Why did my husband react so strongly to my remarks? Is there more going on that I'm not seeing?
Q. My husband and I went to his brothers house for a small family cookout, and of course they were drinking. That was not a problem. My problem was that he was in the corner with his nephew and his nephew girlfriend and they were talking about going to...
A. 20 June 2015: WHY, did you not sidle up to that conversation... listen politely.... then say, "Heck, if you guys are going to go play pool, I'd just-as-soon come along and watch."?
In my opinion, your "style" was provocative.... I wouldn't give hubby a "pass"... (read in full...)
Should I go and face her directly and tell her my feelings? She never responded when I sent a love letter via Facebook
Q. Hello... I had sent a love letter to a girl whom i liked in my office, but she never responded to a love letter and it's been 4 months since i sent her a love letter. Should i go and face her directly and ask her? The Girl already left the office o...
A. 20 June 2015: It's inconceivable that one could ".... write a love letter..." on Facebook. A REAL "love letter" is written on paper..... it is posted WITH A STAMP ON IT.... and MEANS that the sender really DOES love the person to whom he, or she, sent it.....
... (read in full...)
How do I approach her to resolve our dispute? What should I say or do? She and I fell out and have not spoken for a year
Q. hi! my bestfriend and I recently ended our year long silent war (ignoring each other) she was the one who came to me 1st. I really want to go back to the way things were before, but I don't know how to approach her. what should I do?...
A. 20 June 2015: You print out a copy of this submittal... then walk over to her place.... knock on the door... and when she answers, show this to her..... give her a hug, and say: "you know, Sister, I am SOOOOO glad that you had balls enough to re-open the door ... (read in full...)
We've been seeing each other for 3 weeks and I'm feeling pressured to have sex. I'm disappointed
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 3 weeks and have just passionately kissed and cuddled. He is 10 years older. We met online and I feel am still getting to know him. We are going to a wedding reception at a neighbours next weekend and he has ...
A. 19 June 2015: You say to him: "IF you think that I'm gonna put out for you, in exchange for you putting me up at your house, and you preparing breakfast the next morning.... THEN you are sadly mistaken.... and you need to re-consider if we really want to go to ... (read in full...)
How do I learn to love again after a 15 year toxic relationship?
Q. I am 36 and I am finally letting go of a toxic relationship, Im afraid it will not be easy but I'm leaning on others for support and reading a lot online that offers helpful suggestions He was an active alcoholic which made the relationship int...
A. 19 June 2015: You get away from "toxic boy"... breathe a huge sigh of relief... then say to yourself: "Well, that was a miserable 15 years. I hope I don't get involved with someone as stupid and inconsiderate as THAT, ever again....." Then, go do it.
Good ... (read in full...)
I don't think my boyfriend is over his ex, I keep seeing him checking out her FB page
Q. I was wondering of someone could help. I am in love with a great guy and throughout our relationship we have grown together. I have one problem despite what he says I don't think he's over an ex girlfriend who he lived with. He became ill and...
A. 19 June 2015: It's OK to "break his heart".... since he, clearly, doesn't give a damn about your's (heart)......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend wants me to send him nude pictures and I have said No. What can I say to him? He is very angry with me.
Q. Hi, me and my boyfriend are dating for about 7-8 weeks now; I know him for 6 months now. We have been on dates kissed and he even touched and pressed my breast but we have never done anything more than that . now he is asking me to give him m...
A. 19 June 2015: "...he said if you are not comfortable then give it to someone else..."
You are dealing with a child, here. Tell him - very forthrightly - that passing provocative pictures on the Internet is stupid... and that YOU are smart enough to know tha... (read in full...)
My Bf's best friend is dating her. Yet she's becoming a fixture at my Bf's place. Am I being too suspicious and too territorial?
Q. My boyfriend's best friend has recently started dating this girl who is a well known village mattress and trust me I'm sugar coating it. At first I had no problem with her however over the past 3 weeks she's insisted on spending visiting my boyfrien...
A. 19 June 2015: 1. "Am I being unnecessarily territorial and suspicious of her or should I be concerned?"
2. "How do I tell my boyfriend I feel uncomfortable with her being over so much especially when I'm not included."
1. You are NOT being unnecessaril... (read in full...)
Is this bullying? Jealousy?
Q. I work with an older woman and she is quite an honest person. But there is honesty , and then there is going too far. I don't understand what her issue can be with me. She's always criticising my hair. ( I have a few split ends, a lot of people d...
A. 18 June 2015: WHY give this woman a "Free Parking" place in your brain????
Ignore her..... do your job.... go home... and feel satisfied that YOU have quite the life that you want... and who gives a darn about her???????
Matters don't - and won't - change i... (read in full...)
Who do men like about being in relationships?
Q. Why dont men admit they are with someone, when u really no they are, even when u ask them still wont admit Find it so confusing ...
A. 17 June 2015: We like to keep our options available in case some nyphomaniacal hottie comes along.......
We do like it when you are available, of course....
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why was my wife so good to her cheating ex partners but I have to beg for sex?
Q. My wife and I are very happily married. However, in the past she was involved in very emotionally abusive relationships in the past where she put up with a lot of cheating and verbal abuse. She told me that she always tried to give more of herself ...
A. 17 June 2015: The glib me wants to say: Start cheating on her, so that she'll go in to her "whore" personna in an over-indulgent attempt to keep you home..... BUT,
.... the sensible me says: Why bother?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I dump him? Also he tells me I need a breast implant for sagging breasts !
Q. I have been with a 64 year old guy who flirts and talks about women constantly (always younger women)! He rarely tells me I'm nice looking (I'm 61), he stares at good looking younger women and likes to hang out at his son's gatherings to be aroun...
A. 17 June 2015: "Should I dump him?" Yes; The sooner, the better........ (read in full...)
I think this 19 year old girl is using me.
Q. I'm 34 and I dated a 19 year old last year. She came to the US as a foreign exchange student. I got to know her when she first came over, but didn't persue anything till a few years later. Basically my question is, I feel used. I feel she came ...
A. 15 June 2015: You turn, walk away, and say to yourself: "well, that was interesting.. but not enough so as to make me continue questioning myself, and whether or not there ever WAS "anything there"......"
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Has he really changed, should I give him a second chance?
Q. For a year, I was in a relationship with someone who I loved, of course, but he didn't seem very dedicated. He never told his parents about us. He was never as eager as I was to talk or go out. We didn't see each other every day or even each week ...
A. 15 June 2015:
What your really "telling" us... is that YOU had a relationship with HIM.... but he was pretty indifferent to you....
Tread lightly... and let HIM convince YOU that he's serious. AND, be prepared to let him go at the drop of a hat.. since ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I just want to know how she is!
Q. i feel like an idiot but sometimes i wish me and my ex still talk. its been years, dont think i want to get back together because i know i can find better but she was at the time my best friend. sometimes im cuirous at how she is doing like a friend ...
A. 15 June 2015: Your words don't SAY this.... but what I'm reading is: "I'm still carrying a candle for my ex-, and I'd like to find out if there's a chance I can rekindle things with her...."
I wasn't fooled.... and neither will be many of the other Aunts an... (read in full...)
His attitude towards me wanting a child in the future is affecting how I treat his 3 year old!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 2 years. He has a three year old son with another woman. They only dated for about a month and accidentally got pregnant and things didn't work out between them. I was originally ok with the situation. I ...
A. 15 June 2015: I can imagine three end-results of the situation that you've described...... TWO of them are pretty horrible for you; only ONE is even marginally good for you... and it's a long shot. Are you willing to carry on with this creature under those ... (read in full...)
I am confused, sad and lost, and can't stop my tears!
Q. How can I Trust my partner wen he calls me frumpy and unattractive and ogles and says how he loves other women's bodies and faces . Yet I'm 5.2 and 50 ks and often am told I look lovely and even his friend was shocked wen he found out that I am 20 ...
A. 15 June 2015: I note that you called this cad your "partner"..... so, I'm assuming that you are not married....
If that's so... then part ways with him... NOW.... and never look back. WHY would you want to spend even another minute with I guy who treats y... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband's secret instagram profiles?
Q. My husband and I have been together for a few years now. I don't really question his being physically faithful. We spend our weekends together, he rarely hangs out with friends or looks secretive on his phone. The other day i was going through ...
A. 11 June 2015: This is the SECOND time you've caught him in questionable fidelity??????? Are you such a baseball fan that you will extend him ONE MORE STRIKE before you declare him "out"???
Or, can you foresee that he really isn't all that faithful, after al... (read in full...)
I foolishly let him go, realized my mistake but now he says the feelings he had are gone. I want him back!
Q. I desperately need help to get the love of my life back. About 3 years ago we started dating, just casually at first but it became something more. After about a year he wanted to set up home with me, see me constantly and just generally have mor...
A. 11 June 2015: Bide your time.... Stay in contact with him... but DON'T "chase" him.....
I predict that he'll come around by November....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife her vagina is loose without hurting her feelings?
Q. We have been married for around 15 years and have had a good sex life. I'm around 42 and my wife is 40. I have started facing this problem - I find my wife's vagina very loose now. I do not get the same feeling in my penis now as I used to get ...
A. 11 June 2015: 1. Yes, women find it offensive.... and,
2. Keep your mouth shut and count your blessings....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My husband's family are monsters and I don't want them to be around us!
Q. Hello, I'm in need of some advice. Course aren't we all? I'm 6 months pregnant and have a 7 year old as well. I'm with a very amazing lovable man. He is a wonderful father, and a blessing as a husband. He is my best friend and lover all in one...
A. 11 June 2015: When you wrote: "... I love him and will never force someone to choose between families or me..." you made it clear that YOU aren't going to do a darn thing to improve matters.....
Your options are two:
1. Tell hubby that HE must make a d... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant by a married man who lied to me. How do I get support for my baby?
Q. Hello everyone, I would like to share my story to everyone and please give me some advices. I dated this guy. He's older than me 15 years old. When I dated him, he told me that he's single and never married before. He always promised me that...
A. 11 June 2015: Don't spend even a minute of your time and energy trying to figure out how "to teach this guy (this CAD!) a lesson....).
He isn't going to learn it.... and you aren't going to benefit from that effort....
Instead, get good counsel, get to ... (read in full...)
How did we date for 2 years and not see that we weren't compatible?
Q. We broke up tonight because we're not compatible. Our views on things we deem important are not the same, we keep arguing about them over and over again, and just cannot and would not come to a compromise. He says I should forget his wrong doings, ...
A. 11 June 2015: You write: "...we were never really compatible to begin with, yet it took us two years to find out..." Wouldn't you be even MORE ticked off if you and he spent 10 years, or 15 years and had a handful of kids, as well... before you found out???
... (read in full...)
My Bf discovered I was flirting with guys on Tinder.So we broke up. How can I convince my now ex-Bf he is the only one for me?
Q. My long term bf has found out Ive been harmlessly flirting with guys on tinder without wanting to meet them. It was just harmless. We had a bust up over me going on dating sites and we were broken up for for a month. I never wanted anybody else...
A. 11 June 2015: When you write: ".... I've been harmlessly flirting with guys on tinder...." you pinpoint yourself as one who doesn't much give a damn about your B/F's feelings..... IF you do something that you can't do RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOUR B/F (such as this ... (read in full...)
I don't know how tell my bf after five years together that I'm not satisfied with our sex life!
Q. My bf and I have had some rough patches but the past two years have been great. The only thing is: I don't want sex with him anymore....I love kissing him, being held by him and its bliss to hug him but not sex. I used to be very okay with it and ...
A. 11 June 2015: You could sit him down and say: "Hunchey-Bunchy, I am crazy about you ... most of the time.... BUT I find being intimate with you (Yes... that means having s*x!!!)... is unfulfilling. SO, I suggest that we go our separate ways. That is, I am ... (read in full...)
He seems more interested in a stupid video game and getting high, I only get his attention when I offer something "sexy"!
Q. Okay sooooo am i overreacting? Or has something seemed to happen. So this guy and i have been bestfriends or at least thats what i always thought thats what it was but he told me the other day that he just called me that cuz he was "in love" with ...
A. 11 June 2015: Perhaps it would be helpful if you understood that, when a guy sez he is "in love" with a girl... MUCH of what that means is: "I like to have s*x with you...."
Now, that that has calmed down... YOU are expecting him to behave as if he is "in love... (read in full...)
What sort of a relationship is it where insults and sarcasm are common?
Q. I feel so upset/down and uncared for at the moment, it's been building for a couple of days now. My partner hasn't really been as talkative the past few days or affectionate, she gets like that sometimes so basically all I asked was if she was o...
A. 10 June 2015: I read through your submittal, twice, and still couldn't figure out where was your (and her's) "relationship."
You'd be wise to simply separate from her, and seek a real "relationship" with someone else.... This one DOESN'T EXIST.
Good lu... (read in full...)
My boyfriend will not apologize for standing me up!
Q. After looking everywhere on the Internet for an answer, I feel like I should ask my very own question out there. Boyfriend of 8 months is usually wonderful, I know that he does his very best for me and our relationship. He's very committed and ve...
A. 1 June 2015: Do you recall the classic cartoon, wherein a big bully has his open hand on some scrawny guy's forehead.... and the scrawny guys is swinging wildly because his reach doesn't even extend to the big bully????? I can't get that picture out of my ... (read in full...)
My ex and I talk/text sexual things but he's got a girlfriend
Q. My son's father and I are not together anymore. We haven't been for over a year. He's had another gf for about a year. I've been single since we ended things. About 6 months ago, he and I were talking and things started to go in a sexual ...
A. 31 May 2015: Focus on this part of your submittal: "....I can't just stop talking to him because of our son,..."
Then, realize that YES, YOU CAN (stop talking to him)......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Can you think of examples where a woman initiated a relationship? I need some examples to demolish my long held view that this never happens.
Q. Because it seems, to me, that all boyfriend and girlfriend relationships are still initiated by the guy, where the man approaches the woman first, talks to her first and asked her out first, initiated everything or almost everything in the ...
A. 31 May 2015: When I got my '56 Pontiac... many of the girls in school were willing to "hang out" with me.... When I got my Austin-Healy, it was like I was a wildebeest with a broken leg... and the girls were famished hyenas.........
So.... yes, sometime... (read in full...)
Do men want kids as much as women? Can men have a strong desire for children?
Q. Is a man's desire to have kids as strong as a woman' s? Obviously this requires a bit of generalisation - there are plenty of women that don't want kids, and plenty of men that do - but are men generally a bit more ambivalent towards kids?...
A. 31 May 2015: I'm approaching 65 Y.O. My G/F is 75. I've told her that I want to start a family..... and she is agreeable to going along with that....... We try to start a family most every morning. So far... no luck.... BUT, we are persistent!!!!
So, y... (read in full...)
Is it not as easy, as it seems, to get pregnant for some people? Anything else that could help?
Q. My fiancé and I have been trying for a baby for 8 months now, in that time we've only conceived once but sadly that pregnancy ended in miscarriage a few months back. Recently we've been trying like rabbits to conceive again, in every position you ...
A. 29 May 2015: My G/F and I "give it our best".... and STILL - after three and a half years - no luck.... I can't give you much advice... Just keep climbing on her and doing your best......
P.S. We are 75 y.o.(her) and 65 y.o. (me).... but we don't think th... (read in full...)
He lied about having a baby and a wife, I can't trust him anymore but I'm still with him!
Q. I lived with my bf for a year.. He's from Iraq and I am from South America but we both live in United States. I discovered some pics on Facebook about him and a baby which I asked and he said it is his nephew..after that like 3 months after a woman ...
A. 29 May 2015: Soooo..... you have a "boyfriend" who is a DOG... who has a wife and child.... and YOU can't figure out how to end things with him?????
Try this: "Hunchy-bunchy, from Iraq.... I now know that you are a DOG... don't give a damn about ME (never m... (read in full...)
It makes me sick that I keep visiting prostitutes but I can't stop. Please help!
Q. i:am lonely an can"t stop picking up prostitues. it makes me sick and I don't no what to do.please,please help me...
A. 29 May 2015: Here's some "help".... Imagine, that, one night, you pick up a prostitute who has a disease/condition which will cause YOUR DICK TO FALL OFF!!!!! You "pick her up" and enjoy her for a few minutes.... and, a while afterwards, your DICK FALLS ... (read in full...)
Big decisions. Do I stay in my comfort zone? Or should I take a chance with this job offer, despite my Bf's objections?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for seven years now (lived together for five years with his grandparents). I've been on a temporary contract with work for the past year, but I've just been offered a full time permanent position at a new company ...
A. 29 May 2015: Boyfriend, SCHmoyfriend!!! Do what's "best" and "right" for YOU.... If he's worth his salt, you and he can reconcile things, later......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend wants to be back in my life
Q. My ex and I have broken up for 3mths. We would tak every now and then but not much. He would initiate all contact. The breakup was pretty crazy as I wasnt ready to accept it and kept tryin to fix it, til one day, I just stopped. He told me he ...
A. 26 May 2015: When there's this much turmoil, I suggest that ANYBODY keep things at arm's length for AT LEAST six months.... After which you can see if you really give a darn about this guy/girl who is causing you to act this way......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My ex said he made a mistake breaking up with me and now I can't stop thinking of him
Q. I was in relationship with a guy for a couple of years. I was so crazy on him like I loved him so madly and I trusted him to the core. But he broke up with me and went with other girl. First it was so hard for me even I tried committing suicide. But ...
A. 26 May 2015: WHY???.... would you consider spending even ANOTHER MINUTE with a guy who treated you like this??????
You can - and should - find a nicer guy to spend your time with....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How can I get turned on in person and not just by my fantasies? I am really nervous.
Q. Every time I think about my boyfriend I get wet thinking about him and the things we can do. But when we are together, I get nervous and can't get wet. It's really embarrassing, and I don't want to offend him. I'm a virgin, so I think I'm just ...
A. 26 May 2015: Tell B/F: "Hey, Hunchy-bunchy, you know I'm not very sexually experienced... but when I think of YOU and ME getting it on.... I'm like a torrential river "down there"..... Would you like to see if I/we can keep this going if/when we get between ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend accuses me of being jealous of his niece and blows up at me. Am I wrong to be upset?
Q. I have been in a relationship for three years with a really nice guy. It just seems that I am in limbo. When I ask if we have a future together his response is yes, nothing else. I’ve even asked if I have been wasting his and my time for these ye...
A. 26 May 2015: Maybe you are invisible???? Try putting some paint upon yourself... and see if B/F (or, any of the rest of the family) notices that you exist.......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
2 years of sleeping with ex who is married. Do I walk away?
Q. Been sleeping with ex for almost 2 years. He's married. I said to him "when you get divorced we can spend more time together". He said, "you'll find someone" I said so will you, since he's been saying he's getting divorced. He responded, "I have ...
A. 26 May 2015: WHY, WHY, WHY... do women think that they can f*ck themselves in to a guy's heart....
BULLETIN: Ladies.... once we (men) have you putting out for us.... ALL OTHER SOCIAL NICETIES ARE "OPTIONAL"!!!!!!!
Drop this guy, now... and get on with your... (read in full...)
A girl texted me saying that my b/f asked for her number. I don't know how to talk to him about it
Q. I need to speak to my boyfriend about something that has previously caused problems in the past in our relationship. The problem is, and it may sound stupid, but I don't know how to tell him. Basically, a girl has messaged me and said that my boy...
A. 22 May 2015: Do you remember the Seinfeld episode which is titled "It's not you; it's me"? In it, the players reveal that "It's not you; it's me" is a clear lead-in to a breaking up. Well, it's the same with "We need to talk" and "there's something I need ... (read in full...)
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