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writes:I recently had a fling with my ex-girlfriends' Mum and she wants to see me on a regular basis. Is it wrong? We're both single... I'm 24 and she's 41 and divorced. I went out with my ex-girlfriend for just over a year and during that time I always thought her Mum was cool. I never really felt any attraction towards her but she's the kind of woman who embraces every day with a smile and just generally loves life, and for that I always admired her. A couple of months after I broke up with my ex I was down at a pub with a few friends one evening and low and behold there was her Mum out with some of her friends. She looked so hot, she was wearing a figure hugging dress and heels. The second she noticed me stood up at the bar she came over and said Hi. Even though I was the one who ended the relationship with her daughter and broke her heart she was really nice to me. There was no awkwardness, in fact we got on like a house on fire. Soon it became clear there was an attraction between us. At the end of the night we both ditched our friends and went in an alley behind the pub to kiss. We then went back to her flat and had the most amazing night of passionate sex I'd ever had. It was incredible. That was last week. Ever since she's been bombarding me with text messages asking to meet up again. She said all she really wants at the moment is some no strings attached fun, and to be honest that suits me down to the ground. But I can't help thinking about what her daughter would think if she found out about us. I don't know what to do for the best.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (26 September 2015):
 Under different circumstances I would say go for it, I get the whole Mrs.Robinson thing, but I think this is a very deliberate act of making a fool out of the daughter, whether she finds out or not. Yes you are are no loner together, adults etc etc but I guess you should be thinking how you would honestly feel if your dad/brother/uncle was having an affair behind your back with your ex? You'd look like a bit of a laughing stock I reckon. You can turn your back and run if all turns to shit but the possible long term damage to their relationship is just something I would't want to be apart of. If its sexual maturity you are after I'm sure there are many cougars that would be happy to get your attention. You asking the question is your conscience already giving you the answer.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 September 2015):
 WHO CARES what the daughter (your ex-) thinks. Enjoy...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2015): It is normal to feel for the daughter and her feelings, you were together over a year so clearly you don't want to hurt her as you cared for her.I imagine your ex's mum would be less that thrilled about her daughter finding out too. However you guys have broken up now so I would say go for it if it is something you want. But be aware that if the daughter finds out that it is more likely to harm the mother/daughter relationship most.My advice would be enjoy - you might only see this woman a few times so daughter unlikely to find out. If however you see a serious relationship with this woman and you want to be seen in public together then I'd be honest with daughter. But right now that is unlikely so go for it. I am sure other posters will advise you to stay away but sometime's you got to do what you got to do :)
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 September 2015):
 Fantasy is not harmful but if there's an ounce of truth in this then...Yep it's wrong on several levels but it sounds way too much like a fantasy to take very seriously. need to get a grip my friend.
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