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writes:I am a 25 year old woman. I have very small A cup breasts and absolutely no butt. I have a very 'flat' appearance to my body. I hate to say that I'm somewhat insecure and quite unhappy with my body. I find myself comparing myself to curvy women with big breasts and big butts. Nice breasts and butts are what make a woman attractable to men so it makes me feel bad that I don't have these qualities. I feel like someone my age should look different and look more 'womanly' I could use some advice thank you all
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2015): I love women with small breasts. I wish there was a way to help small breasted women to feel better about their bodies and not feel like they need a boob job to attract men. I think a friendly personality is much more of a turn on then breast size.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2015): We, women , were not brought into this world to be' eye candy for men. Actually I find men staring and checking you out quite exausting. When I was younger I was wearing high heals that ruined my feet, short skirts, open tops and of course men starred. Now I couldn't care less about those stares .. May be it is me getting older, but I wear low heals, length of my dresses are just above the knee, and I don't expose my boobs anymore as I don't want to invite the looks., My boobs were always the reason why I got attention from guys from the age of 12. I suffer from the size of them , I have DD, my back hurts, and I have a hard time finding dresses, and comfortable bras. I wish I had couple sizes smaller. If they keep on getting bigger I was considering reduction. I went out with a friend of mine yesterday. She is skinny as a stick. For decades we were trained by the media that skinny is beatifull. Before TV women and men didnt know how we must look. Skinniness actually was consider to be not pretty as it signified poor nutrition and lack of sufficient income. All guys were all over her. Because she is considered now a model for beauty. I saw her In a bathing suit. She is quite disproportional with short legs, very long neck, and wide flat butt. As you can see, many guys like no curves. But the important issue here is to love the skin you are in. If it makes you happy go to GYM and spend endless hours trying to make your butt bigger if this is what you want to do with your life.
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reader, ignorant_gringo +, writes (19 September 2015):
I'll never understand women's negative self image but I'm an ignorant guy. Think of it this way, do you like every guy you meet? No, you like who you like. Guys are the same way. You shouldn't waste time thinking about guys who aren't into you (or girls if you swing that way).
If you have a flat rear end, go to the gym and do moderately heavy deadlifts, squats, and/or lunges. That will round your butt and make it stick out.
If your posture is good, smaller breasts will be very prominent/perky.
Lastly, self-confidence is sexy. Self-hatred and envy aren't.
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reader, Garbo +, writes (18 September 2015):
 If you feel that you should look different then do something about it. Join a fitness club, lift heavy weights, run, get on protein supplements and others that will bulk up your muscles like creatine, then work out for 2-3 years and build up your body to your liking. Tits don't matter as much to guys as does the physique and what it radiates. Pump some shape into your muscles and watch men gloat at you.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 September 2015):
 There is no cookie cutter for people. We are not all shaped the same way. That is called variety. The spice of life!
In the 1920, the "androgynous" look was in. It wasn't curves at all, that was the "fad".
The 50's it was "bullet" breasts (think Madonna's cone bra) and hour glass shape (not just the natural shape but with girdles and "shapers")
The 60's was COME AS YOU ARE!! love everyone for who they are. Women like Twiggy (stick thin, no curves, short hair) made great careers in modelling/fashion, but curvier models did fine too.
Now people focus a lot on curves - like Nicky Minaj - which I think is GREAT, that women WITH curves are seen as beautiful JUST like women without them - like Taylor Swift (example).
Plus sized models, skinny ones, 18-year-old Australian model Madeline Stuart (who happens to have Downs Syndrome) is out there on the catwalk. Designers are not JUST catering to one standard, but to ALL shapes and sizes.
We ALWAYS want what we don't have. People with straight hair wants curly - people with curls straighten the fire out of their curls. Women with small breasts wants big ones, women with large breast wants smaller ones, etc.
Having bigger boobs, wider hips is NOT going to make you more "womanly" because women... don't just come in one flavor only.
Fashion changes, body "ideals" changes, but women in general still LOOK the same.
Instead of tearing yourself apart because you don't look like Kim Kard(ass)hian is not going to make you more womanly either. She is her, you are you. The pictures you see of HER - are highly edited for one, and they are NOT the "standard" of how ALL woman should look. She (and her family) have worked long and HARD to promote themselves and their "look" - they have found ways to sell what they have. SO ( in a manner of speaking) can you.
DRESS the body you have. There are SO many things a woman without curves can wear, that a women WITH curves would just look hideous in. And there are things that curvy woman looks greater in. THAT is the BEST thing. There is something for EVERYONE. It's not Marilyn Monroe VERSUS Jackie Kennedy, it is Marilyn Monroe AND Jackie Kennedy.
KNOW your body and dress YOUR body type.
A more slender woman can do crop tops (just an example) - they can do straight-leg pants. A more slender woman can pick from a MUCH larger selection of CUTE lingerie/underwear - just like woman with smaller feet have a larger selection of "fancy" shoes.
LEARN what looks good on you and ROCK it.
There is no point in hating how you look, it won't change your body. LOVING your body for how it looks... now that... might change how you see yourself AND how others see you too.
Who you are is NOT determined by how much "curve" you have.
CELEBRATE your look. It's uniquely YOURS.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (18 September 2015):
 When you wrote "...Nice breasts and butts are what make a woman attractable to men so it makes me feel bad that I don't have these qualities...." you were mistaken.
It's not so that any/all men like curvy women. (I'm one of them!, so I speak from experience...). AND - extra bonus - whilest "endowed" women are struggling to keep their curves "in place" 30 years from now.... YOU will still have your slender shape with all the parts where you would like them to be.....
Good luck....(and stop looking in the mirror so critically!)
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (18 September 2015):
All men are different. All men like different body types. There is no one body type that is universally attractive to men. And I have known men who LOVE tiny boobs, just like I have known men who love really big women. You can't stereotype men like that.
That said, I understand how you feel. When I was young like you I too was a beanpole with no boobs or butt, and was very insecure about it. Didn't even get hips until I had my first kid.
You know what all men do find attractive? Confidence. You can't change you body type, so you must embrace it. Learn to love your body! Stay in the best shape you can. Lots of positive self talk. Carry your head high.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (18 September 2015):
Ever seen a belly dancer dance?? Back in the day before TV...Kings would have the women come out and dance for them, as their entertainment...Was it because they had good bodies? No...It was because they knew how to use the body they had to turn on the men.
Where did that come from...it came from their minds...not their bodies. If you can't think sexy, and use those thoughts to make yourself sexy....then you can have the most amazing body in the world and still get no attention.
I have seen women with "amazing" bodies that are as exciting as a stone...And I have seen woman like you that can make a man climb Mount Everest to get her ice for her drink if she wanted. It's not how the body looks, it how you think of it, and how you use it.
Why do men go to strip clubs?? Most women would say it's because men are pigs, perverts, and they just want sex. The last part maybe true, but for us, it's not just about having sex, it's the how you get to the sex. The woman up there dancing is using her body to lure the man in...making him believe he has chance. A look, a touch, a smile, a view of what he wants, and she has him hooked. Her use of her body give him hope of something to come, an he will hand over his whole pay cheque for that chance.
Is she thinking about her breast, or her butt? No...She focus on being as sexy as she can to make him want her. The more he wants her, the more he gives up.
It's not how much you have...It's how you use what you have.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2015): I have big breasts and I absolutely hate them! As you get older they start to sag, it's hard to wear things I like and I think they make me look fatter than I am as tops hang a bit loose around my stomach. I would love to wear sleeveless tops or halter necks and bo ho kind of clothes that look great on your body type!If or when you have children your boobs will more than likely get bigger, it's not always the case but most of the time.I would absolutely love to be flat rather than have big boobs. A lot of women in the world just want the opposite of what they have. I have straight hair and I'd love curly but my sister has curly hair and wants it poker straight like mine!If that doesn't cheer you up at all there are lots of exercises you can do to have a more shapely butt, squats are marvellous for getting it a bit bigger. Your boobs will probably stay perky as you get older. You don't have to worry about being overweight like so many of us do!
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