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writes:Did I do the right thing, I turned around an walk away, without saying a word, I was seeing this gal for three months, fell head over heals in love, her ex beat all the time, she was going through therapy, for the abuse, when he got out of jail, she went right back to him, I treated her how a woman is suppose to be treated, like a angel, well she tex me three weeks later, an ask if we still could have sex an that's it, no dating, no dancing, no opening up doors, no poems, no walks in parks, no nice dinners out, just sex, did I do the right thing, haven't talk to her in over three years, still miss her, I know am a fool, but like the saying goes, nice guy finish last
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2015): No you are no fool and nice guys dont always come last.Her problem is that she is damaged goods and she has no idea of how real love operates.Dont get involved in sex with her.It was probably her abusive boyfriend sending a text on her phone while threatening to kill her if you arranged a hook up.No reply is the right reply.But you are possibly on a higher.spiritual level.Abusive partners are a pain in the neck as we all know and they throw there abusive weight around whenever they want but dont get drawn back intothe past with this girlbecause you have the total package and sexwithout love is denying yourself.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 September 2015):
 After three years, I think it is time to find a new angel to spend your precious time and energy on. You already know she's chosen poorly, so you shouldn't compound that by hanging on, right?
You're not a fool for falling in love. Could you be a fool for staying in love with someone who so clearly has major issues? I wouldn't say you are a fool, but perhaps it is time to deal with whatever is keeping you locked onto thoughts about her and preventing you from finding a really wonderful woman who will appreciate all your romantic gestures.
Good luck!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 September 2015):
 Do you remember that old song by Frankie Lymon and the Teenagers....."Why do fools fall in love?" We do it because it's something natural.... We can't control who will be that lovely girl who catches our eye... AND we can't control if and/or when she chooses to rekindle an old relationship that WE know is doomed to her detriment....
What we CAN do is try to "get over" her (or, him) and get on with our lives. Agreeing to an "FWB" arrangement does nothing to advance that agenda.... so you were and are wise to stay away from her.
Good luck.....
P.S. .... from a guy who has been "a fool" several times!!!
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (10 September 2015):
 Ouch! You sound like a really nice guy, but time to move on. She is happy with her abusive man, there is nothing you can do to change that.
What she does want is a friends with benefit arrangement - not good at all since you have deeper feelings for her than she has for you.
No, you are not a fool, you are an awesome guy who has fallen for the wrong woman. There is someone out there just for you and who would appreciate everything you put into a relationship.
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