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writes:Hi. I have met this great guy. As soon as I dated him, I could see that he was as good as he looks. I look at the way he is with his son and my family and could really love him.He's so sweet, but sort of shy with me. He kisses me and calls me baby. I am weak in the knees. But then asks me if it's okay if he calls me that.I am like, yeah, sure. How to put this... How can I get my guy to be a little less of a gentleman?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2016): You have someone,their isn't very many of us out their, he treats you, like a man, suppose to treat a woman, you could be with a bad boy, who treats you like dirt, doesn't care about your feelings, just his own, cheats on you, drinks alot, so by all means, dump him, get a bad boy,he might even hit you, then you can look back, an wonder, it was so nice, to be with a guy, who, love treating me wonderful,Hun, don't be a fool, show him you love him
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (19 January 2016):
 you could be with some of the deadbeats that are out there. if he is treating you like a lady , you better be thankful. he has found a treasure (you) and knows it.
not enough guys in this day and time that treat a woman like a lady, and act like gentlemen. you have something with him , and don't realize it yet.
he will be more comfortable with you as time goes along.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 January 2016):
 You walk a tightrope here. If the "gentleman" behavior you're trying to get him to stop is his asking you if he can be physical, just whisper in his ear that it turns you on when he doesn't ask, and that learning as you go along is what makes sexual adventure hot!
Otherwise, don't try to get him to act less like a gentleman! Time will fix that for you on its own as he gets more comfortable with you and vice versa. You also DO NOT want to criticize his being romantic or getting consent from you. That can shut him down far more than you wanted him to.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (19 January 2016):
 I don't think you can change him. He might bend a little towards your desires, but if you ask too much he will hate himself for giving in to his baser side. Leave time for him to become more relaxed with you and see how it pans out. If he is still acting like a stuffed shirt then throw a few little jokey comments his way.
When you love someone you love their foibles too. This is an endearing side of him for you to cherish.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (19 January 2016):
 Gentlemen are a dying breed-BELIEVE ME. My advice would be to be gracious and enjoy being with someone who treats you like a lady. So jealous lol.
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