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writes:My boyfriend just quit smoking a week ago. He is really skinny right now, will he start gaining weight? I want him to because he is so skinny and I'm not attracted to him that much anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Smoking speeds the matabolism up. Weight gain when stopping smoking is rarely to do with eating more, unless you are daft and pig out in place of every cigarette you used to have. Its because the matabolism slows down. Hopefully he will kick the weed, gain some self asteem then kick other bad habits he's got around him. When i gave up smoking my confidence soared, it does wonders for your self asteem because you've achieved something important, i joined a gym, and wouldn't waste my time aound shallow people anymore.
C xxxx
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (7 August 2008):
 Wow... three sentences, and yet already more issues to deal with than I care to cover in my answer!!
Firstly, congratulations to your boyfriend. Quitting smoking is SO difficult and such a life change. It can be a real struggle, so please encourage him and support him as much as he needs. This is just the first step on his journey to becoming a non-smoker.
Secondly, he may or may not gain weight. It depends on his own personal way of quitting. Some people stop smoking and then turn towards other oral fixations, such as eating, giving them perpetual munchies during their struggle to quit. This isn't really a healthy habit, turning one vice into another, so I hope that you aren't hoping for him to begin eating.
Lastly, you seem to be prioritizing the wrong thing. While he is worried about quitting smoking, you are thinking of his weight and him making himself more attractive to you. I don't want to accuse you of being superficial, but I do want to remind you to put first his health before his weight. Don't worry about his body and his frame, please concentrate on being a supportive partner and helping him to quit smoking for GOOD. I'm sure you are -- were? -- attracted him because of much more than his body when you first got together. Remind yourself of his inner beauty and appreciate the fact that he will be that much more inwardly beautiful once he permanently puts out the butt of that cigarette habit!
Continue to support him and worry about what really matters - your boyfriend, your commitment and love for him and his body and health.
xx India
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (7 August 2008):
 He might... then again, he might not. Sometimes ex-smokers will gain weight because eating serves the purpose of having something in their mouths other than a cigarette. But, to be honest, the skinniness has more to do with his metabolism than anything else... if he can sit there and chow down like a starving man and still be thin, then it's all his body's natural ability to process all the food quickly and burn it off just as fast. If you want him to "bulk up", may I suggest that you both start an exercise program (and I say both of you because he might take offense if you recommend that only he does the work and you're not willing to as well). Also, exercise is going to do wonders for keeping him away from the smokes...
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