She gives oral sex but won't let me return the favor. Will she ever?
Q. A female friend of mine have been sexually open with each other for a while. Well, mainly sexually open with me. It's fun being able to talk and share on a sexual level, and she loves to help pleasure me through masturbation or oral. I love it...
A. 16 February 2016: It would be OK for you to just refrain from doing/hoping/wishing oral for her.... and just for the two of you to continue without it......
IF she should ever wish to reconsider.... and have you DO oral for her...... (and understandable desire!)... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to want sex with my ex- lover?
Q. Sex with ex- what is wrong with me! We both know this 'relationship' will not progress beyond sexual stuff. So why do I crave sex with him? Will it fizzle out on its own? Will it hinder my meeting someone new that I can build a future with? Saw him ...
A. 16 February 2016: Think of it this way: You LOVE chocolate cake.... and you LOVE caramel chews. YOU CAN'T EAT BOTH AT THE SAME TIME!!!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How do I get the strength to leave the boyfriend who has been violent in the past?
Q. I've been in a 12 year relationship with my boyfriend. We never married. I'm 36 years old now and we don't have kids etc. We have had loads of ups and downs and yes I'm ashamed to say he's been violent in the past. I have little money etc, ...
A. 16 February 2016: Please look at your question: ".... how do I get the strength to leave?" and turn it around to:
How dumb would I have to be to stay???? That should set the record straight....
Good luck...
P.S. You don't have to have even ONE second tho... (read in full...)
I'm living with a girl who still has boyfriend. She says she'll end it with him when things are right
Q. So I've been seeing this girl now, but she has a boyfriend. ive been basically living at her place for a couple weeks now and she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. Shes very close with his family and they have been together for a long ...
A. 16 February 2016: OP: You may say, and write, anything you'd like to justify this preposterous situation..... BUT....
.... the bottom line is that there is NOTHING in it for YOU... and EVERYTHING in it for her.
How will you feel in two years when you've been... (read in full...)
I'm living with a girl who still has boyfriend. She says she'll end it with him when things are right
Q. So I've been seeing this girl now, but she has a boyfriend. ive been basically living at her place for a couple weeks now and she tells me she loves me and wants to be with me. Shes very close with his family and they have been together for a long ...
A. 15 February 2016: AS Knute Rockne might have said: "Drop back 10(yards) and punt..."
This situation has no future.... for ANY of the three of you... until and unless the lady figures out what she wants in her life.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Dating 2 years, said he wants to be friends, had an abortion after unplanned pregnancy and now don't know where I stand with him!
Q. I have been dating this guy for about 2 yrs now but he says he doesn't feel the spark and wants to be friends and we found out that I was pregnant! He got close to me again and was very supportive during the abortion and keeps teasing me that we ...
A. 15 February 2016: You write: "..I'm too scared to ask him as he panics very quickly and has also mentioned before that he has commitment issues."
Doesn't "sound" like much of a catch, to me. Why not move on to a guy who is closer to what you'd like in a B/F?
... (read in full...)
would you be checking out hot babes on the internet while your girlfriend is sitting next to you?
Q. Guys, help me out here. I know men are visual, I've heard that many times. They like to look at the female body, my question is, would you be checking out hot babes on the internet while your girlfriend is sitting next to you? and making comments, ...
A. 15 February 2016: Q: ...would you be checking out hot babes on the internet while your girlfriend is sitting next to you? "
A: Not if I wanted her to stay there next to me.....
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable to say love you to an ex?
Q. hi. last year i went through a very messy divorce. my ex husband shattered my heart and i became determined not to fall in love again. it would be safer that way. however 6 months ago i meet an extraordinary man, kind and sweet. we began to date. i ...
A. 14 February 2016: I'm an "ex-" and my G/F didn't ever, even say "I love you" when we were an item!!!!! If she said it now.... I'd ask her what she's been drinking and/or smoking......
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is masturbation interfering with our sex life?
Q. I've been pretty addicted to masturbation/porn since I was 16-17. I'm now 28 and married. I still masturbate about 1-2 times a day, I fear it's affecting my sex life. In the past 6months I've begun to notice that I have trouble keep an erection...
A. 14 February 2016: Here's the key question: Is your eyesight deteriorating? Once that starts... you definitely ARE experiencing ED... and you have to go in to re-hab if you want to bring Mr Happy back to his youthful capabilities.....
Good luck....
P.S. I... (read in full...)
What are reliable methods of contraception other than condoms?
Q. Hello, Please I need some advice here. I've been with my bf for about 2 years now.we haven't had sex. We are both virgins. Now we both want to have sex but I'm afraid of getting pregnant. He suggested that we should use condom but I don't think I'...
A. 6 February 2016: Chastity has worked for me....... (read in full...)
Did this married man just make fun of me, or was he falling in love with me?
Q. Hi. I've been attracted with this married guy for almost two years. When i first saw him i had a crush on him and i long to see him often. Last month we started exchanging messages. He said he wanted to know me better. We spent time together ...
A. 6 February 2016: "Sounds" like his wife caught on to why he was acting so strangely..... and he decided that he needed to sacrifice YOU .... so that his marriage didn't fall apart...
Not to worry... it happens all the time... and those who end up on the "short" ... (read in full...)
Is it worth it to force my wife to talk about a 2 year affair she had years ago? We never talked about it and she doesn't want to now
Q. Ladies....Do you think its worth trying to insist that my wife and i talk about a two year affair that she had MANY years ago, that at the time, we never really did talk about,other than me telling her to end it or else it was going to be the end ...
A. 6 February 2016: WHAT SHOULD I DO? We love each other, but i feel the past still haunts us..
What you should do is keep quiet about this incident in your (and her's) past.... and get on with life and you marriage.
There is NO GOOD that can come from resurrectin... (read in full...)
Shouldn't sex be lasting longer?
Q. Hey, me and my boyfriend have recently taken our relationship to the next step: sex. The only problem is that, while i found it very enjoyable, he only managed 10 minutes which was a little disappointing. I was a virgin and it had been a while for ...
A. 4 February 2016: YOU don't need to do a darn thing, beyond what you've described in this submittal.....
HE has some homework to do to learn about making sex as pleasant and rewarding for YOU as it is for HIM!!!!!!!
Give him a little feedback..... an... (read in full...)
Can a player fall in love????
Q. Hi there,thanks for reading my post. I am talking with a guy online. met him two times. he is 10years older then me. I am 36 he is 47.I really like him. but I felt he is player. I am interested to know can a player fall in love? Like, a guy wh...
A. 2 February 2016: "Players" fall in love constantly, repeatedly.....
What YOU have to decide is..... do you want to be one of the myriad women that this guy is going to "fall in love" with,... throughout his career...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know the difference between making love and just having sex
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship. When I'm with my boyfriend, we usually spend a week together each visit. During that week he's want sex at least once, sometimes twice per day. He has a high sex drive and is always erect when we lay together. ...
A. 2 February 2016: Most of us guys confuse those two issues. You can only decide if he is EVER going to figure out the difference.. OR, is he stuck with that sophomoric understanding that poking one's penis in to a woman's vagina is "making love...."
Some of us NE... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that I have puffy areolas? I am worried they will be a turn off for guys.
Q. So I'm 16 and I have really puffy areolas. I read somewhere that they level out as puberty progresses but I guess I've passed that stage already and I'm stuck like this. I hate it because I always have to wear a bra, even around the l the house I ...
A. 1 February 2016: Believe me....no guy is going to pass judgement upon you based only upon the details of your breasts....
Go forth confidently... and give it not another thought....
Good luck........ (read in full...)
My husband is demanding a MMF and I want no part of it. Where is this coming from?
Q. My husband of 37 years is now demanding an mmf. He also recently started working his finger in my anus during intercourse and insists on oral from me right after sex without wiping my juices off of his penis. I don't know where this is coming from. ...
A. 1 February 2016: First things first.... You husband is acting like an A$$hole......
Next: You say to him: "Hunchy-bunchy, this B/S about having a M/M/F arrangement is preposterous... and I won't have anything to do with it. AND, if you don't drop the subject ... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to have a baby but he is!
Q. So I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years now. There is a large age gap, and he is at a place where he is ready to settle down and have kids. I on the other hand am open to the idea of marriage, but not having kids any time in ...
A. 28 January 2016: I believe the "choice" is clear. EITHER he can wait, along with you, SILENTLY!!!!! .... OR, he can accept that he can't coax you to move forward YOUR timetable (and he upsets you by continually doing so...) ..... so he should break things off ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend lie all the time?
Q. Hi, used to ask for help around here 5 or so years ago, and back again to ask for more help! I have 2 questions really, 1st one- Why does my boyfriend lie? He doesn't go out and then lie about where he's been as if he's been out with a girl and...
A. 27 January 2016: DON'T stick with a guy who lies!!!!!!! HOW clear can we make this?????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
What can I do in dealing with my abusive mama's boy husband?
Q. I am not getting along with my husband very well at all, it is an abusive relationship for one thing and then I have a big problem in that it is like he is married to his mother. He is at her beck and call always sending her money because his pare...
A. 27 January 2016: There is, really, only ONE question for you. To wit: How quickly are you going to dump this creature and GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE??????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why do guys kiss and cuddle and then tell me they just want to be friends?
Q. Why why why.... Okay guys why would you tell a girl you like her. Cuddle with her. Kiss her or even try kissing her. Then tell her that you dont want to be more then friends this has happened to me in more then one account and im getting quite sick ...
A. 27 January 2016: Sarah: This interesting phenomenon that you have before you is known as an "intimacy reversal"..... We guys prefer to NOT try to get you (girls) to put out.... but - instead - for you (girls) to initiate that you actually WANT to put out.
We do... (read in full...)
Why was the sex so different between my ex and this man and which one is normal?
Q. A little while ago, I had sex with someone. I'd only ever has sex with one other person before this. My first "lover" was my ex. During the act, we did not really kiss or look at each other. Or talk much. Even when I lost my virginity to him...
A. 27 January 2016: It would be naive to claim that one is "normal" and the other not ("normal").....
Everybody might be different.... and $*x is somewhat like fishing. WHO KNOWS what bait will work? .... when is the correct tide? ... what is the best water te... (read in full...)
We never iron out our differences when we argue and I'm wondering if I should walk away?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple years, when we argue or have a problem that needs to be addressed he will not, if I bring it up he gets angry then we are arguing again so we never iron out or differences... It's very frustrating!! ...
A. 27 January 2016: Get another address and walk away..... Stay sane...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
The widower I am dating removed his daughter in law's jeans and put pajamas on her because she was drunk. Was this inappropriate?
Q. I don't know if the following question has ever been presented in this forum before. I'm starting a relationship with another widower and heard this perplexing event from him. Many of us are snowed in this weekend with members of our families not ...
A. 24 January 2016: If'n I could ever get a girl in to (just) her undies.... you can be SURE that something untoward would happen....
Good luck with YOUR situation......... (read in full...)
What action is needed by us, to resolve this family issue?
Q. I have been with my partner for four years living together for three years. Last year his mother died and his father had major heart surgery. We offered to have his father living with us temporary until he got better although he didn't tell his ...
A. 23 January 2016: I think this is one of those incidents where you can - reasonable - plan to "wait it out"........
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Do people change over time?
Q. I don't know how to deal with a long-time friend of mine. Is it possible that people can wear one mask for years and then when something happens just show their real face? Or does success change people? We've known each other since we were kids...
A. 23 January 2016: Remember the words to this classic song:....
Oh, blahdee, oh bladah,
Life goes Oooon, on...
La, la, la, la, life goes on....
Then let her go her way.... you go your's... and if you and she interact in the future be polite and cordial....
... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is hurt from losing investments. How can I help?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating two months. I've always known he trades stocks and that's fine with me. However recently the market has been very bad and he's suffered quite a few losses. He handles his emotions well but I know he's hurt from ...
A. 23 January 2016: " Any considerate words I can say to him next time?"
Yes.... you say to him: "Sorry you made such bonehead investments... but you knew the risk when you did it..."
That should make him feel better...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I've lost my trust in him. I love him but am not in love with him
Q. ok so I have been with this guy going on 3 years and I already had one baby with my x husband n he stepped up to the plate n he loves her so within the past going on 3 years of being with him I have had 2 kids by him n hes a great father to them all ...
A. 23 January 2016: WHY???.... would any sane woman expose herself to the despair and angst that will - predictably - ensue if she continues to see - or have anything to do with this creature????
You write: ".... I don't know what to do any more I love him but im n... (read in full...)
Am I right to have reservations? Or is this guy a jerk?
Q. DearCupid, maybe somebody can help me. I've been looking online for answers to this question and it seems like there are kind of two "camps". I will explain the situation. Met a guy at college and we had our first date a couple of weeks back. He s...
A. 23 January 2016: WOO is telling you the facts. "Pass" on this character. There are oodles of guys who would like to date you.. AND would/could do much better looking for one of them....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Shall I allow him a second chance ? Or should I tell him how I feel about his actions?
Q. I'm new to the dating world after being married for a long time and am just trying to navigate my way…would appreciate thoughts and opinions :) I met a new man out for a blind date last night. We kept it short. Just a drink and sort of a ...
A. 23 January 2016: I'm guessing that he was concerned that his wife or girlfriend would enter the place where you were....
Don't bother seeing this guy again...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is my friend telling the truth? Is it possible for a man to not be able to fall in love?
Q. Before you read this, I wanted you all to know that I have no intention of doing anything with this man. I am looking to get advice from people who are kind enough to give it. I have lost guy friends due to them having feelings for me and so wh...
A. 23 January 2016: Have you ever heard Jim Croce's song "Bad, Bad Leroy Brown?" In it, it refers to Leroy as "meaner than a junkyard dog"....
It's well documented that junkyard dogs are unable to fall in love. IF your prospective "B/F" is sufficiently mean, th... (read in full...)
Did how I act merit her emotional outburst?
Q. Hey guys. I posted on here a few days ago and got some really good responses. I'd like to maybe get a new perspective after these past few days because now I feel a bit crazy. I had a regular friends with benefits and I thought things were goin...
A. 23 January 2016: The interactions of FWB, or NSA, or two people in a relationship really DO exist, regardless if those involved want to believe so..... It's just that there's a different kind of "menu" of interactions, depending upon the form of the "relationship" ... (read in full...)
Do you believe in destiny? That you were meant to meet a certain person?
Q. I am curious about what everybody thinks. Was I meant to meet my BF of three years? Was it fate? Destined? We could have crossed paths twice before finally meeting the third time. The first time about 20 years ago at my work place where he...
A. 23 January 2016: Is it destiny? ... could it be Kismet????
Yes... it is.. call if "fate" if you wish...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why is he still keeping in touch? Even though we are no longer having sexual relations?
Q. I did a bad thing. I was in a a relationship when I met a guy through a mutual friends. We exchanged phone numbers and started texting. After going out as friends for drinks, we ended up sleeping together. After that, we have done a few more tim...
A. 23 January 2016: "Girlfriends" are like ice-cream cones on a hot day.....
IF a guy can figure out how to do so..... say, he has access to a freezer... he will keep as many ice-cream cones... of as many flavors as he fancies.... available for his delight.... (read in full...)
I broke up with boyfriend because he still doesn't want to marry for several years
Q. Tonight,I broke up with my bf of 1 year. It's been a lovely year,ups and downs of course. We love and care about each other,But tonight I expressed to him that I wish to get married soon as my parents are traditional; we are 8 years apart,he is 20 ...
A. 23 January 2016: The only person who needs to be satisfied with your decision is YOU!!!!!
If this character doesn't want to be married for (at least) a few years.... then your's and his timetables are incompatible. There's nothing "wrong' with that.
Just ge... (read in full...)
Is NSA the same as FWB?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm sort of dating a person for past 2 months and today after sex he told me he wants to do NSA and he doesn't attach emotionally to anyone (which he does to protect himself) and won't commit. Though its NSA he won't be seeing anyone el...
A. 23 January 2016: I'd consider "NSA" and "FWB" to be, pretty much, synonyms.... In either case, a person looking for a "real relationship" won't find it rewarding... and might feel "used" to partake of it....
IF your version of "intercourse" or "sex" includes... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex know I'm angry about how he ghosted on me?
Q. my ex and i were on and off for years about 3 weeks ago he ghosted on me, after months of closeness, sleeping together, weekend visits, basically acting like a couple without the title. it felt like we were really close again. until he went silent r...
A. 21 January 2016: Don't waste your time sending him an angry email...
See.... once a guy gest tired of a girl, he simply walks away...... no explanation/excuse - nothing more - needed.....
That's what you have.... so move on...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Can we be friends or am I fooling myself?
Q. Please explain what is going on here: This guy and I had been friends for a while. One day he said he found me attractive and I said that I had hots for him too. We ended up having sex for a few months, hanging out, texting, calling, etc. One day h...
A. 18 January 2016: Listen to Honeypie.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
At what point do I worry about what my husband is doing on facebook?
Q. Hello this is my first time posting in this website, I enjoy reading all the responses and questions which come up in the site. I guess now it's my turn. :) I will try to keep a long story short. I am 29 years old and my husband is 37. We have b...
A. 18 January 2016: Sometime before three years ago would have been correct....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
At what point do I worry about what my husband is doing on facebook?
Q. Hello this is my first time posting in this website, I enjoy reading all the responses and questions which come up in the site. I guess now it's my turn. :) I will try to keep a long story short. I am 29 years old and my husband is 37. We have b...
A. 18 January 2016: Sometime before three years ago would have been correct....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
How long do I support my boyfriend while he has a good for nothing partner in his business?
Q. My boyfriend of over 3 years has been working immensely hard for the last year in setting up his own business. He has gone without a wage for over a year... does not qualify for social welfare even thiugh he earns zero money.we have moved back in ...
A. 16 January 2016: You cannot save your B/F from himself, in the business environment.... Stand by him.... support him... but DON'T think that you should superimpose yourself in the the goings-on between him and his partner....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
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