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He's been selective, about what he says, when he's communicates with me. Should I just end my relationship with him?

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Question - (29 April 2015) 3 Answers - (Newest, 29 April 2015)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years.

We met on a dating website and chatted online for about 4 months before meeting.

We then, or so I thought, had a good relationship seeing each other every weekend, chatting during the week.

In other words from when we met physically things were serious.

Six months ago I moved in with my boyfriend and things have deteriorated.

He admitted a couple of months ago that last year he did put his profile on a dating website after we had an argument but removed it. Thing is although he's not active on it (which I can see is the case) his profile is still there and he says he doesnt know how to take it down.

I have always had a gut instinct that I've not been quite what he wants.

Just a few niggles here and there and stuff. He loves me but...that kind of thing.

Well 2 weeks ago he admitted that he had been chatting online through the same dating website we met on for about 3 months with another woman.

This was after we met up physically and after we'd started sleeping together. I asked him why he'd stopped chatting with her in the end apparently she had just removed her profile.

In other words he didn't choose to stop. The thing is I have said repeatedly to him that I never felt good enough at the start of our relationship. He had time to tell me.

He revealed this nugget on my birthday 2 weeks ago when I said I wondered where things were going? Was he ok? Was there something unsaid.

Basically his exact phrase was "I was selective with what I told you". I can honestly say I've lost respect for him and want to move out. Should I just end the relationship?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States + , writes (29 April 2015):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyes move out. "I was selective with what I told you" is a nice way to say "I lie when it benefits me"

he's not trustworthy.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 April 2015):

Honeypie agony auntYes, move out.

IF you have had a feeling from the beginning that YOU weren't "good enough", then he WASN'T the right match for you. And the only reason he is no longer chatting with this other girl is because SHE removed HER profile.

So he IS still looking. YOU are not it for him. THAT doesn't mean YOU aren't GOOD enough, it means you have BOTH settled for a partner you are unsure off.

He could only "pretend" to be a good BF up on till the time you moved in.

I would move out and move on.

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A male reader, Sageoldguy1465 United States +, writes (29 April 2015):

Sageoldguy1465 agony auntThe meat of your submittal is: "I can honestly say I've lost respect for him and want to move out. Should I just end the relationship?"

Yes.

Good luck....

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