I've been talking to a guy on and off for 3 years... however for some reason he is never available on the weekends. Should I move on?
Q. I've been talking to this guy off and on for about 3 years now. I met him online. We have not slept together, but have gone out on several dates. We live about 2 hours away from each other. I am incredibly attracted to him and he always says that I ...
A. 9 March 2015: He "disappears" on weekends because his WIFE.. or his REAL GIRLFRIEND put a squeeze on his time....
Think twice about spending even another MINUTE with this cad.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Our relationship is draining me. How do I know if its worth fighting for?
Q. My very first real relationship, as the previous one was mostly long distance...Its been over one year of me and my boyfriend being together, yet I still feel like I dont know him. We find ourselves in similar fights, but dont seem to really learn ...
A. 9 March 2015: The monitor wrote this: "How do I know if its worth fighting for?"
From what your wrote, I would opine that it's NOT (worth fighting for)......
Get a better girlfriend....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Why do men prefer sex with younger girls?
Q. My question is too short .I just need an advice on this.Why men prefer sex with young girls.What so special in young girls that older girls don't have? And Does older virgin have same intact hymen if he didn't had sex or just young virgin g...
A. 9 March 2015: We men like you younger girls because you are HOT, HOT, HOT... and THAT is the end of it....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
5 years of dating, she cheats on me, now how do I move on?
Q. Today was a very difficult day for me. It was the first day after my ex and I broke up. She cheated on me and for some reason I was able to forgive her. I don't know if I truly do forgive her or if it was just a desperate plea so that I wouldn't be ...
A. 9 March 2015: What you do is, puff up your chest, and say to her:
"I'm sorry, bitch... but you seem to think that I am some sort of guy who YOU think will put up with WHATEVER sort of dimunition that you think that you can visit upon me. That is NOT SO... an... (read in full...)
We've been together for 7 years and everyone expects us to marry but I'm not sure if that's what I want
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for seven years, we were together in high school and for the last seven years we have had a distance relationship on and off due to me studying. now i am home for good I am starting to feel that i'm settling for whats ...
A. 6 March 2015: sensitivity bloke is spot on. SEVEN YEARS???? .... and you're not sure if this guy is "the one"???? Feel comfortable that he's not ("the one").....
You and he can split apart, and if..... after a while... you think you (and he) don't want tha... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel a little resentful towards my wealthy boyfriend for not helping me out when he can?
Q. I ve met my boyfriend 2 years ago and since then we are a couple. I am a widow with 2 teenage daughters. My husband passed away suddenly at the age of 52 from heart attack 6 years ago. He was 16 years older than me and a love of my life, and we s...
A. 6 March 2015: SVC is correct that "Money, Money changes everything.."
BUT, how about you approach Hunchey Bunchy about helping you make this a TEACHING moment..... Find out if he would be willing to LOAN MONEY to your daughter for the purchase of her car. Th... (read in full...)
My bf is NOT good for me. What do I do?
Q. My bf is NOT good for me, at all, and I know I'll be much better off without him in the end but he's gotten into my head so bad that I feel like I can't do any better. He's made me feel like there's numerous women pining for him and how I should be ...
A. 6 March 2015: Let'sa truncate your submittal to the important information. To wit:
"...My bf is NOT good for me, at all, and I know I'll be much better off without him in the end but he's gotten into my head so bad that I feel like I can't do any better. ... (read in full...)
Do I tell my ex that I slept with 2 guys while we we broken up? I know he'll hold it against me!
Q. My ex and I have now been broken up for a year. He moved to a different state for a job which prompted a lot of arguing between us so we broke it off. We've kept in close contact and although we've both dated multiple people, we've recently admitted ...
A. 6 March 2015: You ask: "is this something I should tell him? "
No... it's none of his business....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
How to avoid Date Rape?
Q. I've been seeking out nothing more than casual sex online and made this blatant on my dating profile. However, getting date raped as a result has become a fear. I'm afraid that, in the situation where I want to take things slow, postpone the act...
A. 3 March 2015: Your submittal reminds me of a story I read about the early nuclear scientists... They knew that if they put small pieces of enriched Uranium near to each other, there would be a reaction.... rather a very small "explosion" - with a "pop" ... that ... (read in full...)
I feel so confused and upset because it seems he doesn't really care for me!
Q. Im not sure anymore what to think of things. Im feeling very sad now about my relationship i am in and very confused. Ive been in a relationship now for 3 and a half years, he is quite a bit older than me, im 36 and he is 54. The realtionship has...
A. 3 March 2015: THIS is the most important phrase in your whole submittal:
"...He obviously doesnt care for me does he?"
You are correct. So, now, go find a REAL "boyfriend"...
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Can anything really happen if you give up masturbating
Q. I know there's all kinds of mythical things people tell you will happen if you masturbate, but is there anything real that could happen if you don't? I gave it up for Lent and I would love to know....
A. 3 March 2015: I was told that masturbating would make me blind.
Sure enough.... after enough of diddling with myself, I needed corrective lenses!!!! SOOooooooo,.....
I stopped.... but I STILL need glasses.... and it's been 16 years now.... and all the stop... (read in full...)
He has a Gf and we have a child together and I love him. We also live in different states. How can I negotiate my way through all this?
Q. It's a long story but the gist is I have a child with this man that I'm still in love with. We haven't been together for a year now, and he hasn't met our child. He's finally beginning to come around but all these issues have ensued. First, he ...
A. 2 March 2015: You write: "I think he's perfect. I just don't know what to do."
I suggest that you get a book... or 20 books.... about what NICE MEN are like...... When you are done, you will realize that this creature is FAR FROM perfect.... in fact, he... (read in full...)
I keep making excuses for him.
Q. I have been with my partner now for 6 years, we have known each other for sometime and were briefly together just after leaving school although no sexual intercourse. After a year of being together sex dropped of quite quickly, It is an issue for me ...
A. 2 March 2015: This is a perfect opportunity for me to get on my soapbox and bloviate....
IF two people believe that they have a "satisfying" relationship... but that relationship does NOT include S/S/I (sensuality/sexuality/intimacy) compatibility... THEN tha... (read in full...)
He avoided me, had a few drinks and was all over me, next morning back to avoidance!
Q. Why can't I learn not to obsess over things and just let them go? This weekend I went on a short trip to a cabin with a bunch of my friends. There was a guy that had also been invited there (we both knew eachother was going because there was an ...
A. 2 March 2015: One nice effect of alcohol is that it helps strip away the facade of niceties that a cad, such as this, might be trying to put over on an unsuspecting damsel....
He's tipped his hand.... YES, he DID "just want to get laid..." so you now KNOW tha... (read in full...)
Would you cancel your wedding if your family wasn't interested? Is my fiance's suggestion better?
Q. I'm getting married next summer to the love of my life. We have been together almost 3 years and I love him so much. I'm 21 he is 30. I got engaged last year and booked my wedding but my family are so disinterested. My mother and father hate soci...
A. 2 March 2015: Let me weigh-in here, too.....
If you and B/F want to be married, then go ahead and tie the knot. This has NOTHING to do with your family.... AND, there's no shame in eloping.... Go to Italy...
P.S. I had a friend/couple who had a similar ex... (read in full...)
Was I expecting too much? Or was he inconsiderate when he chose to see his friends on the day that was our first anniversary together?
Q. so, in terms of problems it isn't really huge but, i been with my boyfriend for a year now and there this thing that has been nagging my mind for quite some time now. he was my best friend of 5 years before we got into a relationship and in those...
A. 2 March 2015: This guy has given you clear indication of where you stand in his hierarchy of life's goings-on.
Only YOU can decide if you want to be "second fiddle," at best.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Is this man capable of being faithful? Should I trust him?
Q. I've been with a lovely man for 2 years who has been wonderful to me, including inviting my criminal son to stay with him when he was released from prison. Even when my son stole from him he didn't reject me ( but did quite rightly kick my son out)...
A. 2 March 2015: IF you feel even a teeny-bit uncomfortable that he can be faithful... THEN, go no further in your "relationship" until that discomfort is assuaged.....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't listen to me when I say I want him to stop watching porn, he even uses my phone to watch it! Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We also live together. I was having an issue with him looking at porn. I know guys are going to be guys. But....He only can get on the internet on my cellphone, so it kinda hurts my feeling...
A. 2 March 2015: Think of his watching porn as a bus driving down the highway.....
Now think of yourself.. as someone that HE is willing to throw under that bus - regardless of injury to you - such that he (the bus) can continue on its course.....
Are you... (read in full...)
I love my current partner... but I have feelings for another man that haven't gone away for five years. Help!
Q. Please help me aunts and uncles!!! I'm in a long term relationshop but I'm yearning for someone else. The other man lives 200 miles away, we stopped contact 5 years ago as we were verging on having an affair and knew for the sake of our partners...
A. 2 March 2015: If - and when - you and he love one-another so much that BOTH of you will depart your current partners.... and become "single".... so that you (both) are "available".... THEN you and he can act upon your youthful amorism....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My mum is insistent that I move out and get a job.. but I am already doing a beauty course..how do I get her to back off?
Q. I am currently finishing a full time beauty therapy course. I have been looking for jobs, but so far have been unsuccessful. my mum is giving me such a hard time at the moment, phoning me up and calling me a "fucking disgrace" because i havent got a ...
A. 2 March 2015: WHO's living your life???? YOU... or your Mother? Whoever is the answer to that question, gets to make the choice that you pose in your submittal........ (read in full...)
College or Surgery? I can only pick one!
Q. To put a long story short, I was once morbidly obese. I've gotten to a *somewhat* healthy weight of 160, but I can't stand my body. I avoid looking in the mirror at my body. Over the past 3 months, I've come to the conclusion that I want to g...
A. 2 March 2015: What the Heck is this surgery that you covet so?????
Unless it's breast augmentation that will allow you to become a porn star and make a FORTUNE in that field... or, some life-function problem - like a kidney transplant - I can't imagine WHAT COU... (read in full...)
I think anything I did while we were broken up is none of his business!
Q. I broke up with my BF for 5 months. He's married by the way and we had an affair for 2 1/2 years. We have started talking again and want to pursue a relationship but only if he leaves his wife. I refuse to get back to that stressful, wrong mess. ...
A. 2 March 2015: Sometimes, I wonder how long many of the OPs on here have to bang their heads against a solid wall until they realize that it HURTS.... and that only THEY can stop that hurt.....
Good luck.. .OP...... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my girlfriend of 6 years?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to get some advice on my relationship as probably I could do with it. I'm 33 and my girlfriend is five years younger than me. We have been going out for 6-7 years. I’m not sure if I should stay with her. When she has no problem ...
A. 2 March 2015: OP: Read your original posting... and your two "replies" to us Aunts and Uncles....
IF you still think there is even a smidgen of "something" that you ought to pursue with this girl... then you, Sir, are beyond hope... and I'm sorry that I o... (read in full...)
My husband wants to name our first child after his father, and for him it is not negotiable!
Q. I am pregnant and I found out that my husband and I will be having a boy. I am not excited because my husband wants to name our son after his father's name. It is a Lebanese tradition that the eldest son of the family must name his future son's name ...
A. 28 February 2015: It's a little late to be having this argument now....
BUT... you're in to it... so you have to confront it....
IF his heritage sez to name to child after his Grandfather.... is that all so bad? .... so unacceptable? What is the Grandfather'... (read in full...)
He hates sex, I stopped trying to initiate, now he says I neglect him!
Q. MOD NOTE: Question asker is aged 60. Hi there. Any help/suggestions for my situation? My man is almost completely impotent....very affectionate, lots of pecks and hugs, but no passionate kissing, and a real fear of sex...whether he's afrai...
A. 28 February 2015: Talking to one-another might serve wonders for the two of you.... Take this submittal... print it... and show it to him.....
Remind him that you LOVE him.... and he will (likely) tell you that he LOVES you.... and/but, now the two of you need... (read in full...)
How can I stop these urges to be with a woman?
Q. This is kind of an odd question. My husband I are happily married. We have three preciousness little ones. I am bi sexual, I've known since I was young, my husband knows, but lately I've been having urges to be with a woman. I wouldnt act on it, I ...
A. 28 February 2015: Your sexuality is a part of "who you are." and it would be unwise to believe that you could change that... Much like... if you are left-handed, trying to change THAT. Why bother????
What you have to reconcile is the INTENSITY of your feelings... (read in full...)
I think anything I did while we were broken up is none of his business!
Q. I broke up with my BF for 5 months. He's married by the way and we had an affair for 2 1/2 years. We have started talking again and want to pursue a relationship but only if he leaves his wife. I refuse to get back to that stressful, wrong mess. ...
A. 28 February 2015: Let me repeat what I think I've read:
1. He's married and is cheating on his wife, with you,
2. You and he had a parting of the ways for a while... and during that time, you put out for someone else....
3. He thinks (and you did not coun... (read in full...)
Sleeping with the ex but I'm demanding more respect
Q. Just to start off, I'm a 30 yr old female and single. For the past two years I've been sleeping with my ex (37). He took my virginity exactly 15 yrs ago and we always been hooking up on and off. I have been celibate since 2008 due to low self esteem ...
A. 28 February 2015: The key to your submittal is this phrase: "... Unfortunately I get treated like shit,...."
Nobody - man, woman, child, ocelet or wildebeest - should have to put up with that.... Seal your self-esteem.... and dump this user.... and get on with ... (read in full...)
He said it's not me and not personal.
Q. My 38 year old boyfriend of a year is a bit introvert and was dyslexic and I suspect slightly ADD. He gets very focused on work and projects at his house. He shows me he cares with practical things. I'm struggling to feel wanted and cherished wh...
A. 28 February 2015: If you want to stay in this S/S/I (sexual/sensual/intimate) Never-Never Land.... then have at it.......
If you have other expectations and preferences in life... then you will have to part from this guy and go on your own way.....
Good lu... (read in full...)
She is seeing someone else, should I continue with her or not bother?
Q. I met this incredible girl we share a lot of the same interests. From the beginning she stared she is seeing someone else, we spent Valentine's Day together and then spent the following Saturday cuddling and watching movies. Then broke contact for a ...
A. 28 February 2015: The biggest question that I can see in your submittal is:
Is she putting out for you?
Answer that, and I can give you a more-detailed reply....... (read in full...)
My wedding is a few weeks away and his ex wife and adult daughters are still causing problems.
Q. I have written in before about my fiance's ex wife and 3 adult girls abusive behavior and was given advice that we followed and basically blocked them off of facebook, and just continued living our lives. My fiance was able to reconnect with a ...
A. 28 February 2015: Sometimes.... you just have to get away from people who are toxic.... REGARDLESS how/if/when they may have had standing in your life/lives.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend made several comments about another woman which hurt me but he said thats how guys talk
Q. I want some honest help as to whether im overreacting to something that happened this evening. I've been in a relationship for 3 years with this guy and he's helped me no end overcome some trust issues that were holding me back. I'm only his thi...
A. 27 February 2015: It might be how SOME guys talk. JERKS mainly, misogynistic jerks.It might be how SOME guys talk. JERKS mainly, misogynistic jerks.It might be how SOME guys talk. JERKS mainly, misogynistic jerks.It might be how SOME guys talk. JERKS mainly, ... (read in full...)
Is it too late to be friends with him?
Q. So I met this guy at work almost two years ago, we started talking more and we became friends. Then he started asking for pictures of me and asking questions and stuff, he had a girlfriend and two kids so I felt wrong about it. Eventually I actually ...
A. 27 February 2015: Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,Stay away from him,
Is that clear enough?????... (read in full...)
I've reconnected with the ex but he's much different now. Will there be a rainbow after the storm?
Q. Hello and thanks I dated a guy 15 years ago and we reconnected. Our relationship was great back then we got along well, he was very good to me, and we loved eachother very much. He was kind, sweet and funny. WE were both young and we mutually deci...
A. 26 February 2015: Here in Florida, we have a pest known as "fire ants." The little creatures can get all over you, and their bites include a venom that can be excruciating.... even fatal in the case of small children and seniors....
Why mention that? Because ... (read in full...)
This could be my last chance at having a baby but everything is all wrong!
Q. I am 35 and my bf is 27. We have also only been together for 3mths. I discovered that I am pregnant. I have no kids and to be honest, at my age I had pretty much given up on the idea of it ever happening as I am prob too old now. I was on the ...
A. 26 February 2015: Terminating a pregnancy has got to be gut-wrenching for a woman. You even said so, in your submittal...
What you didn't tell us is how YOU and B/F have DISCUSSED this pregnancy.... and how YOU and HE feel about it....
You and he would not be ... (read in full...)
What sexual skills do men look for in a woman?
Q. Hello, all! You know how they say curiosity kills the cat? Well,I'm afraid I'm the cat in this situation. One of the recent topics on this forum really got me thinking:http://www.dearcupid.or...
A. 25 February 2015: You ask: "...what moves/skills exactly bring you more satisfaction in the bedroom?..."
For me, the most important detail is that the lady must SHOW UP!!!!
Good luck...... (read in full...)
Sexually attracted to girl, emotionally attracted to guys. What do I do?
Q. Sexually, I'm more attracted to girls, but emotionally, I'm more attracted to guys. I'm so confused about what to do. Anyone got any advice or help?...
A. 25 February 2015: Here's my take on the matter:
Don't believe that you have to make some momentous "choice" about who you spend time with. Be patient... and life will unfold.. and you will learn more and more about YOURSELF...
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Why does he seem interested and then go distant?
Q. I met this guy online last year in April, we spoke for months as he worked away in the navy. When he got back we met in person and it went great and planned to meet again. Within a week he stopped talking and cancelled our next date. I didn't hear ...
A. 25 February 2015: Does "it went great..." mean "we had sex"?????
If "yes," then you can be sure that he will continue this charade with you until/unless you come to your senses....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
We were dating exclusively... then I found out he slept with someone else?????
Q. I've been dating a guy for a few months now. We said both agreed that we are seeing each other exclusively (as i don't like rushing into relationships but also liked him enough to only be interested in him) But I've just found out he slept with ...
A. 25 February 2015: So much for the "exclusivity" that might have applied if he (and you) really meant it when you (both) said you felt you were "dating exclusively.".....
You may dump him and never look back, if you wish....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Week of partying while telling me he's done with it all.
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles ... Would anyone be ok with their 47 year old boyfriend of 3 Years going out 6 nights in one week. One night was with me, another was at a local pool hall , other nights were clubs. 2 of those nights were 6AM nights ! I ange...
A. 25 February 2015: You ask: "Ridiculous , right ?"
Yep.... ridiculous it is.....
Good luck...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I are going to try swinging, will it work?
Q. My boyfriend and I have decided that are both going to try swinging, or whatever works for us. Not often, but sometimes .. maybe a few times a year if even. Anyway, we broke up last year for two months (something totally unrelated). Duri...
A. 25 February 2015: It'll probably be just fine, the first time. After that, it's a "roll of the dice".....
Good luck....... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my girlfriend of 6 years?
Q. Hi, I just wanted to get some advice on my relationship as probably I could do with it. I'm 33 and my girlfriend is five years younger than me. We have been going out for 6-7 years. I’m not sure if I should stay with her. When she has no problem ...
A. 24 February 2015: Some couples find that they can live in a "yo-yo" relationship - such as you've described - indefinitely... maybe forever.
YOU need to decide if you (and your G/F) are two of those people.
IF you come to your senses.... and figure out how s... (read in full...)
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