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I want to ask my co-worker out. Should I text, call, or go up to her, discreetly, and ask her out - face to face?

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Question - (6 April 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 6 April 2015)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

For the past two months I've been having fun casual conversations with a cute co-worker of mine (we luckily do not work in the same department at all, she just works on the other side of the building) and I recently asked her out for lunch and she agreed.

It was a pleasant lunch, and nearing the end we were talking bars and I just plain asked if she would like to go to a certain bar she hadn't been to with me and she said "Yeah" in a very inviting warm manner with a smile. So I got her number (this was about 4 days ago) and today I texted her Happy Easter and she responded well.

Now my question is: For officially asking her out to the bar with a date and time, should I do this through texting her, calling her, or just plain going up to her at the office (when her other co-workers aren't around) and asking her in person.

My preferred method is calling, but I know girls hardly ever answer the phone nowadays, and I would like to do it in person, but then that opens her to possibly feeling uncomfortable because she is in the workplace, and lastly texting would be ok, but she might just brush me off very easily because I'm just a name in a phone at that point.

Thank you for any advice! I genuinely do like her and think she's a great girl, so I'm just trying to optimize my chances with her. I'm 27 and she's 24.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (6 April 2015):

Honeypie agony auntI'd say CALL as well and AFTER work. SHE knows who you are....

Texting seems a little impersonal to me.

Or... as my first BF did... he sent flowers with a card that asked me out to dinner (time/date/place/his number was on the card). He didn't remember my last name (and didn't have my address/phonenumber, but he remembered where I worked and took a chance). I thought it was pretty nice way of being asked out.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2015):

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Doesn't sound to me like you would be just a name in a phone at the mo, sounds like she really likes you. But anyway, definitely call her or ask her in person, it's so much more charming and 'grown up' than a text! Personal contact comes across as more caring, don't you think? :)

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (6 April 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntThose of us from the Jurassic Period (age: 60+) will tell you to CALL her and ask to go out together. For us, any other form of communication would be 'way too impersonal....

Good luck...

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (6 April 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntYou work in the same place, is there a rule that co-workers can't date? IF not, stop overthinking it.

do not text.

I would prefer you to ask either in person when you see or or by phone (call after work)

if she does not answer you can leave a message and say "call me back I need to ask you something"

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