What should I do? He does not want to talk about it, but money keeps disappearing from our joint funds
Q. I need some advice as I don't know what to do. I have been married for 6 years. For the past year or so i have slowly but surely noticed money gone from our savings. Now we are careful about our money and we never touch our savings unl...
A. 24 September 2015: Your bank can give you a detailed rundown of withdrawals from your account.... and you may use that to confront hubby.
I suspect he's taking the money and believes that YOU will believe HIM when he sez there's no explanation for the money's ... (read in full...)
Is this his anger speaking or should I break it off with him?
Q. So , I ve been talking to and hanging with this guy I like for a year and some ... He's never really asked to be my boyfriend or make it official. I have but he didn't give me a direct Yes. Anyways, He says he likes me, he said he loved me once or ...
A. 24 September 2015: Nope..... Don't "take him back".... don't communicate with him.... AND forget that you ever met him. Is that clear enough?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My husband is upset at me because of my advice about a desperately needed vehicle for work transportation. Is he in the right?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, This might seem very trivial but i've been feeling stressed out and feel upset about it. Now my husband lost his car recently, i've lost mine a few months back to a bad accident. He's been looking for a job activly and even...
A. 24 September 2015: When an automobile has such intense impact upon your lives and relationship.... you (both) need to step back and consider WHAT is the nature of your focus.... Frankly, it "sounds" like having a car available is all that you and hubby have to think ... (read in full...)
My daughter spent most of her inheritance from her grandfather on silly things and is now asking me for money to cover her education. Should I tell her how I feel about the situation?
Q. Around February of this year, my 20 year old daughter got about 20k from her grand father when he passed away. Now our family doesn't really come from a wealthy background, so when she got this money I was very happy for her and tried to encoura...
A. 24 September 2015: TELL HER... that responsibility with money is just like every other responsibility.....
AND.... that you and "Daddy" haven't got much to offer relative to her education... and she's on her own.
HOW LONG do you suppose that you are expected... (read in full...)
Is it wrong? Fling with Ex girlfriend's mum and she wants more?
Q. I recently had a fling with my ex-girlfriends' Mum and she wants to see me on a regular basis. Is it wrong? We're both single... I'm 24 and she's 41 and divorced. I went out with my ex-girlfriend for just over a year and during that time I a...
A. 24 September 2015: WHO CARES what the daughter (your ex-) thinks. Enjoy...... (read in full...)
He's told me that I'm cute during the many times we chatted online. But was he just more interested in sex?
Q. Hey everyone so im so confused about a guy that I've been talking to. We talked everyday for a week mostly snspchatting and messaging. We hung out last Friday and he was super nice, we talked about really deep stuff. And then we hugged for like 10 ...
A. 20 September 2015: I believe you'll find that just about every guy "just wants sex..".... but the difference will be in the details of what we will do to manipulate the roadblocks that women will put in front of us to avoid that....
Try to "read" him.... and see ... (read in full...)
Why do guys give the promiscuous flirty girls so much attention?
Q. Do guys usually like the flirty and promiscuous type of girls? I need some advice because I hate to say I'm a little jealous of this girl I know who gets so much attention from my guy friends and just a lot of guys in general. She sleeps around wi...
A. 20 September 2015:
We continue to delude ourselves that (some) women - the flirty ones that you mention - find us so irresistable that they can't wait for us to take them home and have $ex with them.... no obligation - no questions asked....
It's a fantasy, of ... (read in full...)
What are my options while my husband treats me with such contempt, by telling me ''if you don't like it, move out''?
Q. Hi, my husband and I have been married for 35yr's. The problem is if I ask him to flush the toilet,or rinse the sink after he brushes teeth he tells me if I don't like it move out. Always telling how to drive,we are both retired and disabled and he ...
A. 20 September 2015: You may reasonably assume that he'd just as soon that you move on and out. Once you do so (move on) you'll find that HE will have an and epiphany - an amazing change-of-heart - and he will come grovelling to you.....
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I've lost the passion for activities I used to love. Also considering losing my virginity before marriage. Is this normal?
Q. At what age is self discovery complete?. I thought I knew what I wanted in life completely at 18, but right now, my decisions seem to be fluctuating. I wanted to keep my body, my virginity for my husband but right now if I am okay with whom I a...
A. 20 September 2015: I'm age 65, and my "self-discovery" is far from complete....
Good luck....
P.S. What I've "discovered" so far isn't anything to write home about!!!!!!... (read in full...)
How can I get over this extremely painful breakup?
Q. My and ex and I split up in March and ive taken it badly. We split because we argued a lot and he had money problems. Ive been in turmoil ever since. Ive blocked him from facebook and changed my number and tried to move on with my life. He started ...
A. 20 September 2015: Your submittal "says" to me that - following your breakup - you crave to find a new "relationship" that would fill the void which occurred when the other failed.....
There's no reason to believe that you can't be "by yourself" following a breakup.... (read in full...)
My husband is loving towards me but has favourites of naked women and goes to chat sites and looks at porn!
Q. My Question is, is it ok for your husband to seek out new sexy females as friends on social networks constantly and connecting with porn or other people he is attracted to by following or friending them, he knows it hurts me when he does this and ...
A. 18 September 2015: No, it's not "OK." Whilest he will tell you that ogling/chatting and the like are not "real cheating".... they are for this reason: He is compromising his dedication and loyalty to YOU. Some will refer to "mental" cheating... and say that it ... (read in full...)
I left my husband because he hangs around his uncle who is a drug user and drug dealer
Q. My husband has a horrible uncle who is a cocaine addict and also selling the drug and other things like stealing etc..and going causing trouble with other drug dealers. I have had many an argument with my husband about him associating with him as ...
A. 18 September 2015: Yes.... you did the "right thing." It is only a matter of time before your hubby gets dragged deeper in to the environment in which he chooses to spend his time....
Count your Blessings that you've removed yourself from his circle...
Good lu... (read in full...)
My body is "flat" and I feel a woman should look more womanly
Q. I am a 25 year old woman. I have very small A cup breasts and absolutely no butt. I have a very 'flat' appearance to my body. I hate to say that I'm somewhat insecure and quite unhappy with my body. I find myself comparing myself to curvy women w...
A. 18 September 2015: When you wrote "...Nice breasts and butts are what make a woman attractable to men so it makes me feel bad that I don't have these qualities...." you were mistaken.
It's not so that any/all men like curvy women. (I'm one of them!, so I speak fr... (read in full...)
I don't want my abusive parents in my life. How do I tell them?
Q. I have parents who are very abusive and drug addicts and I have never understood why this has happened. Despite me continuously trying to help them they will not do the right thing. I am at my wits end. Yesterday my mother yelled at me and grabbe...
A. 18 September 2015: Is there any compelling reason that you have to see/interact with them? (Do you live with them?)
Unlike the preceding "reply"... I suggest that you simply - and quietly - extricate yourself from their lives. Stay away from them.... don't in... (read in full...)
Why do some men turn really nasty when they dump you?
Q. Why do some men turn really nasty when they dump you? I had a bad fall out with my ex. We had only been seeing each other a short time but after a few months we fell out over a misunderstanding and he dropped me - just like that - no warning, noth...
A. 18 September 2015: They do it because they're jerks.
The irony is, that you find out after-the-fact that he was a jerk... and if he'd announced it to you at the beginning, you could have avoided wasting time with him...
P.S. Same applies to women....
Goo... (read in full...)
Should I just stop wasting my time with a guy who is so like my father? Neither my father nor my Bf have much patience.
Q. I have been dating someone for the last 3 months, and he painfully reminds me my father. They have one thing in common, it's the way they conduct all the conversations. My father has no patience listening to something that he thinks is not imp...
A. 18 September 2015: There's cruel irony in your submittal. That is, that people often gravitate to others WHO RESEMBLE THEIR PARENTS (!!!!). It's quite visible in the case of: "Those two (long-term partners or spouses) are starting to look like one-another."
... (read in full...)
Is there is a point of no return with regards to personal failures and disappointing lifestyles?
Q. I am ill disciplined and have no ambition. I am the source and creator of all my current misery. However, I would like to change myself. I have been able to work myself into a "better" version of myself but my problem now is that I am afraid that it ...
A. 17 September 2015: It's NEVER "too late..." Get started, now...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is this normal behavior for a 5 year relationship?
Q. Been in a 5 year relationship with my girlfreind soon to be wife (now not so sure) She is a good girl and perfect gf iv had in a while, but there seems to be just one problem, her emotional and verbal physical abuse towards me when she feels ...
A. 16 September 2015: You write: "...She is a good girl and perfect gf iv had in a while, but there seems to be just one problem,..." then you proceed to tell us of her/your "problem".... which problem should be a deal-breaker. Back out of marrying this girl ... (read in full...)
My fiance has become the "Church lady" and I don't know how to deal with it
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together about 6 ½ years. Last winter we told our friends and families that we intend to marry someday soon. No ring but we went that far, so I guess she’s my fiancé. We are both in our 40’s. She has children, nearly g...
A. 16 September 2015: Your submittal is of a relationship that started out fine... but, then, one of the participants changed things..... enough so that, now, that relationship is doomed..... Sorry.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
We are together but totally incompatible. Should I end things?
Q. Although i want to have a relationship in which i really feel things, that doesn't happen. I am with someone because i don't want to be alone completely but i don't really feel things for him. He usually annoys me without doing something faulty ...
A. 11 September 2015:
Yes........ (read in full...)
Did losing my virginity so late in life mess me up?
Q. LOSING MY VIRGINITY I was 38 when I lost my virginity but I always wanted to lose it sooner. I was very shy and never met anyone that could help me lose it, as one would need another person to accomplish this. Ever since I was about 13, I got ...
A. 11 September 2015: You "sound like" me. The back seat of my 1956 Pontiac was ALWAYS ready to be that place wherein I became a MAN.... but, it wasn't until I was in college,.... in my dorm room.... that I found a woman who was agreeable to jumping on me!!!!
Be pa... (read in full...)
Do women ever regret giving up a good guy for a bad guy?
Q. Hello,do women ever regret, going back, with a abusive ex after being with a nice guy, an do they ever think about the nice guy...
A. 11 September 2015: They do this all the time.... BUT, they're too stubborn to admit it.....
Why do you ask?
... (read in full...)
Should I go for it and have a threesome with my boyfriend and girlfriend?
Q. Need open and none judgemental advice people. I have a boyfriend and a gf. They both know about each other and they are both ok with the situation. The reason why I have two was I met them both within a week of each other and was "dating" like you ...
A. 11 September 2015: This bit of your submittal is the key: "But I have also read that threesomes ruin relationships...."
You have to decide if risking both relationships is worth the few minutes of carnal ecstasy that you might experience....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why are my parents so different about money than my friends' parents?
Q. I've always been a little jealous of my 2 best friends. Their parents are wealthy and help them out whenever they need it. One of them just ended up getting a brand new car. Well my parents are different. They are quite wealthy but have always ...
A. 11 September 2015: Count your Blessings for having parents who are prompting you to be a responsible adult.... especially as it applies to making one's own way in life....
I grew up in a fancy-schmancy resort, wherein I saw, every summer, those kids (like your fri... (read in full...)
Am I a fool for falling in love?
Q. Did I do the right thing, I turned around an walk away, without saying a word, I was seeing this gal for three months, fell head over heals in love, her ex beat all the time, she was going through therapy, for the abuse, when he got out of jail, she ...
A. 10 September 2015: Do you remember that old song by Frankie Lymon and the Teenagers....."Why do fools fall in love?" We do it because it's something natural.... We can't control who will be that lovely girl who catches our eye... AND we can't control if and/or when ... (read in full...)
I learned his native language but I feel underappreciated for my efforts! How do I broach this subject with him?
Q. My partner of over a year was born and raised outside the UK, and moved here for work. He is perfectly fluent in English, and we have no problems communicating in it. He took me to meet his friends and family in his home country, saying that I ...
A. 10 September 2015: Could you convince yourself that you started learning this second language because you wanted to assimilate yourself to be closer to your friend (?)..... BUT, that he doesn't exhibit much appreciation that you did so (?)...... HOWEVER, you are ... (read in full...)
Porn and sex, why doesn't he want to touch me or do anything with me?
Q. My boyfriend has been watching porn since 13 all the way to 23. We started dating and he stopped shortly after. Our sex life is terrible still. When we first started dating he couldn't get off, it was hard to get him aroused then he lost it. He ...
A. 9 September 2015: This guy is not your guy, to fix... He is who he is... and he is leaving you feeling as if there, really, is nothing "going on" between the two of you.
Why fight it????? Drop him... and find a guy who is more "mainstream".... meaning one who ... (read in full...)
I'd like to rekindle the friendship
Q. Hi So I would like to get in touch with a friend who was best friends in primary school. We then went out separate ways in high school. O am friends with her on a social networking site so it's not hard for me to get in touch with her. We haven't ...
A. 7 September 2015: You can always send along a "Hi, how you doing?"...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I love him completely and I'm scared he doesn't feel the same way. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I'm feeling really down at the moment and I just need some help about what I should do. Thanks for any replies :) I'll try and make it short.. So me and this guy have know each other for almost 6 years now. We've had a casual on off re...
A. 6 September 2015: From your description of your (and, his) situation.... I'd say that you are his "bit on the side".... ON STEROIDS!!!!... and he has no incentive to get any closer to you.... or, to accommodate you any more than he has been doing......
I predict ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in insisting she get a divorce?
Q. I really need some help figuring out what to do in my current situation. I have been with my girlfriend for a year now. When we first met I didn't tell her about an older daughter that I have because she hasn't been in my life for a very long ...
A. 5 September 2015: You write: " I know I need to get out and find happiness but I do love her."
Then, you need to make up your mind. You can't claim to love her..... AND also have happiness. Me? I'd vote for happiness and drop her.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Does he just want sex or could we be friends?
Q. So I've asked similar questions, but now there's more to it. So I lost my virginity to a guy who was a co-worker, at the time when I lost my virginity we were no longer co-workers because i had quit due to some family issues. I don't think it m...
A. 5 September 2015: YES... he just wants you for sex; NO... you and he can't be "friends"......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My ex cheated, lied and even slapped my face once. How do I stop wanting to go back to him?
Q. dear cupids, really i need help. i am now overly happy, excited, and boosted with energy. what did i do? i simply watched some videos of my ex-boyfriend, in his car, in his house, mostly with his family members. my heart is just racing with...
A. 4 September 2015: When a woman is happy about a guy who slapped her face.... she needs to assess NOT HIM.... but herself....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do I show him and prove to him that I don't need him anymore?
Q. Hey guys What's the best way to show someone you have an FU mentality I stupidly got led on by someone who I thought was interested as we were friends first but he hadn't tied loose ends with his ex - they're long finished now But then s...
A. 4 September 2015: You'll be pleasantly surprised to find how effective it is to simply ignore someone, such as this guy, who "gets to you" as much as he does....
P.S. I mean, IGNORE FOREVER!!!!!
Good luck........ (read in full...)
He rejected me years ago. Should I ask him to be friends again?
Q. I have been in love with this guy friend for three years now. He knows about my feelings because I confessed a few months before our college graduation. Unfortunately, he doesn't love me back and only loves me as a friend. We didn't talk for ...
A. 2 September 2015: Sometimes, it's just so darn hard to make that final break with someone who really "floated your boat."
BUT, the only way you will find to avoid kidding yourself that he's going to have an epiphany and fall in love with you.... is to make tha... (read in full...)
Four years of dating, so why is my Gf continuing to refuse penetrative sex, with so many "no" excuses?
Q. My girlfriend won't have penetrative sex with me, although we enjoy other forms of intimacy. She gives excuses like soreness, or thrush, but even on the few occasions I have started full sex she doesn't allow me complete entrance. I'm a 67 years...
A. 2 September 2015: Been there; done that. The woman I dated simply wasn't much interested in sex.... As it happens (in hindsight) she also never told me that she loved me (but, DID day, "I like you A LOT...").
I finally realized that the "relationship" I THOUGHT ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is letting a girl interfere in our relationship and I don't know what to do about it
Q. So, my LDR boyfriend just started attending a new college and immediately made acquaintances with this girl. She's in a few of his classes and is working at the campus radio station. She's pretty annoying and not so bright, which we've both ...
A. 1 September 2015: OP: I wasn't trying to be patronizing.... just realistic.
Please be sure to submit an update, later in the semester...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Every day I feel stressed and depressed because of my life, husband, parents. What do I do?
Q. I'm a married woman with 3 kids and I'm under tremendous stress and I need help. First off a few months ago my husband confessed to cheating which totally destroyed me and our relationship. We have been trying to work it out for the sake of our ...
A. 1 September 2015: You've got a cheatin' hubby... and druggie parents.... Not much of an encouraging picture. I suggest you extricate yourself from these sorry excuses for "adults".... and figure out how to live by - and raise your kids by - yourself. Those others ... (read in full...)
My LDR boyfriend is letting a girl interfere in our relationship and I don't know what to do about it
Q. So, my LDR boyfriend just started attending a new college and immediately made acquaintances with this girl. She's in a few of his classes and is working at the campus radio station. She's pretty annoying and not so bright, which we've both ...
A. 1 September 2015: She's available for sex; you aren't. Do you see what the REAL ISSUE is, here??????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I be scared about starting to look for another Gf, due to the fact that I believe I have a small penis?
Q. Okay so I am 16 I am scared to start looking for another gf as I have a small penis there's nothing I can do about it but it sucks. I don't want to get a gf and lose her because my penis is really small. I can't stop thinking about my ex, we've not...
A. 31 August 2015: Further to SVC: It's not the size of the wand, but the magic of the performer that puts the rabbit in the hat.....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
Is there ever a right time to give someone a piece of your mind?
Q. Help. My friend who I thought was a friend was making a play for my man all along. We split up and he blocked me and then chose her instead of me, but mainly because she was stirring things up between us with lies and my ex chose to believe her ...
A. 29 August 2015: The best way to "give (someone) a piece of your mind..." is to sit down with pen and paper..... WRITE OUT that "piece of your mind..".... no holds barred.... tell them what an a$$hole they are.... how offended you are that they wronged you in such ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact even though he lied to me?
Q. Dear cupids, I posted a story http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-dont-want-to-be-the-victim.html. I want to continue from where I stopped but before that let's just say my healing process has been slow but I am better now. The main point ...
A. 29 August 2015: There's an old adage that goes like this:
"When you find you're in a hole that is so deep that you can't get out of it..... STOP DIGGING!!!!!"
That applies to you, in these circumstances.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
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