What are the signs when a man has serious intentions to marry? How can I be sure he's serious about us?
Q. How will I know if a man has the intention to marry me? My boyfriend of almost 2 years, has at some point said he wouldn't want to marry again. When we broke up and wanted to get back together, I pointed this to him and he said he changed his ...
A. 2 April 2015: You write: "How do I ask without sounding needy and desperate?"
To be very blunt: There is NO WAY you can pull this off without seeming "... needy and desperate.." ... AND, if you attempt to do so, YOU will be handing him all the informat... (read in full...)
My husband has been nasty to me since the birth of our second son! Any advice?
Q. Please can anyone give me some advice, i have been with my partner 5 years we have a 2 year old boy and a baby boy of 5 weeks. my partner since the birth of our second son is being nasty to me talks awful to me and shows me no affection at all he ...
A. 30 March 2015: Is this guy a "PARTNER" or a "husband"????? My reply is dependent upon the answer to THAT question....... (read in full...)
Is 47 too old to start a family?
Q. Im 47 yo male. Just wondering what opinions are on starting a family when you are older? Id like a male and female opinion. Cheers....
A. 30 March 2015: I will defer to former Senator Strom Thurmond to give you a "guy's" point of view.... Look it up....... (read in full...)
He hasn't text me in nearly a week? Has he lost interest? What do I do?
Q. Hello. Well, I have been talking to this guy for about a month now. We have been on two days in the past, both ending really well, both ending in kisses. He said we will definitely have to go on a date again when he comes back (he is currently ...
A. 30 March 2015: We guys experience a very difficult (internal) struggle when we have a "long distance" girl "out there".... and some cute little hottie shows up, nearby....
Please consider that... and see if it doesn't explain his recent behaviour....
Good lu... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm dating a little boy instead of a man?
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend for three years now and for the most part everything is great. However, he is 24 without a car(he longboards) and has not found his career path yet. Last year he was planning on going into the military but he could...
A. 30 March 2015: If you were my Sister and wrote this... and asked me: "Waddaya think about this guy?"....
I'd ask you, "Wouldn't you rather spend your time with a guy who has finished puberty, and whose family can actually tolerate you?"???? I think your des... (read in full...)
The married man I'm seeing has now pulled back. What am I supposed to think?
Q. I met a man, he's married. We've been seeing each other but only slept together that first night... It's been 5 weeks of texting and short visits. We have very strong feelings for each other. He said he doesn't want to drag me into his mess, also ...
A. 30 March 2015: You have two choices... Both are pretty bad....
One: Remain this guys bit on the side and go through the dynamics as his marriage dissolves... and THEN he dumps you.... OR,....
Dump his sorry, lyin', cheatin' a$$ now.. and live with that a... (read in full...)
Would you allow your children to meet someone so soon, especially when you have doubts over how long the relationship could last?
Q. The father of my twin daughters wants his girlfriend of 11 weeks to meet our girls, but I'm convinced it's too soon. My boyfriend didn't meet my children until we had been seeing each other 6 months, and he was mummy's special friend who came for ...
A. 29 March 2015: I suggest that you hold "Daddy's" feet to the fire... and ask him: "How much bullshit and YOUR philandering to you think that you should expose OUR children to?????
WHAT kind of a freak are you that you would ABUSE your OWN children in this way... (read in full...)
How can I calm my sexual urges and lessen my need to think about sex constantly ?
Q. I'm a 21 year old female from a religious background and a virgin. I'm not supposed to date or have premarital sex. I'm not even supposed to masturbate but being a human I do anyways. But recently,that hasn't been helping me suppress my sexual ...
A. 29 March 2015: Your "religious background" is destined to have you frustrated, sweaty, and believing that you are destined for Hell.
If you want to take control of your life... FORGET all that B/S that your "religion" pinned on to you... realize that YOU (and... (read in full...)
He was my first boyfriend. 11 months together. Then it ended badly. What help would help me deal with all the hurt I feel over this?
Q. 2 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up. I am struggling so badly, and Ive almost gone to see a psychologist. He was my first boyfriend; he was 26 I was 24. We were together for 11 months. He persued me in the beginning and even though he was t...
A. 29 March 2015: Take a nice clean hand-towel, rub it across your forehead, and say to yourself: "Whew, I almost fell for this cad....'
Then... forget about him,... and get on with your life...
Good luck..... (read in full...)
What are the signs when a man has serious intentions to marry? How can I be sure he's serious about us?
Q. How will I know if a man has the intention to marry me? My boyfriend of almost 2 years, has at some point said he wouldn't want to marry again. When we broke up and wanted to get back together, I pointed this to him and he said he changed his ...
A. 29 March 2015: Let me ASSURE you.... He will keep you in his stable of available women for as long as you will tolerate his unacceptable and undefensible behaviour.....
IF - and WHEN - you figure out that he is PLAYING you... I HOPE that you will give him his ... (read in full...)
Is he stringing me along or is he serious about having a relationship with me? I miss him so much.
Q. Hi all, I really need advise, I can't stop thinking about this guy. I've known him and have been out with him and apparently he says we are still together. He lives elsewhere now since leaving for a job. and we havent really seen each other. We ...
A. 29 March 2015: YOU are chasing him... but HE seems not to give a damn about YOU?????
WHY perpetuate his charade?????
Dump him, and get on with your REAL life...
Good luck..... (read in full...)
If he's engaged surely he should just admit it to me?
Q. I've had my suspicions when my partner has been away, I caught him texting someone Xmas day, he then replies in person i don't know anyone with that name, when he went I done some fb searching found friends in common with people he lived with, ...
A. 29 March 2015: WHY would you spend EVEN ANOTHER MINUTE believing that his cad gives a damn about you????
Good luck...... (read in full...)
We've been dating 4 months and I have taken him back after finding he'd been chatting with other girls and his ex!
Q. Hey, I'm looking for advice no a current situation with my boyfriend. We're both 23 We've been dating for 4 months now. The start of the second month I realized he lied to me about a nude photo of his friend but cast forward I got over that as she s...
A. 29 March 2015: Sooo... YOU are his available fall-back, in case none of his other interludes work out. Sounds delightful to me!!!
Figure out if you want to be Number one.... or number who-knows-what-number.
The answer to THAT will tell you how to proce... (read in full...)
Would you move thousands of miles for someone you loved but have to give up your goals or dreams?
Q. So I met someone I am really into and we have been carrying on a long distance relationship for a few years! we met online. He lives on the other side of the country. I liked him since we first chatted though and we have talked everyday since then. ...
A. 29 March 2015: Have you and this guy ever been in the same place at the same time?????... (read in full...)
Why can't he face that his family is lying about me and tell them to butt out?
Q. My partner and I of 6 years broke up three months ago, we have been trying to sort it out but I have asked him to tell hi family to butt out of our relationship, or I am not coming back. HE used to work in the family business and moved from Ireland ...
A. 29 March 2015: WHY would you spend even another MINUTE with this guy and his dysfunctional family??????... (read in full...)
He only talks to me when he is drunk!
Q. I don't know if I should continue trying or step away. I've known this guy for over 5 years. he is well aware that I like him however there is a huge age gap.which I believe may be the reason why we haven't become anything, nor has he tried mak...
A. 28 March 2015: You write: "how do I get him to talk to me outside of these parties where he can talk to me sober and see where it goes?"
I ask: Why bother????
Good luck..... (read in full...)
How dare she lecture me about our quick visit where my son barely did anything, when she allowed her son to continue his disruptive behaviour for 30 minutes!
Q. I'm so annoyed about something that's happened at work and I'm not sure whether to confront the person, speak to my manager or keep quite. I work in an office 3 days a week- Monday's, Tuesdays and Thursday's as I have a 3 year old son. ...
A. 28 March 2015:
What you have "asked" .... is for a battle (with your supervisor) in which there is NO "win" for you....
Drop the issue, and count your Blessings that YOU have a well-behaved son... and that your Supervisor has a brat-of-a-son... and SHE will... (read in full...)
Does it matter who my girlfriend friends texts and talks to as long as she comes home to me?
Q. Im lesbian and in a 5 year relationship. We are moving in together in less than 5 months. We have never spent more than 7 consecutive days living together as we are long distance. We spend every night on the phone together from the time we get in ...
A. 25 March 2015: I'd let it go....... (read in full...)
He acted frustrated and then pushed me against the wall and kissed me. This means what?
Q. I feel super lame asking this but if a guy gets frustrated at you and kind of pushes you against the wall but then kisses you on the head quickly what does it mean?...
A. 25 March 2015: It means he has anger-management problems.... but suspects that if he "throws you a bone" (the kiss) that you won't recognize that....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
I think my ex used a fake profile to get to talk to me again. I don't like what he did but I want to talk to him!
Q. Right here goes..... very long story short My ex boyfriend decided to contact me out of the blue after being broken up for 3 years saying he was sorry and he loved me and wanted me back. I told him I was already in a relationship with someone els...
A. 25 March 2015: You're giving this character "Free Parking" in your head. Do you REALLY wish to continue doing so?????
Good luck..... (read in full...)
He thinks that someone who is bisexual can't be faithful. Do I tell him I'm bisexual?
Q. Hi all, So, I have been with my boyfriend for two and a half years. He's wonderful, and I wouldn't change a thing about our relationship but there's one thing he doesn't know about me: I'm bisexual. I've known since I was fourteen, but it just has...
A. 25 March 2015: People who think like your B/F are certain that "... it don't rain in Indianapolis in the summertime..."
They delude themselves in to believing something (that people who are bisexual are - effectively - whores!!!)... that is "urban legend",... (read in full...)
How is a woman honestly supposed to deal with getting older when men so obviously prefer younger women?
Q. My question will probably seem very silly here to many of the young ones or men but to women in my age group perhaps they will understand what I'm saying. How is a woman honestly supposed to deal with getting older when men so obviously prefer y...
A. 25 March 2015: You ask: "How is a woman honestly supposed to deal with getting older when men so obviously prefer younger women.."
WHERE are you finding such men????? YOU are mature, smart, good-looking, adaptable, sensible... AND YOU'RE ASKING A QUESTION... (read in full...)
Why would the man I am dating say this?
Q. We have been dating for 5 months and he knows I have fallen for him, but I have no idea how feels about me or what he wants??? Twice this week he has said come off of birth control as I am not opposed to having more children. We only see each other ...
A. 25 March 2015: HarleyQuinn (OP): WHY would you spend ANY time with this cad?????? .... beyond that (time) necessary to say to him: "You, Sir, are some sort of freak who has a peculiar attachment to your penis.... and what spurts out of it. If it's all the same ... (read in full...)
Why would the man I am dating say this?
Q. We have been dating for 5 months and he knows I have fallen for him, but I have no idea how feels about me or what he wants??? Twice this week he has said come off of birth control as I am not opposed to having more children. We only see each other ...
A. 25 March 2015: If'n I were a guy who wanted to accomplish two things - trap a woman in to sticking with me, and proving what a macho man I am - then I would do what you describe this guy asking of you.
If'n I were a real stud in my own right (which I am), the... (read in full...)
He never tells me he loves me! What do I do?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my parter for the last four years, we have a 7 month old son together. there is an age gap he's 45 and I'm 24. I love him so much but I doubt if he feels the same as he never tells me. I don't think he fancy's ...
A. 24 March 2015: OP: Regarding your note: "@Sageoldguy1465 so if he's not telling me he loves me then he doesn't? ..."
It's NOT a sure bet that he doesn't (love you)... but, then, it's not a sure bet that the Sun will rise tomorrow morning, either..... (read in full...)
I have a girlfriend of 4 years but met a girl on spring break and now I am questioning my relationship. I' m unsure of what to do
Q. Hi all, Cant say this is a question really, but more or less a plea for some advice or opinions on my situation. I have been seeing this girl for about 4 years now. We have had our ups and downs like any couple. But recently i have been fee...
A. 24 March 2015: Many guys will suggest that you take both of them to bed (Separately, of course!)... and, whichever is the hotter, choose her for "your girl."
On the other hand... I suggest that you invite each of them over for dinner (separately, again)..... (read in full...)
Is there anything we can buy from the health food store that will help maintain an errection?
Q. What can you take from the health food store that can help a man part stay hard . Can you gave me some names to try that will fix the problem . Hope so. ...
A. 24 March 2015: My G/F buys "Shalimar" perfume from the cosmetics counter at a department store nearby... and, when I get a whiff of it "Mr Happy" comes to attention.... EVERY TIME....
P.S. It also helps HER that I splash on "Old Spice", liberally!!!!
Good lu... (read in full...)
How much should I tell my lovers about my home situation?
Q. My Husband has lid to me repeatedly about porn. At the very beginning of our relationship I was clear that I was not interested in q relationship including pirn and he assurd me he shared my views . I find it demeaning , offensive , degradin...
A. 24 March 2015: "Revenge sex" is a stepping stone to just about the worst you could make this situation......
Decide if YOU want to be on the "high road"... or, in the gutters. THAT is how you'll be remembered....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Is it worth it for me to ask out my co-worker? And is it even likely she'd agree to go out with me?
Q. For the past couple of weeks (probably 8) I've been talking to a cute coworker who sits on the other side of the building where I work at. I usually pass by there and whenever she gives an inviting hello or I have something interesting to talk ...
A. 24 March 2015: You'll never find out if it "is worth it"... OR, "if she'll agree to go out with you"... until and unless you ASK!!!!
Remember: A turtle can never get anywhere until/unless he sticks HIS/HER neck out!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is it worth it for me to ask out my co-worker? And is it even likely she'd agree to go out with me?
Q. For the past couple of weeks (probably 8) I've been talking to a cute coworker who sits on the other side of the building where I work at. I usually pass by there and whenever she gives an inviting hello or I have something interesting to talk ...
A. 24 March 2015: You'll never find out if it "is worth it"... OR, "if she'll agree to go out with you"... until and unless you ASK!!!!
Remember: A turtle can never get anywhere until/unless he sticks HIS/HER neck out!!!
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Considering seeing a therapist. How do I find one to address my concerns?
Q. I'm 29 and have never had a girlfriend. I have dated some, but they've been few and far between for the most part. While I have a great, supportive family, hobbies to occupy my spare time, and a few close friends that I like spending time with, I ...
A. 24 March 2015: I'm surprised... that - within your description of yourself and your life - there are several sources of interaction with women.... Hobbies, friends.... does none of that put you in contact with ladies?.. ESPECIALLY since, those that you contact ... (read in full...)
What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner while having sex with their husband
Q. What percentage of women think about another man or an ex partner why having sex with there husband...
A. 24 March 2015: Why do you ask? Did she scream out another name????... (read in full...)
What's the lowdown on the down there hair?
Q. I guess my question is more for the men on DC, but of course I am also interested in women's comments. So : it seems the general consensus , at least among the younger generations, is that a woman SHOULD be hairless down there :the hairless...
A. 23 March 2015: Cindy: I think pubic hair is similar as cranial hair.... insofar as it can be most anything.... bald, colored, full... whatever....
If two people are sexually intimate and will discuss such matters, then they can find both their preferen... (read in full...)
Any options for a hopeless romantic virgin?
Q. I'm in a conundrum so to speak. I'm a male virgin who has never kissed a girl nor have I been on a date. I'm not very attractive as women have told me in the past that I'm not. I believe them as well as I'm not handsome. I'm a huge nerd as w...
A. 23 March 2015: HOW can any woman learn that you are still virgin UNLESS you tell them??????
Aside from that.... keep repeating in your (own) head: "There's somebody "out there" for EVERYBODY... so, if I am patient, I will find my true love."
Then, STOP LO... (read in full...)
Stable relationship, no ups and downs, but no excitement either.
Q. My boyfriend told me he's missing excitement in our relationship. He dosen't think it's a problem, but I'm thinking that if only we could add some he'd be more happy. His past relationship (his first one) was pretty explosive, arguments, probl...
A. 23 March 2015: I see lot of submittals on this site from people who would sell their souls to have a "relationship" such as you describe with your B/F.....
Would it be OK for you to count your Blessings?
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Should I confront him with what I found?
Q. So I just found two hotel keys cards in my boyfriend's overnight bag that he took with him to his mothers house...should I tell him that I found the keys.........
A. 23 March 2015: Does B/F use this same overnight bag for legitimate forays.... such as for his job? If "yes," then temper your reaction until/unless you find out more. If "no," then plan on the end of your "relationship" coming about soon... and be prepared for ... (read in full...)
He never tells me he loves me! What do I do?
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with my parter for the last four years, we have a 7 month old son together. there is an age gap he's 45 and I'm 24. I love him so much but I doubt if he feels the same as he never tells me. I don't think he fancy's ...
A. 22 March 2015: I've said this on this site before... and will take this opportunity to repeat it: "IF your partner/SO/mate/spouse
DOESN'T TELL YOU THAT HE/SHE LOVES YOU... Then, LISTEN TO HIM (or, her)!!!!" They are "telling you" all you need to know... (read in full...)
Is my anger towards my partner justified?
Q. I'm currently on maternity leave with a beautiful 8 month old boy. I return to work in 6 weeks but I'm getting annoyed with my partner and I'm not sure if it is justified or if I'm overreacting. The first issue I have is he keeps making comments ...
A. 20 March 2015: OP: You have my permission to show this (my) reply to hubby.... 'cuz it's really a note to him. To wit:
Hey Hubby,
Caring for a home and a child IS full-time work. Cut the crap of nagging wifey that she "doesn't do anything (work) ... (read in full...)
How do I manage an addictive personality?
Q. I have this problem that I'm trying to fix. I used to snoop on my boyfriend. I'm not talking every now and again. But up to twenty times a day. On every email or social media account.... his phone and computer history when I could. Never found ...
A. 20 March 2015: Here's yet another something you can do to keep yourself occupied.... Volunteer.... at a hospital, a soup kitchen, a library.... SPCA.... There are lots of places that depend upon volunteer help. You should have no trouble finding one, or more.
... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with my FWB man. Should I end it? I don't think he'll leave his g/f for me
Q. I'm in a total quandary! I've been in a "friends with benefits" relationship for over two years with a guy who has a girlfriend, but whom he is mostly only with for financial "trapped" reasons. Debts and life's stresses mean it is nigh on impossible ...
A. 19 March 2015: Are you REALLY gullible enough to believe what he's told you?????
Remember: You and he are in a "FWB" arrangement. That means that HE gets to keep his wife/SO/GF... and YOU MUST accept that....
IF/when the lady in an FWB arrangement morp... (read in full...)
After 4 years together, why does he need time away from me?
Q. Hi DC community, My bf and I are going through some problems in the relationship and have decided to work through them. The main issue is that he is working on himself so he can be better for me, but in the mean time he doesn't want to sleep in...
A. 19 March 2015: This ranks right up there with, "...it's not YOU; it's ME..."... (read in full...)
After 4 years together, why does he need time away from me?
Q. Hi DC community, My bf and I are going through some problems in the relationship and have decided to work through them. The main issue is that he is working on himself so he can be better for me, but in the mean time he doesn't want to sleep in...
A. 19 March 2015: When a guy sez he "...needs time away from you..." it MEANS that the breakup has begun.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
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