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writes:I have been with married man for approx. 1 year, we fell in love with each other within 2 months. In the past couple of months he has had tough times in his marriage once she found out about me. he has decided to work on his marriage, but he still doesn't want to lose me. So he says he doesn't know if his heart is in his decision to do make his marriage because of everything that has been done or said. It hurts but I can't wait around for him to decide whether he wholeheartdly made the right decision.
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reader, Cateyes  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 He is only telling you this so if it doesn't work out with his wife, he has you to fall back on. He made his decision to stay with his wife, you just have not accepted it. He will say whatever he wants to you in hopes that you will hang on incase she decides to up and leave, not him. He's not going anywhere. He needs to be able to work on his marriage so this should be your clue to let go. Not pointing fingers or trying to hurt you, it's just the facts. This is the same ole same ole in many that cheat on their spouses. Some leave, but rarely do...and believe me, he said key words....he's going to work on his marriage.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (12 October 2008):
 He wants to work on his marriage and have me too????
Ive never heard having their cake and eating it put like that, but it all boils down to the same thing!
If he wont make a decision, you will have to wont you?
C xxxxx
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reader, starfairy +, writes (12 October 2008):
 Selfish!
He can either have you or her, not both!
Tell him you and him are cooling it until he can make up his mind.
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