How long do I support my boyfriend while he has a good for nothing partner in his business?
Q. My boyfriend of over 3 years has been working immensely hard for the last year in setting up his own business. He has gone without a wage for over a year... does not qualify for social welfare even thiugh he earns zero money.we have moved back in ...
A. 16 January 2016: You cannot save your B/F from himself, in the business environment.... Stand by him.... support him... but DON'T think that you should superimpose yourself in the the goings-on between him and his partner....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How long do I wait to contact boyfriend after argument? Its been 4 days......
Q. We've been together 5 1/2 years and I confronted my boyfriend about something he disrespected me about. It was actually a comment he posted on another girls picture on Facebook. Good ol social media causing problems but he apologized and deleted the ...
A. 16 January 2016: "Sounds" to me like you're willing to throw the relationship "under the bus".... because YOU think you should castrate "B/F" for this indiscretion... WHICH in discretion he corrected promptly....
Ask yourself: Is it worth it to dump the entire r... (read in full...)
I've just come out as a lesbian and am not sure how to go about dating
Q. I am a lesbian and I have just come out. I'm trying to find someone but I don't know how. There is multiple parts you this question: A) Is it okay to flirt and get someones number when they are working? For example if you meet somebody in their j...
A. 16 January 2016: Go see the movie "Carol".... and see if that gives you any insight....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why is this woman in my BF's fitness class suddenly jealous of me?
Q. My BF is a group fitness instructor. I take his classes. I am not sure if is paranoia but why all of a sudden - within the last month or so - does this woman in who also takes his class seem very jealous of me and competitive around me? Sh...
A. 16 January 2016: Just scratch her eyes out, and, then, get on with life....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my boyfriend performs oral sex. Do I tell him?
Q. My boyfriend of three years has suddenly been showing an interest in going down on me. It's never been something I've ever brought up, so I guess he just got curious and decided to try himself since I go down on him quite often whenever we're ...
A. 16 January 2016: YES, you tell him.... not in a critical tone... but by telling him what you like best..... and asking him to experiment whilest you offer your feedback....
There's nothing that should be "off the table" when two people are trying to pleasure... (read in full...)
He's hurt and deceived me - please help
Q. Hello everyone. I really need some advice as I'm completely devastated. My boyfriend of 5 years confessed to me about a week ago that he met another woman a couple months back and that he's fallen in love with her. Not only that but my boyfriend is ...
A. 13 January 2016: Believe me.... you are better off without your "B/F". HE has succumbed to the ever-happening... "I expect the grass really IS greener in my neighbor's yard...".... YOU need to let him experience that grass (the other girl)... then, decide for ... (read in full...)
Why would a married man keep in touch with his mistress while on vacation with his wife?
Q. Why does a married man who is on vacation with his wife keep in constant touch with his mistress while he is away? And tells her he misses her and can't wait to be with her again?...
A. 12 January 2016: Because some men are unbelievably flagrant a$$holes....... (read in full...)
But why the sudden blanking...what does it mean?
Q. I split up with my ex a year and a half ago. It was pretty messy he ended up going to prison for being an idiot, all alcohol related. He has a problem with alcohol. It was over because I couldn't deal with the stress of it anymore. We didn...
A. 11 January 2016: "He said he loves me and wants to be with me forever. I have texts to prove it as well."
All he says... and all the texts... "prove" only that he knows how to keep you on the hook.....
Think long and hard about what is REALLY going on between... (read in full...)
If my ex tries to talk to me, should I listen, or stay with the new partner?
Q. Met someone new, three dates, going great, showing me more then my ex did, but am still in love with my ex. In my past, this has happened, more then once, when things were really starting to be great with the new one, my ex would pop back in the p...
A. 10 January 2016: A buddy of mine once told me this story about changing partners:
You DON'T jump from one ship to another, during stormy seas. You have to jump IN TO THE WATER.... then go over to the new ship and be hauled aboard....
OK?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is a puppy just as much work as a baby?
Q. I recently got a puppy, and a friend of mine who has a baby told me she heard a puppy is just as much work as a baby. Now, she's never had a puppy, and I've never had a baby. Can someone who has had the experience with both please tell me if this is ...
A. 8 January 2016: In my experience, they're pretty much EXACTLY the same.... They make noise all night long... and that can keep you awake.... They poop at the LEAST opportune times, in the most embarrassing of places.... AND they frustrate you as you try to train ... (read in full...)
Does a cheater cheat on everybody they are with and are they always cheating with multiple partners at once?
Q. Everybody always says cheaters are cheaters and will cheat on everybody they are with. Like it's gospel. So if you are with a man who has cheated on a partner in the past, it seems to be guaranteed he will do the same to you. Is this right? A...
A. 8 January 2016: Think of it this way. When a guy is NOT a cheater.... and sez that he loves you and wants to be with you.... he writes those words on a clay tablet, and heats it (the tablet) in his kiln.... and it's forever......
When he IS a cheater.... (read in full...)
Should I continue to carry on with this married man? Or walk away?
Q. I met a guy last year and we clicked instantly.as we got to talking he told me he asked if I was single and I said yes. He told me he was married but wars us to have a relationship.he told me his wife is in another country and doesn't live with ...
A. 7 January 2016: "... should I carry on like he says or end it?"
End it. This guy is no "catch".... (look what he's doing to his WIFE... with you!!!!)
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is going on a trip without me and I resent him for it. How can I get past this?
Q. My boyfriend loves to travel and has travelled extensively before we met. He is going on a 2 week trip to Spain next week. It's a place he has always wanted to visit. I cannot go due to it being my busy time at work. I told him to hold off and we ...
A. 4 January 2016: This sentence: "... I think his going on this trip shows how little he cares about me and how little he is truly invested in our 2 year relationship." Why not ask HIM if this is, in fact, correct?
Sometimes, we project on to others how we o... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 5 years has been cheating and left me for the other woman. I'm not coping well!
Q. My long term boyfriend of 5 years completely destroyed me tonight. He and I have been having some problems the last couple weeks but tonight he decided to end it. He confessed to having been cheating on me for a month and ultimately was going...
A. 4 January 2016: It's usually crushing for a couple to break up. ONE is usually more affected than the other.... in this case, it's YOU..... AND he is less affected because he has already moved on.....
Chalk this up to a relationship having run its course..... (read in full...)
Threesome with my boyfriend and another woman has left me confused
Q. My boyfriend and i had a threesome with my best friend while drunk, this was his and mine first and hopefully last threesome together, it was my idea and I've apologized to him because of past relationships where the man cheated on me and i don't ...
A. 4 January 2016: Make it the last threesome that you ever have..... and THEN decide if - or, that - you want to remain friends with B/F and BFF.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I slowly heal from this and let him go and move on. What should I do when he reels me in ?
Q. I been seeing this guy while going thru separation . He and I worked together for 3 months or so. He used to be in to me until we started sleeping together then he slowedly distancing and emailing and texting me every 3 or 4 days. Then he always ...
A. 4 January 2016: Listen to Honeypie....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Are we just friens after spending the night together?
Q. Me and this guy became friends a few months ago. Neither of us have ever showed interest in being more than friends verbally. He has made statements explicitly saying we are just friends. However lately when we hang out we end up cuddling, spending ...
A. 4 January 2016: It's more.... and, it's only a matter of time before more good stuff starts to happen...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is moving in with me next week and now I'm having all these doubts
Q. After a disastrous relationship before and subsequently staying single for the last 6 years, im now in secure relationship of a year but im scared and having trouble dealing with my emotions. Im naturally very independent and really enjoyed my time ...
A. 4 January 2016: DON'T bring in a new "boyfriend" until you're SURE that he is 'the one"......
Good luck..... (read in full...)
LDR boyfriend has been seeing his ex the 3 years we have been dating. Advice please?
Q. Have been in a relationship/known a man for 3 years. It's different to other relationships I've had and hasn't always been straightforward. Despite all that has happened, I do genuinely love him and feel a connection with him. My main issue is th...
A. 4 January 2016:
Are you content to be "Number One"....with an asterisk (*)
If "yes," then you are just where you need to be... OTHERWISE.... you need to ask "Hunchey-Bunchy" if YOU are "number one".... or, is SHE?????
The answer to that question will tell y... (read in full...)
Boyfriend stopped speaking and I don't know why
Q. Hi everyone. I dont know what to say to my boyfriend he hasnt spoken to me all week, We've been together 6 months ,we dont live together and had no problems before he went silent on me. Ive asked him if theres a problem but he hasnt replied. I didnt ...
A. 2 January 2016: I wouldn't waste my time..... Seems that HE is done with the "relationship" that the two of you had.... and nothing you can do is going to resurrect the the dead "relationship."
Good luck....
P.S. By "reaching out" to him.... you will... (read in full...)
Do other people enjoy being spanked?
Q. Is this normal ? My wife has a birthday in December and enjoys an annual thing, which is a good spanking!! This year on the night of her b'day I was in the shower and came out to her on all fours on the bed with a paddle next to her and she said ...
A. 2 January 2016: Doesn't this reflect back to those days when we were kids and, on one's birthday, they got one spank for every year?
Anyways..... she's playful.... so don't disappoint her.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm hurt and feel disrespected because of the way my husband kept looking at a woman all night
Q. Went out new years eve to a hotel party. The hotel asked when we booked a while back if we minded sitting with other people, we said thats ok as we were by ourselves just hubby and me. Found that we were sitting with other couples and there ...
A. 2 January 2016: If he's smart, he'll take you up on the divorce. NO marriage is "worth it" that one of the partners can escalate such a trivial matter to ".. I want to divorce.."
Been there; done that.... (and initiated the separation, myself....).
Good lu... (read in full...)
Is my guy having an emotional affair with this girl he calls his "friend"?
Q. I'm really needing some honest opinions as I don't know who to turn to. The last month has been hell for me because of the problems in my relationship with my boyfriend of 4 years. I truly believe my boyfriend has been having an emotional aff...
A. 2 January 2016: Guys claim that ".... it's completely innocent and she's just a friend..." up until we get the (other) lady naked, in bed....
You are wise to question this.... because we guys believe that we have bamboozled you with that explanation (above).... (read in full...)
How can we resolve this? Our obsessions with each other's pasts is ruining our relationship!
Q. I have the most amazing fiance who is a lovely man and is very good to my son from a previous relationship. We arent usually jealous people but for some reason we have both developed unhealthy obsessions with who else each other has slept with. ...
A. 2 January 2016: Your relationship can only continue IF you and he sit down and agree to a "truce".... wherein you BOTH agree that whatever happened in the past IS in the past.... and does not besmirch who the two of you are now.... AND cannot be changed.
Once ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I broke up. How can I get through this?
Q. I was in a relationship for 4 years and we were engaged to get married in the summer of 2016. I really loved him I was so looking forward to marrying my best friend. We talked about children often, and he was just my whole world. Every time ...
A. 2 January 2016: When a guy finds out that there are OTHER girls "out there" (besides our dedicated G/F).... then something happens... who knows what?? ... complications in our testosterone system? .... confusion in our cranium?//
Whatever..... we (guys) very oft... (read in full...)
Our relationsip has gone stale. Any ideas?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 5 years. For the past 2 years, our conversations have declined to the point where we don't even hang out any more because all we do is sit in silence. And that is kind of weird don't you think? If we do talk ...
A. 2 January 2016: "Sounds" to me as though you are simply (and, only) a convenient sex-partner for this guy. He has learned that HE can control matters by way of the silence that is frustrating you. With true love.... and a relationship.... that is not part of ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend breaks up then texts me, wants to have sex and then blows me off!
Q. So my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me almost a month ago because he believed a relationship was not his best interest and I deserved better but still wanted us to be friends. It was a very emotional break up for the both of us. However, ...
A. 30 December 2015: Guys will do just about ANYTHING to get a girl to remove her clothes and put out for him....
Does that give you a better view of what he wants?????
Good lukc...... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my LDR boyfriend trust me?
Q. I m in a relationship with this guy and it had been 2 years. We love each other More then our lives. This is a long distance relationship. He is really possessive. I don't use any social networking because of him and I m fine with it. I don't talk ...
A. 30 December 2015: You can't "make him" trust you. If he doesn't, then he doesn't (trust you). The only question is, can YOU endure being associated/affiliated with a guy who questions your trustworthiness????? If "yes," then keep on with him... and keep asking ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make my LDR boyfriend trust me?
Q. I m in a relationship with this guy and it had been 2 years. We love each other More then our lives. This is a long distance relationship. He is really possessive. I don't use any social networking because of him and I m fine with it. I don't talk ...
A. 29 December 2015: You can't "make him" trust you. If he doesn't, then he doesn't (trust you). The only question is, can YOU endure being associated/affiliated with a guy who questions your trustworthiness????? If "yes," then keep on with him... and keep asking ... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend suddenly gone nasty?
Q. my boyfriend has been letting me down a lot recently so i told him i was having a week to myself to clear my head he said he was fine with this . i messaged him on facebook today (a week later) and could see he had read the message 2 hours later he...
A. 26 December 2015: Who cares who "dumps" whom.... the DUMPER or the DUMPEE.. what difference does it make? IF the budding "relationship" is doomed, it's doomed...... No more assessments or considerations necessary.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
What good excuse can I give my bf ?
Q. My bf and I have been dating for 6 months. I am on vacation right now with my mom, because she just retired. My bf didnt want me to go on vacation, but I had to because my mom had purchased the airplane tickets and everything before I even me...
A. 26 December 2015: WHY "make an excuse?"
You simply say to "bf": "I'm on vacation with my Mother. This was planned well in advance... even before you and I met.... and I plan to finish it out.... AND I expect YOU to understand what is going on... and be conte... (read in full...)
My girlfriend suddenly wants sex all the time and I can't handle it!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years, and we have had a pretty healthy sex life, we used to have it like 3 times a day, but since we have actually gotten serious into the relationship, I don't need it as much, I so we have it like once a ...
A. 26 December 2015: Well, anonymous female, here's an open invitation to come visit me, any time you are feeling stressful!!!! P.S. It's warm, here in Florida, these days!!!!!
S.O.G.... (read in full...)
My mother passed away today, and I feel like a bad son!
Q. My mother past away today, she was 84, she been in bad health all year, she is in a better place now, but am I a bad son, my girlfriend broke up with me , three weeks ago, am thinking about her more, I love my mom, but my heart is broken, over a ...
A. 25 December 2015: Time to make a cup of Earl Grey tea..... and sit for about 2 hours and think about this question.... The answer may appear as early as 45 minutes after your first sip (of the tea)....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My girlfriend suddenly wants sex all the time and I can't handle it!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years, and we have had a pretty healthy sex life, we used to have it like 3 times a day, but since we have actually gotten serious into the relationship, I don't need it as much, I so we have it like once a ...
A. 25 December 2015: To the anonymous female who is listed just below me:
I have lived my ENTIRE LIFE trying to find a woman who dispels her stress by having nik-nik. Heck, I'd be quite content to find a woman who is content to have nik-nik because there is oxygen i... (read in full...)
Should I walk away from a man who is 90% perfect for me?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in the end of October. We were arguing a lot. He says I'm too aggressive. As a native New Yorker I do have an edge. He's from the country with a very carefree laid back attitude. Our lease was up in December. We decided ...
A. 24 December 2015: 1. Are we kidding ourselves? You may be kidding yourself.... can't speak for him.
2. Can this relationship ever work? Could, depending on the answer to No 3.
3. How can I be with someone who refuses to compromise? Depends if, by "compromise",... (read in full...)
Am I being disrespected or did I misunderstand him completely?
Q. Hi to the people of Dear Cupid, I have been seeing a guy for the past 4 years. We are really serious about each other. Around 6 months ago, he moved some 300 miles away for a new job. This was really important for him, as he was unemployed for a...
A. 24 December 2015: What a f**king cheapskate. You can do better than this cretin....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Does he love me even if he hasn't taken me to his place?
Q. I have bn with my bf for 3 months now and he has a two year old daughter. I jst recently discovered his ex was pregnant and he admited. He stil chose to be with me bcoz of the love we share but my concern is I have never been to his house. He has bn ...
A. 24 December 2015: Yes.... you're being a fool. He is using you, and you choose not to see it....
Goodluck..... (read in full...)
My girlfriend suddenly wants sex all the time and I can't handle it!
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years, and we have had a pretty healthy sex life, we used to have it like 3 times a day, but since we have actually gotten serious into the relationship, I don't need it as much, I so we have it like once a ...
A. 24 December 2015: You write: "...but since we have actually gotten serious into the relationship, I don't need it as much..."
HOW IRONIC IS THAT?????? SHE busted her ass.... not to mention that she sold her integrity.... to "land" you... and NOW.... you are ... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my wife or go off with my soul mate?
Q. My question is should I stay with my wife and have a routine life or go and be with someone who I believe is my soulmate. I have tried hard to make my marriage work and my wife is a very decent person but I feel as though I am living with a sister ...
A. 24 December 2015: Did you used to be the Governor of South Carolina?????... (read in full...)
What do I do? Find a passionate partner? Or go for a comfortable existence?
Q. I'm in real trouble, I'm in my mid twenties now and final year of uni, I have a brilliant girlfriend of a year and a half. She's really nice and clever, come from a great family very well raised. We would have a brilliant life together if we ever ...
A. 23 December 2015: Ironically, all you need to know about this situation is within your submittal. To wit:
"My question is, what should I do?" and, "...but I want to have my cake and eat it."
Those two comments are totally incompatible... so YOU have to deci... (read in full...)
Confrontation. Was it right to not confront him? Does it seem as if I didn't stand up for myself?
Q. I dated a guy for 2 months then he stopped responding to my messages one day. I didn't confront him about it or anything, I was actually about to be going on a trip so I didn't have time for the drama. 2 weeks later while I'm on my trip he tells me ...
A. 23 December 2015: Sometimes, fading quietly in the the backdrop is the smartest thing to do. THIS is one of those times....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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