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writes:I have been holding out long enough. I am tired of dating guys that as of lately has led to nowhere (trust, I know when to exit the relationship-if you called that). I'm managing to stay focused on my career. Just received a promotion last week. Not that excited about it, but hard work truly pays off. At my age, I worry that I may not meet a guy who would want me for me. Which brings the question... Should I just give up my virginity to a stranger from Craigslist? I have noticed ads from all marital statuses, as well as the preference of a one night stand to a friends with benefits.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 August 2015):
 SURE,,,,, sell your soul,,,, then, ask yourself, afterwards,: Was it worth it????????? I'm guessing the answer is: No, what DID I do????"
Good luck.....
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (25 August 2015):
 you will regret it later. is not your virginity worth more than a "craigs list " add ? you don't know the person and what about a gift the stranger might give you that will last a life time, STD.You are worth more than thatyou will look back and wish you would have saved your virginity for some one more special than a "craigs list" add.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 August 2015):
 Gross!! That's like asking if you can should a filthy catbox with your tongue.
If you're worried a guy might not want you for you, the last thing to do is to go find a guy who would respect you less than a blow-up sex doll.
Your virginity should go to someone who cherishes you. There are a lot of guys out there who want the same thing as you do. Just make yourself available to them.
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reader, IanHenryCooper  +, writes (24 August 2015):
 You would be hard pressed to find ANYONE genuine on Craig's List! Most are scammers; those that aren't, are players.
You are in no way old to retain your virginity - my personal experience includes a 42-year-old.
I suggest that you ease your frustration - if that is the case - by masturbating until you find someone honest and worthy of you.
Or PM me!
xxx
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (24 August 2015):
 In two words: hell no!! Hon, I applaud you for working hard and gaining independence. Don't you think you deserve better than some horny goat whose out for a wham bam thank you ma'm? I'd stay clear of the Craigslist ads too...lots of weird people advertise on there and it's not as safe as they'd like you to believe. I've heard decent things about Eharmony and Okcupid-but still, practice safe practices like driving your own vehicle, letting friends know where you and who you are with and of course, meeting in public places etc etc. I know it's frustrating as heck going through guys that just don't seem to cut it but try and hang on. When you do lose your virginity, I would hope that it's with a decent man who has both the patience and selflessness to make it memorable and enjoyable. If you grab a guy from Craigslist, he's only going to care about his fun and comfort and there you'll be regretting you went through with it and struggling hard not drop-kick him as he goes his merry way with self-satisfied smirk and a "I'll call you later." Hard-working, independent need to have some fun too ;) but let's do it the right way!
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reader, followtheblackrabbit +, writes (24 August 2015):
In two words: hell no!! Hon, I applaud you for working hard and gaining independence. Don't you think you deserve better than some horny goat whose out for a wham bam thank you ma'm? I'd stay clear of the Craigslist ads too...lots of weird people advertise on there and it's not as safe as they'd like you to believe. I've heard decent things about Eharmony and Okcupid-but still, practice safe practices like driving your own vehicle, letting friends know where you and who you are with and of course, meeting in public places etc etc. I know it's frustrating as heck going through guys that just don't seem to cut it but try and hang on. When you do lose your virginity, I would hope that it's with a decent man who has both the patience and selflessness to make it memorable and enjoyable. If you grab a guy from Craigslist, he's only going to care about his fun and comfort and there you'll be regretting you went through with it and struggling hard not drop-kick him as he goes his merry way with self-satisfied smirk and a "I'll call you later." Hard-working, independent need to have some fun too ;) but let's do it the right way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2015): No.No.And no again. You don't waste a rising star on a bum off craigs list That is terrible desperation.It is so unnecessary and apart from being forcibly and horribly raped you will have nothing but the most ghastly night to remember.Do you have a strong desire to annihilate yourself by foolish behaviour.Hold out for someone wonderful because you deserve the full romance,love and marriage scene.And apart from the pre agreed rape scenario have you thought of the diseases! No,spare yourself the misery and degradation.You will met a normal person in due course.Do not go to craigslist for romance.It is frequently used by criminals who will want everything from your wallet to your body.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (24 August 2015):
 Eww no.
Why would you do that?
I do know that people seem to think sex is no big deal, but this is your FIRST time we are talking about.
HAVE a little self-respect and FIND a guy whom you WANT to share this with no some creep on CL, Tindr or whatnot app.
You don't KNOW this guy, you have no way of knowing he won't film it, or have friends coming over to "join" in the fun or do things you really don't want to do. You don't know if he is HIV positive, has the clap, HPV, Hep C..... just eww.
I just don't get it. It seems young women today have absolutely no self preservation.
How about you ASK your mom. Ask her if she thinks it's a GREAT idea. Or ask one of your good friends.
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