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Was it a bet? Or was he genuine?

Q.   Met a guy on a train, he asked to share my seat, there were plenty of others spare. We talked he asked questions about my journey,job blah blah had a laugh, he asked if I wanted to go for a drink. He lived too far away, so I said no. He got o...

A.   23 September 2014: Unless he was 16 and on a school trip, genuine. Attracted to you is my guess. You shot him down in flames, if you see him again then do as Intrigued3000 advises. ... (read in full...)

I'm not certain that he likes me in "that way"

Q.   For the past six months I have been working as a secretary to a doctor (he's only temporary). Anyways, we have kind of flirted with each other - prolonged eye contact, lingering around talking about stuff non-work related. When I took the work ...

A.   23 September 2014: If you don't want him to forget you - stay in touch! As for 200 miles, it is a long way and maybe too far - but keep the lines of communication open and see what develops. Hospitals are manic, doctors busy working long hours so he won't have to... (read in full...)

LDR since Dec 2013. Plan to see each other in 2015. So why did she get upset about talk on intimacy?

Q.   Hello, My girlfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship since Dec 2013. We met online and in one month, we will finally meet in person. She will introduce me to her family and relatives, and well even be going to an island resort fo...

A.   23 September 2014: She doesn't know if she is physically attracted to you and doesn't want to be intimate or think about it until you have had face to face time. For now your a friend she is meeting up with. She doesn't want to think you only want sex either. ... (read in full...)

I came on too strong and scared him off -- any way I can fix this?

Q.   A little over a month ago I met a guy and we went on 3 dates. The first 2 dates went amazing and I really felt a connection but on the third date I slept at his place and things got a bit awkward, I kind of came on too strong, asking too many ...

A.   23 September 2014: Nothing ventured and all that Just call him, say hi, ask if he is free at some point. Then you will have your answer by his response. If its positive....Don't go to his place as it gives him expectations of sex.... (read in full...)

The ex: should I be concerned that I have been told that I am not "good in bed" ?

Q.   Dear Aunts, My worst fear has come true. I was told I was bad in bed he said I'm not freaky enough. I like romantic slow passionte sex he likes rough play. I feel like I cant do the things he wants so the connection is fading away in other dept ...

A.   21 September 2014: Delete him, his number and forget his stupid comments. He is just trying to pressure you into doing sex his way. Your not a porn star, your a woman who wants to be made love to by her man. In short not compatible with him. Next.............. (read in full...)

I love him and we've been together 5 years. But how can I convince him to erase his recent tattoo?

Q.   l been with my boyfriend for 5 years and our relationship was great. We are the same age. He loves me so much and serious about our relationship. He would do anything to make me happy. But now he has changed. Its because of me too. Its my fault. I...

A.   21 September 2014: When you split up for a bit he spread his wings, did things HE wanted to do. Maybe he needed to be himself and felt he couldn't ever with you? Just because you and your parents don't like tattoos doesn't mean he cannot have one! He's a man, i... (read in full...)

He ignores my calls and texts and makes excuses.

Q.   Well, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months now, but before that we were dating on and off, and he keeps saying he'll never leave me, but he keeps going on about other girls and he knows I don't like that at all. I've asked him ...

A.   21 September 2014: Wait for a few weeks to confirm what - why are you letting him rule you ? Take control of your own life - do not 'wait' because it is over already. Now is the time to accept it, get over him and MOVE ON, LET GO because he has. It's not... (read in full...)

I'm not certain that he likes me in "that way"

Q.   For the past six months I have been working as a secretary to a doctor (he's only temporary). Anyways, we have kind of flirted with each other - prolonged eye contact, lingering around talking about stuff non-work related. When I took the work ...

A.   21 September 2014: Wise Owl is right - keep sex out of it and let a relationship develop. He is definitely interested - unless he bought presents for everyone - he is also keeping the communication going by asking you to stay in touch too - so - stay in touch bu... (read in full...)

I'm over my ex, but I feel emotional about his new baby with another woman

Q.   Hi I will try to condense a long complex story .I split with my sons dad three and a half years ago .it was a painful and messy split .we had a very intense 5 years together where we were either deeply in love of fighting. We were over the moon when ...

A.   21 September 2014: Its not wrong to feel like you do, it not only cements and brings home the reality that he has moved on, but that he has another child now. It will bring back memories of when you two had a child and all that emotion you shared It doesn't mean he ... (read in full...)

He ignores my calls and texts and makes excuses.

Q.   Well, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 months now, but before that we were dating on and off, and he keeps saying he'll never leave me, but he keeps going on about other girls and he knows I don't like that at all. I've asked him ...

A.   21 September 2014: He doesn't sound like your boyfriend. He sounds like someone who is hoping that by ignoring your texts and calls - you will get the message its over. Stop all communication, get your self dressed up and go out for a night with friends, you nee... (read in full...)

What are the best options to get through these issues with my partner's 28 year old daughter?

Q.   My partner's 28 year old daughter has never accepted me into her father's life. She pretends I don't exist. At first I would have done almost anything to get her to talk to me. Now 9 years on I don't care, but now she has decided to pop back int...

A.   8 September 2014: Well as you have your own place it's easy to avoid his daughter and stay out of the way. I still feel she does not 'have' to like you, but this means she is putting up barriers for herself. It means she will never have a happy visit with all of y... (read in full...)

Do I share my money?

Q.   I recently asked a question about being married and my husband being not rich. He works really hard to provide for me and and our child. I have 30,000 pounds in savings. I haven't mentioned it to my husband as this was before we got married,...

A.   7 September 2014: Do you want to buy a home for you all or just use it for your child in the future? I don't quite understand. I would put £25,000 in a savings account or ISA and spend £5,000 on helping your husband. He can't stop you paying bills really, or... (read in full...)

Do I break up with him or tell him the truth about the affair I had with his father and ruin things for his family?

Q.   Ok so before you read this I know what I did was wrong and deeply regret it and it's all a big mess. Four years ago I was in a really bad place. I had fallen out with my parents and moved out of home in to a grotty flat which I had to work 3 jobs...

A.   7 September 2014: As the man said 'forget we ever happened it was a mistake' Saying anything now would wreck too many lives - so keep your mouth firmly shut If you cannot cope with the guilt then split with your boyfriend - just don't say why - and move on... (read in full...)

He insists on keeping letters from ex's

Q.   I recently found out that my bf still keeps letters from his exes. It makes me uncomfortable because I throw away things my exes give me. Of course I understand that perhaps some people are more sentimental. Yet the irony in this is that he claim...

A.   7 September 2014: I have letters and momentos from past relationships. At the time they made me happy and so I kept them - only a few. I do not expect to get back with them nor do I hold a torch, its just something sweet that was said or given and its nice to come ... (read in full...)

What are the best options to get through these issues with my partner's 28 year old daughter?

Q.   My partner's 28 year old daughter has never accepted me into her father's life. She pretends I don't exist. At first I would have done almost anything to get her to talk to me. Now 9 years on I don't care, but now she has decided to pop back int...

A.   7 September 2014: We all meet people we don't like in life so it could be the daughter will never accept or like you. It could be a simple clash of personalities. That's life. It's not something you should split up with her dad over - not if you genuinely love and... (read in full...)

What are the best options to get through these issues with my partner's 28 year old daughter?

Q.   My partner's 28 year old daughter has never accepted me into her father's life. She pretends I don't exist. At first I would have done almost anything to get her to talk to me. Now 9 years on I don't care, but now she has decided to pop back int...

A.   6 September 2014: It depends how you and he met, if you were the reason he left home and her, then his daughter will never forgive you -why would she? If you met long after he divorced/split up/lost her mum then she may still be won over. However as she is 28 you w... (read in full...)

After 17 years I think he's cheating

Q.   Hi, thank you in advance for reading this.... Ive known for a while nowmy husband has been doing some serious facebook flirting, recently though i think he has went a step further and met up with someone. This has completely devastated me because ...

A.   6 September 2014: How do you want this situation to end? Do you have the proof he has cheated - you let the flirting go on so he continued it, that's cheating in a way, he is married to you, you have a family The ball is in your court. If you have no doubts... (read in full...)

He said marriage was not about money.

Q.   Why does he talk like this? Is marriage about money or not? So I had an arguement last night with bf. I asked him if he's ready for marriage and he said yes. But said no, cause he's been out of job for 8 months now and he's reluctant ab...

A.   31 August 2014: Its ok to help the people you love over a rough patch, its what you do. I know the UK is dodgy job-wise but 8 months without any work is a looooong time. Does he have qualifications? Does he have experience in one line of work? Is he look... (read in full...)

He says he's not in love with me and wouldn't introduce me to his family.. should I walk away?

Q.   Hello guys, I'm a 19-year-old girl who has been dating this 31-year-old Irish guy for 3 months. We have our problems, but we get along. He's fun, caring and all and we're in a committed relationship. The trouble is that when we were joking around ...

A.   30 August 2014: Do you want more from him? Stop having sex and see how long he sticks around. Or just finish it and walk away. What he wants doesn't come into it. What do YOU want? Your young and there are plenty of years in front of you to date. Enjoy b... (read in full...)

I told her how her behaviour had affected me so she left with another guy

Q.   My ex's solution to everything while we were together was to always storm out in the middle of a discussion. Or snap and break up with me about just about anything, and then leave me standing there wondering what the hell had just happened. So many ...

A.   30 August 2014: Are you crazy? She behaves like she does because she can, you let her - again and again. The other bloke has probably been told your abusive and he 'rescues' her whenever she rings. She is playing you both. Leave her be, just do not continue... (read in full...)

I found out my wife was/is a call girl. How do I end this marriage with the least amount of pain?

Q.   hi lovely people out there..... im really in mess. i do need your help so desperately .... please. Here is my story. i married a girl just 3 months ago. i knew her about a year. I happen to know her by a friend i used know. She was her relative...

A.   30 August 2014: That must have been a great shock to you. She is not the girl you thought you had married. She should have told you before you married so you could make an informed choice about her being your wife. She didn't play fair.I feel for you. I don't... (read in full...)

Is my husband more interested in porn than he is me?

Q.   Hi it's mine and my husbands relationship. We have been together nearly 4 years been married 18months, He works away on the turbines which he has done for 2 years he does 2 weeks away and a week at home, which is shortly changing to 3 weeks then 1 ...

A.   30 August 2014: Do you communicate when he is away, Skype or emails, phone calls - or is it just nothing till he is home? I wonder if you need to get out while he is away, do something you enjoy, go to the cinema, out with friends - whatever-so you have a life a... (read in full...)

In an emotional mess after the break up and not sure where to go from here

Q.   Over seven weeks ago me and my boyfriend of over two years split due to him falling in love with someone else. I met someone 4 weeks later, and knew in my heart that it really was too soon. First date went well, but I did cry on him as was still ...

A.   27 August 2014: Give yourself a break, you only broke up 7 weeks ago You did right to end it with the new man, he wasn't the answer to your problems, he would never replace your ex just now. Maybe if you had met a year after your split. He was a rebound.... (read in full...)

What does it mean if someone apologizes without turning to look at you?

Q.   What does it mean when someone apologizes to you but their back is turned towards you? This happened to me with a n employee at work. I am the boss and I thought this was highly unusual behavior. ...

A.   22 August 2014: As she approached you to apologise then she knows she did wrong and doesn't want to lose her job - seems odd she didn't face you I would have a one to one assessment with her, maybe make targets of behaviour and set out a plan for her to follow ... (read in full...)

Something just hasn't clicked in my life and I'm perpetually in a rut. Has anybody felt this low and how did they bounce back?

Q.   Right this is a issue I have had for years and it wont go away. I feel life is pointless and void and really feel like I have no chance of a future, I have no hobbies as nothing greatly interests me or I loose interest in it. I do try to have energy ...

A.   21 August 2014: Going to interviews is easy, everyone has holidays they are entitled to book off, just do that. I don't know if its the trend, depression, or maybe a symptom of modern life, everyone comparing themselves to everyone else. Wanting it all. ... (read in full...)

What does it mean if someone apologizes without turning to look at you?

Q.   What does it mean when someone apologizes to you but their back is turned towards you? This happened to me with a n employee at work. I am the boss and I thought this was highly unusual behavior. ...

A.   21 August 2014: It sounds like she was embarrassed - if you spoke to her in front of other employees especially. She is older and maybe finds it hard to be told off by somebody young, felt foolish. You don't say what she did wrong and why she had to apologis... (read in full...)

I think my mum might be cheating on my dad?

Q.   Im not gonna lie. I love my mother and shes my everything and we are so close to each other. but something weird is happening. One day she told us that we are going to meet a guy she used to know with his family. He has daughter close to my age and ...

A.   21 August 2014: Does sound odd I would ask your mum,when its just you two, about the man and his daughter,why you met. Tell her you are worried about what's going on and need to know why she is in contact with him, that you are unhappy Sending a pic of you is ... (read in full...)

I'm living the life of a single person but I'm not single, in a LDR!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. The first year and a half was great, then he moved 6 hours away because the company had problems and pulled everyone back to head office. He struggled financailly and I helped him out. I said at the time...

A.   16 August 2014: You have given him 3 years and all you have to look forward to is a week together in December? He's only 6 hours away but it might as well be 60 as your still, day after day, in an LDR and may as well be single. His life-changes are... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant with one man's baby but I am in love with another

Q.   Dear Cupid, I am in doubt, I do not know if I am happy or not (probably not) anxiety and sleepless nights are wrecking my world, It feels like i am swimming for so long and my feet cannot touch the ground and I can see no shore. Let me explain a...

A.   15 August 2014: Wow, that's deep. You had an all consuming first love when you were really just children. You rightly walked away and apart you both grew-up, developed into adults. I can tell you don't love your current partner, so you are living a lie,you... (read in full...)

accidentally "double booked" myself. Do I go with my (ex) colleagues or my friends?

Q.   2 weeks ago I left my job and a few of my colleagues were on about wanting to go on a night out with me for when I leave. One of the colleagues was on holiday the weekend I left so they said we could all go out this Saturday. One of them gave me ...

A.   15 August 2014: Contact the ex colleague and say as you haven't had confirmation of weekend plans you have made new ones. Add that your happy to meet another time when everyones free. However, if she says that the plans are made and everyones going, then go a... (read in full...)

I think my husband has a drink problem

Q.   I believe my husband has a problem with alcohol, and I am just not sure how to deal with it anymore. Everyday, after work, he'd go to the off licence and buy vodka quarter bottle, and sit and drink it all while watching TV after work. He says it...

A.   12 August 2014: Sadly he is the only one who can ask for help when he finally admits to himself he has a problem Your right to be concerned but he is the only one who can help himself. He should take a long hard look at the consequences, his own mother for a... (read in full...)

I suffer from terrible adult acne and its really affecting my self-esteem.

Q.   Hi Aunts. It his isn't a love question as such but it does relate to my low self esteem, . I have suffered with acne for ten plus years of my life. It's always had a huge impact on my confidence and I've often skipped going out or seeing people ...

A.   5 August 2014: Go and see your GP and be clear you want this acne sorted. Its affecting your well-being and they may/should be able to refer you to a dermatologist. I have a family member who suffered with acne, stress made it worse, so did alcohol. Don't g... (read in full...)

Should I look for my husband or wait for him to contact me?

Q.   Hello, So my husband and I are in a long distance relationship at the moment due to work related reasons. Usually we talk for at least an hour every day over Skype. A week ago we had an argument, he got upset and left in the middle of the co...

A.   4 August 2014: If it was me I would be up there looking for him. He is your husband, he has not contacted you in a week, after a row. Get your arse up there, stop with his family, let them know how worried you are because of his depression. I... (read in full...)

Middle aged and worried I have nothing to offer in life.

Q.   I am going to be 35 in a month and realise that I have achieved pretty much nothing in my life...and now I am middle aged so hardly about to get better from here! I have no stability. I have no home of my own (I have a room in a shared house) An...

A.   4 August 2014: Use your life experiences to build your own business - you must know travel and modelling and photography well - use one to build on. Do it abroad if that's where your happiest - as it sounds. Work out a business plan, get in touch with organ... (read in full...)

Online dating issues. I want to message him, but what would I say to him now?

Q.   I joined an online dating site and met a man and had quite a few dates with him. He wanted to keep his options open, but I caught him out in a lie when he said he was not at a place when he was. Since then he went quiet on me and so I told him he's...

A.   30 July 2014: Why would you want to message him? He is a casual friend who you had a few dates with - maybe slept with too. That's what he wants from you - casual. If he wanted more he's had 6 months to decide. He obviously felt he had to lie to you about... (read in full...)

He was prosecuted for domestic violence and now lives in a hostel. So why do I still feel so lonely without him?

Q.   I have been married for 25 years i have an 18 year old son. When i first got married things were great then about a year into our marriage signs of my husbands bad temper started to show. I didnt worry too much at first. Then he started smas...

A.   30 July 2014: You miss him because you've been married for 25 years and have an 18 year old son. And you love him. He is what your used to, you know him better than anyone. Ask yourself if you want to live the next 25years coping with him. Walking on glass... (read in full...)

Does letting go really work?

Q.   much fun. I met all his family and friends. After about 4 months we were practically living together. Until one day, I felt that something wasn't right. I found out this the was on a dating website. I walked out and we didn't talk for a while. T...

A.   30 July 2014: You had to let him go so you can move on to a relationship where your valued as an equal partner where your both on the same page. As soon as you became attached to this man he let go, he wants his freedom but you want a one to one exclusiv... (read in full...)

Is there something wrong with a man who is watching the 'teen' category in porn?

Q.   As a woman I have no problem with consentually adult material ie porn however I often notice when seeing the categories that teen is always one of them Personally it makes me feel sick and I steer well away from that but maybe I'm overreac...

A.   30 July 2014: If these teens go into the work of their own free will then they know that any aged man will be watching them. To them its a job, they get paid. Supply and demand. I 'would' find it uncomfortable if the teens were forced into doing it. Men wat... (read in full...)

The families' demands are ruining my wedding experience

Q.   I need some advice on whether we should allow our families to take control of our upcoming wedding or just tell them that everything they want is far from what we want. We have been together for five years and we have a three year old. We have bee...

A.   28 July 2014: Get married abroad, just the 2 of you and have a big party for family and friends when you return. Your Aunts paid for most of the honeymoon already so if you get married while your away you can actually enjoy it. Its your wedding day and ... (read in full...)

At the moment writing is his priority, I want marriage and kids in the future, do I wait or walk?

Q.   Ive been with my boyfriend just over a year. Everything is amazing! I thought i was in love with previous partners but nothing compares to how i feel about him. Hes so much fun and just completely gets me. He is eight years older than me. I have a ...

A.   28 July 2014: From a financial point of view, he is working part-time and therefor cannot afford to support a family in the near future. Will you be prepared to be a breadwinner and leave him to be a stay at home dad? He doesn't have time if he's writing ... (read in full...)

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