I need help from girls understanding my crush on my doctor!
Q. hello all, I am a 16 old gurl that went for a doctor visit for 4 times, he is nice, loving and gentle doctor. now and these days, I think about him much and wish to go for a visit. is that normal? am I in love or I love the way he touches me? Please...
A. 11 July 2015: Where were you when I was 16 Y.O. and wanted to play "Doctor" with any girl who would consent to meet me in the back seat of my 1956 Pontiac???? (P.S. None did (consent).)
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How do I deal with problems with my mom?
Q. My mother always disagrees with things I say. If she's having an issue with something she'll ask me and then I'll tell her what I think but then we end up arguing about it. She then goes, maybe weeks or days later, to ask my 2 brothers(I'm the only ...
A. 11 July 2015: What you do is say to yourself: "What difference does it make, what she thinks and/or says...."
If necessary, write that on a note card.... keep it in your wallet... and.... anytime you get in the mood and/or position you were when you wrote th... (read in full...)
He has a Gf and they are expecting a baby. I do miss him. Should I proceed to reconnect with him?
Q. I'll try to make this short and sweet. About 4/5 years ago I started dealing with a high school friend. We were dealing with each other for a little over 2 years when I found out he had a girlfriend. Who turned out to be a girl we went to school ...
A. 10 July 2015: Two suggestions:
1. " I just don't know what to do or how I should proceed if at all."..... Don't proceed. AND, if you get weak and plan to do so.... remember:
2. "What he did to me was dirty and inconsiderate." And keep repeating this t... (read in full...)
Do we all have a soul mate or soul mates? What signalled for you that a particular person was the ''one''?
Q. Questions for the men and women on this site. 1 ) how old were you when you found the " one "? 2) did u ever give up waiting? 3) were u ever jealous if someone find their special someone before you? 4) do you believe in waiting for that spec...
A. 10 July 2015: I am a simple guy, and have just one criterion for who is "the one"... at any time. She is the girl who SHOWS UP!!!.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Girl I've been seeing for 9 months is on a holiday with girlfriends. What can I do to keep my mind off her ?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a quick question. The girl I've been seeing for about 9 months has gone on holiday today with 3 other single friends (a few of them are meeting people too) but what I want to know is how I can not be wondering what she's ...
A. 10 July 2015: 9 months? That's about how long it will take you to read "War and Peace." Get a copy of that, and get started.....
good luck...
P.S. If, by chance, you should finish that book, get a copy of "Crime and Punishment" and continue reading... (read in full...)
I want my 18 year old girlfriend to be my first sexual partner. How can I tell her this?
Q. I am a 18 year old virgin. My girlfriend is 18. We are seniors in high school and have been dating for 9 months. We enjoy doing the boyfriend/ girlfriend things. We were talking about sex the other night and I told her i was a virgin. She ...
A. 10 July 2015: Print out a copy of this submittal... and keep it handy to show her.... once she sees and reads it, I predict that you will have the "night of your life...."
Good luck........ (read in full...)
He's always talking about his ex. Will this phase out or I should I get out?
Q. We are three weeks into dating, having met 3 times, there's been calls, messages and he is reliable as he initiates communication. I really like him. I have a different look to what he's normally dated, but he compliments me and says he's attracted ...
A. 9 July 2015: I suggest you sit him down and ask: "Hunchy-Bunchy, I think you're a nice guy... AND, you're a good Dad to your kids.... BUT, I can't help but believe that you carry around your memories of your ex- and other exes.... and I wonder where I fit in ... (read in full...)
He watches porn but when I try to initiate sex he says he isn't in the mood
Q. I live with my boyfriend of four years. He watches porn but when I try to ininate sex he says he isn't in the mood. I am starting to take this personally as he doesn't think I am attractive. He has also stopped with the affection unless he is ...
A. 9 July 2015: What YOU need to reconcile is.... that he IS NOT THAT "IN" TO YOU!!!!! And.....
... do you want to be an "accessory" in his life????? (and, him in your's???).... or do you (and he) want to be "necessities" to one-another.
Answer those ... (read in full...)
Is my Bf facing a troubled future due to his work ethic? Am I being naive about this?
Q. My bf and I have been together for almost two years. He is almost 30 years old. His view on working is that it is bondage and he hates the idea of working years and years. He's been laid off twice since we've been together. The first time it was ...
A. 9 July 2015: SOOooooo, what you're REALLY telling us... is that this guy refuses to grow up... and should you/can you... have a future with him???....
The short answer is "NO." The slightly-longer answer is: "Do you want to be this character's Mother-s... (read in full...)
Is this a one-sided relationship? My Gf seems to love the things I do for her, not who I am.
Q. Okay so I just want to tell the story of my relationship and get other's input. So I'm a junior in college and studying engineering at one of the toughest universities, so I don't have a lot of time for girls, but I have put as much time as I c...
A. 9 July 2015: SOoooo, you've chosen to be her foot-wiping mat... .and it feels a LITTLE good... but not a LOT GOOD... no?
Decide how much respect you have FOR YOURSELF... and let THAT decision guide you in where you go from here......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He (A) treats me right but there is another guy (B) I like more. What can I do, seeing B is not interested?
Q. So i have been seeing this guy for about two months now and he is really nice he treats me right and even gets a little jealous when i talk to other men which i find really cute but the problem is i really like someone else and i dont know what to ...
A. 9 July 2015: Isn't it great to have two guys scuffling over you?????
NOW.... grow up and decide which of the two you prefer... cast your lot with him.... and let the other (guy) go....
THAT is how adults handle such a situation......
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Married just over a year and since then we argue a lot. What has to happen to resolve this?
Q. I've been married for just over a year now and whilst most of the time things are happy, when my other half and I fight it gets really bad...much worse than it did before we were married. I find when we argue he antagonises me a lot and as a res...
A. 9 July 2015: What you have described is not a "marriage".... it is two children playing a school-yard game.
YOU need to decide if THAT is how you want your life - and "relationship(s)" - to be.... or if you think there are better lives for you. (Hint, t... (read in full...)
He has done this before only to be ok once finances are ok. what should I do I am devastated. How to tell if he is just running from stress again or is this the real thing?
Q. So things have been tough here, and we are both stressed my boyfriend of five years whom I live with just told me that he was getting himself an apartment and letting the house go in forclosure. He told me that because I lost my job that I am going ...
A. 9 July 2015: Sooooo, basically, he's told you that, when HE gets stressed, then toodaloo to you... and fend for yourself.... I have no responsibility to you....
Quite a gentleman you chosen to spend time with!!!!!
Let him go on his own... make his own way... (read in full...)
How do I fall out of love?
Q. Hi, So I need help falling out of love. I feel very strongly for a girl and, for reasons I won't divulge here, there is absolutely zero chance of having a relationship with her. Any advice on falling out of love? Thanks in advance....
A. 7 July 2015: "Falling out of love" is an interesting phrase for you to have chosen. My advice is this: the opposite of "love" IS NOT "hate"..... it's "indifference"......
Once you're comfortable with that.... you figure out that you need to become "... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been texting a girl asking her to be his mistress. She refused him. What should I do about my BF?
Q. My boyfriend admitted to me that he asked this girl best friend if she would have sex with him and she said that she would. However, she says she respects our relationship so she won't sleep with him. Yet he keeps texting her that she's irresi...
A. 5 July 2015: You ask: "What should I do?"
I reply: Dump his sorry a$$, and find a guy friend who understands fidelity....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is it totally out of order for me to be feeling like he doesn't care anymore?
Q. Hi I'm in desperate need of some help I'm getting to the point I can't cope anymore. So here's the back story, me and my boyfriend have been together almost 3 years. I am disabled so I cannot work. We both still live with our parents currently....
A. 5 July 2015: "I think he's done with me, he just doesn't want to admit it."
You are correct.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why did he choose to not go out with me as a couple when we dated?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for about a year now. As a couple I would like to do things with him. He doesn't even have to spend money. For example I would like to take walks on the beach, camping even a drive thru at McDonalds would do. But we ...
A. 4 July 2015: One detail comes to my mind. I.E.... did you put out for him?
If "yes," then you've learned the danger of doing so with a guy who believes that that is all there is to a "relationship."
If "no," then you've found a guy who seems not to be mu... (read in full...)
Dating: she doesn't orgasm and doesn't seem to enjoy the sex. Is this going to work? Because I'm not feeling the chemistry much either
Q. I'm an dating this great girl. We have been together for about 8 months. The sex was never mind blowing. She is young and hasn't been able to orgasm with me. I think ( and she's said a lot of it was mental) she says she enjoys having sex with me, ...
A. 4 July 2015: If your S/S/I menus and desires (that's: Sexual, Sensual, Intimate).... are not in concert, then you and she are wasting your time......
Ask her if what's going on is what she expects to "go on".... and, if so... then you and she need to go your ... (read in full...)
He wants sex but I'm not allowed until I'm married, what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend want to have sex.butI am a Christian and I am not allowed to have sex till I am married what should I do...
A. 4 July 2015: Katie: Print out a copy of your submittal. Show it to him, and tell him: "These are my rules. If you are OK with them... then let's continue what's going on between us. If you find them unacceptable, then let's shake hands, part ways, and say, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend claims to have no sex drive yet I discovered he watches porn
Q. My partner of 11 years is 10 years older than me, we used to have an amazing sex life but for the last 4 years it has deteriorated. If I'm lucky I may get something once every 4 months. We both had high sex drives. now my partner says he doesn't ...
A. 3 July 2015: You write: "I have no problem with porn or him watching it, it's the fact that we haven't got a sex life..."
Don't kid yourself..... your "man" is spending all his mental/emotional/sexual energy on porn.... and has nothing left for you........ (read in full...)
I am obsessed with my colleague, do you think she will be receptive to my attempts to be her friend again?
Q. I'm not really writing this to find a solution to a problem. I don't really think there is a solution. I just needed to express something. I'm a married male father of four and I would consider myself happily married. About five years ago, there was ...
A. 30 June 2015: You could pursue this (girl) and F%#K up your marriage.... OR.... you could wake up and figure out that this teenage obsession is just that (an obsession) that should be kept in your personal (mental) closet.... and NOT acted upon....
Good ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time even though he claims he wants me?
Q. I've been with my partner for 7 years. We are both divorced, have families, baggage if you like. It hasn't been easy but we have some good times in our social life. The problem is he doesn't want sex, not with me anyway. I have caught him 3 times ...
A. 30 June 2015: With a ZILLION guys in this world, and in your age group, looking for a great partner like you.... WHY would you even begin to imagine that there's anything possible between you and this guy?????
Move on....
Good luck....
P.S. Do you wa... (read in full...)
Don't know where to start. Any ideas or suggestions on how to start dating?
Q. So I am 20 years old and I feel like it's time to start dating. But i am completely lost on how to even start. I have female friends but they don't have male friends plus I'm scared to even ask. I don't want to seem desperate. Any ideas or sug...
A. 30 June 2015: Here are a couple of opening lines that have ALWAYS worked for me:
"I think I recognize you. Didn't we go to different schools together?" and....
"Would you like to join me in my '56 Pontiac, and go out to
Makeout Point and watch the submar... (read in full...)
My boyfriend speaks English but uses his language most of the time. I don't like it!
Q. Hi, I have been dating a guy over 2 years and in the first year we communicated in English and then after a year I noticed he started talking in his native language to everyone his friends,his parents(which he always did)his sister,his best friend w...
A. 30 June 2015: Is one of the "languages" Braille?
After the lights go out, that is the language I use to get my "message" across to my G/F ..... and - even tho' she's never studied it (Braille) (and... neither, incidentally, have I) - she "gets my message"... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's ex-girlfriend wants to stay friends with him!
Q. We are living together in our own apartment for 3 years now and I just found out one of his female friends that he spends lots of time talking to was one of his exgirlftiends (his first love), she's the only ex that he's still talked too and I've ...
A. 26 June 2015: Let me help you by scripting the "discussion" for you.....
You sit "B/F" down and say: "Hunchy-bunchy, you know that I'm crazy about you... enough so to actually moved in with you and share an address. You know, as well, that your old girlfrie... (read in full...)
How do I take this slow enough for my co worker, but also let her know that I'm interested ?
Q. I very recently left my wife (less then a month ago). I realized I had feelings for a co worker. Since the breakup between my wife and I, my co-worker has admitted that she to has feeling for me but she is afraid of a relationship. She is only 20...
A. 26 June 2015: Kudos to Honeypie. How could anyone add to that?????... (read in full...)
He sent this woman sexual text messages but he said he did it because he thought it was a friend of mine I sent to play a trick
Q. Hello i am a 37 year old woman and i have been in a relationship with this 50 year old man for two years. We've gad some rocky times but overall its been nice, we love each other and we had plans to marry, but last night i was on the phone with him ...
A. 26 June 2015: You say to yourself: "Hmmmm, I guess this guy is a "player" after all...... And, I don't want to be in a "relationship" with - never mind MARRIED TO - a player..... So, I guess I'll dump his a$$ and seek out a REAL "boyfriend.""
That brief co... (read in full...)
Without making her mad, how do I let her know I want to sleep with her?
Q. I just met a woman at new housing development and signed paper work to buy a house from. She is know longer with the company and I have met with her once for coffee. My question is how can i let her i want to sleep with her witout offending her or ...
A. 26 June 2015: Wayne: There is NO WAY that you can blurt out to a woman: "I'd really like to have sex with you...." without making that woman "mad." A few might give you a "pass" and not slap you upside the head.. and fewer still might go to bed with you ... (read in full...)
A friends with benefits confusion...
Q. This guy and I have been having sex for almost 6-8 months now. Obviously staying within a "friends with benefits" boundary. I have developed Feelings and I am starting to like him., I am not going to tell him seeing I will be moving far away soon. ...
A. 26 June 2015: You seem to be in that too-common predicament wherein ONE party in a "FWB" arrangement would like their arrangement to be more like a real "relationship".....
Spend some time deciding if you REALLY want a REAL "relationship" with this guy (or, any... (read in full...)
He's amicably seperated but procrastinates about divorce
Q. I am in desperate need of advice. My boyfriend has been seperated and not living with his wife for five years, they have no kids. We have been dating for 3 and a half years. My boyfriend and his ex are friends and as a child of divorced parents ...
A. 26 June 2015: He has the perfect excuse for not marrying you (or, being any more-deeply "committed" to you) .... So what is HIS incentive to get divorced??? NONE!!!!
Decide if you wish to remain second-fiddle in his life.... which life does NOT include ... (read in full...)
Should I respond or shut it down?
Q. Sheesh this is a long one, sorry! I was with this guy for almost 2 years. While it wasn't the best of relationships (it was rife with cheating and all sorts of lies and disrespect) he was my first pretty much everything and I really really li...
A. 26 June 2015: " Apparently he was going through some things he just couldn't tell me about. "
Yes... he "forgot" to tell you that he NOW HAS ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND... who, apparently, is putting out for him (as you were)..... so you are now no longer needed..... (read in full...)
How to turn down dates?
Q. So I feel a little ridiculous posting this but I never thought I'd have this problem! I need to figure out how to quickly, unambiguously turn men down. I feel so uncomfortable doing it that sometimes when I am asked to get together, I just...
A. 23 June 2015: Whilest many of the replies you've already received at pretty all-encompassing.... I must tell you that here are a few of the refusals that I've heard when a girl didn't want to date me:
1. You ARE kidding, AREN'T you????
2. YOU.... a DATE??... (read in full...)
My Bf is happy to spend and hour or two with me and that's it. I want to spend more time with him. Is my request to him unreasonable?
Q. My boyfriend got mad at me because i've been asking for more time with him. He finds time for everything else then I get an hour here and there. He said he cant keep arguing about this and now won't answer my calls. What do I do? We've been to...
A. 23 June 2015: A couple of hours, say, each week??? Heck, that's all I have to spend to feed my neighbor's goldfish, when they take a vacation. Are you content to be "equal to" those goldfish?
(Dump him!)
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Has he got a compulsive addiction? Dating him for 4 years. My bf's unusual obsession is joining free dating sites.
Q. I have been in a relationship for more than 4 years. This has been held back by my bf's unusual obsession with joining free dating sites. It had been a good few months and I really thought he at last had learned his lesson. Clumsily he ac...
A. 22 June 2015: HE is clearly not as much "in to you" as you are to him... AND, now you've found a "smoking gun" which allows you to conclude that..... and YOU are asking how to soft-pedal this (information) to him... that you now KNOW that he's a cad????
You a... (read in full...)
Do you think it is worth me continuing to see him? Will his feelings for her fade with time?
Q. Dear aunties and uncles About a month ago I met a man who is 60, has been separated for 2 years and is currently going through a divorce. I am 55 and divorced. We have gone out together twice and each time have had a really wonderful fun tim...
A. 22 June 2015: Here's my "take" on your questions:
"Do you think it is worth me continuing to see him in the hope that his feelings for her will fade as they grow towards me?"
Nope. Never undertake a "relationship" which is contingent on the OTHER person cha... (read in full...)
Why is this ex trying to turn friends against me?
Q. Why is an ex trying to turn my friends against me? I had a brief affair with a guy who was a bit of a player - chatting and flirting with women etc. I told him I didn't think I could be part of his life like it is and told one of my friends that ...
A. 22 June 2015: He wants to be the "Alpha" male in your group.... and you've put him in his place......
You can't make him "not hate" you.... but you CAN stay close with your group... and they will see what a jerk he his... and HE will be subject to ostraciz... (read in full...)
Our 12 year old son shows no interest in family life and ignores Father's day and Mother's day. How should I approach these issues with him?
Q. I have a 12 year old son. He dosn't show much interest in spending time with the family. His life revolves around computers, video games, and similar devices. We have tried installing firm and strict usage rules, and even downright a "ban" on compu...
A. 22 June 2015: I see two issues....
1. Your feelings are hurt because your son didn't do anything to recognize Father's Day.... and YOU.... and,
2. You (and wifey?) haven't done a darn thing to instruct this boy in social/family interactions....... (read in full...)
Girlfriend says the spark is gone, she wants to see other people then calls me crying wanting to know if I love her. What am I doing wrong?
Q. So I've been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for a little over two years now. Everything started off great until about the one year mark. She started acting differently. She seemed to be unamused, bored, and irritable. Nothi...
A. 20 June 2015: I'll assume that both of you are in the 22-25 age bracket as listed above your submittal... Yes?
To me, it sounds like she is struggling with growing up and being in what YOU know as an adult "relationship"....
The behaviour that you describ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend obese?
Q. I'm currently dating a 21 year old man who is 6 feet and two inches tall, and weight 123 kilograms. Is he obese? If he is, is there any problem in marrying this person?...
A. 20 June 2015: "Obese," "emaciated," "athletic," "scrawny"..... those are simply descriptions of one's body-build..... They are NOT "reasons" why to marry - or not marry - someone.
Do you like him? ... Do you LOVE him? ... Do you want to spend every minute o... (read in full...)
Potentially getting back with an old flame but we still have nothing in common!
Q. Potentially getting back with an old flame... we fell MADLY in love a few summers ago.. it didn't work out for various reasons.. communication problems mostly and petty insecurities on both sides. It's been 2 1/2 years and we have both matured ...
A. 20 June 2015: What does "nothing in common" mean?
IF it means that the $*x you and he share is the only thing you (and he) have "in common"..... then you are correct that that is a pretty shallow basis upon which to make a relationship......
IF there are ... (read in full...)
Why did my husband react so strongly to my remarks? Is there more going on that I'm not seeing?
Q. My husband and I went to his brothers house for a small family cookout, and of course they were drinking. That was not a problem. My problem was that he was in the corner with his nephew and his nephew girlfriend and they were talking about going to...
A. 20 June 2015: WHY, did you not sidle up to that conversation... listen politely.... then say, "Heck, if you guys are going to go play pool, I'd just-as-soon come along and watch."?
In my opinion, your "style" was provocative.... I wouldn't give hubby a "pass"... (read in full...)
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