Did I overreact even though he lied to me?
Q. Dear cupids, I posted a story http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-dont-want-to-be-the-victim.html. I want to continue from where I stopped but before that let's just say my healing process has been slow but I am better now. The main point ...
A. 29 August 2015: There's an old adage that goes like this:
"When you find you're in a hole that is so deep that you can't get out of it..... STOP DIGGING!!!!!"
That applies to you, in these circumstances.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Doctor and dermatologist suggested remedies that have not helped. What else can reduce skin discolouration around inner thigh area?
Q. My inner thighs/groin area is very dark and discolorated and I don't know how to get rid of it. It recently made me feel much worse because my partner noticed it and asked me about it. I read it is a skin condition caused by insulin resistan...
A. 27 August 2015: The REAL solution is for you to say to yourself, and anyone else who mentions it (this discoloration): "What the heck difference does it make?"
Good luck...
P.S. Please note that the President of the USofA, America, has dark skin.... all ove... (read in full...)
He made a remark that upset me. Should I say something to my boyfriend's friend or just let it go?
Q. I was at the beach yesterday with my boyfriend and a couple of his friends were there to meet me for the first time and hang out with us. I was in a 2 piece suit but you could still see a bit of skin. I was devastated when I over heard his...
A. 27 August 2015: The key to your submittal is: "....make a nasty comment to my boyfriend...." Once he heard such a comment, your "B/F" should have either: 1. wound up and clobbered the miscreant in the mouth...., or, 2. said to the creep: "Listen, Asshole, ... (read in full...)
Why does he walk out without listen to my explanation?
Q. I always wondering why my boyfriend walk out when we're having an arguement.Most of the time he will leave me when i accidently say something that i shouldnt say it at first but it was only a joke, and also sometimes he leave me when he got jealous. ...
A. 27 August 2015: People react to stress with EITHER a "fight" reaction, or a "flight" reaction.....
Your B/F, evidently, is programmed to "flight."
If you want to have discussions with him.... then try to avoid saying things that he may interpret as str... (read in full...)
Are good guys generally not so hot in bed
Q. I am struggling to meet a guy I fancy and would want for a future and who is an average/good lover. The good guys who are trustworthy, kind, warm and solid seem to lack that intense fizz and passion. I am no spring chicken and far from perfect...
A. 27 August 2015: I'm a "good guy".... AND... I'm fantastic in bed. What's your question?
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I'm conflicted. I love her personality but I'm not attracted to her physically
Q. I have always been attracted to thin petite woman however the past 3 months I've been dating a woman who I would consider overweight, nothing drastic though. I started dating her mainly because I love her personality and she is very nice and ...
A. 26 August 2015: Once you get her to put out, all thee questions will disappear,,,, good luck.....
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Should I give away my virginity to an online stranger?
Q. I have been holding out long enough. I am tired of dating guys that as of lately has led to nowhere (trust, I know when to exit the relationship-if you called that). I'm managing to stay focused on my career. Just received a promotion last week. Not ...
A. 26 August 2015: SURE,,,,, sell your soul,,,, then, ask yourself, afterwards,: Was it worth it????????? I'm guessing the answer is: No, what DID I do????"
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My B/f said, "'not to sound rude but you have a lot of stretch marks baby maybe you should do something about them"
Q. I've been with a man for almost a year and only recently been sexually active with him. He recently made a comment 'not to sound rude but you have a lot of stretch marks baby maybe you should do something about them' I told them they are all ...
A. 25 August 2015: You say to him: "Boyfriend, not to sound rude... but your brain seems not to have much in it, maybe you should do something about that....."
Then, see where the conversation goes from there....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do I let my wife have a threesome with 2 guys? I feel I'll lose either way
Q. My wife wants me to watch her have sex with 2 of my buddys Do most girls want to have sex with 2 guys at the same time ??? I don't know what to tell her. If I say no. ??? She may cheat. ?? If I say yes she may always wAnt it. ???...
A. 11 August 2015: Your predicament is known as a "double bind".... and is the source for cliches like, "damned if you do, damned if you don't".... and "caught between a rock and a hard spot"...
You can control matters simply be saying to wifey: "Hunchy- bunchy, ... (read in full...)
I've been working myself sick to pay rent for a house which doesn't even have my name on the contract. Should I just go back to my family home?
Q. Me and my fiance have been together for 2 and a half years. 6 months ago we moved into a flat with his brother and his brothers fiance. I got a job so I could move in and all was ok. The job is ridiculous hours but needed to pay the rent and I'm ...
A. 11 August 2015:
Yes.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is there a chance that in fulfilling these fantasies I could also get a broken heart?
Q. Ok.. How can I sum this up... My fiancé and I are head over heels in love with each other, we have been together for 4 years. We have made it through some pretty hard times, the first year of our relationship, which in the end made us so much ...
A. 11 August 2015: Fantasies work just fine when they remain fantasies.... HOWEVER.... fantasies which include more than just the two people who started them (the fantasies) are HIGH RISK....
You can - and will - do as you wish. But, don't be surprised if acting o... (read in full...)
Do other women not wear panties under their dresses?
Q. My boyfriend gave me a gift card to luluelemon and said to buy something we would both enjoy. I ended up with a tennis style dress that fits perfect on me, but it is supershort. He told me it looks amazing on me but I'm a little selfconscious with ...
A. 10 August 2015: Get some "Jockey" slipshorts to wear under this dress..... and you should be happy....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Why do guys keep breaking up with me?
Q. Why do guys keep on either playing me or just break up with me?...
A. 9 August 2015: .. because you let them.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
He didn't explain what made him angry and now he's sending me more abuse. Did I do the right thing by leaving him?
Q. Can someone please tell me if I did the right thing? I would love responses from both sexes! I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years, it was very on again, off again, mainly because of his verbal abuse. I would forgive him and go back ...
A. 9 August 2015: Give him 6 months to figure out what an a$$hole he has been....
And then - and ONLY after 6 months - send him a cheerful "Hi, how ya' doin'?"
Only after that can you have any communication(s) with him.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why do married men fancy me? And why do I respond?
Q. I am a 40 year old woman.. Separated from an alcoholic husband, no children but I work and manage on my own. I also live on my own. Of late I have a lot of interest from married men. This is the second one in 3 years and I like them as friends ...
A. 9 August 2015: Here's the basis of your "problem": "...I always give and never ask..."
And the answer to THIS question: "What can I do to get out of it?".... is: Say "NO" a lot.
Good luck.....
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I accidentally walked in on my elderly mother masturbating and don't know how to feel about this
Q. Hi - this is going to be a strange topic - but I am in my 40s and have just walked in on my mum (who is in her late 70s) masterbating at her house in the middle of the day. We were all sat in the garden when I looked up and saw my mum had gone ind...
A. 8 August 2015: I'm with YouWish.... and, quite frankly... I'm still trying to figure out if there is a question in your submittal...
Go, Mom!!!!!
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Is it over? Wife met up again with guy we had 3sum with and let him do things she has never let me do
Q. I recently got talked into a 3sum by my wife where she let the other guy do a sexual act she has always refused me. I've now found out that the same night, after when she took him to the train station they did it again in the car. Is it over?...
A. 8 August 2015: Probably.....
Good luck.... (read in full...)
What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?
Q. What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?...
A. 6 August 2015: One thing's for sure.... she has to show up!!!!... (read in full...)
He has never divorced his wife. It makes me uncomfortable and I'm wondering why he hasn't divorced her!
Q. Hi, I have been dating a guy i met in a social group, for around 4 months. After a few dates, he told me he was married but separated, for 7 years. Now had I known this beforehand I would not have dated him as I didn't want the emotional baggag...
A. 6 August 2015: He's married; you're single... AND you're his "backup" girl...
'Nuff said. How long do you want to be in that position? HE ain't gonna change a damn thing... so IT'S UP TO YOU (to change something).
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I let go when I felt so much for him?
Q. I am feeling messed up after dating this guy. We hooked up a couple of times. I started to like him. Then he told me he just split up with ex. They got back together. I was upset, but moved on. He made me realise that I do want a loving, sexual ...
A. 6 August 2015: When you wrote this: "....Anyway, on another night he told me that he could not give me what I wanted,..." he told you everything you need to know to justify getting away from him and never looking back.....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
I feel unloved by my partner and don't know how to fix it
Q. I feel really unloved by my partner of six years and dont know how to fix this. Every night when we get home from work he sits on playstation and I sit downstairs alone. If i get him to spend time with me, he acts ezasperated and like hes doing me a ...
A. 6 August 2015: Living in a situation wherein you have a "partner" who offers you no stimulation, whatsoever, is like hollowing yourself out with a pumpkin-carving kit, then being surprised that all that's left of you is a hollow pumpkin....
You deserve a better... (read in full...)
Should I call it a day? I forgave him the affair but now he seems to be hiding things!
Q. I've asked for advice on numerous occasions regarding my partner, now of 10 years and a lot of you told me then to get rid of him as long ago as 5 years but Ihave always thought things would change. However, I then found that he has cheated on me ...
A. 6 August 2015: You write: "... but I have always thought things would change.".... and NOW you know that they won't.... SO, pack up, get away from this character and get on with you life....
Good luck... ... (read in full...)
He didn't invite me to the Barbeque and also acted differently.What should I do?
Q. I met a guy at work... We went on a date and hit it off. I was a little worried that his friends at work would put ideas in his head. I expressed how i felt more than once and he told me I was becoming annoying with it. I back off a little bit.. Th...
A. 6 August 2015: Don't waste your time with this guy. His signals - that he isn't much interested in you - are pretty clear....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
So what do you guys think? Am I playing with fire? Can I trust that he has changed?
Q. My bf and I have been together for a year and a half and we live together. Before me, he was a real stud. He slept with almost 200 women and even today is never short of women's attention. Any gf he had before he cheated on them. He admitted all ...
A. 6 August 2015: Your third paragraph - "He says that I changed him and that he won't cheat on me. He says that I'm the only girl he had ever loved...." and blah, blah, blah. I'm betting that those other 200 girls could have written that, as well as you...
Yes..... (read in full...)
Hot and cold? playing hard to get? Does this guy like me? Or just loves me as a friend?
Q. Hello, here is a guy at my college that i've met him in a party. He started adding me on social medias. And he also texted me alot and asked for my number 3 times until i gave it to him. He would flirt with me a lot and compliments me. He also som...
A. 6 August 2015: I vote for "...Or is he just a jerk."
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Am I the only unhappy one? While all around me people find love and happiness
Q. It seems everyone is happily in love - except me. I turned this guy down who wanted to meet up with me for sex. I did like him, but I'm quite shy when it comes to men and haven't had many partners apart from one or two. Anyway, since I turned t...
A. 5 August 2015: When you wrote: "... because I had my chance and I know he's not interested in me anymore since he's found her, ...." .... Suppose, instead, that you had written: "... because I had my chance and I know he's not interested in me, FOR SEX, ONLY, ... (read in full...)
Do I jump ship? Or stay with this company that's sinking fast?
Q. I'm in charge of finances at this very small company. I recently started the job, and shockingly, the financial situation is so poor we're close to bankruptcy as of next year. The last savings were used this year. When I try to inform my boss a...
A. 5 August 2015: Be prepared to tell "the Board" just what you revealed in this submittal..... AND, be prepared to be terminated (sort of: "shoot the messenger...").... AND (as well) expect that - even if you survive the Board meeting, your days are numbered at ... (read in full...)
Why did my LDR guy feel the need to say nasty things to me after our fantasy sex session?
Q. My LDR and I often share fantasies and they often involve another man joining in. This time I decided to add another element , a woman because he had told me how much he loves lesbian porn. The fantasy seemed to go well and worked . I felt comforta...
A. 5 August 2015: Ahhhh, double standards.... one for men; another for women.
I suggest that your LDR was quite content to experience the 2M/1W fantasy because he likes that (may be bi-sexual!).... BUT, when you exhibit the equivalent behaviour, THAT isn't OK with ... (read in full...)
Will her ex know it's her despite a fake profile and different contact details? Should she do it?
Q. Has anyone ever used another phone or fake profile to contact an ex to get a message to them? My friend is in a bad way because of the way her ex treated her - firstly two timing her and then dumping her and cutting off all contact. He has been a j...
A. 5 August 2015: WHY(?) .... would this person wish to perpetuate what had been a miserable situation?
WHAT(?) does this person hope to accomplish?
Revenge often takes on its own life... and doesn't serve to improve anybody's life... the avenger or the "... (read in full...)
Conservative parents.What should I do? I don't want to lie to my parents about visiting my boyfriend
Q. I am an Asian girl in a long distance relationship with a European guy. The relationship has been great and we communicate often despite the distance. We lived together for 4 months while I was in Europe and our current plan is for me to finish m...
A. 5 August 2015: Two thoughts come to mind:
1. "... we can afford it..." Does this mean that you and B/F are self-supporting? If "No," (your parents are financing your education costs) then you must consider that THEY have "final word" on what you do.... p... (read in full...)
Is this woman way out of my league?
Q. Hello, I've been talking to this woman for two years, she is 62, am 59, we finally met , a month ago, it went really good, we have been texting each other all most every day, but only on the dating site, I have gave her my number, but she only texts ...
A. 2 August 2015: Don't EVER believe that you are "out of (some woman's) league". If she likes you... then, GO FOR IT.... If she doesn't want to hang with you... I'm sure she'll find many ways to let you know......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My late "husband's" son wants to marry me
Q. I am a 35 year old Indian divorcee. I married my Indian husband in 2000 when I was just 20 years old but divorced him after just three months of marriage. I was still a virgin when I began divorce proceedings. I sued for divorce because of my ...
A. 2 August 2015: Somehow.... when genitals are involved... all common sense goes out the window.... and we (people like you) ask questions like this....
Frankly, if you want this young guy to be your "everlovin'" then go for it, and never look back....
HE will... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my kinky fantasies that I give in to once a month?
Q. This is something that's embarrassing the heck out of me,and I cannot share it with anyone. Its bizarre. The thing is,every time of the month I get super-horny during my ovulation period (women would know what I'm talking about), I get very kinky...
A. 2 August 2015: Nope... nothing "wrong" with you.... I STILL fantasize that I am having $-x with Queen Elizabeth every time I masturbate...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stares at this neighbor like he'd rather be with her than me!
Q. Hi really hope someone can help me I've been with my boyfriend for 17 month now he has just recently moved in about 2 weeks ago opposite us lives a blonde woman with her boyfriend and kids my boyfriend is always staring over at there house in case ...
A. 2 August 2015: Do you want to be that convenient "fallback"? ... the girl he hangs with because this hottie already has her boyfriend???
OR, do you want to be "number one" in your "b/F's" life???
Ask HIM,.... because he - and ONLY HE - has the answer..... ... (read in full...)
He's seeing someone else. But also wants to see me. What's my best response to this?
Q. I have been good friends with a guy for a number of years and about a year ago we both found out that we were attracted to each other. We became fwb as neither of us were in a position to have a relationship, even though I really would have like...
A. 2 August 2015: "Has good morals"????.... I don't think so.....
YOU, Dear girl, are an available - and willing - pussy... and he (now) has NO incentive to be anything more to you, than a convenient dick to penetrate you.....
WHY do you women not understand t... (read in full...)
What can I do about my hunch that I should leave my great Gf?
Q. I've been with this girl for 5 months -known her for 8-. I was dubious of having a real relationship with her at first because I didn't feel as much for her as I did for other girls I've been in love with, but things just happened and here I am. ...
A. 30 July 2015: You note: "Can anyone suggest me what to do? Or at least, how to make a correct decision?"
Remember... one of your "decisions" (choices) is to do "nothing".... and continue things as they are.... and make a decision to change matters once, an... (read in full...)
My girlfriend knows our relationship is one sided but does nothing to change it. Should I end things?
Q. Okay so this is a short question. I do everything for my girlfriend. I cook for her, drive her, buy her things, etc and I feel she does little in return. On a few occasions she has even said I know I do nothing to contribute, does that bother you? I ...
A. 30 July 2015: This query falls in to the category of ".. my B/F;G/F never tells me (that) he/she loves me...." LISTEN TO THEM....
At least your G/F was bold enough to ask the question.... likely because she KNOWS she's not holding up her end of the "relatio... (read in full...)
My fiance is a sex addict and it feels like our relationship is just about sex
Q. My Fiancé and I have been together a year. We have always enjoyed sex and have it quite frequently, 4 to 6 times a week. The thing is though I feel as though my sex drive is going down and I don't want it as much and his is going up and always ...
A. 30 July 2015: When a guy with whom a woman is sexually active sez: "...this relationship isn't just about sex..." It is......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Can a man live without sex in a marriage?
Q. Can a married man in his mid 40's stay happily married if his wife doesn't want sex anymore? And I'm talking years now? Can a man live without sex in a marriage? ...
A. 30 July 2015: That would be the same guy who can live without air, water, food and shelter, No?........ (read in full...)
He wouldn't go public with our relationship so I ended it. Did I make the right decision?
Q. He says his marriage is ended and they have both moved on but he wont go public with our relationship or remove his "married to... [her name]" Facebook status. Did I do the right thing ending it after giving him the ultimatum remove the status and ...
A. 27 July 2015: Yes........ (read in full...)
Double date with parents! What affection is appropriate?
Q. Hi! I know I ask a lot of questions but I really like having outside opinions from people other than my peers. So anyway here's my situation. So Saturday I am going on "a double date" with my parents. My boyfriend and I and then my parents will ...
A. 22 July 2015: For two hours in a movie theater.... can't you and B/F just "cool it"??... such that the question that you pose... that seeks detailed guidelines... needn't even be considered?
P.S. You can always get a hotel room - just the two of you - afterwar... (read in full...)
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