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writes:Has anyone ever used another phone or fake profile to contact an ex to get a message to them?My friend is in a bad way because of the way her ex treated her - firstly two timing her and then dumping her and cutting off all contact. He has been a jerk with her and all she wanted to do was get back at him by telling him some home truths about someone close to him that he wouldn't want to hear. She did this under a different name and number although she knows he'll guess it's her.So what I want to know is - will he believe it's her and think she's some psycho or will he just think it's someone messing around being daft? The facts messaged to him were accurate, but hurtful.Also - can trust between them ever be gained again?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (6 August 2015):
he isnt worth it. If it really helps you move on tell him what you think of him by message, and forget about him once you get that closure. And no dont even think about wasting your time on him again.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 August 2015):
 WHY(?) .... would this person wish to perpetuate what had been a miserable situation?
WHAT(?) does this person hope to accomplish?
Revenge often takes on its own life... and doesn't serve to improve anybody's life... the avenger or the "avengee."
How about, you tell your friend to discontinue the schoolyard games and get on with her life?????
Good luck...
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 August 2015):
 Yes, he, unless he's got other 20 spurned lovers , will guess that the message came from your friend,-he will shrug it off and will say " Whatever; hell hath no fury like a woman scorned ".
He won't think that she is a certified psycho, but he will think,probably, that she is a sore loser, poor thing.
Yeah maybe your friend's idea was not that brilliant and probably her message, more than actually hurting him, showed him how pathetically hurt SHE is. You know , they say : the best revenge is living well - I think it's true.
On the other hand, is all this so terrible ? ( even if he finds out it 's his ex's fake profile , and thinks she is kookoo ? )... Naaah- in the greater scheme of things, this is just a sand speck in the eye of the Universe :) ; 5 years fron now, nobody will remember the episode, and if they do, they all will chuckle about it :" we sure were heavy on drama way back then ".
Time is precious. Do not waste it on pointless mini soap operas.
As for rebuiding mutual trust, well, I think that would be very,very difficult at this point. Then again, why in the world should this friend of yours want to rebuild trust ? The guy cheated on her, dumped her without so many ceremonies, and pulled a total Houdini right after. I am not saying he deserves the electric chair for that, he is just being a fickle 18-21 boys as there are many others . Yet, his behaviour surely does not put him in the shortlist for " 5 best friends I ever could have in my life " !.
Tell your friend to leave the boy, and his new gf, alone, to move on, and to fill her life with something fun and intelligent, so she won't be tempted to waste any more energies on silly, petty revenges.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 August 2015):
 Can trust ever be gained?
No, he cheated on her and then left her in the dust WHY SHOULD she even WANT to have anything to do with him? And trusting him ever again? Would be... well... foolish.
But for her to go to such DRAMA LLAMA length as to create fake profiles to "talk" to him is ridiculous.
She might have wanted to get" revenge" but she came off looking stalkerish, pathetic, and not at all trustworthy.
Personally, if an ex did that to me (created a fake profile to message me some "truths") I would hardly believe or nor would I care. I'd think "classic bunnyboiler move".
Tell your "friend" to LET him go. Forget about him. He seems like a two-bit piece of trash anyways so STOP wasting any more time on him.
Get back out of the gutter, dust yourself off and focus on your own life.
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