you have a lot to worry about. She's probably under a lot of pressure maybe do to friends, family or something in her surroundings that are bothering her. Also the winter time frame isn't the best for relationships. People tend to suffer from "proverbial winter blues" as most psychologists call it. All you need to do is give her a little space, what I mean is that you need to stop buying stuff for her except when it comes to valentines day comming up. And try to slack off talking to her so much, if she feels like you are behind her every movement. Then you feel she is ready walk up to her in a calming tone and tell her you two need to talk. (and don't talk to her over the phone most girls would find that as somewhat offencive) When you two are alone, express your true feelings to her and i don't mean that cheap "Please... I love you more than life itself blah blah blah..." What I mean by express is devote all your feelings into your words, make them passionate, and make her feel like shes the only one for you. But if shes still reluctant try to move on :) it won't be easy but time heals every thing. Goodluck.
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reader, shania  +, writes (9 February 2006):
 You have done all you can to win her back and so far it hasnt worked.If i was you,i would leave it a while and see what happens....that means no phone calls,emails or presents...give this girl space,she has made it clear that she needs time...but how long do you give her? Well, if after a couple of weeks she still isnt sure then personally i would definately let her go because you cant put your life on hold while she is trying to make her mind up.Another thing you must realise is that the relationship has probably run its course and your girlfriend has realised this.It might be time to move on.
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