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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Seeing a guy a few months ago for around 1 month, he still had feelings for ex so we finished, he always said he did really like me but did not want to hurt me as he also has depression problems and did not want to let me down.Anyway, we work together and lately he is always asking me to help him daily with things, but our jobs are not linked so he does not need too, its silly things like using my printer and fax etc. We also went out as a group on Friday (he invited me) and he got affectionate towards me, weird stuff for friends like putting his arm round me and kissing my head, holding/stroking my hand then i would realise and pull anyway but it all felt really natural to do, he also wanted other people there to know we had history together mentioning things we had done together, bought me drinks, told me I looked really good and asked me back to his as i was giving him a lift home, i did go back but left while he was asleep only cause i could not sleep and was scared he would regret me being there in the morning, people are different with drinking (there was no sex just kissing and cuddling)...At work before and after friday i have noticed him staring a little and his face lights up sometimes when he sees me and also he holds eye contact with me very flirty eye contact when in fact he says he never looks people in the faceIm so confused at the moment as we are just acting the same again have not even mentioned friday and he did not even ask why i went, i do like him but after last time and the depression issues im not going to put my heart on the line again and say anything to him, does he sound like he likes me but could it be just friends as he does not say anything, any advice on how to move forward with this one, im sort of thinking slowly slowly catches the monkey but if someone does not fancy you there is no monkey to catch??????
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (6 August 2008):
 Personally i think you are playing a dangerous game. Its a gamble that might pay off, but quite likely he still has feelings for his ex and it would be very unlikely he would fall in love with anyone else til his issues there are resolved. And in the meantime it gets very messy. Lots of us have been there. I think its quite refreshing that a guy can admit he still has feelings for his ex so cant get into anything. There are a fair few that love getting into those rebound relationships thats for sure.
C xxxx
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