Does he just want to be friends? Am I reading him correctly?
Q. I am 40 and been on off texting a guy and he sent me this message yesterday. 'Not scared off thought being responsible adult maybe for the best. Will be able to text Saturday night if you wish, text away' I read that as just wants to be fr...
A. 10 March 2016: That *is* weird. You say you've been texting this guy on and off? Have you met him? Have you two dated? Do you know anything about him?
I don't have enough to go on to give you good advice, so if you could follow up telling us how you met, why... (read in full...)
People think I'm a lesbian!
Q. I'm straight and i am attracted to men, although everyone think that I'm a lesbian. I'm really stylish, and my style is a bit different and odd, i do wear makeup and my hair is very short . I enjoy whatever guys do enjoy, basically im a tomboy. Most ...
A. 5 March 2016: If I were to guess, I'd guess the hair. You said that it was "really short", and add that to you being tomboyish (I was one too! I still refuse to wear heels for anything!), and you can see the stereotypes start spinning.
I've heard the lesbian ... (read in full...)
My foreign girlfriend of 3 months is pregnant and I can't say that I love her and don't wish to marry. What should I do?
Q. I'm in a bit of a unique situation. I've been dating this girl for 3 months. I am 23 and she is 20 years old. I just found out she is 6 weeks pregnant with my child. She is from South America and is here with a student visa studying the Eng...
A. 3 March 2016: There *is* an option 3:
Don't marry her, but travel to SA with her, continue your career there, and be a part of your son or daughter's life. That may give you time enough to get to know her a bit better and make some future decisions or not.
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 25 February 2016: Forgot to add this, but your "Keep it up" at the tagline of your follow-up as well as your playup of how attractive your "girlfriend" is clinched it for me even more. Why the HELL would someone want to "keep up" with feeling betrayal if most of the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is unhappy that I'm watching porn so she retaliated by posting photos of herself on the internet!
Q. Ok I'll get straight to the point. Like most women my girlfriend hates porn. I told her when we got together that I didn't like it either, but recently she caught me watching it. We've now been together for 3 years. Needless to say she got really ...
A. 25 February 2016: Your story reads like *you* are not a man writing in here, but rather a woman with an agenda. You hit all the points. You write as if you're the guy, knowing full well what the double standard is, and you're trying to make a point over how ... (read in full...)
My fiance's overbearing brother wants us over every weekend and its exhausting for us. How do we draw the line?
Q. Hi- My fiancé and I have been together for almost four years. We dated for two years. We stayed at his parents a lot during this time because there was more space opposed to my parents. His brother and wife would stop by his parents here and...
A. 20 February 2016: There are two things you can do.
1. Keep drawing the line and holding it. People in their own little bubble think that others have the same time constraints they do. They don't realize that other people have other lives.
2. When you *do* go... (read in full...)
Does this mean that a person could possibly be bi?
Q. If you're turned on by naked girls sometimes, does that mean you could possibly be bi? My first porn that I watched had something to do with boobs and it turned me on a lot and ever since then I'd been turned on by boobs. But boobs are boobs ri...
A. 19 February 2016: You're turned on by sexual images. You like porn, and erotic images of all forms turn you on. It doesn't mean that you're a lesbian. You have crushes on guys.
Let's use other imagery that invoke a bodily response:
Let's say you're watch... (read in full...)
He's in a relationship but has feelings for me. What should we do?
Q. I have feelings for a guy - but he is in a relationship. However yesterday he told me he has feelings for me aswell. What do we do?!...
A. 19 February 2016: Tell him that you do *not* date cheaters under any circumstance. Not now, not ever, no way. Tell him that if he has feelings, that he needs to do the honorable thing and break off his relationship before saying another word to you about getting ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting with my fiance's behavior?
Q. Okay so a little background, we have been going out for three years, engaged for six months and getting married next year. We do have a great relationship and I know he is the one for me. We do have our small arguments like every other couple. ...
A. 19 February 2016: I think you need to rethink things here.
First of all, why is he taking you to your class? Why can't you get there on your own? Do you not have a vehicle or isn't there public transportation available for you to be self-sufficient on this mat... (read in full...)
After 7 years of only seeing his son once, my ex now wants in his life. What shall I do?
Q. Hi everyone my son is 7 years old my ex has never seen him apart from once when he was 2 weeks old I had to involve the police as he kept threatening me and even threatened to make me have a miscarriage I was willing for him to see his son but he ...
A. 15 February 2016: I'm glad I read your post and went beyond the title of this post. Normally, if it were a simple case of an absentee father who waited 7 years to become part of his kid's life, I'd say that he should be allowed. HOWEVER...
He threatened you phys... (read in full...)
How can I explain that we cannot go back to what we were?
Q. Good afternoon I have recently divorced after 33 years of marriage (my ex wife's decision). Just over a year ago, during the time I was going through my divorce, I met a lady (let's call her Cathy) who I became good friends with. Cathy is a very...
A. 14 February 2016: I think you've got the right idea as well. If you and Sarah have fallen for each other, then by all means your relationship with Cathy, even in a friendship capacity, must end in all forms. You can see her neediness clearly, and the fact that you ... (read in full...)
I have a foot fetish and want to suck my wife's toes. How do I tell her?
Q. Might be a weird question to some.. I have a foot fetish, I would love to suck on my wife's toes during sex but for fear of looking weird I never told her. 6yrs later we are married and I still would like to do this. But how do I bring it up with...
A. 10 February 2016: Just TELL her! It's not weird at all! I dated a guy who had a serious foot fetish, and to me, it was one of the most awesome things in the world! The guy worshiped feet, and as a result, gave the best foot massages I've ever had....for hours! I ... (read in full...)
A threesome has turned into a disaster. My wife wants to spend the night with guy without me
Q. my wife and I have been married for twenty three years, recently she said she wanted to try a mmf threesome. She met a guy online who is older than her and after getting to know him we agreed to do it. The first two times we all had fun, the third ...
A. 10 February 2016: In this case, she suggested the threesome because she already wanted to cheat on you with this guy, and her suggestion of a threesome was her way of trying to "make it legal" with the pretense of making it a "mutual fantasy" between the two of you. ... (read in full...)
I just want to move on and get out of this relationship because I don't want to get hurt again
Q. I am a divorcee and staying with friends. Opposite to my apartment one guy is staying. Since one year I have been seeing him. I got to know that he is interested in me and first I thought its just a physical attraction. But later on I felt that he ...
A. 21 January 2016: So what you're saying is - you have an incredible relationship with incredible sex happening. You love him and love spending time with him, yet you want out because of what MIGHT happen??
Why??? And by the way, quit defining yourself as "divorce... (read in full...)
I've lost my trust in him. I love him but am not in love with him
Q. ok so I have been with this guy going on 3 years and I already had one baby with my x husband n he stepped up to the plate n he loves her so within the past going on 3 years of being with him I have had 2 kids by him n hes a great father to them all ...
A. 21 January 2016: I'm definitely in Honeypie's corner here. He should not have lied to you about her, but I'm guessing you've been a jealous person with trust issues from the very start of the relationship, especially if you're describing cars that look like her and ... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex know I'm angry about how he ghosted on me?
Q. my ex and i were on and off for years about 3 weeks ago he ghosted on me, after months of closeness, sleeping together, weekend visits, basically acting like a couple without the title. it felt like we were really close again. until he went silent r...
A. 21 January 2016: The best thing you can do honestly is STOP the talking to him. You said it yourself - you were on/off for years, meaning your whole relationship was one big drama yo-yo and a huge time waster. Then this last time was no different. Again, you said ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is hurt from losing investments. How can I help?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating two months. I've always known he trades stocks and that's fine with me. However recently the market has been very bad and he's suffered quite a few losses. He handles his emotions well but I know he's hurt from ...
A. 21 January 2016: I don't know how new he is to the game, as anyone knows that true stock success means staying patient and cool-headed for the long haul. Also, I *hope* he's not just out there doing it himself without any kind of professional advice like Gordon ... (read in full...)
Should I be expected to do everything at the home because I don't work?
Q. So I live with my boyfriend in a small town, and since we are currently in a recession I don't have a job. I stay at home and make sure the animals are fed, cook meals, do laundry, ect. When he comes home supper is ready, we eat and he games out for ...
A. 20 January 2016: You're not a maid! There's a difference between the Family Chores (i.e. laundry, the vacuuming/dusting, the cooking, dishes, and the appointments like car repairs/maintenance, grocery shopping) and self-hygiene!
Even if you don't have a job, you... (read in full...)
How do I handle the wedding invite of a brother I haven't spoken to in 10 years?
Q. About ten years ago, I caught my brother stealing from me(about fifty dollars) so he could take his girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend) out on a date. He was a very selfish person. At that time, we live together at my parents house. Due to my ...
A. 20 January 2016: I think you should respond and tell him congratulations and that before you attend the wedding, you two should get together and clear the air about 10 years ago. $50 is not worth a 10 year silence, and while I understand that he really mistreated ... (read in full...)
How to handle this? What other important past information has my husband hidden from me?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years dated 4 years prior to that. Tonight, I just found out my husband has been married 3 times prior to our relationship. I knew of one marriage, but he has never openly disclosed these other 2 marriage...
A. 20 January 2016: Serpico - I wasn't talking about you. I was referring to the male anon who stated "your past is none of your future partner's business" only applies when women want it to."
He's confusing sexual history with marital history, which is absolute... (read in full...)
I know girlfriend is cheating behind my back, why didn't she just let me go?
Q. I found a piece of paper with several male user names and names of certain free dating sites, on the bathroom floor, but however much she denied it - I know my girlfriends handwriting. It got the best of me and I became quite obsessive about finding ...
A. 20 January 2016: It's the reason many cheaters hang onto their relationships. There's one reason here that I believe is why your girlfriend is stringing you along, and is a major reason why cheating partners stay in their relationships:
When I had just given bi... (read in full...)
Fiance admitted forgetting about my birthday plans and didn't do anything about it?
Q. My birthday was yesterday and my fiance and I had made plans on Christmas day to spend the day before (Sunday) together, as on my actual birthday (Monday) I got him basketball tickets to go watch his favorite team play as a Christmas gift, which he ...
A. 20 January 2016: I highly doubt that "bowling with his cousins" is all he did. Who gets exhausted from bowling unless they were playing some sort of bowling drinking game??? Bowling a few games isn't a tiring event! I should know! I bowled in leagues for a few ... (read in full...)
How to handle this? What other important past information has my husband hidden from me?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years dated 4 years prior to that. Tonight, I just found out my husband has been married 3 times prior to our relationship. I knew of one marriage, but he has never openly disclosed these other 2 marriage...
A. 20 January 2016: This is not an issue of whether the "past should stay the past", and frankly, I'm surprised that people with that type of chip on their shoulder would project their own jealousy issues into something that couldn't be farther from *that* subject as ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my boyfriend will compare my privates to his ex girlfriends and won't like what he sees!
Q. Hi all I'm a 16 year old virgin with a major concern, my left inner Laos is stretched and hangs down past the outer lips by quite a way, while my right labia is normal? The stretched on is also like a purple colour and rubs against my underwear and ...
A. 19 January 2016: Your boyfriend is going to look at your vagina like a guy stuck in the desert for a week and dying of thirst is going to look at a cool glass of ice water. In that moment, do you really think he's going to compare that ice water to other glasses of ... (read in full...)
Using the word "love" in greeting, birthday, or holiday cards.
Q. Hi everyone, I'm curious what women think about this question. Now that the holidays are over Ive gone through all my Christmas cards again as I usually do before I put them away for the year. I keep every card I receive because if someone took ...
A. 19 January 2016: I agree with you! I don't like using "love" unless it applies to my family or very close friends. In my opinion, it's actually a holdout from the old days before internet, where many people wrote that even for acquaintances or anyone closer to you ... (read in full...)
How do I get my guy to be less of a gentleman?
Q. Hi. I have met this great guy. As soon as I dated him, I could see that he was as good as he looks. I look at the way he is with his son and my family and could really love him.He's so sweet, but sort of shy with me. He kisses me and calls me baby. ...
A. 19 January 2016: You walk a tightrope here. If the "gentleman" behavior you're trying to get him to stop is his asking you if he can be physical, just whisper in his ear that it turns you on when he doesn't ask, and that learning as you go along is what makes ... (read in full...)
My FWB partner didn't seem right so I stopped the sex but then she was angry! Didn't I do the right thing?
Q. Hey guys, I am utterly shocked at the moment and need someone to help me clarify what happened. I have been in a friends with benefits relationship with another woman (both girls) for a few months now. Things have been amazing!! Sex was intensel...
A. 19 January 2016: I AGREE WITH HONEYPIE! You did the right thing absolutely!
You haven't spoken with her since that night??
I'm thinking she was either graying out or full blackout drunk, which can be a scary thing for you and her.
You need to talk to h... (read in full...)
I'm really not sure that I want my "best friend" to be my maid of honour! She really hasn't been much of a friend the last several years
Q. My mum and her best friend from school had a child in the same year (me and my best friend) so we was always together and obviously over the years became best friends we went to same schools did everything together blah blah.. Im getting married ...
A. 18 January 2016: I normally agree with Honeypie and do this time as well, but I found the perfect "out" right in your post itself, so I found an alternate and really good solution for you!!
I had to look up the word "skint" as it's not a word we "Yankees" normally... (read in full...)
Threesome that I initiated leads to my wife having a 2 year affair
Q. My wife and I are in our late 20's, married 5 years..One night about two years ago after too many drinks at my single friends apartment, don't ask me why, i said lets try a threesome..probably the alchohol talking..it was totally my idea, and my ...
A. 17 January 2016: This is precisely why threesomes should forever stay a fantasy when there's a marriage or committed relationship is involved.
Yes, the easy answer is that she's cheating on you because while in the threesome, you pushed her into getting physical... (read in full...)
Why would my co-worker encourage me to go to night out with everyone and then ignore me the whole night?
Q. I'm left slightly confused over something.... I've been in my current job for 5 months. Now the other week our manager arranged for us all to go bowling and then for a bite to eat at the weekend. I was unsure if I could make it but the lady who...
A. 17 January 2016: I think it's because she's not self-aware. Many people in social settings go in for small talk and one word answers. You also may have felt like a fish out of water due to the fact that you hardly knew anyone there.
The next time you go to a soc... (read in full...)
I want to stop. How should I stop going after someone who ignores me like this?
Q. Dear Cupid I am dating someone for past 3 weeks, earlier he seemed to be ok, wanted to talk to me all the time, we connected well. Had sex previous week and after that he is ignoring me, my calls, when I ask says he is busy over work, and today...
A. 17 January 2016: Yeah, he used you for sex. You stop going after him by STOPPING. Delete his contact info in your phone, and delete him from your social media.
If you're looking for a guy who's not just after sex, then you may want to wait longer than 1-2 week... (read in full...)
Why not? I always make sure he's satisfied, so why doesn't he satisfy me?
Q. Dear cupid. This is a bit of an awkward one, me and my boyfriend have been together 3 years now in the begining we used to always have sex and he used to go down on me. However now im lucky if it even happens on my birthday! ive tried talking to...
A. 17 January 2016: I'm seriously hoping I'm not being dense, but I've never heard of a GUY'S jaw hurting during oral sex!! What the hell is he DOING down there, and I'm thinking that your lack of satisfaction has a lot to do with the fact that he doesn't know ... (read in full...)
My brother just told me he's gay and I'm worred about how our family will react
Q. My brother just told me he's gay. He said it took 7 years to feel comfortable to say it. I'm the first person(outside of his school therapist) he told. I have some questions about this. I'm not sad or angry. I believe he should be who he is. ...
A. 17 January 2016: It's going to take time, and given the religion of things (you said you were middle eastern? Does that mean your family is Muslim?), there may be a few people who never come around, but there will be many more who will surprise you with their ... (read in full...)
How to handle this? What other important past information has my husband hidden from me?
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years dated 4 years prior to that. Tonight, I just found out my husband has been married 3 times prior to our relationship. I knew of one marriage, but he has never openly disclosed these other 2 marriage...
A. 17 January 2016: Two annulments?? Uhh, that's not good at ALL. The fact that he's downplaying them should be a major red flag. Let's say he's telling the truth here (which I'm not so sure of, but his lie would be just as big of a red flag as having two ... (read in full...)
Why would a married man keep in touch with his mistress while on vacation with his wife?
Q. Why does a married man who is on vacation with his wife keep in constant touch with his mistress while he is away? And tells her he misses her and can't wait to be with her again?...
A. 12 January 2016: It's the same reason why married people cheat on their spouses in the first place. Because they are morally bankrupt, and the opportunity presents itself.
A married man's words are completely worthless. Doesn't matter if he's out on vacation... (read in full...)
Moved in but should I move out?
Q. my bf of 3 yrs (on and off) and i just moved in together and he is a weird one. we do not sleep in the same room let alone the same bed. he hates my dog. we do not communicate and sex has become boring and almost non existent. he ignores me for ...
A. 11 January 2016: You may want to move out and make it permanently "off".
You're realizing that moving in does not solve problems in a relationship. Relationships that are really strong and healthy tend to stay that way, and relationships on the rocks tend to ... (read in full...)
Propositioned by father in law - what's going on?
Q. My step Father rang for my birthday today. But also accused me of being gay but I am happily married and also that he has strong sexual feelings for me. I said a few words to him and hang up. I am in shock, disbelief I don't believe he said this. c...
A. 11 January 2016: Oh boy. Your stepfather is a dirty old man, and your mom needs to know. I know you're reacting out of shock and revulsion that he did that to you, but keep in mind that not only did he do this to YOU, he did this to YOUR MOM behind your back.
... (read in full...)
Overwhelmed by gift house and don't know what to do
Q. Please can i get some advice! What I'm about to write may seem like I'm being ungrateful but I'm not. My fiancé and I have been together 6 years and were currently looking to buy our 1st house together. We both have decent enough jobs...
A. 20 December 2015: I have advice from a completely different perspective.
Before I start, I want to make sure that they're GIFTING you the house outright, meaning it's in yours and your future husband's joint name. I'm going to proceed with my advice as if it *IS* ... (read in full...)
Does my date need to come out?
Q. A guy I'm dating got intimate ! I gave him a couple hickies at the drive thru and we kind of had sex. Well when he turned on the light he saw he had two hickies on his face, and he was upset. I said we can go to the store and I'll help you pick your ...
A. 14 December 2015: Why would that mean that he's gay? Maybe he's metrosexual, which more and more guys are these days! Many guys actually care enough to even out blemishes and pock marks, and maybe he's one of them.
He also could be a player as well if you're d... (read in full...)
How can I get experience when everything seems against me?
Q. I'm a male virgin who's never kissed a girl and I've never been on a date. I'm don't have a particularly attractive face, I'm overweight and bald, and I'm an awkward quiet nerd. I was recently talking a girl that I was interested in pursuing a re...
A. 14 December 2015: Well, as someone who dated and eventually married a virgin, I think you think less of yourself than you should. I also think that your encounter with this lady turned out the way you were priming it to be, as in, you expected the outcome, you ... (read in full...)
What can I do? Should I meet a man who can only tolerate my much loved resucue dog?
Q. I was really looking forward to meeting a man I have have been talking online to. This morning he dropped the bombshell he would only ever"tolerate" a dog and his argument is he thinks its cruel to keep them as pets anyway. I am quite hurt as my do...
A. 10 December 2015: This is an easy one. Don't waste your time feeling hurt. His views on pets and yours are not compatible, and as such, you see it as a dealbreaker. Don't take it personally, because it's not a rejection of you or your dog.
You don't need to ... (read in full...)
| *ouWish's friends
These are mutual friends, so *ouWish has
added them and they have added *ouWish!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
