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writes:So , I ve been talking to and hanging with this guy I like for a year and some ... He's never really asked to be my boyfriend or make it official. I have but he didn't give me a direct Yes. Anyways, He says he likes me, he said he loved me once or twice and I feel the same way. However , his dating ideas include beach in the night or coming over and watching movies with him which I dont find romantic or even making an effort. Once, I mentioned going for icecream with him and he has only made time at 8 or 9 in the night which I find late and not my scene. Whenever I want to do day dates he is always tied up with work. Tonight , we got into an argument because he invited me to spend the day with him on Saturday which would 've involved fixing his car, going fishing with his cousin and him and goin beach (his cousin didn't even come). I told him I couldnt make it because I had a family friend stopping by that needed my help. He mentioned that tonight , among other things. He said I was a fraud , that I set him up too many times and he was not going to let me fool him anymore. He also said that the reason he likes me is not because of my ironic sexy self because he couldnt rate me and how he found my mother sexually attractive , that she has class, she is a freak, b*** and everything and am no way close and she is a real f***king woman.He also said that he cannot take me seriously and I am a baby throwing a tantrum. So I told him that we are over, I cannot tolerate him even as a friend and I won't be disrespected any more and that he should lose my number. He snapped back and told me that am an emotional girl and that I should try not to break anything but I blocked him unblocked him to which he texted he was sorry and its all me that cause this and he didn't hate me but I hated him but then I just blocked him back. So is this what he has in his head or its just him being angry? Should I take him back?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (24 September 2015):
 Nope..... Don't "take him back".... don't communicate with him.... AND forget that you ever met him. Is that clear enough?????
Good luck...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2015): If there is no better example of immaturity than what you've described in your maybe/maybe-not boyfriend. You didn't breakup, you just threw a tantrum like he said; and then blocked and unblocked him like an indecisive teenager.
Your relationship is undefined due to his immaturity and inability to commit like a man. Dragging you around with his cousin like a bunch of kids on a Saturday afternoon play-date.
You are sticking around waiting for him to grow-up. Why don't you go and find yourself a man? One who shows you affection, acts his age, and takes you out? What the hell were you holding on to? Pray tell?!! What were you breaking off exactly? You just dumped a playmate, not a boyfriend.
You've got to grow-up too. You deserve romance, to be taken out to dinner and dancing. To have some fun and do things that adults like to do together. Now go completely no contact, and allow yourself to detach. No waning back and forth. You Peter Pan maybe/maybe-not boyfriend isn't ready for a girlfriend. He's still in his adolescence.
Show him how a real woman behaves, and dump him once and for all. You are missing out on your youth! You should be working, exploring, growing, and having fun. Not waiting for him to reach manhood, and deciding whether he's attracted to you enough.
In my opinion, you're really just a friend; and you can't seem to grasp that reality.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 September 2015):
 Should you take him back? Are you serious?
After that whole spiel about your mother? Just eww. What a creepy thing to say.
Not only that but his apology including telling you it was all YOUR fault as well? Good grief this guy is full of himself isn't he?
He got mad because the ONE time he does try and make an effort (well not really, but pretend to make an effort for a daytime date) you already had plans. NO WONDER you already had plans if daytime dates has not been something he was willing to do.
Honestly, girl.... you can do such much better than this creepy drama queen.
Keep him blocked - move on. And next time, if a guy can't even SAY the words to commit being with you, consider yourself single.
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