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writes:I recently caught my husband of ten years in an affair with my best friend. I had suspected something several years ago and confronted him but he denied it and life went on. I now find out it has been going on for 7 years. He says he loves me and doesn't want a divorce but he won't give her up either. I have talked to her as well and she says she will not give him up. They both are trying to convince me we can have an open marriage and work this out. I don't want to leave, but am I crazy to think this could work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): if only he could realise that sex is not the only thing that is great communications and understanding of both side of a partnership is so important let all take time to communicate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2007): get rid of him....his not worth a penny.....get on with your life....dont make him take you for granted.
p.s//////// HE SUCKS!
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reader, Rosary +, writes (10 July 2007):
 When you first married your husband did you plan on having an open marriage? I think it is truly an unreasonable request of your husband to suggest that you have an open-marriage UNLESS you are comfortable with attempting this type of relationship. It is all about how YOU feel about the situation. Are you considering this to keep your husband or are you comfortable in maintaining an "open marriage". This is about YOU not anyone else. What do YOU want to do? Take some time and see the outcome first and ask yourself if you can live with the decision that you are about to make. Only you know the answer. I wish you well. I know that you will make the right decisionfor YOU. Rosary.
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reader, BEEN THERE DONE IT  +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Hi there hun,
You have suspected this for a long time, how do you feel about this ??????
Its okay for them to say they won't give each other up but have either of them considered your feelings here??????
How do you feel about this so called open relationship?????
Did you agree to this when you got married, I think not......
You really need to talk to your husband let him know how you really feel, you don't want to leave but you do have doubts as to whether this can work...That tells me you will find this difficult to deal with....Does your best friend feel guilty ???
This is something you need to work out can you honestly allow this to continue without it affecting your relationship, I know a lot of couples do have open relationships but this is something agreed before they marry, I don't think I could and I love my hubby to bits, I think it would send me crazy, wondering if she were better thn me etc...if you can say hand on heart these thought will not go through your head then your a better woman than me....
If this situation is something you know you can not put up with then tell them straight hun, don't hurt yourself you deserve better than that your still a young woman so go out there and enjoy life my sweet I really hope things work out for you I really do,
I wish you all the very best of luck
Let me know how you get on all the best
Love Donna xx
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reader, flower girl +, writes (9 July 2007):
 Why should you let them have their cake and eat it, and personally i do think that it most definately wont work especially now you have confirmation of it.
You deserve better than this, i personally would have nothing to do with either of them and they clearly have no respect for you what so ever.
My husband has just had an affair and i do believe in second chances but only if they are willing to put the work in too, if he can't or won't leave her then he is not worth it babe.
Take care.xx.
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