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Hot and cold? playing hard to get? Does this guy like me? Or just loves me as a friend?

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Question - (6 August 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 7 August 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, *lisaVali writes:

Hello, here is a guy at my college that i've met him in a party.

He started adding me on social medias. And he also texted me alot and asked for my number 3 times until i gave it to him. He would flirt with me a lot and compliments me. He also sometimes opens up for me about him being sad. Everything was okay the past 1 month but recently he have been acting very weird. He would always text me first and keep the convo for hours, but now he would actually still start the conversation but when i reply he would ignore it. He would also sometimes talk about other girls and him being single.

Once he didn't texted me for a week, and then he came back to me and texted "Long time no talk' and he talked to me for 30 minutes then he ignored my text and never replied and the next day he would text me first again and act as if nothing happened. He flirts and then ignore.

He would call me beautiful/pretty and then he would talk about other girls and hot celebs? He once told me that he loves me but in a very indirect way, and it was awkward and i didnt say anything. Im too confused. Does he likes me? Or just loves me as a friend? Or just playing hard to get/hot amd cold? Or is he just a jerk?

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (7 August 2015):

He's a certified jerk. He talks about other girls when he's with you. That's disrespectful, and a sign of a soft-core wannabee junior-player. He likes your attention, and basks in your feelings for him. He feeds you some attention just to get you started, and once he's got you going; he's off to see what other girls he can do the same to.

Sweetie, when a guy ignores you; you should just dump him.

It's not worth the time trying to figure him out. If what he does hurts you, the best thing to do is give-up; and find something better. Maintain your dignity and show your strength. Tell him you're done with his adolescent games and you're moving on. Then do it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2015):

How do you feel about him and what way have you responded to him? If he said he loves you, how did that come up?

Do you like him because I don't think he is a jerk, because we don't know how you have been talking to him back..

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (6 August 2015):

Honeypie agony auntEh, the guy has discovered that if he keeps pushing he can get a girls number. He likes the chase, he likes to be able to call/text LOADS of girls because it makes him feel like a stud.

IF he was seriously into you, don't you think.... he would have asked you out? Or tried to spend time with you IN person instead of over text?

I think he is using you (and other girls) to "hone" his skills on hitting on girls, nothing more.

I'd move on. And if these conversation aren't really going anywhere, just flirting - what point is there to them? Ego rubs? killing boredom?

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (6 August 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntI vote for "...Or is he just a jerk."

Good luck....

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