Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 8 May 2015: This: "I agree that we need to get engaged or move in together, something, but that will not happen..." is like finding your house on fire, then seeing a bucket with SOME liquid in it (unbeknownst to you, it's gasoline!)... and deciding to throw ... (read in full...)
Do you think A's intentions are towards me are likely to lead to where?
Q. Ok, I'm not sure where to start here but please bare with me. I have been in an emotionally abusive/controlling/difficult relationship for 6yrs. I have tried to separate from my husband several times, I don't love him, I am not happy with him. H...
A. 7 May 2015: You spent SIX YEARS enduring this mistreatment????????????
Give it another six MINUTES... Tell hubby: "Hunchy-bunchy, you need to make wholesale changes in the way you treat me... or, I'm outta here..." Wait the six minutes... and if he is not k... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to send his Mom flowers? My Bf's family treat poorly and bully me.
Q. I have been in a relationship,three years. my boyfriend's family hates me, no overplay on the word, hate; believe me, I wish I was. His sisters bully me at every opportunity they get. BTW, I am not young, I am in my 50's. I have no family ...
A. 7 May 2015: That little voice that's nagging me from the back of my mind is asking: "WHAT KIND OF "BOYFRIEND" IS THIS, .... THAT WOULD ALLOW HIS FAMILY TO INTERACT WITH YOU - HIS GIRLFRIEND - IN THIS MANNER...."
Don't "put this" on HIS family.... direct i... (read in full...)
My ex dumped me for another women. What can I do to stop thinking about the situation & being jealous of her?
Q. My ex fell out with me and dumped me for another woman who is still a friend of mine on Facebook. I know he was seeing her before we fell out - hence the argument - although she always maintained she didn't know we were still together. Howeve...
A. 7 May 2015: That jealousy will EAT YOU UP... from the inside out.. as long as you let it remain within you.....
Take up a hobby.... volunteer at a homeless shelter.... do ANYTHING to distract your mind from this destructive jealousy.... and get on with you... (read in full...)
If he announces he just wants a romp with no sex, would that be a deal-breaker?
Q. I know there has been one or two similar posts, but I would really appreciate negative or positive reponses on the following, from females or males who have experience in this. You meet a guy you think is cute at a party, bar etc, get on really w...
A. 7 May 2015: When a guy wants "...plenty of foreplay etc...." they, necessarily, expect that that will advance the momentum to EXACTLY what they REALLY want. i.e. For YOU to put out.
IF you buy this.... then YOU are being naive.... DON'T EVER go somewher... (read in full...)
My conceited narcissistic boyfriend keeps putting me down and I lost all my motivation!
Q. Hey everyone, I have been in a relationship for 2 years and not so long ago I realised how conceited and a narcissist my boyfriend is!he is always praising himself and how good at work he is and how he is being praised at work,I mean it's one thin...
A. 7 May 2015: "I told him he is a narcissist and a moron,..."
There's nothing shameful in telling the truth. The only real issue is: WHY would you spend another minute with this guy?
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways?
Q. Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways??He is still calling on occasion which after the phone calls I only feel worse and now he wants to get together for sex. I admit I was weak and suggested it and we did where I spent the night. ...
A. 7 May 2015: "Why does my ex-boyfriend think he can have it both ways??"
He CAN.... BECAUSE YOU ALLOW IT!!!!!! Are you unable to see your part in this pathetic charade??????
Get away from him... stay away from him.... and get on with your life, WITHOUT HI... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and my partner would rather masturbate and watch porn then have sex with me
Q. Hello, well... This feels very awkward for me. I've always been someone who figured things out on her own. I'm to the point of breaking that I turn to you all. I'm engaged to a great (or at least good) man. I'm also pregnant with a 7 year o...
A. 7 May 2015: The guy "loves" his hand more than he loves you. Is THAT much clear????
Doesn't sound like "boyfriend/hubby" material to me... Is he the "baby daddy" of your pregnancy?
I don't see much of a future here, for you... BUT, I also see you adm... (read in full...)
Is there any thing wrong with me? He cheated on me so often. I cannot trust him any more.
Q. I apologize in advance for the length of this post. I dated a guy for about 9 months long distance. We met online and for the first 2-3 months we would spend 8-10 hours a day talking and skyping. Being in person together felt right and we got...
A. 6 May 2015: This guy isn't worth another minute of your time... Dump him.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'd like to hint to her that I think she's hot. How do I bring up the idea of maybe going for a drink?
Q. So I am a closeted bi sexual girl, and am really attracted to this girl at work. I was speaking about this girl to a work colleague who told me she was gay, however I really don't know if she fancies me, or what to say to her to make it seem tha...
A. 5 May 2015: Here's what you say: "Hey, (girl at work's name), it's been a tough day... and I'd like to go sop up a tall glass of wine. Wanna join me?"
IF she sez, "Sure, girl who wrote to Dear Cupid, that would be delightful. Let's go." Then you and she ... (read in full...)
My parents struggled. Do I have the right to be resentful towards my parents? Or am I being ungrateful?
Q. I don't want this to come off as me being ungrateful or spoiled but I've always had problems and issues with money. Let me explain a little further. I grew up in poverty and it was that way my entire life. It never bothered me until I became a...
A. 5 May 2015: Parents can be a lot like the weather. You may not like it, today, but it might change tomorrow.... AND, in the long run, you might not like the weather where you are, AT ALL.....
BUT, your parents ARE your parents. Give them credit for whatever... (read in full...)
How can I have a successful relation with a guy when my mother is so disruptive, judgemental and interfering?
Q. I am 30 years old and I have been dating with this guy who is 46 years old. We love each other so much. He never been married or had a kid before. He is so honest person and I love him so much. The problem is my family,specially my mom.she always b...
A. 5 May 2015: WHO is living your life? ... You? .. or your Mother?
It's well that you are moving from her address, because that will be the key detail for YOU to exhibit that YOU are an adult... and your MOTHER will (finally) realize that you are an adult (t... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid? Or does my 55 year old Girlfriend have too many traits and behaviors of a chronic cheater?
Q. I'm 44 male and left my wife for a 55 year old hot lady. I've been married since 18 and rarely cheated, whereas she's been married 3 times and has 4 kids from 3 different men. She's cheated on all of them, been promiscuous, often having sex same ...
A. 4 May 2015: You "rarely cheated"... and she (by your accounting) is "promiscuous." Sounds like a match made in Heaven... HOWEVER, you've expanded your scope of things such that you've defined several "girly," or "womanly" things to "mean" "she's cheating." ... (read in full...)
Has my behaviour pushed her away?
Q. To some of you, this may be familiar. This is a little follow-on from previous events if you remember the last question. This girl and I work together (let's call her M). We have/had a great friendship; we would often say how much we miss each oth...
A. 4 May 2015: I love that word, ruminative. Thanks for using it....
Now.... to your question...
Yes, you are setting yourself up for continued (maybe, constant) disappointment..... AND, I think that this is not the only situation in which you might experi... (read in full...)
Should I stay away from my ex-emotional affair partner, even if I think he needs help?
Q. I have no contact for 4 months with the guy I had an "emotional affair" with. It's been close to a year now since it happened. I still hear about him because we have common friends. I tried to cut them off too for self-preservation but they've ...
A. 4 May 2015: All you'll accomplish by contacting him is change from ONE person needing help (him), to TWO people needing help (both of you)..... Don't bother.... He's a big boy and can handle his own matters....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
He just just sits there steaming. Why doesn't my husband of ten years accept that sometimes people do want to give me a compliment?
Q. I was wondering if anyone could help....my husband of 10 years hates when people compliment me. If we go anywhere and someone tells me I'm pretty he cringes. I always respond with a nice thank you. He just just sits there steaming. Why?? ...
A. 4 May 2015: SVC's reply gets right at the matter. It's hard to imagine a man behaving in this manner... since most of us (in my opinion) - would be flattered that someone noticed our lovely partner... and enough so to actually say such.....
Is there an... (read in full...)
I broke up with him, did I do the right thing?
Q. I'll make this has short has possible. Me and my bf have been together for 6 years, we've had our problems, broken up a few times but managed to get back together to make things work because we love each other. I just broken up with him again ...
A. 2 May 2015: Sageoldguy's FIRST rule of intimacy and relationships:
IF you (and he) can't reconcile a difference in your menus of S/S/I (that's sensual, sexual, intimate) goings-on.... THEN your "relationship" is doomed to failure....
Contemplate t... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my trust issues will eventually harm the relationship
Q. I love my boyfriend of 3 years and while we've had our ups and downs, we have really gotten to a good place. He is much more open and affectionate with me and I am more calm around him and this has befitted the relationship hugely. We will get marr...
A. 2 May 2015: Print out a copy of this submittal and bring it to your next session with your counsellor......
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'm concered with my husband's parenting style
Q. My husband and I have very different ways of parenting. We are both relatively young and have not been blessed with much patience. We have a 3 year old daughter who is pretty hyper and defiant but I guess thats pretty normal for a child her age. ...
A. 2 May 2015: "Sounds" to me like you're dealing with THREE children... and they're not playing together very well....
I hope your B/F-sperm donor grows up soon....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Dating a young guy but I don't see this is going to work out
Q. Hey, I'm living in weird relationship and I can't end it! The fair of being lonely again is stopping me! My partner is someone younger that me in 11 years ! I'm 31 he is 20 The age would not be an issue for me if he was older , as my ex was 1...
A. 2 May 2015: OP: I date a woman... and we have the same age difference... same direction (she's older). BUT, consider that for ME, the age difference is 15% of my life (I'm 65). For YOUR young man, the age difference is 50% of his life!!!!! That's an ... (read in full...)
Met him in a water polo. Based on his action, do you think he like me?
Q. i met a guy in my waterpolo class in the fall that I unintentionally fell for. Over the winter break, I added him on fb and messaged him about the class once, to which he replied immediately. We didn't have class together in the winter, so I didn't...
A. 1 May 2015: P.S. I understand the "unintentionally fell for..." bit... since I "unintentionally" fall for any girl that gives me a second glance!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Met him in a water polo. Based on his action, do you think he like me?
Q. i met a guy in my waterpolo class in the fall that I unintentionally fell for. Over the winter break, I added him on fb and messaged him about the class once, to which he replied immediately. We didn't have class together in the winter, so I didn't...
A. 1 May 2015: Tisha has fleshed out that you have posed this question, here, several times.
NOW, how about you "cut to the chase" and ask HIM??????
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why is it always down to me to do this? How can the situation be changed?
Q. I have been with my partner for four years, I work full time whilst he is studying in university. The thing is I sometimes feel like our relationship is boring because of him. We don’t live together and I go to his every weekend and it’s always the ...
A. 1 May 2015: One of the compatabilities that is necessary for a relationship to succeed, is that of energy/activity.....
Your's and B/F's seem to be quite disparate. YOU have to decide if you can continue to be satisfied with his sedentary approach to life ... (read in full...)
What can I do legally to get her to stop with all the crap shes doing so we can live our lives?
Q. Good day all... Here is the time for all you that give great advice to read my situation and give me advice on what I should do about it. I have been with my fiancé for almost 3 years now. Within a couple months of our relationship he ...
A. 1 May 2015: Your re-submittal ("new info?") doesn't change a single letter of my advice.... and probably doesn't change that of the other Aunts and Uncles, either.....
You are going to great lengths to convince us - and YOURSELF, apparently - that this pro... (read in full...)
What can I do legally to get her to stop with all the crap shes doing so we can live our lives?
Q. Good day all... Here is the time for all you that give great advice to read my situation and give me advice on what I should do about it. I have been with my fiancé for almost 3 years now. Within a couple months of our relationship he ...
A. 30 April 2015: This really isn't any of "YOUR" affair.... Sooooo,
I suggest there are only two choices available for you:
1. Tell fiance to face up to her B/S... and make arrangements for it to stop..... IF HE DOESN'T, OR WON'T DO THAT....
2. Tell him... (read in full...)
Would my ex FWB consider a relationship with me now?
Q. I'm pretty good friends with my ex fwb. We were fwb for about 18 months but we've been just friends for the last year. I had a boyfriend which is the reason the benefits ended, but we stayed in touch. This friend has always been really helpful t...
A. 30 April 2015: I guy who believes that he HAS a "FWB" girl-friend... will do most ANYTHING to keep alive (or: ressurrect) the dream that he KNOWS that that girl has... that he will BECOME her "real" boyfriend.... All the while KNOWING that she will do WHATEVER ... (read in full...)
If I really am the woman he is in love with and plans to be with for the rest of his life why has he made getting married so difficult?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years going on 3. We have two babies and are pretty serious about eachother. The only problem is that we seem to have completely different views about marriage. I want to get married desperately. Every inch of my ...
A. 30 April 2015: You have TWO babies!!!!.... and you're JUST NOW trying to figure out if you (two) are "serious" about one-another???????
YOU need to dump this "marriage-phobe"... and THEN, figure out if YOU know how difficult it is for kids to grow up in a one-pa... (read in full...)
Is my Bf telling me about a crush he once had on a pretty girl, only to make me jealous?
Q. my bf recently told me about a childhood crush of his and how pretty she is and how beautiful her smile is.I m feeling insecure becausezp if she loves him too he might leave me. At times i feel my bf really loves me and is doing this just to make ...
A. 30 April 2015: When people are as young as you are (18-21, no?).... jealousy is ubiquitous.... much like ketchup on a fast-food hamburger.
In-question is only your "guy's" talking about this OTHER girl, of whom he was fond...... YOU need to ASK him if he is... (read in full...)
Why does every girl just want to be friends? I don't get past date three. And now this girl'stopped texting me !
Q. so this girl was a regular customer at my store, and we had so much in common. (How many girls love giant monster and horror movies lol) and we started hanging out, nothing serious at all. We would watch cartoons together over Skype and text all the ...
A. 30 April 2015: Get PAST the third date????? According to my reference book or "Relationships".... BY (the end of) the third date, you should have her clothes off!!!!!!!!
Good luck....
P.S. I never had much luck, either........ (read in full...)
Why do women expect men to be mind readers?
Q. Why do women expect men to be mind readers? My wife has been grousing around lately. She finally erupted, "Just once I'd like to come home and find you made the salad for dinner!" "You want a salad? Call/text/e-mail and it's yours!...
A. 29 April 2015: It'll go on the rest of your life, so get used to it!!!!
Meanwhile,.... READ "Men are from Mars; Women are from Venus" AGAIN (Had you, previously? .. or, were you simply familiar with the title?).... AND, AGAIN, AND, AGAIN.....
You won't lea... (read in full...)
I want to say something to him and at least find out if theres any reason why he thought it was ok to make a plan and then disappear.
Q. I met a guy online several weeks ago and we went out a few times and had a great time. Recently we had plans to go out on Tuesday but then he cancelled last minute, apologized and said it was because he was asked to pick up an extra shift at work ...
A. 29 April 2015: Just "say nothing"..... A guy who would do this isn't worth much (any) of your time and/or mental energy...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can I fix this where I can just make love with my husband and not have to do the toy thing every time
Q. Don't know if I'm not what he wants any more or what??? OK I've been with my husband for going on 10 years we have a great sex life I would like to think. I'm very open minded an very understanding but I just got a question is he into something I...
A. 29 April 2015: Regardless of his sexual preferences.... he is CLEARLY "telling" you that he doesn't give a darn about what turns YOU on..... he needs/wants/craves HIS fetish.....
Decide if you want to continue in this fashion... OR, would you prefer a husband ... (read in full...)
Who should I choose? My ex, who called my reaction too jealous? Or this new guy I've just met?
Q. My older, once divorced boyfriend of two years recently told me that he wanted some space. He stated that I showed red flags of violent jealousy, during an encounter with his female friend at a local sports bar one Friday evening. He asked her ...
A. 29 April 2015: The first guy is an a$$ who is deft enough to get YOU to question YOURSELF.... whilest HE continues on as if you are invisible. Not much of a "boyfriend"....
The second guy really ISN'T "available"... is he?
Stay away from BOTH OF THEM....... (read in full...)
He's been selective, about what he says, when he's communicates with me. Should I just end my relationship with him?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years. We met on a dating website and chatted online for about 4 months before meeting. We then, or so I thought, had a good relationship seeing each other every weekend, chatting during the week. In ot...
A. 29 April 2015: The meat of your submittal is: "I can honestly say I've lost respect for him and want to move out. Should I just end the relationship?"
Yes.
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How can I calm my anxiety at the thought of losing him? Plus I need a guide on dating an introvert, please?
Q. I think i need a guide for dating an introvert... I am a very social, loving and very caring person. When in a relationship i always put the other person first, and always like to keep in contact, and do lots of thinga with them. Yet my boyfr...
A. 29 April 2015: Remember the "Seinfeld" episode that exposed this: " he tried to explain thats its not me..."
This phrase is a fractured attempt to lighten the blow of dumping someone.....
It's time for you to move on.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask her out but I have misgivings of being thought of as a sleazeball!
Q. There's this girl in my honors seminar group at university that I have a sight crush on. While a part of me would like to ask her out so that I might be able to get to know her better, another part of me is reluctant to do so. I really don't want to ...
A. 28 April 2015: I'm with Honeypie. It took me several semesters to establish a reputation as a sleazeball. I think you're putting the sleazeball cart before the sleazeball horse. If you are going to become a sleazeball... it takes a lot of time and effort.... ... (read in full...)
She told me she needs to be alone for a while. Did I come on too strong?
Q. Hi folks looking for some advice. I started seeing this girl "R" in feburary after meeting online- we went for a meal and clicked right away- we talked for over 7 hours and when it was time to go we shared a kiss which was truley amazing. A fe...
A. 28 April 2015: This is a classic case of a "kid in a candy store".... with a dollar in his fist... looking in the display case and thinking: "What will it be.... a Snickers bar, or a Hershey bar..."
Wait until she decides before you leave the display case and... (read in full...)
Do you think we will work out?
Q. I recently met this guy online. He seems like an honest decent man. We have been talking to each other for only 2-3 days but I think I already have a huge crush on him. Well I think he likes me too; he'd like to say something more about him when I ...
A. 28 April 2015: If you were my Sister, I'd suggest that you not waste your time pursuing this guy....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I walk away? Should I send the note?
Q. After 4.5 years of friendship, J and I began a relationship over Xmas which has largely been conducted online, because of her employment. I'm 32 and am plenty experienced, but this is the first time I feel I could be falling in love. Just recen...
A. 28 April 2015: "I write because it has happened again."
Be smart... make THIS the LAST TIME... and stick to your guns.... This girl will play you indefinitely, if you don't watch out for yourself.
Good luck..... (read in full...)
What can I do about about my partner's willingness to be too kind for his own good?
Q. Situation is this.... My partner and I have been together for a year and a half and we live together. My partner has an ex wife with whom he is still going through separation issues and settlements. The separation was nasty so he has left it al...
A. 28 April 2015: I suggest you get away from this guy, who - evidently - has no spine... Tell him: "Hunchy-bunchy, I really am smitten with you... but I don't want to spend any more time with you until you really ARE "available." IF you need detail of what ... (read in full...)
He's ''not sure about our relationship''?? Is this a temporary natural phase in a relationship? Or is it likely to be permanent?
Q. I've been in a wonderful relationship for over two and a half years now, and I thought everything was alright until last year. My partner said he wasn't sure about this relationship, so I gave him some space, and he eventually decided that he want...
A. 28 April 2015: I suggest that you get away from this character... indefinitely,... and tell him: "When you finally figure out just how you feel about me.... let me know... and I will tell you, then, if I want anything to do with YOU...."
That's really all you ... (read in full...)
I found out about his daughter a year into our relationship, and he didn't lend me money for my school fees because he puts her first!
Q. I'm 24yrs and my guy is 29yrs too we have been friends since childhood but he asked me for a relationship as at last year so after one year he told me he had a 10yrs daughter out of wedlock and he said the reason why he refused to tell me such at ...
A. 28 April 2015: I detected something on the fringes of prostitution in this... but, then, the whole thing became so preposterous that I had to stop and go get a large glass of rum, in order to continue....
I'll re-read this again, later..... and if I can make sen... (read in full...)
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