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My boyfriend shows my nude pictures to his friends, isn't this wrong?

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Question - (11 October 2008) 13 Answers - (Newest, 19 November 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, anonymous writes:

My boy friend used to be addicted to porn but now he doesnt havethe internet and is forever taking pictures of my bits. I wouldnt be to bothered but he shows his friends at i'm still young and i feel very uncomfortable but he says if i love him then i will do it and hes not asking for much, is it just being me being stupid and over protected or is it wrong?

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2008):

that is dead wrong if he loved you enough he wouldnt show them to his friends your best bet is not to let him take pics of you that way he has no respect for you doing that

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A male reader, agonyunclechris United Kingdom +, writes (12 November 2008):

agonyunclechris agony auntNo your not being stupid, your body naked is a personal thing, and showing everyone is just wrong.

also he is bullying you, he is using you to fuel his dirty habbits and gets a dirty thrill from showing you to everyone else. its derogatory. when he says he loves you, NO he doesnt, if he did he would respect your wishes and not show his friends, also if he loved you why would he want to show his friends, when he says he loves you he is bullying you into letting you show them, if i was you, wait till you can delete all the pictures and leave him, because he doesnt love you. take care

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008):

get his ass dumped he's not the one for u I bet he's just in it fur the pics I think.

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A male reader, Dr Vendetta United Kingdom +, writes (11 October 2008):

Dr Vendetta agony auntmorally a legally. its pretty wrong. on a trust basis i'd recommend no more nudie pics.

and secondly at your age he could be arrested for posession of illegal images.

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A male reader, Dr. Reality Check United Kingdom +, writes (11 October 2008):

Dr. Reality Check agony aunter, this guy has NO respect for you. AT ALL. Ask him if you can take nude photos of him and then a few days later that you showed them to YOUR mates - then watch his reaction.

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A female reader, Cyg79 United States +, writes (11 October 2008):

Cyg79 agony auntYes it is wrong.

I know you may care for him, but what he is doing is wrong on so many different levels.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008):

sweetie what happens to all these pictures when the 2 of u fall out, do they end up plastered on the internet, just cos he doesnt have it at home doesnt mean he cant access it, stop allowing him to take these pics, he clearly has no respect for your privacy mand is not to be trusted, you are 16 / 17, what if he decided to sell them? how would you feel if you ended up plasted on a teen porno sight. delete the pictures then delete that man from your life and find one that will treat you like a princess not a piece of meat xxx :-)

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A male reader, yum yum Switzerland +, writes (11 October 2008):

yum yum agony auntThis is definintely very wrong!. Your boy friend should respect your privacy. If he is saying to you, If you love me then you should let me show your pictures, that's called emotional blackmail. Its unethical you should ask for these pictures back from him because he is not trustworthy. If he loves you he should respect your privacy. Your private parts are only for your boy friend to see and your doctor nobody else.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008):

This is very wrong. People do that here too. And I know a lot of guys who does that to their girlfriend. And this means they DO NOT REALLY LOVE THEIR GIRLFRIEND. IF HE LOVES YOU HE WOULD NOT LIKE ANYONE TO SEE NUDE PICTURES OF YOU!! STAY AWAY FROM HIM! DO NOT TRUST HIM! AND BE CAREFUL BECAUSE IT LOOKS LIKE HE ONLY COURTED YOU AND MADE YOU HIS GIRLFRIEND WITH A BET.

A lot of guys feels they are heroes when they collect a lot of nude pictures of girls and even underwear. You are just gonna end up being a bitch if you continue your relationship with him. Believe me girl, I know a lot of boys like this, and not one of them really loved their girlfriend for doing this. Take good care of your body if you don't want to end up in youtube or porn websites. And one more thing, he doesn't really love you for doing this. And if he lets you think that you are even wrong about what you are thinking, Girl you are being messed up!!! Just be careful in breaking up with him because I am probably sure he will end it posting your pictures on nude sites and anywhere to embarrass you. Just leave me a message when you need help.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008):

He's asking a lot, this guy is very, very wrong. If you decide to allow him naked pictures then they are only for his pleasure. You aren't a porn model, you haven't been paid, he has no right to show your naked body to his friends. I would be very careful of this guy and I would get them pictures and destroy them. Love doesn't mean showing your naked body all over the world, what if your friends, your employer, your school or your parents find out. This guy is acting like a pimp. I do wonder how much respect he has for you.

Tell him, no other man dose this. His friends don't show naked pictures of their girlfriends because they have more respect for them. Don't let a guy ever blackmail you with "if you loved me..." cause the answer to that is "if you loved me back, you bloody wouldn't ask me to do something I feel uncomfortable about... Get them bloody pictures back, and I suggest that you dump him, because he sounds like a bloody pervert who has no respect for you. Have more pride and confidence in yourself, learn to say no, and if he doesn't like it then he can go and piss off...

Sorry babes, but the way he is treating you is very, very wrong. Those guys will be looking at you and imaging you naked every time they see you, they will be disrespecting you too. Your naked body should be for his eyes only, not for the whole bloody world. Blessings

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A female reader, Deftones United Kingdom +, writes (11 October 2008):

hlskitten is eactly right.

take a picture of his cock an show it to your friends see how he feels.

i doubt he'd do it again.

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A male reader, kapowski Antarctica +, writes (11 October 2008):

You're not stupid, you feel it's wring because it is.

Your boyfriend needs to grow up. He's getting physical pleasure from something that makes you uncomfortable, and yeah he is asking alot. and then he shows it to your friends?!!?!

To put it another way... If you knew that he felt uncomfortable having pictures taken of his bits would you a) ask him to pose for pics, and then b) show them to your friends? Knowing that he really wasn't comfortable with that?

These pictures are not like funny pics of someone mooning, they're intended for sexual arousal. Some people are comfortable with this- and that's up to them. But if you're not comfortable with it, he shouldn't be doing it.

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (11 October 2008):

hlskitten agony auntEr its wrong!

If HE loved YOU he wouldn't be showing all n sundry! Geez I am so glad i'm my age. I feel so sorry for young teen women, they get all the d*** heads that have a lot of growing up to do yet.

My ex hubby (whom I married at 18) asked me the other day if I ever regretted marrying him. Even though we divorced a few yrs later. I said no! And thats because the altrernative would probably of been dating a load of idiots that think its funny to pull everything in sight and show their mates pictures of their girlfriends nude.

Its not funny, and its a complete lack of respect!

I would be spitting chips and would definately get hold of his phone at some point, delete them and never let him take anymore. Have some self respect for you, because he sure as hell hasn't got any.

C xxxx

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