Confrontation. Was it right to not confront him? Does it seem as if I didn't stand up for myself?
Q. I dated a guy for 2 months then he stopped responding to my messages one day. I didn't confront him about it or anything, I was actually about to be going on a trip so I didn't have time for the drama. 2 weeks later while I'm on my trip he tells me ...
A. 23 December 2015: Sometimes, fading quietly in the the backdrop is the smartest thing to do. THIS is one of those times....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
We "click" but he's married! Did I do the right thing?
Q. Hello. Thank you in advance for reading this. My dilemma is that I met a man with whom I have a strong connection, understanding and physical attraction....but unfortunately he is married with 2 children. We met via a study forum and met ...
A. 22 December 2015: May I comment on a couple of phrases in your submittal?
"... and physical attraction...." That is "lust".. that uncontrollable something that infects ones loins when he/she sees - and can get close to - someone who they find (sexually) attracti... (read in full...)
How can someone change so much so fast? I think it's his mother and his friends influencing him!
Q. He has changed so much in the past year, I do not even recognize him. When we met we were both in college but he was getting ready to graduate. He was a huge nerd always playing Magic the Gathering, and he was very sweet. He had like a 1930's cl...
A. 22 December 2015: Who CARES (why he changed)?????? If he did.... then take that as your cue to get away from him, stay away from him, and get on with your life.
This "Momma's Boy" who you describe is NO "catch"....
You can do MUCH better.....
M... (read in full...)
His staring at other women is driving me crazy!
Q. Hi everyone hope someone can help I've been with my boyfriend for 3 year we have a 1 year old baby together the problem is I know all men look at women but my boyfriend pushes it to the limit a woman can't walk past him without him drooling over her ...
A. 21 December 2015: You can continue to endure your angst... Or, you can continue to have a "boyfriend".....
I once dated a girl - similar to you - who told me that the only acceptable way to be near - in eyesight of - a woman was to look away.... I asked her, "yo... (read in full...)
Why is he spending so much time with me if he doesn't want me? What should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm sorry for the long post but I could really use some advice. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me recently but we still act like we are a couple. I want to still be with him and I've told him that. But he has said that w...
A. 18 December 2015: IF you and he are still being intimate... then "the answer" is clear. He won't part from you as long as you are sexually available to him.... REGARDLESS if he is seeing other women......
IF you and he are NOT sharing intimacy... then he is a pec... (read in full...)
Can I trust him? maybe I shouldn't even be with him?
Q. Often times we are advised not to judge our boyfriends based on his past... But I wonder, isn't it important to have a general idea of his past relationships and how he has handled them? Wouldn't having this insight give me an idea of his characte...
A. 18 December 2015: Guys love it when they can get a girl to put out for them with absolutely no "conditions"..... Like, being in love, or believing that their intimacies are the beginning of a life together.
Your boy hasn't shown himself to have much (any?) i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend suggested an open relationship
Q. Hi I'm a 22 and so is my boyfriend. One year ago, at the beginning of our relationship I felt loved, wanted and I trusted him. I loved giving bjs, he loved receiving them and we had sex several times a day. Now it's a bit different. He...
A. 18 December 2015: This guy has "fallen out of love" with you.... so, to keep your (own) sanity.... get away from him now.... stay away from him.... and get on with your life.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
The lack of sex in our relationship is taking a toll
Q. I am a man in my early 40s in a long term relationship that I have been in for 20 years. We have 2 children, 1 mid and 1 late teens. After the birth of our second child my partner developed a physical problem which meant that sex was painful....
A. 17 December 2015: There are four options available to you and her:
1. Continue as you have... you = miserable; her = indifferent to your suffering.
2. Some miracle happens, and she becomes "sexual" again,
3. You ask her... and she consents... that you may... (read in full...)
We've been on 5 or 6 dates but he still won't add me to Facebook
Q. I've been on about 5-6 dates with this guy who I met on online dating. At the moment it seems to be going really well. He makes the most to see me in his spare time, even if he has other plans, he'll try and fit in seeing me.. He's taken me on lo...
A. 17 December 2015: Is "..he hasn't added me on Facebook..." a condition of him liking you?????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
If nothing is changing on his part, then what do I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. When he's not at work, he's either playing video games, watching sports, or with friends. This has become a problem in our relationship because we barely spend any quality time together. I've been to...
A. 14 December 2015: "He tries to reassure me that he loves me and things will change, but they never do"
Nothing is going to "change" as long as you tolerate his boorish behaviour (not at all like a "boyfriend")....
"...nothing is changing on his part, what do I ... (read in full...)
Do breasts get bigger by being touched?
Q. hi....last time i went for a date with my boyfriend and while kissing he alys touches my brest and now i feels like my brest getting bigger so does the brest become bigger when touched?...
A. 11 December 2015: BUT!.... on the other hand..... it doesn't hurt to have them massaged a little, now and again.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is there a time limit on falling in love? If so, does it come to a point where you may have to give up?
Q. Hi guys, I am going to try and keep this as minimal as I can. Me and my partner have both just turned 23, finished university last year and living with family. Now, we have been dating since June 2014, known each other for 23 months. We st...
A. 10 December 2015: There question here is, do you think there is a time limit on falling in love?
Yes..... it shouldn't take more than 15 minutes. If you don't know by then..... then you may conclude that it ain't gonna happen....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Will my Bf be disappointed when he discovers that I am only a B cup?
Q. Hi all! I'm a 18 year old female Virgin. I have recently got a boyfriend (3months now) which is wonderful. I'm really self conscious about my b cup breasts as I feel they look too small so I wear a padded push up bra. I wear them whenever I'm in p...
A. 10 December 2015: Yes.,..... remove the pads... be a good girlfriend... and be happy that you've found a great guy for a boyfriend. Boobs - especially large ones - are 'way overrated!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Not over her, yet. How can I stop comparing every girl I date to my first love??
Q. Its been 2.5 years since my last girlfriend left me for her high school love. We dated for over a year and she was the best girlfriend I ever had. She was perfect in all ways and for the first time the spark was there till the last week she dumped ...
A. 10 December 2015: I've been in the same predicament that you describe for the last 47 years. If you find any cure.... or anything that mitigates the pain... please let me know.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a fetish for bald guys. Should I shave my head for her?
Q. I used to notice that my girl liked to check out older guys when they walked past her, before I realized it was actually guys with clean shaven heads that she has this weird thing for. She said she found bald guys really hot. Well I found it weeeird ...
A. 10 December 2015: Clearly, she is suffering from "Baldus, putoutis".... which means that she has a phobic preference for bald guys.
There is no known treatment for this condition.... so the only thing a guy can do... if he wants her to put out for him... i... (read in full...)
I love my husband but will he actually change and put his family as a priority?
Q. hello, not sure how to start but im desperate for some advice...... im in my 20's married to an squaddie (army) we been married two years and in those two years have moved around 3 times with the army. I have a 6year old from a previous ...
A. 10 December 2015: Guys don't "change"..... they are who they are... and - if you hoodwinked yourself in the first place (about who he was) then you have to swallow hard and admit that you've made a mistake...... Face up to it...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I found an unused condom in my dad's car. Is he cheating on my mom?
Q. It breaks my heart to know i found an unused condom in the back of my dad car....is he cheating on my mom...God that is gross....
A. 10 December 2015: Any chance that your BROTHER used the car for a date?... and he encountered some TART????
Goood luck..... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't have alot of time for me. She says take it or leave it
Q. Haven't heard from my girlfriend in three days, don't know why, we get along real good I thought, she is a busy person with work ,an working out, paladies,her dogs, about five months in the relationship, I treat her like a princess, every one says ...
A. 10 December 2015: I suggest that you "leave it." Sounds like she isn't much in to you.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My husband and escourts..he claims he just looks at them, nothing else
Q. I found out recently that my husband of 9 yrs (we have young kids) has been seeing escorts and of course he is denying sleeping with them. 11 months ago, he says he started "looking into" escorts because his close friend was coming into town and ...
A. 10 December 2015: Sure..... and it don't snow in Minneapolis in the winter time.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Will it be a huge turnoff to girls to find out I'm a virgin?
Q. To begin things im just gonna say that im a virgin...well i had girlfriends before but im kind of the emotional attachment old school kind of guy so i dated a girl for 6 months and still didnt have sex. Even though i dated i always respected a girl ...
A. 10 December 2015: I routinely brag to girls that I am a virgin.... hoping (against hope) that they will take pity on me and want to be my "first"....
So far, it hasn't worked.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do I approach his relationship with the nanny?
Q. After our second year of marriage, I went back to work after the birth of our child. With the both of us at work, we decided to hire a nanny. The nanny who was fresh out of college at the time, is an attractive girl but I never cared because ...
A. 10 December 2015: ".what should I do?" Not a damn thing....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Where was this version of him when I was dating him?
Q. So I dated my ex boyfriend for 4 years. It was a terrible relationship. He had anger issues, and cheated on me here and there. He's really tall, 6 foot 5, very intimidating. Girls wanted him, guys wanted me, it was constant fighting, verbal a...
A. 10 December 2015: You can't..... so forget it...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I cope with a Boyfriend who is emotionally closed off to me?
Q. Hi hope someone can help my boyfriend is very closed off emotionally We've been together nearly 2 years we never argue and in the summer he moved in with me but the problem is he has never told me he loves me or never shows me any affectio...
A. 7 December 2015: When someone doesn't tell you that they love you... especially, if/after you've told them that you love him or her...... then, LISTEN TO THEM!!!!
BT/DT....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is it all my fault because I didn't tell him I wanted a serious relationship?
Q. So I really like this guy and he used to really like me but now I'm feel so sad that I have lost him forever. We first hit off and the meeting was quite magical. When we started conversing over the phone, he asked me if I wanted to mess around w...
A. 6 December 2015: Guys will say ANYTHING - I repeat, ANYTHING - to get a girl to put out for them. Makes no difference if there is ANY truth to - or, behind - what they are saying....
You, are learning this now. Secure the details in your memory, and don't fa... (read in full...)
Am I legally entitled to have that car back in my possession?
Q. Hi everyone, After 2 years of being with my boyfriend, I fear that things between us are coming to an end. For multiple reasons that I won't go into, I am very close to calling it quits, I can't keep going on like this. My real questions is...
A. 6 December 2015: See a "family" lawyer and learn exactly what are (and aren't) your entitlements....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
We are to be married in 2 weeks but are fighting about his ex and his socializing
Q. I'm getting married in two weeks. My fiance and I have been arguing alot lately. He throws a tantrum and pouts for days. The last argument was because his ex keeps contacting him and he just wants to ignore her but I want him to tell her to leave ...
A. 5 December 2015: Frankly, your wedding "not happening" might be the best to happen, after all.
You and he need to learn just who you are to one-another... and how your marriage is going to work. What you described (behaviour) sure didn't read "marriag... (read in full...)
I went out on dates with 3 guys, I like them all, they like me and I don't know which one to choose!
Q. Hey, so I'ma college freshman, 18, and new to relationships. I've been looking for something more serious and so my friend told me to go on some dates. I went on three, expecting one of them to be the obvious choice. However, all three of them went ...
A. 5 December 2015: Choose the one with the largest bank account balance...
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I went out on dates with 3 guys, I like them all, they like me and I don't know which one to choose!
Q. Hey, so I'ma college freshman, 18, and new to relationships. I've been looking for something more serious and so my friend told me to go on some dates. I went on three, expecting one of them to be the obvious choice. However, all three of them went ...
A. 4 December 2015: Choose the one with the largest bank account balance...
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My boyfriend expects me to pay for him!
Q. I'm confused. My current boyfriend with whom I'm in a LDR with for over a year seems to be the kind of guy who is used to his girlfriend buying him things and paying for things/meals. This is the first boyfriend (I've had 4 BFs) or guy I know that ...
A. 3 December 2015: This "relationship" is 'way out of balance.....
SURE he sez he "...loves you a lot..." (AND acts like that, too...) What sane guy wouldn't do that, if he'd found a woman (you, in this case) who will pay his way, AND give him a "pass" for being a ... (read in full...)
He broke a cup I gave him, but has chosen to not replace it. Should I let this upset me so much?
Q. I bought my hubby a cup with the words, love you more then shoes on it. He accidently broke it and said he would get another but he still hasnt. it hurts me that he hasnt replaced it and it shows he doesnt care. I've reminded him to get it and s...
A. 3 December 2015: Talk about "making a mountain out of an anthill"!!!!!!
I think your submittal 'says" 'way more about you than it does your's and hubby's marriage....
Think about this (and the opinions given before me).... and see if you might let this p... (read in full...)
Husband took out loans behind my back. How can I ever trust him again?
Q. Found out my other half took out loans behind my back last year without telling me. Said we needed the money but he never told me. Thinks its ok that he kept it from me and wonders why i'm shocked at what he done. He talks about trust but how ca...
A. 3 December 2015: Before you draw any conclusions about what he did... .and why.... it might be a good idea to suggest a sit-down discussion.... without any pre-conceptions.... and hear what he has to say.
Perhaps he'll surprise you with some sort of reasonab... (read in full...)
Can I tame this player?
Q. Hi. I’m a 23 year old girl and I’m falling head over heels for a boy at my university. The problem is he’s a real player and sleeps around A LOT. But could he be relationship material? He’s literally all I can think about lately. He’s 21 and ha...
A. 1 December 2015: You may get in line with the ooodles of other women who have become smitten with guys who aren't who they want (them) to be.... and they're SURE that they can bring him around (read: CHANGE HIM) to just who they want him to be...
Please be sure ... (read in full...)
I'm more in love than her should I stay or should I go?
Q. I Love my wife very much but she does not love me like I love her. She says she may never love me that way again. Should I just walk away? It hurts to love someone who won't love the same....
A. 28 November 2015: When there's a mismatch such as you describe.... then the "relationship" (or, in your case, the marriage) is over.... so the best you can do is cut your losses....
BT/DT,
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Men, can you be turned off a woman and lose attraction, based on one thing she said ?
Q. Hello! There's a man that i serve every day at work, I really like him, and he seems to like me too- we just smile and sort of gaze at each other, even when we're not saying anything, and he does seem shy and quite nervous but tries to initiat...
A. 27 November 2015: If she (you) said something like, "Damn, that f**k*ng guy is the cheapest skinflint I've ever known. He never tips me more than 3%, even tho' I'm all over him giving him good service..." Then maybe something you said was responsible. HOWEVER... ... (read in full...)
How often is a partner in a relationship likely to come home drunk? His actions are causing me concern
Q. Hi all, for those cohabiting and/or married, how often does your partner come home drunk? My boyfriend comes home drunk once a month. We've been living together for half a year. He reaches home around 3,4am, reeks of alcohol and is terribly inco...
A. 27 November 2015: If he NEVER - or RARELY - comes home sober... then you know he has a drinking/alcohol problem..... By then, you should be living elsewhere and have another boyfriend.
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why do I stay when he never uses my name?
Q. Hi everyone I just need a bit of advice. I have been going with my boyfriend for about 2 years. He secretly goes dancing without me although he knows I would love to go too, and he never calls me by my name although I ask him if he can remember ...
A. 27 November 2015: Does he call you by some "pet" name... like "Hunchy-Bunchy" or "Sweety-Poo"????? If "yes," that's because he's concerned about slipping and calling you by one of his OTHER girls' name whilest you and he are together.
The only "solution" is for y... (read in full...)
I'm married to a narcissistic verbal abuser
Q. I am married to a narcissistic verbal abuser and bully. My husband ostracized me from his children and their mother from a previous relationship. It's like I'm his dirty little secret not his wife. He is always giving me the silent treatment. W...
A. 27 November 2015: As I see it... the ONLY question you face is: How long will you put up with this mistreatment?
The answer to that question will give you the date when you should move out and tell this creep to take a hike...
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been trying to meet up with another woman
Q. So, I've been in a relationship with someone for about a year and a half mostly online. Up until recently it has been completely virtual. I went to visit him in the summer and we hit it off eventhough he was a bit....forward. Recently (Septemb...
A. 27 November 2015: There is one important phrase in your submittal: "... He has had a rough life and I know he wants to change..."
Tell him that - once he's done with that (he's changed) - he can take another shot at you. Not, until then...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'm 67, she's 54 and she thinks I'm too old for her
Q. I am 67 year old man, widowed and I have met a 54 year old lady but she thinks I am to old for her. We have gone out several times and I feel like I am in love with her. But she thinks that I am too old for a relationship with a woman her age. ...
A. 27 November 2015: You can't. If SHE thinks that the age difference is a "deal-breaker"..... then it is.
Suck in hard, puff out your chest and say (to yourself): "OK... she and I won't become an item.... but I'll keep looking for a girl who deserves me...." ... (read in full...)
Was my husband addicted to talking n texting escorts while on the other side showing. Blissfully happy husband
Q. Please give me some advice. My husband and I have been happily married for eight years . We are very close we talk about everything we have a great relationship our sex life is great. In fact I usually want to have sex more than once a week and ...
A. 21 November 2015: Shocked: Following his lay-off, your previously-terrific hubby got a chance to do what most guys will do with unregimented time.... they (we) use it to chase OTHER girls (our wife or Girlfriend, notwithstanding).....
Unfortunately, that leaves y... (read in full...)
Has my boyfriend gone off of me? Do I leave him alone?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend for nearly a year, everything is going really well, we’re going on holiday in a few weeks’ time. It’s going at a good pace, we get on and see each other every weekend, however he’s gone cold on me…. I saw him last wee...
A. 21 November 2015: You are working too hard to make this budding relationship advance and become deeper. It makes you look like you are chasing him....
Guys react to chasing in one of two ways:
1. They take advantage of you.... by being chameleon boyfri... (read in full...)
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