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30-35,
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writes:So I am a closeted bi sexual girl, and am really attracted to this girl at work. I was speaking about this girl to a work colleague who told me she was gay, however I really don't know if she fancies me, or what to say to her to make it seem that I am interested in her. My job is quite physical, and recently I was on a trainig day with about 15 others. This girl asked me if she could partner up with me which I said yes. For the whole day we got on really well, it was quite intense, including little exercises including that we had to be blindfolded. I haven't really spoke to this girl a lot, and she asked me if I would like her to do my blindfold up for me. (I am probably reading into it too much.) anyway I hadn't seen her for around 4 days as we work from different buildings however, I bumped into her with one of the guys that I know really well. I was talking to him for quite a while and I kept looking over at her, she looked at me a bit and then said "come on Bob, stop chatting up the lovely lady." After this I added her on Facebook she accepted, however I don't known if she has a girlfriend or not.. The next time I saw her was a couple of days ago.. I smiled at her, and she smiled back..i was too nervous to go and speak to her.. Although about 2 minutes later she came over and we started chatting, just about random things to do with work, she was leaning against a car, and was quite close to where I was standing.. I really want to hint to her massively that I think she's hot, although I don't know if she has a girlfriend, how do I bring up the idea of maybe going for a drink if I hardly see her, I don't even know if she likes me. Helppppp
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (5 May 2015):
 I would ask her out for a drink and see where it takes you. I wouldn't be TOO Captain Obvious about the fact that you find her hot. Just ask her out, see if she bites.
If she does, GET to know her. SHE might think you are just wanting a female friend, which is why I say tone down the "hitting" on her while you get to know her.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (5 May 2015):
 Here's what you say: "Hey, (girl at work's name), it's been a tough day... and I'd like to go sop up a tall glass of wine. Wanna join me?"
IF she sez, "Sure, girl who wrote to Dear Cupid, that would be delightful. Let's go." Then you and she go,... and strike up any and all sorts of conversations.
IF the two of you enjoy one-another's company... then do so (go for the drink) again (and again) in the future.... and see how close you (and she) do become.... and if there seems to be any chance that she - like you - would like to be closer than just work and have-a-drink chums... IF you find that.. then go for it.....
Good luck....
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2015): Have you thought about just asking her if she wants to get a coffee sometime?
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reader, lawncare  +, writes (5 May 2015):
 Ask her out.
There's no point unpacking this. If it's driving you nuts, ask her out. Australia's an open-minded place, no one will be offended if it turns out they're not a compatible sexuality. And it sounds like your workplace is large enough to put some distance between you both if it goes wrong.
Chances are you'll go for a drink. Without the taboo of illicit workplace fondling and tense eroticism out of the window, you can both figure out whether you actually like each other or not. Hope it works out!
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