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Could it be masturbation causing bad luck

Q.   Could it be Masturbation causing me bad luck?? Im one person who hated wanking n everything those days went on very well. Happened one day when i got some advice form a friend who told me that jerkin yourself helps to last long during sex. De...

A.   15 October 2015: Honeypie: PLUS... if he stops... the hair on his palms will fall out, his vision will improve.... AND he won't go mad.... WHAT OTHER one thing can a person do, in life, and get such rewarding/positive results???????... (read in full...)

How do I push my bf to leave his parent's house?

Q.   My bf and I have been dating for 3 months now. He is 26 and im 22. We both are very alike, and very much comitted to each other. He even gave me a promise ring. I understand that we are still very new to each other since, we've only been together ...

A.   15 October 2015: I suggest that you be "patient".... IF you and he are destined to be together (live at the same address) in the future... you can wait until such a move comes about more naturally (WITHOUT you're having to force the issue upon the two of you...) ... (read in full...)

Could it be masturbation causing bad luck

Q.   Could it be Masturbation causing me bad luck?? Im one person who hated wanking n everything those days went on very well. Happened one day when i got some advice form a friend who told me that jerkin yourself helps to last long during sex. De...

A.   15 October 2015: You should not worry. Masturbation does NOT cause bad fortunes (luck).... The only effects of masturbation are these: 1. You will find hair growing on the palms of your hands, 2. Your sight will deteriorate until - ultimately - you... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?

Q.   I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...

A.   14 October 2015: WHY.... stress yourself like this? Part ways with this creature, and don't look back. HE doesn't much care about YOU.... so you should reciprocate.... Good luck...... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't respond in kind when I say "I love you". The last 2 times he said "Pardon???"

Q.   I've been seeing my boyfriend now for almost 3 months and I really love him. I've felt like I love him for sometime but suppressed telling him because it wasn't quite the right time and it didn't feel like the right time. Then last weekend we were ...

A.   13 October 2015: Crown: You said this happened "....during an intimate moment...." Soooooo,.... .... HOWIZZIT... that he is all at-attention, on alert when you spread your legs.... but his ears malfunction when you express a feeling (love) that many of us belie... (read in full...)

Why would he contact me in the first place, offering himself as a friend or whatever, and then never call and ignore my message?

Q.   I'm totally confused and need some advice. I dated a guy a few months back. We were incredibly close. We were emotionally, physically and intellectually intimate. Long story short - he fell in love with someone else and now they're together. Living ...

A.   12 October 2015: This is classic guy-behaviour. He got what he wanted from you (sex)... decided that there was probably greener grass, elsewhere.... sought and found that greener grass.... found out it wasn't greener, after all.... so contacted you to find out... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't respond in kind when I say "I love you". The last 2 times he said "Pardon???"

Q.   I've been seeing my boyfriend now for almost 3 months and I really love him. I've felt like I love him for sometime but suppressed telling him because it wasn't quite the right time and it didn't feel like the right time. Then last weekend we were ...

A.   12 October 2015: Been there; done that. My advice? When a partner who you really like - even love - won't, or doesn't say ".... and I love you, too.." in response to you... LISTEN TO THEM!!! I endured what you describe for more than four years before I c... (read in full...)

Ghost of Bf's sexual past invading current relationship

Q.   So I've been with the boyfriend just under a year. Recently found out that one of his friends (a girl) who he has known since he was a teenager (he's approaching 40) he slept with two years ago (after his his birthday party). Very drunk affair- he ...

A.   11 October 2015: Your re-submittal makes it clear that you're OK with getting clobbered again. OK..... but don't ask us "Wha' happened???" Good luck...... (read in full...)

I need advice! My baby daddy impregnated another woman and I don't know where to go from here

Q.   My bby daddy has impregnanted another woman....i hv been away frm him for 9months and the girl is 5 months pregnant....i didnt want to forgive him bt i did even thou the other part of me is still hurt and confused....he took a leave frm work to come ...

A.   11 October 2015: YOU are being UBEr-STUPID... and you will have to endure the results of your stupidity.... Good luck... nonetheless....... (read in full...)

His substance abuse is making me think of ending the relationship

Q.   I'm 21 year old female that's been in an on/off relationship  with my high school sweetheart  for 6 years. He loves me and he is gentle soul that had all the best intentions and I too love him. I have many issues however, with the type of Man he is. ...

A.   10 October 2015: "Am I being too picky? Is this simply a phase of life ? Am I abandoning him by not sticking by him and helping him ? Am I just a boring 21 year old ? " 1. No, you're not being "too picky." 2. IF it's "a phase," it sure looks like there's no ... (read in full...)

He's constantly accusing me of cheating

Q.   I am absolutley fuming! My boyfriend is always accusing me of cheating, and I mean always! I put up with it because I know it's rubbish and he is just insecure. However, tonight we were supposed to go out and have a nice night out whi...

A.   10 October 2015: WHY would you continue on spending time with this guy? Good luck....... (read in full...)

Ghost of Bf's sexual past invading current relationship

Q.   So I've been with the boyfriend just under a year. Recently found out that one of his friends (a girl) who he has known since he was a teenager (he's approaching 40) he slept with two years ago (after his his birthday party). Very drunk affair- he ...

A.   10 October 2015: You write: "My bf thinks I'm being unreasonable for not being understanding. . Am I?" Sometimes, it's O.K. to be "unreasonable." THIS is one of those times..... Don't back down.... Good luck...... (read in full...)

I'm not having much luck making friends

Q.   I'm someone who has always felt very lonely. I know that must sound pathetic coming from a young female. My parents divorced when I was very young, and I'm an only child. I only have one grandparent left (my grandmother) but she lives very far a...

A.   10 October 2015: Volunteer..... I can't suggest where... but look for volunteering opportunities, because there are always organizations that need volunteers..... A hospital, library, soup kitchen..... LOOK and you'll find such a place. WHY (do so)... because ... (read in full...)

Why does he only text me during the weekdays? not the weekends??

Q.   Wtf! okay once i'm sorry for asking so much advice but :( i need advice aunts. My ex boyfriend and I are talking again and we are not going out officially but he only texts me/calls me/video chats me on the weekdays (btw we live 6 hours away fro...

A.   10 October 2015: This one's easy. During the week.... whilest he has studying and attending classes to keep him occupied... he can keep up a facade of interest in you. On the weekends, he can get out and search for the hot coeds, there on campus.... and doesn't ... (read in full...)

What's some ''feel good'' to take to my boyfriend who is into fitness and keeps to a strict diet?

Q.   Hi, My boyfriend is feeling weak and I want to take him something nice like food which would make him feel better keeping in mind he is working on his fitness and has a strict diet to follow..what would you recommendations do you have for "feel go...

A.   8 October 2015: Warm chicken soup cures ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. Good luck...... (read in full...)

Does he still find me attractive?

Q.   I have been with my bf for two and a half years and it's been the best, two nights ago whilst going down on me he started to masturbate. I thought this was strange as he'd never done it before but I never thought anything of it. last night I tried ...

A.   8 October 2015: I suggest that you print out a copy of this submittal.... hand it to him .... and ask: "Hunchy-bunchy, I wrote this. Can we talk?" That should get you (and HIM) on the road to a resolution of this matter.... Good luck...... (read in full...)

I just found out my girlfriend of almost two years is MARRIED! Now what?

Q.   Hey Aunts! I have been dating this wonderful younger woman for almost two years now. She is smart, ambitious, and beautiful and she is 10 years my junior. Our sex life has been amazing, but it was troubling in one way. She always pushed for o...

A.   8 October 2015: I suggest you cut your eventual heartache by getting away (and staying away) from her.... You post has no happy ending available.... Good luck....... (read in full...)

Is he ghosting me and I should just move on?

Q.   This is gonna sound ridiculously teenagerish but I was talking to this 27 year old for the last three months. Our conversations started out friendly and they escalated on his side to flirting to the point where he was inviting me over to come ove...

A.   7 October 2015: He's playing ("ghosting") you... AND, if you fall for it, he's got everything HE wants... and doesn't have to worry, too much, about what is best for YOU!!! Good luck....... (read in full...)

My mother still wants her adult children to accompany her on ''family'' vacations. What can I do?

Q.   Is it normal to go on family vacations every year? My mom has forced my brother and I to go on vacations every year, almost twice a year since we were young. Over the years my Brother has protested against Travelling with the family. On my part, ...

A.   7 October 2015: "Parents, is it common to make your children go on vacation with you? And children, how old were you when you stopped Travelling with your parents? Is this healthy?" 1. It's common for parents who go on vacation and have children who have not... (read in full...)

Do I listen to my gut? I want a committed relationship. Am I over-reacting?

Q.   I have been on and off with this guy for a few years, I went through his phone (I know I shouldn't be doing that!!) and found out he had a girl stay over at his place recently.. lets just say he lives in a studio. I confronted him and he told me ...

A.   7 October 2015: I wish I knew more about "officially" being in a relationship .... And what "titles" that would confer upon me and the lucky lady..... Good luck...... (read in full...)

Why do people say a couple is being ''selfish'' if the couple make a conscious decision to have one child only?

Q.   Why do people consider you selfish for making the choice to only have one child? My boyfriend and I have thought hard about this. We have decided to have only the one child when we marry. It's a thought out decision. We are both self employed a...

A.   6 October 2015: WHO'S living your life????? You and hubby? .... or, "people"?????? What do you give a damn if "people" think you and hubby are selfish?????? Good luck...... (read in full...)

Question for men: is it really difficult to leave your wife if you've been having an affair? Or am I right - is he just offering me excuses?

Q.   I have done the unthinkable for the last 8 years of my life. Please don't hammer me. I have been dating married man. No kids. He's much older than me and at first I was just having fun but it turned into love. He's taken me on many trips an...

A.   6 October 2015: As long as a guy has "a little something on the side".... who doesn't press for anything more... then we have Nirvana... and don't even have to CONSIDER splitting from "her." THAT is your status. If you're content with it, then continue on. IF ... (read in full...)

We had an amazing night together, but my friends tell me he's only after sex and a visa! How do I ask him if his interest in me is genuine?

Q.   So I am a holiday rep working in turkey! I met a guy at the begining of season and we have been talking ever since due to me being moves resort i only got to see him twice in four months but now i have been moved back to the same resort and get to ...

A.   4 October 2015: This one is easy. You say to him, "Hunchy-bunchy, people tell me that you only stay in-touch with me because you like it that I put out for you. Is that so?" His answer will be the answer to the question you've asked. Good luck....... (read in full...)

Is a man's "first love" really the deepest?

Q.   This question is mainly for any guys that lost their virginity to someone they were in a committed relationship with and preferably in love? I'm just curious, regardless of how long it's been, or the circumstances of the break-up, do you still think ...

A.   4 October 2015: I can always recall EVERY girl who ever showed any interest in me... AND, especially, those who put out for me..... As for my "deepest" love.... it's for the girl who I'm with now..... Does this help?... (read in full...)

Boyfriend's anger is making me lose my confidence. How do I sort this out?

Q.   My boyfriend if 3 years is really starting to get me down and I feel stuck. He loses his temper easily, gets verbally aggressive when I try to give my opinion and blows things of by saying " I don't want to hear you anymore, I'm not talking to ...

A.   4 October 2015: You've described an abusive bully. WHY would you spend more than another MINUTE with - or, near - him?????? Good luck...... (read in full...)

I need advice! My baby daddy impregnated another woman and I don't know where to go from here

Q.   My bby daddy has impregnanted another woman....i hv been away frm him for 9months and the girl is 5 months pregnant....i didnt want to forgive him bt i did even thou the other part of me is still hurt and confused....he took a leave frm work to come ...

A.   4 October 2015: Your baby's "Daddy" apparently was never introduced to morality, responsibility and/or family..... Decide if you're content to have ANYTHING TO DO with such a creature. If "yes," then proceed on with your's (and your chld's) life... always c... (read in full...)

Shouldn't he tell me his plans or what he's doing over the weekend?

Q.   I am 38 and have been in a relationship with a man for eight months now. He spends time with me during the week and sleeps at my house but when it is Friday sometimes he goes drinking with his friends without telling me. Then he comes home later. ...

A.   3 October 2015: His (apparent) secrecy about what he does on the weekends SHOULD concern you. What are you? .... his "work-week" girl???? ... whilest he is free to go out whoring on the weekends?????? Remember,... if he's fooling around elsewhere... then YOU... (read in full...)

The reconcilliation with my mother is pretty rocky

Q.   Hello. I asked for advice on March 17th, I think it was, under the title of "Why am I the family villain?". {Moderator note: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-did-i-become-the-family-villian.html} I was spanked as a child for something I did ...

A.   3 October 2015: If your Mother cannot put the angst between you (and her) "in the past"..... then, you may have to simply let the rift play out.... maybe forever. NOBODY, should endure the ill-temprament of a parent, sibling, in-law or anyone else would is ... (read in full...)

Recently met her. However due to her response re instagram should I just walk away from her now?

Q.   I met a girl recently, really liked her and we get along well. I synced my phone contacts with instagram and i can see all my contacts who use it, and she has an account and posts things every few days. I asked her if she uses instagram and sh...

A.   3 October 2015: I can't believe what I'm reading!!! You're basing your interest in this girl - who you admit you "... liked and get along well..." on whether or not she has certain phone functions????? What is the matter with you? Good luck....... (read in full...)

To smoke cigarettes or not? Is there a compromise or a solution we can try to make things ok for us both?

Q.   I know what I’m going to write sounds kind of strange, and very long but I guess that’s just the way it goes…. Since I was a young teenager I was interested in trying smoking but I got the chance once at the age of 14 but I didn’t actually go throu...

A.   3 October 2015: Note: My P.P.S. SHOULD have said: "I would NEVER consider to date a woman who smoked"....... (read in full...)

To smoke cigarettes or not? Is there a compromise or a solution we can try to make things ok for us both?

Q.   I know what I’m going to write sounds kind of strange, and very long but I guess that’s just the way it goes…. Since I was a young teenager I was interested in trying smoking but I got the chance once at the age of 14 but I didn’t actually go throu...

A.   3 October 2015: May I please get on my soapbox and wax against smoking???? Go ahead and take it up. Here are the "results": 1. You risk your breathing.... as your lungs become clogged with the "tar" residue.... Emphysema and lung cancer are just a short ste... (read in full...)

Am I doing the right thing by moving to live with him in his home?

Q.   Dear cupid, I'm 33, boyfriend is 30 and I have been in a long distance relationship for the last 6 months. We spend the weekends together. The travel has become quite difficult and we would like to move the relationship forward and test we work...

A.   30 September 2015: "Living together".... without being married... is always a roll of the dice... Even more so, when it's a step from LDR.... AND, when it fails, it's usually the woman who "pays" the greater price.... YOU need to assure that YOUR interest... (read in full...)

I'm ten weeks pregnant and now my Bf tells me he ''isn't sure'' about our relationship. How do I respond?

Q.   I'm about 10 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend has just told me he doesn't know if he loves me or wants to be with me. We have always known that we need to make more effort with each other, however which his lazy attitude he just never has. So I ...

A.   30 September 2015: Peace-lily.... Please read and re-read your submittal as many times as necessary until you see that you are pregnant by a man-child who cares not a whit about you. Is this the kind of guy you want around your child? Decide if you want to carry... (read in full...)

Confused by one night stand. Was I too harsh on him?

Q.   Dear all. Please can you throw some light on this. Thanks. I have recently come out of a long abusive relationship and feel happier than ever. I've been out partying and dating and having a great time. Anyway, last weekend I met a guy I was stro...

A.   27 September 2015: "Was I too harsh on him?" No.... you were a pushover, and he took advantage of that. Is this the kind of guy you want to spend time with?????? Good luck........ (read in full...)

What can I do? I'm bored with the lifestyle my boyfriend wants to live

Q.   Hi there :) So I've been with my boyfriend for over five years, half of which time he was in the military and we had a long distanced relationship. We both worked hard on our relationship, spending time together when he was home, and our plan was ...

A.   27 September 2015: Two thoughts: 1. You've been "dating" for 5 years.... and still not married???? Why not? 2. He's given you a preview of what "married life" will be with him. Is THAT what you want for the next 40 years? I think you know the answe... (read in full...)

Getting back with my ex after 7 years?

Q.   Hi everyone, I'm meeting my ex for a few drinks on Sunday and this is the first time we've met since splitting up 7 years ago. We were together for 6 years though never lived together. He has two sons from a previous marriage who are now 25 and 2...

A.   25 September 2015: You and he will have the answer to your question, on Sunday evening.... I wouldn't even dream of venturing a guess!!!! Good luck....... (read in full...)

My addict parents expect me to move back in and fully support them

Q.   I have always had a complicated relationship with my parents. When they're not drinking and are being normal, we have a great relationship. When they are drinking and getting angry and crazy, things get very bad between us. Both of my pare...

A.   25 September 2015: You write: "Well I made the mistake of getting angry and telling them they would have money if they didn't spend it on gambling and alcohol. They in return get mad saying they are the parents and I'm the child so I should help them no matter what... (read in full...)

I love my boyfriend but can't stand him being abusive to me

Q.   Hello guyz,have been dating this guy for a month now. He is so sweet,kind but a lil selfish. The problem is that he drinks too much and everything . He was drunk the other night and was verbal abusive,he said a lot of things and call me so many ...

A.   25 September 2015: WHY.... spend even another hour with this drunk/abusive creature??? NO WOMAN should EVER have to put up with that.... Dump him... and get on with your life... Good luck...... (read in full...)

He complains about being bored and he's rude. Should continue seeing him or just leave?

Q.   Please correct me if I am wrong!but I am really mad at a guy I am seeing for a little over a month. So on our last date(which was yesterday) he called me over to his place and no we did not even kiss it was us just hanging out and having dinner,b...

A.   24 September 2015: Dump this creature and find a real "boyfriend." Good luck...... (read in full...)

How do I convince her to let me give her pleasure in this way?

Q.   For some reason my wife feels uncomfortable about me going down on her. We've done it before (only for a few minutes each time) and I know she loves it. I'd like to spend more time on her but she tries to avoid it. Giving her pleasure is a bi...

A.   24 September 2015: Print a copy of this submittal.... show it to her... and let that be the beginning of a conversation which should clarify the matter for the two of you..... Good luck...... (read in full...)

Do I stay? Just dating yet he expects me to be full time stepmom without the promise of marriage?

Q.   My bf won't marry me but expects me to be a full time mom to his child while he works and goes on vacations. I'm feeling trapped. His son in five and has displayed major violent and angry behavior. He has attacked other children during outings a...

A.   24 September 2015: I suggest you get out of this trap - which trap you have come to recognize - and get on with your life... with this cad in your rear-view mirror!!!! Good luck...... (read in full...)

What should I do? He does not want to talk about it, but money keeps disappearing from our joint funds

Q.   I need some advice as I don't know what to do. I have been married for 6 years. For the past year or so i have slowly but surely noticed money gone from our savings. Now we are careful about our money and we never touch our savings unl...

A.   24 September 2015: Your bank can give you a detailed rundown of withdrawals from your account.... and you may use that to confront hubby. I suspect he's taking the money and believes that YOU will believe HIM when he sez there's no explanation for the money's ... (read in full...)

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