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writes: Must I keep her of dump her? I am not sure.I am a 23 year old male dating a 16 year old girl. We are going out for almost 10 months now and have broken up twice. The thing is I am not sure of her feelings for me. Does she really love me as she is saying? I don't know if the relationship will last long if I am not sure of her true feelings.The thing is, there is this 33 year old man that she was seeing before me and she is still in contact with him through cellphone messages. She said to him that she only wants to be friends but admitted to him that she still feels for him. I found this out and now I am not sure of her true feelings for me. Everytime when we fight, it is about him. He is now the main topic of every fight. What must I do? Please reply quick? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sharkie +, writes (27 February 2006):
Sharkie is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just another thing, she is the one that can't let go. Sharkie
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reader, Sharkie +, writes (27 February 2006):
Sharkie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Shania. Thank you for your answer. I have spoken to her about this and she admitted that she do love me and not him. But the way she told me, is not satisfying. She does not sms him anymore but still gives him missed calls and she is doing that without showing her cell number - i.e giving him missed calls without displaying her number on his phone. She told me she wouldn't do it again, but she did it again. I really don't know what to do. It is now almost a year ago that she last saw him. But could she still have feelings for him? Another thing, July last year I came upon a letter she wrote to him and in that letter (4 pages long) she told him how she feels about him and believe me, if you were in my shoes, you would understand how I must have felt that time. What she wrote, I can't tell you, because it's heart breaking stuff - she still loves him. But now that letter was written last year July, but she is still in contact with him and despite all of this, she still says she loves me and don't want to lose me and I must not dump her. I don't know what to do - I am not thinking straight by this time and I really love her. Thank you. Sharkie
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reader, shania  +, writes (24 February 2006):
 She seems to have the taste for older men and i must admit,this 33yr old who is still on the scene does look a bit suspicious....why should she still be in contact with him if they have split up? Who ended it? Was it her and he hasnt accepted it....or was it him but she cant let go...someone is playing games.For you to really know the truth i suggest that you have a real heart to heart talk with your girlfriend...no screaming or shouting and ask her where you stand in all this....if you get a vacant answer that doesnt satisfy you then maybe you should let her go because you cannot have a proper relationship without trust....saying that,your girlfriend is only 16 and very young....maybe she feels tied down and just wants fun which is only natural at her age.....the fact that you have split up twice suggests to me that your not really suited to one another.Obviously you feel alot for her and you dont want to let her go but the way its going....it does seem pretty fruitless....the one thing your girlfriend cannot give you ....is trust.
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