I sent a text to my boyfriend that was meant for my boss. Will my BF get upset?
Q. Hi all. Let me start by saying my BF of two years can be insecure and has expressed jealousy at times. I was texting my boss trying to set up a meeting and sent the text by accident to my BF as I have both conversations saved on my phone....
A. 13 April 2015: IF your "boyfriend" doesn't have sufficient genitals that he can see this and let it pass... the YOU need to tell your "boyfriend" that he needs larger genitals in order to get through life.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Do girls enjoy having their bodies rubbed with other men in crowded bus?
Q. Before I continue, I want you to know that I am around 19 and an attractive male. People and friends adore me every now and then, I don't have girlfriend though and don't even have female friends. The reason for all that is I am shy and not much ...
A. 12 April 2015: When I was unemployed, and living in a large Northeastern city, I learned which buses were crowded (in to town in the morning, and out of town in the afternoon)... and rode them all the time hoping - against all hope - that it would be crowded, and ... (read in full...)
Do I try to convince my boyfriend that he still loves me?
Q. Yesterday my boyfriend of a year broke up with me. It is all rather confusing. But this week I saw a girl had been texting him and he was trying to bring up her self esteem by calling her hot but I saw it as flirtatious. We met up and we made up. ...
A. 12 April 2015: It's NEVER, NEVER,NEVER,NEVER,NEVER,a good idea to try to "convince" someone that they love you.......
LOVE comes from WITHIN a person... and if you have to try to inject them with love (convince them that they love you)... then it should be clear... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for us to move in together?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years We are both is our 40s .. We both live in our parents house to save money .. He is divorced with two children. He pays for everything in his parents house and also pays for almost everything for his ...
A. 11 April 2015: After reading your re-submit.. I can't help asking: Why don't his parents SELL THEIR HOUSE to him???? .... with a "reverse mortgage"????? Here in the State, that gets their house OUT OF THEIR estate.... but gives them life-rights (they make that a ... (read in full...)
Why is it worse for a man to be bitter and resentful than it is for a woman?
Q. If a man is bitter, resentful, is filled with feelings of bitterness, resentment, no woman will want him, but a man is generally more forgiving if a woman is feeling bitter, resentful, why is this? Why are guys expected to always, or almos...
A. 11 April 2015: You write: "If a man is bitter, resentful, is filled with feelings of bitterness, resentment, no woman will want him, but a man is generally more forgiving if a woman is feeling bitter, resentful, why is this?"
WHO said this is so????... (read in full...)
How long should I wait for us to move in together?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years We are both is our 40s .. We both live in our parents house to save money .. He is divorced with two children. He pays for everything in his parents house and also pays for almost everything for his ...
A. 11 April 2015: "Playing house" is not part of "the answer" to your "problem."
You need to decide if this guy is ever going to "cut the apron strings" to him Mommy......
The sad thing is that - by his plans - he (and you) are predicating your prospective... (read in full...)
He wants casual but I want a relationship, should I give him what he wants?
Q. I feel like im loosing my mind. I met a mysterious guy and we got on so well, he told me he felt comfortable around me, making me feel relieved and srawn even cloaer to him, but recently he told me he only wanted a casual relationship.I'm 18 and ...
A. 11 April 2015: You ask: Should I take up his offer of a sexual relationship just so that I can see him?"
If you're willing to sell your soul, then go ahead and do so.
THEN, he'll know that you have sufficiently little (or no) self-respect, and he can have ... (read in full...)
I want to know if and how having 2 children has affected my body
Q. I am a 21 year old with a 3 year old and an 8 month old. They both have their birthdays in August. I know my body pretty well but there are a few places that are in the dark. Literally. I long to know what my vagina feels like especially after my...
A. 10 April 2015: Since hubby is reluctant to give you feedback.... the only choice you seem to have is to have sex with many men and ask THEM.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My ex cannot stand to see me after 9 years? Why is he like this?
Q. I have a question about my ex. I ended the relationship back in 2004 because of how he treated me, he was 20 at the time and I think a lot had to do with his lack of maturity. When we broke up, things were a bit convoluted. We agreed to be friends ...
A. 10 April 2015: After 9 years..... what difference does ANYTHING about this guy mean to you?????
You note that you and he have common activities and friends... SO WHAT? You need only to be polite and cordial to him, as you would be to anybody who is in your ... (read in full...)
How can I make my sister see what she is doing to her life and her children?
Q. Hi everyone! I'm finding it hard to watch my sister throw her life and children away! A little background: my sister has always struggled with attention after our mother had an affair and divorced our father when she was only 13. This led to my s...
A. 10 April 2015: This segment: "She only considers herself and in the end I see her losing those children, either the though the services or there resentment towards her.
How can I make this better? I've offered help, support and love her whole life but she only... (read in full...)
Do men even care if porn use hurts their partner?
Q. My question comes as the result of my husband constantly using porn despite an agreement not too and two years of counselling. I have now organised alternative housing but am hurt and wondering what the world has come to Do men even care if porn use...
A. 10 April 2015: OP: Your pain is genuine, no doubt. HOWEVER, those who've opined before me (in this thread) have correctly noted that there are TWO issues....
The first is YOUR HUSBAND and his behaviour.... and THAT is the one which needs to be addresse... (read in full...)
I'm 15 dating a 21 year old and don't know how to tell my parents
Q. I'm 15 and my boyfriend recently turned 21 I'll be turning 16 in june, my brothers 18 and he and the rest of my siblings and cousins are okay with it, weve been dating 7months yesterday and im really happy....but i really want to tell my parents but ...
A. 9 April 2015: A 21-year-old-man dating a 15 year old CHILD is a peculiar situation... no matter HOW you paint it.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know if she enjoyed it and if he wore a condom?
Q. I have a 27 year old girlfriend of 3 years and we have recently been having some issues in regards to spending time together. She has been spending a lot of time with a co-worker (going out, going to his place but just as friends as she claims). ...
A. 9 April 2015: You, Sir, have a problem.....
WHAT she has done in the past is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.... so, I suggest you drop your scheme of asking and prying about it....
IF you love this girl,.... then forget all that you THINK THAT YOU KNOW... and get ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friend is flirting with me and I'm not sure what to do about it
Q. Hi, this is kind if a weird question but here it goes. So, my boyfriend and I have been together for about three years, and I love him to bits. Recently we started hanging out with some of his old friends more, which I am super happy about because ...
A. 8 April 2015: First: Take "the guy" (your B/F's friend) aside and say to him: "Listen, Bunky, I can see your sorry attempts at getting my attention for exactly what they are. I recommend that you - and they (the attempts at your attention) - cease ... (read in full...)
Six years together and he hasn't proposed. Am I stupid for hanging on?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Although he talks about the future, he has not proposed to me and says he is not happy to do so until he is happy in himself (his family life is difficult due to bereavement etc). I feel like a mug holding ...
A. 8 April 2015: You write: "...he is not happy to do so until he is happy in himself.."
chigirl said it better than I could... THO' I would be reluctant to do that (propose to HIM) ... since it lets him
"off the hook"... and he can blame you for "pressing" h... (read in full...)
I love my b/f but don't wish to have sex with him anymore
Q. Okay, so I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and I am 20 years old. He is very affectionate, caring, and I know he would do anything for me..he is my best friend. He wants to marry me. However, we argue constantly because I am not very ...
A. 8 April 2015: When you included this: "...We get along really well, and I am comfortable with him - but I don't feel the spark that I should feel with someone who treats me so well." you told us all we needed to know....
You and he have widely differin... (read in full...)
Does he just want sex? I'm too afraid to ask!
Q. I'm confused, I'm not sure if I'm liked as just a friend or sat not, met this guy since wen I was 18, we spoke alot and distant 4 a while till I was 21 at that age he came back, we skyped spoke about us and all , then once I asked wat he wants from ...
A. 8 April 2015: It's really NOT very complicated. He's learned that you will make yourself available to him for sex.... SO, he's quite willing to take advantage of that... and to Heck with what it means to you, and how you feel....
Gather your courage and tell... (read in full...)
My wife works with her ex and he's always calling her
Q. my wife works everyday with an x lover and he is always calling her on the phone for long conversations and she doesn't understand why this bothers me. We've been married for three yrs and it is becoming a problem so what should I do, leave or let ...
A. 8 April 2015: You write: "...she doesn't understand why this bothers me. We've been married for three yrs and it is becoming a problem so what should I do, leave or let it go."
She DOESN'T???? (understand why it bothers you????). It's "becoming" a problem.... (read in full...)
I don't think he will ever change. Should I just move on once and for all?
Q. I was supposed to get married approximately a year ago, but called the wedding off about a month or so before it was supposed to happen. If I hadn't called it off, HE would have gone ahead with it, even though we were not getting along at all. I ...
A. 8 April 2015: You write: "....I'm thinking he will never change..."
You are correct. You've detailed how long you have held out hope that he WOULD (change).....NOW, reconcile that a woman waiting for a man to "change" is an exercise in futility.... and it's... (read in full...)
Was his threesome suggestion just an excuse to have sex with another woman? Is it wrong that I felt hurt by his actions?
Q. I agreed to a threesome with my husband and a friend. I've never been with a woman but agreed to try to please my husband. He didn't even touch me. feeling uncomfortable, i went outside. he proceeded to have sex with her. i was reduced to watching, ...
A. 7 April 2015: I'm prepared to go "out on a limb" and make a prediction...... That you WON'T do that again!!!!
Good luck with your NEW boyfriend....... (read in full...)
He called me selfish. He blames me 100%. Is there anything else I can do, to try and help us find solutions, not blame?
Q. Whenever me and my boyfriend argue he always blames me for whatever problem has occurred 100% and never takes any responsibility.Though I must say we do not argue any more than any other couple I know. I used to take this that things were 100%...
A. 7 April 2015: When disagreements become contests of who was "to blame".... then the relationship is rounding the 4th turn and heading for the finish line....
When YOU have tried to make adjustments and amends.... but HE continues to need YOU to be "to blame" f... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for your bf to take his daughter to a party you were invited to?
Q. Is it wrong for your bf to take his daughter to a party you were invited to? This is how it started. I asked my bf to go to a Billy Joel concert with me, but he didn't seem to interested as his ski trip was in the same month and as of yet did not ...
A. 6 April 2015: OP: This submittal includes 'way to much detail for me to understand:
1. What really/actually happened,
2. How you feel about it, and what it might mean to the "relationship" between you and this guy (and his daughter)... which "relationshi... (read in full...)
I want to ask my co-worker out. Should I text, call, or go up to her, discreetly, and ask her out - face to face?
Q. For the past two months I've been having fun casual conversations with a cute co-worker of mine (we luckily do not work in the same department at all, she just works on the other side of the building) and I recently asked her out for lunch and she ...
A. 6 April 2015: Those of us from the Jurassic Period (age: 60+) will tell you to CALL her and ask to go out together. For us, any other form of communication would be 'way too impersonal....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
He makes excuses to not give me his facebook password!
Q. So i've been with my boyfriend since mid November, i love him dearly but i've always had a few trust issues with him. As of lately theyve gotten really bad, he wont give me his Facebook password, uses the excuse "i change it to much, ive forgot it." ...
A. 6 April 2015: IF my G/F asked me for the password to my Facebook page... THEN I would know that our "relationship" had run its course....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
No matter how hard I try, I will never be as attractive to him as younger women!
Q. My husband seems quite disinterested in sex with me. When I say that, I mean that he seems pretty unexcited by me even though we have regular sex . I try spicing it up with lingerie and new ideas . I've tried everything but despite the fact we hAce ...
A. 6 April 2015: 0P: Hubby has tipped his hand that he's an unmitigated looker.... (at OTHER women).
Does he know that this is disheartening to you? If "No," then you can (must) tell him... and THAT you must tell him that it (his behaviour) is NOT acceptab... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't stop taking drugs. should I leave him?
Q. I am 25 and my partner is 30. We have been together for 8 months and have had an uneasy relationship. We love each other very much, but he takes class A drugs occasionally and I did not like this. When I came to the decision to leave him he told me ...
A. 6 April 2015: Yes......... (read in full...)
I'm on spring break and I think, as a result that I'm bored. Should I try to cut back on my daily masturbation and watching porn for 10 to 20 minutes, daily? addiction or unhealthy?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I have a question: At what point does porn become an addiction, and when does masturbation become "unhealthy?" I am a 15 year old male, and I watch porn PERIODICALLY. I don't watch it daily, usually only once a week for aro...
A. 5 April 2015: Once, when I was about your age, my Mother caught me masturbating. She said that I should stop, since to continue would cause me to go blind. I replied, "Can't I just do it until I need glasses???"
Good luck.
P.S. I have had to wear corr... (read in full...)
She said we would be better as friends, I want to win her back!
Q. My girlfriend left me the day before yesterday. She said that she thought we were better friends. We dated for almost a year and a half. Is it too late to win her back? If not how do I win her back? Please help me....
A. 4 April 2015: When she said, "...She said that she thought we were better friends." she "told" you all you need to know. LISTEN TO HER!!!!
There is no romance here.... so YOU have to decide if your satisfied with what is left....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
I'd like to see him again, would it be okay for me to message him?
Q. Hey everyone! I just need some fast advice :) i broke up with My boyfriend about 3 Weeks ago and it took sometime but I'm feeling a bit better now ... So I met this guy 3 days ago at a party and we hit it off. He's friends with a guy I know and we ...
A. 4 April 2015: Further to WiseOwl.... and more succinctly stated:
Women need a REASON to have sex; Men just need a place....
YOU decide if you are going to chase this character. It's you choice... and your's only....
Good luck..... (read in full...)
Gf didn't want me to attend my work function. Am I not allowed a break? This isn't about girls...this is about a little freedom
Q. Is this normal? I have been in relationship for two years and we both had tough financial times but things are looking up. We do not live together yet. I found myself a new job, and after two weeks of declining to join work crew for drinks I f...
A. 3 April 2015: When a woman reveals this sort of intense jealousy now.... I assure you that it isn't going to get any better if/when you and she become closer... even marrying or living together.
ASK her: Is this (the situation you described) going to be your ... (read in full...)
Will a married man ever replace his long term mistress with the next best thing?
Q. I am here to ask a question to everyone but WITHOUT JUDGMENT or PREACHING. I know affair posts get everyone very worked up. But I am not here to be crucified. Just to get help. I want to know what you think the answer is. It will help me immensel...
A. 3 April 2015: It's just about impossible to reply to your submittal without pointing out to you, that YOU are enabling HIM to cheat on his wife... and - thereby - are subjecting yourself to the same treatment (i.e. He cheats on YOU, as well.).
You KNOW thi... (read in full...)
We're on a roller coaster and I want to get off
Q. Dear Cupid, I read this site often and am always struck by how great the Agony Aunts/Uncles are in giving out advice. It always done with common sense, compassion and empathy and no judgment. I hope you can give me some advice too, as I need t...
A. 2 April 2015: Get a copy of Feyodor Dostoevsky's "Crime and Punishment" and commit yourself to reading it - cover to cover - without stopping.
It will take about 6 months.... and - when you are done - this guy will have disappeared, and your "problem" will be ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend about my illness?
Q. About a week ago I was diagnosed with a syndrome that makes it very hard for me to get pregnant. My doctor said I will most likely not be able to get pregnant by myself without these very strong medications, that will make me gain weight and have ...
A. 2 April 2015: This is the PERFECT set of circumstances under which you can learn what this guy - who you like so much - is MADE OF.
Assuming that you and he believe you have a relationship that is becoming "long term"...... and could result in marriage....... (read in full...)
Communal family living? My husband wants to buy a bigger home so his family can move in. How can I persuade him to not do this?
Q. my husband wants to buy a house big enough for us to move into, and move the in laws in with us. Trouble is I most definitely do not want this! although he wont hear of anything otherwise. We are in our 20's, we have 3 young children. his pa...
A. 2 April 2015: WHICH "in-laws"???? HIS folks???? What about YOUR'S?????
This has all the trappings of "the beginning of the end" (of your marriage). IF HE is so Hell-bent to live with his folks.... isn't there, possibly, some other, underlying, issue???... (read in full...)
What are the signs when a man has serious intentions to marry? How can I be sure he's serious about us?
Q. How will I know if a man has the intention to marry me? My boyfriend of almost 2 years, has at some point said he wouldn't want to marry again. When we broke up and wanted to get back together, I pointed this to him and he said he changed his ...
A. 2 April 2015: You write: "How do I ask without sounding needy and desperate?"
To be very blunt: There is NO WAY you can pull this off without seeming "... needy and desperate.." ... AND, if you attempt to do so, YOU will be handing him all the informat... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are thinking of having a non monogamous relationship
Q. My boyfriend and I are thinking of having a non monogamous relationship. We have not yet figured the ins and outs of it yet but I'm not here to ask about that. I realise that most people here are not into the idea or sharing the marital bed so to ...
A. 31 March 2015: Good idea. Of course, you and he are going to have to figure out all sorts of details.... like WHO is going to do WHAT, with WHOM? ..... and WHERE????? ... and WHEN ... and WHY???? .. and HOW?
(I won't pester you with such details as: HOW... (read in full...)
How do I get over something like this? Are there no more morals or respect these days? I'm so hurt and I want him to feel my pain
Q. I have been suspicious about my fiance's activity so I broke off my engagement because he is talking and hanging out with his ex. We haven't even officially broke it off and he's been out with her and other friends. He's asked me to meet up with ...
A. 31 March 2015: Let's focus on this: "Are there no more morals or respect these days? I'm so hurt and I want him to feel my pain :("
NOBODY can continually treat you disrespectfully UNLESS YOU ALLOW THEM TO DO SO!!!! ... and,
You accomplish NOTHING b... (read in full...)
He loves porn more than he loves me. Is it normal to be so upset about this situation?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together nearly 3 years, and the whole of our relationship he has never been able to have an orgasm during intercourse. He says it was the same with his previous partners and it's not just me. But he is the only per...
A. 30 March 2015: The issue - as you've noted in your submittal - is this:
"He chose porn.
He said he wouldn't change for anyone. So we broke up for a while.
But I missed him too much and we got back together.
Now I don't know what to do."
What you "need to d... (read in full...)
My fiance never wants to have sex. How can I improve this situation?
Q. My fiance never wants to have sex. I ask him all the time why and he tells me he is extremely self conscious of his penis. He won't let me touch his penis if I try to grab him. I know he loves me but I can't seem to fix this issue. I try to ...
A. 30 March 2015: My advice is two-fold:
1. DON'T go through with your planned wedding until/unless you and he reconcile this, and,
2. See if you and he can get to the bottom of this - by yourselves, OR with the assistance/guidance of a qualified counse... (read in full...)
Why does my long term Gf still keep registering on dating sites? It's affecting our relationship
Q. I've caught my long term girlfriend many times registered and active on different dating sites. I am not able to get to the root of it, because I always end up defending myself over extremely minor mistakes I made years ago (like being 10 minu...
A. 30 March 2015: I think this phrase is key: "....it is followed by threats of, if I go, then she is free to meet whoever she wants."
NEVER make a threat of some action (or, inaction) unless you are prepared to carry out the "...if I, then you..." part.
... (read in full...)
My husband has been nasty to me since the birth of our second son! Any advice?
Q. Please can anyone give me some advice, i have been with my partner 5 years we have a 2 year old boy and a baby boy of 5 weeks. my partner since the birth of our second son is being nasty to me talks awful to me and shows me no affection at all he ...
A. 30 March 2015: Is this guy a "PARTNER" or a "husband"????? My reply is dependent upon the answer to THAT question....... (read in full...)
What are the signs when a man has serious intentions to marry? How can I be sure he's serious about us?
Q. How will I know if a man has the intention to marry me? My boyfriend of almost 2 years, has at some point said he wouldn't want to marry again. When we broke up and wanted to get back together, I pointed this to him and he said he changed his ...
A. 29 March 2015: Let me ASSURE you.... He will keep you in his stable of available women for as long as you will tolerate his unacceptable and undefensible behaviour.....
IF - and WHEN - you figure out that he is PLAYING you... I HOPE that you will give him his ... (read in full...)
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