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Has my boyfriend gone off of me? Do I leave him alone?

Q.   I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, everything is going really well, we’re going on holiday in a few weeks’ time. It’s going at a good pace, we get on and see each other every weekend, however he’s gone cold on me…. I saw him last wee...

A.   21 November 2015: You are working too hard to make this budding relationship advance and become deeper. It makes you look like you are chasing him.... Guys react to chasing in one of two ways: 1. They take advantage of you.... by being chameleon boyfri... (read in full...)

BF lack of ambition is starting to scare me.. how do I help him?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and he's 27. He spent 10 years of his adult just watching movies with mates and getting high. I fell in love with him him because he's a good guy. He got a customer assistant job in a shop in the beginning of ...

A.   21 November 2015: At age 50, I started dating a girl who approached "making a reasonable living" just as your guy has done..... She was poor and could hardly support herself. I was OK with that, and always paid the way as and when we did many things..... We br... (read in full...)

Now that I've been intimate with my ex I'm worried he'll lose interest

Q.   I rekindled with my ex boyfriend and we have since become intimate. He was beautiful and very passionate. I was really surprised as I did not think he felt like that about me after all this time. Its been nearly three weeks since we last me...

A.   21 November 2015: You write: "I keep thinking that now he has had his way with me he will not contact me again. I know this is not true but I am finding it hard to think positive. All negative keep bombarding me..." You are deluding yourself! Once a guy learns t... (read in full...)

How to tell my Mum by Boyfriend is Bi?

Q.   There's a guy I've known for a year from Glasgow who I got introduced to at a mate's birthday party... I'd like to think we're good mates, but we do have a friends with benefits relationship... Only problem is, it was one of his mate's birthday'...

A.   11 November 2015: WHY would you believe that you should share this important - yet intimate - detail with you Mother??????? (Would you announce it to her if he were straight, only????). Good luck.... (read in full...)

Is there a future past my husband's cheating?

Q.   I never thought I'd be in a bad marriage, but I am! After only 4years! Last month I found messages from my husband to other women telling them he loved them. Naturally I left him and after a few days came back to him to talk it through and for our ...

A.   11 November 2015: You can always "sit tight" for a while and see how things go. You can, also, force you and hubby to make decisions immediately..... but those decisions have the added complication of having been made under the duress that the two of you are now ... (read in full...)

Would a dating coach help? Or shall I just stay celibate?

Q.   Hello. I'm a male virgin who's never been on a date or kissed a girl. While I would say being a geek, overweight, and not being particularly handsome hinders any success, I will say most of it comes from having approach anxiety. I can talk to...

A.   10 November 2015: As a guy who has "been there".... I can offer this advice: When approaching a woman who strikes your fancy, imagine that you are going to participate in a boxing match with a young Muhammed Ali.... EXCEPT, he is going to wear enormous "NERF" b... (read in full...)

Am I supposed to enjoy this?

Q.   Im hoping you can help me answer some questions relating to sexuality. So the other day my wife was performing oral sex on me, and when she was in the act; she licked her finger and started playing around with my anus while performing oral ...

A.   10 November 2015: Sometimes.... you just have to lay back and enjoy what is enjoyable.... and not try to "read" anything (more) in to it..... By-the-by.... what you described IS delightful, isn't it??? Good luck...... (read in full...)

Should I explore the topic of three- and foursomes with my wife?

Q.   So my wife and I have been friends with another couple for years. Got along great, no issues. They moved away a few years ago and recently came to visit. It was like they never left, just amazing friendship. All four of us are relatively young...

A.   10 November 2015: Let me "pile-on"...... Taking YOUR fantasy to reality has a high risk of backfiring on you..... This is one of life's "What ifs...." that it's best to never know....... Good luck...... (read in full...)

He called to say he'd been cheating. Do people usually tell the truth while drunk?

Q.   Dear Cupid I am with my current boyfriend for 4 years, we have our ups and downs and i love him and he says the same though some times i do feel he doesn't love me as much as i love him. Long story short, yesterday he had few drinks too ...

A.   8 November 2015: Ah, yes.... alcohol sure can have the effect of enhancing truthfulness..... Count your Blessings that you now know what a cad you were dating.... and dump his sorry bottom, and get on with your life.... WITHOUT HIM!!!! Good luck....... (read in full...)

I need my ex off the cell phone bill. How do I get them to accept this transfer? My ex will not speak to me.

Q.   Ok, so my ex and I were together for almost three years. We combined our cellphone bill a year into the relationship, but we broke up 4 months ago. I've been paying it since he's been out of a job but we're not together anymore. He recently took up...

A.   8 November 2015: You go to the shop of your cell-phone supplier... find a salesperson,,,, and say to that person: "I would like to drop (whateverhisnameis) phone from my bill, in the future. OK?" That should finish the matter.... Good luck...... (read in full...)

My boyfriend spends more time with his female friend than me and then he tells me I don't need to worry!

Q.   I have been going out with this man for almost two years. He tells me he loves me and we talk about the future, but He lives on an island which I travel to once a week for work, which is how we met. He owns a restaurant there and has one high school ...

A.   8 November 2015: "we talked about it and he said I have nothing to feel threatened by..." SURE... and it don't snow in Minneapolis in the winter-time.... Good luck........ (read in full...)

How could he treat me like a queen and then block me from facebook and act like I did something wrong?

Q.   On and off since HS my friend and I have always been good friends. We may go a few years and not see each other but when we do we talk and catch up. After 30 years he invited me to visit him. I did and we had the best time. Laughing, talking and ...

A.   8 November 2015: It's amazing what we guys will say and/or do if we think it will keep a woman interested and MIGHT - just might - lead to us getting her in bed.... You've now experienced that amazing stuff... and have a real decision to make.... i.e. continue... (read in full...)

My daughter's mother needs a place to stay but g/f won't like it. Should I just sneak her in and out?

Q.   My daughter's mother just got out of jail/rehab, very suddenly and unexpectedly. Apparently she has no place to go, and misses her daughter so she asked to move in with me and my gf, temporarily (a few months) to get back on her feet. We do have ...

A.   8 November 2015: When were you castrated? A real MAN would bring this subject up to his S/O.... and the two of them would make a decision on how to handle this sensitive predicament.... (How many times to you suppose you could "sneak" ex- in to the house before... (read in full...)

How do I bring up things my boyfriend does that trouble me without things ending?

Q.   How can I tell my partner how I feel or that I have found out things he has been doing , without destroying our relationship? I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months now and I was seeing him for about 2 months previous to that. We started meeti...

A.   8 November 2015: I suspect that your sub-conscious self KNOWS that this character is a serious man-whore.... and you prefer NOT to dismiss his sorry a$$..... no matter how much that is the correct thing to do.. 113 "others"????? How long will it be before Y... (read in full...)

How am I supposed to react to her offer, to not date my friend, if I will say I still love her?

Q.   Me and my ex girlfriend broke up a month ago. Things didn't end great, she still wanted to stay in contact with me but after she showed up to my father's dinner drunk, I didn't want no part of her anymore. Apart from the 2 times I have seen her ...

A.   6 November 2015: Please look out in to the sky tonight... and you might well find that THE WORLD DOESN'T REVOLVE AROUND YOU!!!!! When (once) you figure out THAT, the "answer" to your question will become crystal clear..... Good luck....... (read in full...)

Why does my husband always defend his mom but won't back me up?

Q.   Hello aunties, The past year has been stressful, hurtful, and downright annoying for me. The reason I am experiencing these emotions is because my husband has been neglecting to acknowledge my feelings but sticks up for other women who are go...

A.   6 November 2015: Great husband you've got, there. WHY don't you dump HIS sorry A$$ and get a better one????? Good luck.... P.S. "Momma's boys can be SO frustrating.... because women believe that he really respects and cherishes woman (a/k/a: his "Momm... (read in full...)

Am I expecting too much wanting affection more than once a week?

Q.   Hi all.... I have a question that Im betting a lot of women have out there. Ive been with my guy for over 3 years now. At first for awhile we had sex ALL the time. But for some reason ( not on me ) it has now become an average of once every 5-6 ...

A.   6 November 2015: From what you've written... there's nothing "wrong" with you.... just a case wherein he has what he wants (You put out when HE wants!!...).... and he doesn't think it makes any difference what YOU want. Is that the kind of guy you want to spend ti... (read in full...)

I'm a selfish idiot but one who needs help!!

Q.   I got married when I was 19 and had two kids by the time I was 22. Also divorced at 22. Rebounded into a relationship with the wrong person for a year and then met my ex 3 years ago. I was 24 she was 19.She is beautiful and has a huge heart. She ...

A.   6 November 2015: YOU behaved like a TOTAL ASSHAT (thank you, Aunts, for that word!).... and you think that SHE is going to accommodate you???? How much of a jerk do you have to be before you realize that you ARE a JERK... and she deserves better??... (read in full...)

My boyfriend broke up with me because I lied to him that I had quit smoking

Q.   My boyfriend [27,M] broke up with me [26,F] 16 days ago because I lied to him about quitting smoking cigarettes, and i have been doing everything in my power to get him back, but he will not take me back. I have texted him everyday constant...

A.   5 November 2015: I believe your B/F acted appropriately.... considering that: 1. YOU KNEW that he didn't like your smoking, 2. You SAID that you would discontinue, and 3. That was a lie, and you DID smoke after claiming you would stop.... IF smoking is his deal... (read in full...)

LDR..who knows to what extent this girl goes to around my boyfriend when I'm not around?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are in a LDR. We are planning to move in together next year. I will move to his State. I'm visiting him this week as it's his birthday. Last night, we went out to a birthday dinner with a group of his friends. In the group is...

A.   5 November 2015: Your "B/F" is testing just how far he can go - behaving as he darn-well knows ISN'T O.K. - before you comment. That can (likely?) will give him ideas on what he can do - when you are out of sight - until you are with him.... nearby... and he will ... (read in full...)

What are my options? My husband has been calling me horrible names and acting like an jerk

Q.   Hi Tonight my husband called me a "f^^^ing lazy c^^t" , says i never want to do anything, and that he was going downstairs, sleeping downstairs and moving downstairs for good. I told him he cannot speak to me that way and if he wants to live dow...

A.   3 November 2015: One more day with this creature is REALLY too long for you to endure..... Take YOUR kids and leave and don't look back... Good luck...... (read in full...)

The necklace... Should I break up with her? Will remaining with her only bring me misery?

Q.   I have been with her for over 4 years. For the first birthday she had during our relationship, I got her a gold necklace with a heart on it, half white gold in the back and gold in the front. She really loved it! For her following birthd...

A.   3 November 2015: This submittal has 'way too much emphasis on a piece of jewelry... and not much substance about what is REALLY going on between the two of you...... IF.... she is predicating your "relationship" upon the baubles which you will - or won't - give t... (read in full...)

No matter what I do, the face of this other guy keeps on intruding into my thoughts. How can I stop this?

Q.   I choose to figure out what went wrong with my marriage that had led me to have an emotional affair with this guy, other than the fact that my husband and I are incompatible. I'd like to believe that I had actually loved him and that I still ca...

A.   29 October 2015: Allowing someone... such as this "other guy".... to have this effect upon you, is like giving him FREE RENT in your cranium. Decide if you WANT him to have that FREE RENT..... and - if you don't (wnat him there).... then EVICT HIM... It's that ... (read in full...)

Does this sound like a marriage of convenience?

Q.   Well, let's see if I can get good advice ^_^ I've known a man, he's English and living in the UK while I'm in the states, for about a year now...this September I went over and stayed with him for a month, came back to the states, and over Skype he ...

A.   28 October 2015: "Why doesn't this make sense to me?????? Because it isn't sensible. Being young, and pursued (by an older man) is a fantastic "drug" which will prevent you from thinking soundly. Read all the advice that you get on here.... then, go out in ... (read in full...)

My lady friend couldn't accept that my wife was in my life and ended things. I miss her!

Q.   Hi People I am married but separated and live alone. My wife and I continue to be friends and I spend a lot of time with her and our 2 girls. Sometimes we share vacations. We go back a long way and I cannot imagine not having her in my life. 6 y...

A.   25 October 2015: You "sound" like an extremely self-centered guy who is incapable of understanding love and relationships.... Do you suppose that YOU would be happy with "you"... if you and your "girlfriend" were to trade places?????? Good luck....... (read in full...)

Which issue could derail us? Our age difference? His drinking? Or his use of drugs?

Q.   Please help me. I really do not know what to do here and I am desperate for advice. My bf and I have been together for 2 yrs now. We live together. My bf is now 27. Before we got together we discussed at great length the age difference an...

A.   25 October 2015: In your submittal, I read at least THREE good reasons for you to dump this character and get on with your life WITHOUT HIM. Can you see what they were? Good luck...... (read in full...)

How do black people find positivity in a world that seems to hate them?

Q.   I'm black and every week I come across a video or article that commentators summarize as "black people are savage, Africans are worthless and the worst thing on the planet". I want to know how other black people find positivity in a world that hates ...

A.   23 October 2015: Ulysses: Where do you live?.... and what media and video do you watch such that you can find this sort of stuff????? I can't remember the last time I saw any such thing..... Good luck...... (read in full...)

I surprised him by doing the housework but he reduced me to tears. Is this guy worth being with?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months. Last night I went over to his house but got there an hour before he did. The house was a mess with dishes and dirty laundry everywhere so I thought as a surprise before he comes home I would clean. (as a ...

A.   23 October 2015: Not only are you not over-reacting.... but, when he made that "...aren't you a woman..." comment, it would have been appropriate for you to have said, "Nope, I'm not a woman.... I'm a stranger, to YOU!!!" and left.... (and never looked back). This ... (read in full...)

I'm second best to my boyfriend's dog!

Q.   Hi my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years we have a 10 month old daughter he has a doberman which he had when we met he has just moved in a few months ago but we have just discovered our daughter has a allergy to the dog now my boyfriend is ...

A.   22 October 2015: You tell him: "I hope you and your dog make a great life in your (separate) living quarters. MY daughter and I will continue living here... where she won't have to endure the distress of being in the company of an ANIMAL who makes her ... (read in full...)

How do I fix that I cheated on my wife and then kept lying about it?

Q.   Over 2 years ago I broke and destroyed my wife's heart by having an affair, at a time when we should have been at our happiest expecting our first child through IVF. On revelation of what happened I cowardly hid the truth in order to save our rela...

A.   22 October 2015: This submittal "sounds" as if you've written it in hopes that SHE will see it... and "understand" just how devastated you are that you breached her faith in you.... THEN... take a week... .and try to understand YOURSELF... and where, how, when you... (read in full...)

Is it okay to date my step dad's godson?

Q.   My mother married a man that she has known for years and he is now my step father.. My step father has a God son and I am attracted to this God son. We have known each other almost 8 months now.. I found out I was pregnant before knowing him ...

A.   22 October 2015: Yep. It's OK..... UNLESS he's your first cousin.... ... (read in full...)

Can I get this girl to like me more?

Q.   I met a girl on an online dating site a few months back. We had a great emotional and intellectual connection and got along great. However, we made the mistake of not meeting quickly enough. So while our connection deepened significantly, we still ...

A.   22 October 2015: "Is there anything I can do, or, if she's not feeling it, she's not feeling it?" You've answered your own "question"..... IF the fish aren't biting, it's unlikely that you can get them to jump in to your boat!!!!! Good luck...... (read in full...)

How will it effect me if I watch my wife giving birth?

Q.   My wife is extreme gorgeous and she is currently 8 months pregnant with our first child. I will admit I was kinda worried about the whole pregnancy thing and how it would effect our sex life but it has only made it better. I am very turned on with ...

A.   21 October 2015: My brother saw his first child born. He told me it was like seeing a bluefish emerge from his (your) wife..... and he proceeded to throw up and leave the room. (He didn't repeat this for his second kid....) Do what you wish... but keep a barf-b... (read in full...)

Why did my ex give up on me? Why does he do things with his fiance that he refused to do with me?

Q.   We dated for three years. He went through some tough times and I was always by his side, helping him and never leaving him. We went through a bad patch, argued every day. He said we needed a short break. He said he will always love me and be there...

A.   21 October 2015: Question(s): " What has this girl done for him? Why does he treat her so much better than me? Why did he break his promises to me? He said he will always be there for me, always care and always love me!! We were suppose to only take a break like ... (read in full...)

My husband has cheated on me and I'm not sure if I should have children or even stay in this marriage

Q.   My husband and I got married 5 years ago. We rushed into marriage after a year of LDR, during which I found out he had a 3 year old kid with somebody else. I believed him telling me he had no relationship with the mother of his child (Ana). A couple ...

A.   21 October 2015: WHY.....???? would you want to spend even another MINUTE with this creature????? You and he seem to have nothing in-common.... except the anguish which HE can visit upon YOU!!! Good luck...... (read in full...)

I need help finding a solution!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I've been with my man for almost a year now and lately we've been speaking about our future in terms of where we may live one day. He used to talk openly about it but lately he seems short with me when I bring it up and I'll explain...

A.   19 October 2015: "The compromise" is to find a CITY (which accommodates his career).... which is near enough to the WATER (coast) - such that your needs are met.... and live somewhere near or between these two places. You don't say where you are. Here in ... (read in full...)

How can I feel like less of a failure towards my Gf?

Q.   I've been with my S/O for five months now and recently found out that this whole time I haven't made her cum. She took my virginity so I understand that I am not super experienced bUT I can't help to feel useless and like a failure. She says ...

A.   16 October 2015: When you included "....She says it's not a problem but I know it is....." I wondered WHOSE problem is it????? Listen to her, and don't try to do her thinking for her... Good luck....... (read in full...)

His ex had big boobs. I have tiny boobs. What chance is there that I can overcome my insecurities over this?

Q.   I just don't know how to feel? My BF and I have an on an off again relationship when we first started I wasn't ready to settle down, yet even though at that time he deserved it. He was so sweet and 100% everything I wanted in a man but I was mu...

A.   16 October 2015: You write: "I feel so ashamed and even embarrassed by my body..." I suggest that you STOP feeling ashamed of your body, and remind yourself just what a great lady you are.... ALL of you... NOT just your boobs... Remember....20 - 30 years from ... (read in full...)

Could it be masturbation causing bad luck

Q.   Could it be Masturbation causing me bad luck?? Im one person who hated wanking n everything those days went on very well. Happened one day when i got some advice form a friend who told me that jerkin yourself helps to last long during sex. De...

A.   15 October 2015: Honeypie: PLUS... if he stops... the hair on his palms will fall out, his vision will improve.... AND he won't go mad.... WHAT OTHER one thing can a person do, in life, and get such rewarding/positive results???????... (read in full...)

Is he thinking of her?

Q.   During sex my boyfriend has always made it important to look in each others eyes. Now after he has cheated when hes on me he looks up or down or above my head. I believe hes thinking of her.am I right?...

A.   15 October 2015: Probably. I have spent the last 50 years believing that I was making out with Carly Simon, any time I get some lucky lady in the sack with me...... Good luck...... (read in full...)

How do I push my bf to leave his parent's house?

Q.   My bf and I have been dating for 3 months now. He is 26 and im 22. We both are very alike, and very much comitted to each other. He even gave me a promise ring. I understand that we are still very new to each other since, we've only been together ...

A.   15 October 2015: I suggest that you be "patient".... IF you and he are destined to be together (live at the same address) in the future... you can wait until such a move comes about more naturally (WITHOUT you're having to force the issue upon the two of you...) ... (read in full...)

Could it be masturbation causing bad luck

Q.   Could it be Masturbation causing me bad luck?? Im one person who hated wanking n everything those days went on very well. Happened one day when i got some advice form a friend who told me that jerkin yourself helps to last long during sex. De...

A.   15 October 2015: You should not worry. Masturbation does NOT cause bad fortunes (luck).... The only effects of masturbation are these: 1. You will find hair growing on the palms of your hands, 2. Your sight will deteriorate until - ultimately - you... (read in full...)

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