Double date with parents! What affection is appropriate?
Q. Hi! I know I ask a lot of questions but I really like having outside opinions from people other than my peers. So anyway here's my situation. So Saturday I am going on "a double date" with my parents. My boyfriend and I and then my parents will ...
A. 22 July 2015: For two hours in a movie theater.... can't you and B/F just "cool it"??... such that the question that you pose... that seeks detailed guidelines... needn't even be considered?
P.S. You can always get a hotel room - just the two of you - afterwar... (read in full...)
I do want him back. We can't seem to break free of each other. What can I do now that it's become a friends with benefits situation?
Q. I'm in love with my ex. We talk several times a week, hook up regularly and have done for more than a year- basically since we broke up. He's cold and distant and at times when we meet up I feel unwanted and like i've become a "friends...
A. 21 July 2015: "He's a simple guy, gives me straight answers, admits when he's slept with other women, says honestly he doesn't love me anymore." (then....) "How do I stop this and either break free or turn it into a relationship again?"
The only "honest"... (read in full...)
Is this rebound sex for an ex-lover or something else? I want to stop seeing him.
Q. SO I have this situation that is a little bit odd, not wanting to be judged, just trying to understand from other people's points of view: SO the back story goes something like this: Six years ago I had a sexual relationship with this guy while my...
A. 21 July 2015: "I agreed to have sex with him to help him get over his ex.
So now it has been going on since....."
Why, oh WHY, have I never been able to find a girl like you?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Are guys generally talkative? Or are talkative guys trying to impress girls?
Q. Hi, I've met a guy a few months ago at a party and he seems to always trying to open a conversation almost everyday lately. He talks a lot non stop and keeps asking me personal questions, and when I ask him a simple question he gives me all the ...
A. 21 July 2015: Unless a guy is obsessed with oral sex.... as long as a girl is putting out for him, he could care if she even has a mouth!!!!! "Talking" is not what (we) men are "about".....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He hasn't officially asked me to be his girlfriend. Are things are on the right track?
Q. I have been seeing this amazing man. He is one of the best men I've ever dated. For the two months we have been seeing each other, his intentions always seemed clear to me and I never pressured him or forced anything out of him. We've met each ...
A. 21 July 2015: You sit him down - informally - sometime... and say to him:
"So.... Hunchy Bunchy.... you like me... and I like you... do you think we are "an item?"
His answer will tell you all you need to know....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I stop worrying about the future?
Q. How can I stop worrying about the future? I graduated with a 2:1 degree last November but in a subject that I don’t want to do anymore and won’t help me get a well paid job (Film). I have goals I want to achieve in the future, me and my boyfriend...
A. 21 July 2015: You can't change the past.... and can only anticipate - and prepare for - the future. All else that you struggle with - mentally - is wasted energy.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why can't I just do what any normal person would do and throw him out?
Q. My partner of 5 year, we've been seeing each other for 8 years and living together for 5 starting chatting with a girl on Twitter I. February. He's 58 and she's 27. I found out by accident in March and it had already got very deep between them. I ...
A. 21 July 2015: "Why can't I just do what any normal person would do and throw him out?...."
You can. And once the pain gets bad enough, you will....
good luck...
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Should I tell him that I'm really 50? I lied on the dating website!
Q. Hi Friends here I have been dating a guy for about 2 months. We see each other every week and text everyday. We originally met each other on a casual dating site...and i guess both of us do not expect that that we are so attracted to each...
A. 21 July 2015: If the age difference is sufficiently important that he will dump you when you "come clean".... then it really wasn't much of a "relationship" after all... was it????
Good luck...
(P.S. My S/O is 10 years my senior.. but, who cares?????)... (read in full...)
I want to date, but I feel stuck in an previous relationship
Q. I was in a relationship for about 2 and a half years. We never really fought, but I never felt he was serious or dedicated. I broke up with him once for a lack of dedication (felt like I was putting in 80% while he put in 20%), got together again, ...
A. 21 July 2015: If "....I am scared I will just keep going back to him for comfort....." means that you and he have sex... then you are really just his available back-up girl, aren't you?
Is that who you want to be?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do I tell my husband about what happened on my night out? Or keep it a secret? Am I being contradictory?
Q. This post seems a bit contradictory to be frank but I need someone to see from my point and I don’t want to be blasted for it either. I will try keep it to points and cut it down as much as I can. I rewind 10 years maybe... My husband was my t...
A. 21 July 2015: Revenge sex is delightfully tasteful, at the moment.... but - ultimately - leaves a very bitter aftertaste that will NOT go away......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can I let go of these guilt feelings when I didn't do anything wrong?
Q. I was in a relationship for about a year and a half with a guy who ended up moving across the country for a job. We broke up due to the strain a long distance relationship caused on both of us. Before we were in a relationship, he felt it was his ...
A. 21 July 2015: Games of "How many (guys) did you sleep with? ... and how many (girls) did I sleep with".... can go on forever, and have little potential for positive results......
When one (of two prospective partners) brings up this subject, it should be a "re... (read in full...)
We broke up. Why is he so keen on me talking to him?
Q. He knew he wanted to break up with me but requested a break. I ended up breaking up with him and he did not put up a fight. This was in may. He keeps coming back and at first I just said I do not want to be friends. I do not want to talk. Leave ...
A. 21 July 2015: We guys think that - no matter how badly we treat a woman - it is really HER LOSS when that final break is made.....
We think that you are probably pining away for us - 24/7 - and in our fits of compassion, we wish to give you another stab at ... (read in full...)
If a woman asks you what is your type is, is she interested in you?
Q. Back at it again! It sucks to be a man and trying to figure out women. With that being said, if a woman asks you what your type is, is she interested in you? After I told her my type she said well i guess i'm your type right? And i asked why ...
A. 21 July 2015: Cheers to you!!! (Did you find out her blood-type?)....... (read in full...)
He says he wouldn't marry a slut and then he calls me one!
Q. What does it mean when a man says he loves sluts like the ones in porn but wouldn't want to marry one' anf then in arguments calls you a slut repeatedly He later claims he didn't mean if and was just angry but I can't seem to get over this and don'...
A. 20 July 2015: You've got a handful of reasons to extricate yourself from this unrewarding relationship and get on with your life... So, follow them....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why can't a man his age be upfront about things?
Q. I recently joined a dating site, match.com, I met a guy who was in his early 50s, I am 40. We met 5 times in all and the last time we met he invited me over to spend the night, he was flirty and I took this as I sign he wanted things to go further,...
A. 20 July 2015: Men don't do "up front." We try to get women to put out... and when they don't (put out quickly enough....as you didn't) we wander off and look for another one........
Don't let it bother you.... since you emerged with your self-res... (read in full...)
I am scared he is saying all this to just sleep with me again and leave me.
Q. Please advise. A year and a half ago I came across my teenage love on facebook. He lost his virginity to me and was really into me. I was not a nice person back then and I broke his heart. So 15 years later I have grown up matured I'm in a c...
A. 17 July 2015: It sounds to me as if you have become his "backup" girl... who he knows he can score with when his "other" girls aren't available....
Don't make yourself available to him..... drop you "he's so delightful" (Pollyanna) glasses and see him for what... (read in full...)
How can I possibly start fun and interesting conversations with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi, So I'm in a relationship and we both seem to be in it for the long term. We used to be super awkward around each other and didn't know what to say. We've gotten a lot better at talking and coming up with conversation but right now we are...
A. 17 July 2015: My suggestion..... When there's this lull in your's (and his) conversation.... you pipe up and say, "Sooo, Hunchy-Bunchy, what's new and interesting?" .... and let that trigger the conversation..
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How is it possible for him to feel aroused, when we were arguing and so angry at each other?
Q. We were in the middle of a heated argument and I noticed he had a hard-on. Later he disclosed that he was so hard he had wanted to rip off my clothes and have sex right then right there. How is it possible to feel that way when you are so angry at...
A. 17 July 2015: Arguing and being sexually aroused are triggered by the same chemicals within one's body... so it's not surprising, what you described...... (read in full...)
If a woman asks you what is your type is, is she interested in you?
Q. Back at it again! It sucks to be a man and trying to figure out women. With that being said, if a woman asks you what your type is, is she interested in you? After I told her my type she said well i guess i'm your type right? And i asked why ...
A. 17 July 2015: Frankly, I'm partial to women who are O-positive.... since I can exchange blood with her (never MIND other "bodily fluids"!!!)....
What say you????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Breaking up was not my choice. Do I tell my current Bf that I have feelings for my ex?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am so confused and would really appreciate any advice. I am currently in a relationship with a really amazing guy. He's kind and funny and treats me the utmost respect. And my parents like him, which is a great bonus. But there is ...
A. 16 July 2015: Ditto, what SVC said.....
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Is it normal that I want to see my girlfriend naked? Should I ask her?
Q. I am 16 and curious to see my girlfriends body. I have been dreaming of seeing her in the nude. I really want to know what she looks like naked. She is so beautiful. I want to ask her, but I want to know. is this normal to ask? Would a girlfrien...
A. 15 July 2015: Yes, it's "normal."
However, asking is much like putting your hand in to an alligator-infested water hazard to retrieve your errant golf ball..... I have been slapped in the face SO MANY times, for asking, that I've become gun-shy... and usua... (read in full...)
Why am I still so angry about his relationship? It feels like he won. What to do?
Q. Several years ago I fell for a good friend I'd had my whole life, but who was living in another country. We began an LDR that lasted 8 months. It ended when he struggled to support me emotionally, as I had some mental health problems at the time...
A. 15 July 2015: I can offer only ONE bit of advice to you:
Choose your battles carefully.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I know we can NEVER be together.. but how do I emotionally detach myself?
Q. How do you detach yourself from someone you know you can NEVER be with? There's this guy I've kind of fallen for and there's no chance of it going anywhere other than friendship so how can I pull away without him really knowing I'm doing so. If he ...
A. 14 July 2015: "I won't say why, but it just won't."
The Aunts and Uncles on this site do not - collectively - have ESP. If you want valid, useful responses.... you've got to come clean.....
What AREN'T you including?????... (read in full...)
I am almost certain my boyfriend is back in touch with his ex, but he won't admit it. How can I know for sure?
Q. I have a strong gut feeling that my boyfriend is in touch with his ex the last couple of days through Facebook. He admitted that he looked up her profile yesterday but He has denied talking to her but I'm 90% sure because I trust my gut feelings ...
A. 14 July 2015: I suggest you give up the concept of " and innocent catchup.." with his ex-..... IF'n he is in-contact with her... then you (and him and your "relationship") is now in a flux that only ends when HE decides what and where HE wants to be....
You c... (read in full...)
My husband is convinced I have cheated on him, but I have been nothing but faithful.. should I stay or should I go?
Q. Help! My husband thinks I have cheated on him. We have been married 9 years and sex was great at first until he started accusing me of cheating because my vagina was too loose, it didn't feel the same.ilove him and have been faithful too him the ...
A. 14 July 2015: You sit him down and say: "Hunchy-Bunchy.... I don't know where you got this obsession with believing that I have not been faithful to you.... BUT, I have (been faithful) and YOU need to come to grips with whether or not you are going to continue ... (read in full...)
Why is he so commitment phobic? Is he frightened of commitment?
Q. I am a 51 year old women who looks quite young for my age. I work as Air Cabin Crew and also as a college lecturer. I met up with my first love a few days ago after not seeing him for over 12 years. He came to me in a dream and I felt it was a ...
A. 14 July 2015: You write: " Surely he will want to settle down." But, in your submittal, you made it perfectly clear that that is not so. IF you "...want to settle down.." this committment-phobe is not the guy to try it with...
Good luck..... (read in full...)
How can I determine and confirm if he just wants sex?
Q. I met a guy online and we talked for a few weeks before having our first date today at a coffee shop. We had a lot in common and he said very sweet things to me, which made me think he liked me. He knew that I was a virgin and that I had never...
A. 14 July 2015: This - which you wrote - contains all the necessary details:
"...I am confused because he seems serious about me, butthe touching makes it seem like he wants sex...."
My interpretation: Yes, he is serious about you.... serious about getting you ... (read in full...)
Guy sending me a girl's photo? Is he trying to make me jealous?
Q. Hello, so here is a guy that I saw at a party then he added me later on social media and talked to me. At first he kept asking normal question and convo lasted for a 15 minutes maximum. He talked to me again after a week or so and also did the...
A. 14 July 2015: Why waste any time with this guy?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Do you think spending time apart can mend this relationship?
Q. I live with my boyfriend of four years lived together two and things the past year have been hard. He has recently told me that he does love me but he has fallen out of love with me and feels the only way to see if we can ever get back to what we ...
A. 14 July 2015: When a guy sez he's "fallen out of love with you..." he's trying to delicately tell you that he's dumping you.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What are my options as far as my cold guy friend? The only time he is affectionate is when we have sex
Q. I have been going out with my bf for 2 years and he has taken me on some lovely holidays but he has never bought me a birthday card or a present although he has bought me Christmas presents. When asked about this he just says that as he pays for...
A. 14 July 2015: You call this creature a "boyfriend?" Please check out the definition of that word before going any further... I think you're mistaken.....
There are much better guys "out there..."
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do I love him or just really miss him? Where do I go from here?
Q. I was very close friends with my co - worker. We got along so well and everyone could see that. We were always messing around and everybody used to make 'lovebird' comments but I never thought anything of it. My thoughts were that we were friends ...
A. 13 July 2015:
Move on........ (read in full...)
Am I seeing this clearly? What can I do? It looks like my boyfriend's mother wants him to emotionally fill her husbands shoes
Q. Hi all, This problem is like a festering wound that will not go away. I feel the relationship between my boyfriend and his mother is a bit unusual sometimes or weird. Now before I go on about what is happening I strongly believe people need to h...
A. 13 July 2015: This creature simply MUST be the ultimate "Mama's boy"....
You've drawn a clear picture of his behaviour.... regarding both his Mother and you....
Decide for yourself if you could/should/would want to endure this for the duration of a "r... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend allowing his parents to control his life?
Q. So...I met this guy online about 7 months ago. We hit it off as soon as we met in person about a month later, and the rest has been history, except for a few insecurities that I am starting to have. He's my age (24..25 this year), and is gr...
A. 13 July 2015: "Saving money" by remaining a dependent child doesn't really make sense... does it?
Challenge your B/F to become adult.... and give him incentive by telling him that YOU will only date an adult.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I do not want to marry or have children. My mother thinks this is an unhealthy attitide
Q. I am someone who does not want to get married or have children and would like to get some input on others who have made this decision. I am not anti social or anything, but I enjoy being and living alone. I work and have friends and go out occas...
A. 13 July 2015: There is really only ONE question which is germaine to the issue. That is: Who is living your life? You? or, your Mother?
The "answer" to that question will tell you the only person whose opinion should mean a whit to you....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I build up the strength to NOT go back to him? His behaviour has been inconsistent and confusing
Q. I need some help finding out how to move on from a terrible, emotionally abusive relationship which has destroyed me. I have been involved with a guy for around eight months. When we first got together, he told me he was kind of involved with so...
A. 13 July 2015: You've described a "player-extraordinaire"..... and ONLY YOU can stop such abuse (of you) from happening in the future.
Reconcile to yourself that this guy is an unable-to-have-a-relationship man-whore. THEN, tell yourself that you are well to ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant. How do I tell the father of my child? We work together, but are not in a relationship together.
Q. I'm expecting my first child and I'm really excited about it. I have always wanted a child since I can remember, and when I found out I was pregnant I was over the moon. My problem is I'm not in a relationship with the father, and apart from a f...
A. 12 July 2015: I suggest you get him alone - outside of earshot of anybody and everybody that you and he know..... and say to him: "You know, Bunky, those few times that we did nik-nik? Welll.... now I am going to be a Mother, and YOU are going to be a ... (read in full...)
His thinks his dog can do no wrong. I can't take much more our relationship, what can I do?
Q. hi everyone this may sound like a silly problem to some people but my boyfriends dog is ruining our relationship heres some background. weve been together for 2 years I have a daughter from a previous relationship she is 3 and a half anyway heres ...
A. 11 July 2015: This one is easy.....
You flip a coin.... if it lands on its edge, you stay with this character; if it lands on one of its flat sides, you dump him (and his dog), take you daughter, and get on with your life, without him....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I continue to hurt the most important person in my life?
Q. Hey all. I'm 23 years old, and I've been sabotaging my life and I want to make it stop. My current ex girlfriend is the love of my life and of that I am absolutely certain. In every aspect of life she is perfect for me. Attraction, mental, fina...
A. 11 July 2015: "Sounds" to me like either of you could have written this submittal.... BUT your guilt got to YOU before she became sufficiently fed up with you to write and submit it....
Why don't the two of you go your separate ways? .... and if fate brings y... (read in full...)
Sex or affection more important? I feel rejected
Q. I'm confused I don't know what's more important affection or sex ? Me and my bf haven't had sex in about a month. I tryed to make the first move than he said no you don't deserve it (we had argued 2 days prior) and this happens frequently he ...
A. 11 July 2015: He's playing a childish "control" game.... and, Lord knows, where it will lead.
Do you want to continue in a "relationship" like this? Or, do you prefer to have a relationship with an actual adult man?
If'n you were my Sister, I'd suggest that... (read in full...)
FWB with a married guy who says his wife is a nightmare yet he refuses to leave her. What do I do? Am I just the "other woman"?
Q. Please bare with me on this, it's a little tricky. Okay, I've recently entered a 'friends with benefits' situation with a friend of mine (we use contraception) but before that we did class ourselves as being in a relationship due to the strong em...
A. 11 July 2015: Here's what I saw when I read your submittal: "Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,....Please help me agony aunts."
Well... I'm an Uncle, not an Aunt.... but my wisdom is great. What I can tell you is that you are chasing a rainbow.... (read in full...)
I need help from girls understanding my crush on my doctor!
Q. hello all, I am a 16 old gurl that went for a doctor visit for 4 times, he is nice, loving and gentle doctor. now and these days, I think about him much and wish to go for a visit. is that normal? am I in love or I love the way he touches me? Please...
A. 11 July 2015: Where were you when I was 16 Y.O. and wanted to play "Doctor" with any girl who would consent to meet me in the back seat of my 1956 Pontiac???? (P.S. None did (consent).)
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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