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writes:i have an online boyfriend we became realy close and shared everything with eachother we were deeply in love but then about a month or so ago his computer broke down. i lost my paitence and sent a mesg accusing him of not loving me but i said ill always love him anyway. afterthat his account closed i dont know if it was him or not he did say he was getting hacked. Anyway i asked if anyone knew his email and i found his msn i didnt have msn at first so i told one of my friends to talk to him until i get one he sounded really worried about me and says he wants me back. Then i started talking to him and he seemed different he was like you fat pig talk to me after that he said he was really sorry but the main thing is we havnt been talkin as much as we used to cause hes barely online we do send mesgs though but if he sends a mesg i send three straight after then he takes a day to anwser. yesterday i sent a mesg saying i miss him and i want us to talk like before then all he said was SEXY SEXY im so confused. he was never like this he was always so deep and romantic what could be wrong?
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reader, Stayc63088  +, writes (19 January 2009):
 Well his computer broke down for a while and you weren't talking to each other. He probably just got over it in that time. Which of course means it isn't love. And you try to talk to him and he doesn't really care to answer quickly. You don't have much of a choice but to move on. You can't make him answer you and repeatedly messaging him when he isn't interested just makes you seem desperate and is embarrassing. I've talked to 2 guys online before for about 4-5 months each and both ended the same way. Distance ends up being a big thing and what I thought was love I was incredibly mistaken. It just ended up being fun and intimate to talk to someone all night and tell deep personal feelings. The guy has lost interest and though it seems like a big deal to you now, you will move on and most likely weeks, months or a year from now when you meet a guy in person you will feel ridiculous for thinking you felt this way. Bottom line though, you can't make him like or love you, he seems to have moved on so you don't have a choice but to stop messaging him as frequently. You can still occasionally talk to him but I would refrain from mentioning love or anything really serious. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): well he used to take everything so seriously and be so sweet he even made a few songs bout us and showed them to me and i know wat he looks like cause he sent me photos on photobucket. i dont want to dump him cause i love him so much i was crying every second wen he didnt talk to me:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2009): It sounds to me that you and him see this relationship a lot differently. He's not taking it as seriously as you would like him to, this could be for a number of reasons, he could be putting up a front because he doesn't know how to behave or maybe he just doesn't want to be in a relationship. The best thing to do is to tell him that you need to talk about this because you don't understand what he means when he says things or why he behaves the way he does. If he doesn't want to talk or responds to this in a way that suggests he's not taking it sersiously, maybe it's time to call it off. No matter how hard you try, it's near impossible to change a guy
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