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writes:My LDR and I often share fantasies and they often involve another man joining in. This time I decided to add another element , a woman because he had told me how much he loves lesbian porn. The fantasy seemed to go well and worked . I felt comfortable But then after , he said I need to get some confidence and my low self esteem is a turn off. I feel horrible . Like he didn't enjoy the lesbiam fantast simply because I was in it or I did something that made me appear less confident and sexy to himHe doesn't understand one bit why I'm upset. He says I was acting , but isn't that exactly what the women in porn are paid to do .And before anyone says he could tell I wasn't excited , that's isn't true because I was and our fabtasy was the same for me as any other . What's going on?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (5 August 2015):
 Ahhhh, double standards.... one for men; another for women.
I suggest that your LDR was quite content to experience the 2M/1W fantasy because he likes that (may be bi-sexual!).... BUT, when you exhibit the equivalent behaviour, THAT isn't OK with him.....
Talk it out with him .... ONCE. If he can't justify HIS reaction to YOUR enjoyment... then consider that the two of you simply aren't compatible, and must go your separate ways.
Good luck...
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