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writes:Before I continue, I want you to know that I am around 19 and an attractive male. People and friends adore me every now and then, I don't have girlfriend though and don't even have female friends. The reason for all that is I am shy and not much into it. I feel uncomfortable going out with girls, though I would love to. Just that I am all the time self conscious. I was not always like this, when I was a teenager most of my girls used to be friends and once I even almost maked out with my female friend. She helped me masturbate and made me orgasm. It's just that after I changed my school, I began having inferiority complex and all that.Anyway I was in the bus yesterday, it was too crowdy. There was no seat left. So I had to keep standing. After some time few girls got up at the next stop. Since the bus was already crushed, our bodies crushed together. This girl who was on my right side standing came in front of me to make a way for her friend. She kept her back to me and crushed my penis to the abdomen. Even my balls started paining. Added to that embarrassment I got a boner. Real hard. It was crushed under her ass. She didn't move at all.I didn't do anything stupid and sat like that. I had no choice. I couldn't even move. I got down the bus few stops before my actual stop. It was really embarrassing. I thought girls hate sexual stuff. What does this mean? So far all the girls I have met in bus. They tend to do same things. They don't care if their body is crushed with other men. Even if it's a dick which is crushed with their bodies.Is it because they don't care or are being sexual and enjoying it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2015): I am an Indian but live in the UK, and it worries me that you think a girl pressed up against you due to over-crowding wanted sexual contact. Not surprised that India has the rape culture it has at the moment
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (13 April 2015):
 NO they are not being sexual and no they are not enjoying it.
You got off the bus early you "enjoyed" it so much...
the bus was crowded... that's public transportation.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 April 2015):
 Chigirl said perfectly, but once more can't hurt.
If the bus was so crowded that she was pressed against your body, well, where was she supposed to go ? Why did not YOU move back , or left, or right, so that you did not have to rub against her... Probably because you could not. Ditto for her.
I also agree on the second part of Chigirl's answer : don't think it's so obvious, particularly if the " rubbed against " woman is focused on her thoughts, or preoccupied, or deep in conversation. You are divided by two layers of clothing and underwear , yours and hers- and she is turning her back to you. If she feels something sort of poking , it could also be an elbow, a hipbone, or an umbrella, a book, the handle of an attache' case, anything really. I guess it would also be embarassing for a woman feeling " something ", turning around as furious as a viper in heat , hissing " You filthy perv ! "... only to find herself facing a respectable architect with one of those cardboard tubes for drawins. Or maybe, the Archbishop with his pastoral :)
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reader, Abella +, writes (13 April 2015):
 I've finally managed to remove myself from ROFLMAO at Sage Old Guy - thank you for your post. Because SageOldGuy explained how it is, very well.
I regard it as creepy. I was in a very large crowd one day. It really was standing room only. The children were sitting down the front and I could see them easily and making sure they were ok was my focus, while they enjoyed the parade.
Rain was threatening, lots of people had umbrellas ready for when the rain turned up.
And someone kept pushing their umbrella into me. I couldn't move forward, backward or sideways. I flinched the first time I felt someone push me.
I coped for a little while, but then it got worse.
Turned around and a creepy guy didn't have an umbrella at all.
I was so shocked when I saw what he was really holding, and I let him know what I thought of him.
What he was doing was unacceptable on every level and against the law in my country.
He certainly didn't like being called out.
He grabbed his cardigan (yes he was old) to cover himself and ran off into the crowd.
There was NOTHING pleasant about this experience.
I vowed to be much more vigilant and never suffer such behaviour ever again.
But what about you?
You are liked by your peers.
You are an attractive man, but you lack confidence in yourself.
Attending to improving your confidence in yourself could make a huge difference in your life.
Is there a mixed group you could join to learn a new skill?
A racquet sport? Table tennis, Tennis, or badminton or squash?
These are all team sports where often men and women play together.
It would give you a chance to meet ladies in a relaxed atmosphere where learning to play the game is the aim. During the process you would be able to learn to be more relaxed around ladies in a social setting.
Another game you could learn - and then play - with opportunities to meet people is Chess.
The headquarters of the All India Chess Federation is in Calcutta but the game is played all over India.
Once again Chess is played in groups of two teams - a total of 4 players at a table. A beginner just starting to learn will be assigned a partner.
Do some of your friends have sisters? When it's time for one of the important festivals in India then suggest to some of your friends that they invite their sisters to attend with them as a group of you - so that you have a good opportunity to
Mix in a relaxed setting where girls are present.
Never ask a girl a question that only requires a YES or a NO answer. These are closed questions and they stop a conversation moving on.
The most important thing you can also try to get the conversation flowing is to ask her an ''open'' question. And then Listen very carefully to her answer before you respond.
Questions examples:
1. 'what do you enjoy about ........ (perhaps name an activity/ a sport/a festival'
Let her speak at length.
2. Follow her remarks up with another Open question.
''what impressed you most then you started working at ..... (where she works)
'What are the best things about working at............... (where she works)
''How did you manage to......''
''Why do you think that's not a good idea?''
Keep the conversation going, letting her talk the most.
This will cause her to think you are amazing.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (12 April 2015):
 When I was unemployed, and living in a large Northeastern city, I learned which buses were crowded (in to town in the morning, and out of town in the afternoon)... and rode them all the time hoping - against all hope - that it would be crowded, and I'd have to rub up against a lady......
It happened a few times.... BUT, then I got a reputation, and the transit police used to tail me... and as soon as I sidled up to a lady they would get next to me and say: "Hey, Perv, back off..... we know what you're up to..."
THAT was the end of my love-life, until I married a few years later......
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 April 2015):
 LOL Eric You know me so well...
I don't think the majority of women would at ALL enjoy having some dude's boner mashed up against their body. She might not have been noticing your boner at all or.. in order to not be perceived as rude she didn't move.
I'd say 8 out of 10 women would be a bit creeped out honestly. It's not that women can't appreciate a hard on, but... from a total stranger on a bus? Not at all ideal.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (12 April 2015):
 I would hazard to guess that the majority of women get on a crowded bus for the sole reason of needing to get to their destination and NOT for any sexual stimulation.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 April 2015):
 Women do not enjoy it, and I think you answered your own question here. The bus was crowded, there was NO WHERE ELSE TO STAND/SIT. What was she supposed to do? Move? Move where? You said yourself you were in pain because it was so crowded, and you yourself could not move anywhere, so why do you believe she had any better chance to move?
I also want to point out that most women do NOT notice a boner on a guy. You might think it's noticeable, but rarely it is, unless a woman stares right at your crotch and you're wearing very tight pants. We can't tell the difference between a cell phone in your pocket, your hip bone, and an erect penis. It all feels the same. Especially young, inexperienced girls have no way of telling what exactly it is they feel. My guess is, she had no idea. So don't be embarrassed. These things happen, erections are a way for the body to react and not a choice you make. Your body reacted all by itself, you did nothing wrong.
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